Is it normal for men to be propositioned by swingers, and what makes a man an attractive candidate to swinger couples?

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I have been propositioned by swingers quite a bit. It's to the point that if a couple is nice to me, I start getting suspicious. This has happened with acquaintances, long-time friends, people I've met at a party, co-workers, and even strangers at the beach. Three times that I can remember off the top of my head, they propositioned me and my girlfriend at the time (separate girls many years apart). Is this a normal thing? What about me could make me attractive to swinger couples?

I'm a cis-gendered straight male. As far as physical attractiveness, I would say I'm slightly above average based on what women have told me and how they treat me.

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Maybe stop wearing that 🍍 shirt.

My buddy got a pineapple tattooed on his arm that appears upside down when his arm hangs down. He was not aware of the meaning it carried. 😂

Oh man, I totally understand the humor in that, lol! You should post what it means so that others in the thread will know like we both know!

Had it affected the way he is treated by others?

Don’t think so. I just think he’s had some swingers hit him up thinking he’s into it. He thinks it’s pretty funny now.

If you look at the dudes house he’s got pineapples everywhere, like art pieces and stuff, so it’s pretty on brand for him.

An upside-down pineapple specifically signals that someone is a swinger or is looking for swinger parties. This association likely stems from the fruit's historical connotations of wealth and welcome, evolving into a discreet way for swingers to identify each other in public or at events. Displaying a pineapple, especially upside down, can indicate an invitation to join in on swinging activities or parties

TIL

But … but my grandma’s specialty was pineapple upside-down cake??

Didn't you think it was weird, that she would go to "play golf", but never bring any clubs?

She had a magnet on her fridge that said “I’m done with love. Fortunately there’s still sex”

lmao I’m also remembering she had another one that said “Sex is my favorite sport. It’s free, it’s fun, and you don’t need special shoes”

Grandma!

That's funny ..I have a ton of pineapple clothes

Oh my god, I have a pineapple shirt, love pointing it out to people because I find it exciting. I just like it because I think it's silly (I have a lobster shirt too). This explains some things.

What does the lobster shirt mean?

That I like wearing silly collared button up shirts? I also have a white shirt with tiny tiny black skulls on it.