You and an old friend catch up at a restaurant. When the bill comes, how do you make sure the poor waiter takes your card?
I usually whisper, "I'll flip every table in this joint if you don't take my card, including the one with that child at it", and while it has a 100% success rate, I can't help but feel terrible about it, later. What are some alternatives?
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I don't, we split it or I pay or I concede gracefully.
If someone is my friend, I'm not going to engage in weird power-plays.
My ex loved to bring up the fact that she paid on our first date, that it was super expensive, and that any time she offered to pay afterwards that I never fought her on it. Like... You made it a point to force that waiter to take your card after I offered to pay and made a huge scene about it. What I learned there is that if you say you want to pay I should just let you. I'm not gonna make a big scene about it and try to make myself look better to everyone else just because "the man is supposed to pay."
Thank you for the mean, but I'm not going to feel guilty if you insist on paying. If you feel that way when I pay, that's a you problem.