Working and living within your means, whatever that looks like
Paying your bills on time
Regularly doing something for the community
Making and keeping your own appointments
Managing your own meds
Having someone/ something besides yourself to take care of
Trying to understand people you don't agree with
Focusing on people instead of problems
I’m stealing this list. And I’m a 52 yo man.
I'm still fucked regardless of definition. I can barely get through the work day even without substantial caffeine, even with 3 years off caffeine and just being miserable I still had bloody diarrhea and back pain that would come and go with seemingly no explanation. Having a camera snake through me didn't reveal anything. Then whenever I don't have anything else fucking me up it's migraines with aura that last as long as a week and a half and everyone is mad at me when I am finally able to get to work without either killing someone with my car, or getting run over with my bike.
I don't think any of that is "adulting."
As a parent of a 17yo, adulting is:
I’m stealing this list. And I’m a 52 yo man.
I'm still fucked regardless of definition. I can barely get through the work day even without substantial caffeine, even with 3 years off caffeine and just being miserable I still had bloody diarrhea and back pain that would come and go with seemingly no explanation. Having a camera snake through me didn't reveal anything. Then whenever I don't have anything else fucking me up it's migraines with aura that last as long as a week and a half and everyone is mad at me when I am finally able to get to work without either killing someone with my car, or getting run over with my bike.