Anyone out there confident in their personhood?
Just a relatively new chick here, wondering how it goes? I i have lot of internal conflict personally. I'm also stressing about the shit going on in parts of the US right now. Partially for myself, a lot for my (amab) son, whom I am questioning on gender/Sexuality. He's young(elementary) but has some signs that make me(newly questioning) wonder. I want what's best for us both, especially him. I'd love for him to grow up I. A better ¿more supportive environment than me, but I don't know how to assist, or how to protect him/them. Any advice would be much appreciated!
If possible move to a state with protections. For me I had a lot of conflict myself until I started hormones and it reduced, but didn't go away. Then I found supportive people who fully accept me as a woman and then pretty much all the conflict disappeared.
I'm feeling more pressure to do so all the time. I just hate that the area I live in is fucking lovely and somewhat accepting, but in a sithole red states. It's a great place, just happens to be in a really shitty state.
I'm terrified of leaving the only people I know and having to start a new life. I finally found a relatively comfortable job.
You don't have to leave now but you could be on the lookout for good jobs in safe states. You can always meet new people and you can still communicate with your other friends online. There may be a point where it gets real bad and you will have no choice but to leave, so for now I'd recommend eyeballing new places to live and jobs.
Unconditional, freely given love and support for your child will give them the best chance in finding themselves, because they will feel they will always have someone to come home to when they go exploring whether it's outside, relationships with others, or their relationship with themselves.
Growing up in a household that while not actively abusive, also didn't have freely given love or affection meant that my sense of self was based not on my own internal self worth, but how I believed society perceived me and I never felt safe enough to express myself how I really wanted.