Is there any one else who feels like their life has been disrupted by this whole debacle with Reddit.
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Moving to: m/AskMbin!@kbin.social – 279 points – I really do like KBin and Lemmy and the fediverse on the whole, but development is still young and the userbase still growing. KBin is still basically early access, and Lemmy is buggy. I spent alot of time in reddit and I'm feeling the pain of trying to ween myself from it. Just wanted to here community perspectives and see how other's are taking it.
For me, I feel a bit of a sore hollow spot for what reddit used to be and watching it implode is not fun for me.
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Yes, I'm not afraid to admit that all my friends were on Reddit and I have missed them a lot. They have my email but none of them have reached out. It's understandable but it kind of sucks since I was close to so many people there.
Before you cast stones and call me a loser. I was in a really bad accident last year and I got terribly hurt. I'm still recovering and a lot of that recovery was in either a bed or on the couch. All I've been able to do for almost an entire year is stay inside, work on my laptop, go to the office, watch anime and talk to my friends on Reddit.
It was really hard to let go of Reddit because it meant cutting off the only real socialization I had left outside of work. I have met some awesome people here on Kbin though, so I am hopeful I'll make new friends and connections again. Change is good and I'm open minded to the Fediverse and everything it has to offer.
I found similar when I left my country of birth, that many people don't keep in touch, even if I tried to maintain a connection. Out of sight, out of mind.
What did you bond over with your friends?
It's a common thing for people who move (country) as kids. Sociological term is Third Culture Kid.
Most of them I met talking about stocks. Then they invited me to a private sub where we could kind of just post about anything we wanted. It was a lot of fun and a really great group of people to hang out with.
That sounds nice. Similarly I've been in a book club for about two years now that was started on Reddit.
Although we haven't read a book in months, we still meet virtually every week, so I guess we're just friends now.
The ultimate test of these kinds of groups seems to be whether they can survive transplantation from one social medium to another. I wonder how my little book club would fare if there was a schism over using discord...
Maybe there is a board here that would help you set up something like that? It can't hurt to look around and put out some feelers.
Damn, I hope you're better now.
I think this has taught us there should be multiple ways of getting in touch with people. Don't put everything in one basket (in this case, Reddit). Hopefully the Fediverse will be one of many ways to do so.
I agree and I am enjoying my time here. There are new friends to be made and new memes to explore.
I’m going to ask the obvious- have you reached out to them?
For as good a tip as that is, and @NumbersCanBeFun should definitely try it if they haven't (or can), it doesn't always work.
I did the whole reaching out thing for years for those I knew from Uni, and for almost all of them I was the only one reaching out. It felt tiring holding up a relationship the other person had stopped caring about, so I ended up dropping most of them and haven't heard anything since.
@Th4tGuyII @HeartyBeast To answer your questions. I don't have their email, I offered it to anyone who wished to stay in contact with me prior to deleting my account but I did not request anyones. I put the onus on them to reach out to me. It sucks none of them did but as I mentioned, it's understandable. We all communicated, interacted and posted on Reddit and I don't expect them to go out of their way since I was the one who left the platform.
I’m sorry. That sucks
Yeah, that sucks, but you've done what you could in that situation
I had a really bad back injury a couple years ago and still can't be out of bed for more than an hour a day. It sucks hard and you have my sympathy.
You should reach out to your friends if you haven't. It's possible they're also lamenting that no one has reached out to them!
Once I figure out how to search other instances maybe I'll try looking up a few of their usernames. Maybe you're right and I just haven't found them yet.
I've seen what 4chan can cook up, so I think it'd hardly be fair to call you a loser for having the gaul to make friends online haha
Joking aside though, it really does sucks so much, and while I can't say I built up friends on Reddit, I do I sympathise with your situation.
There are so many people I used to know from my time at Uni, but years later I now only keep contact with a handful on a semi-regular basis, because they just never reach out. It's always me having to extend the olive-branch, and it gets tiring after a while of realising you're the only one holding things up.
I'm a rather home-body person myself, so I can also sympathise with not wanting to lose the friends you have for fear of being unable to make more.
I'm hopeful to talk to all sorts of new people here, as everything does feel more personal than Reddit for the most part. Also given the size of the community I do find myself running into people I've chatted with before to gain more insight from. In fact, I vaguely recognise your avatar, so we might've even spoken before too haha
The reason I am hopeful about Kbin and the Fediverse in general is because it feels similar to Old School Reddit. I've meet a few awesome people so far and I am really hopeful I'll fall into another community of awesome people. The alone time has been kind of nice though. It's been awhile since I've reflected only on myself or didn't ask for guidance on something from my friends. So in a way this might be a bit of a healthy change.
KBin is fairly intuitive as well, in spite of it's lack of some quality of life improvements they need to implement. I am using it pretty active now on it.
I can't speak to old-school Reddit because I joined fairly late to the party (2018-ish), but this does feel a lot like the old-school forums I used to frequent.
I'm glad you've already had the chance to integrate with folks around here, and I'm sure you'll have plenty a chance to carve out a niche to hang out in.
Yeah, I think a lot of people feel that way. I certainly do - the blackouts and moving to Kbin gave me a chance to reflect on how I used Reddit, the habits I fell into, and to make what I think are healthier choices about them. For one, less doom-scrolling, and more attempting to interact more meaningfully with threads.