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I'm just curious, is this an actual thing?

at least personally it's just like how you want variety in your food, which is part of why polygamy just seems objectively superior to me

do you mean polyamory? polygamy is where only the man gets to have multiple partners, and it usually comes with lots of abuse and misogyny. polyamory is sick tho, speaking from experience.

not sure where you got that from, quote wikipedia:

"Polygamy (from Late Greek πολυγαμία polygamía, "state of marriage to many spouses")[1][2][3][4] is the practice of marrying multiple spouses. When a man is married to more than one wife at the same time, it is called polygyny. When a woman is married to more than one husband at the same time, it is called polyandry. In sociobiology and zoology, researchers use polygamy in a broad sense to mean any form of multiple mating."

But i did find the term "polyfidelity" which is very precise to what i want, "a type of non-monogamous, relationship in which all members are recognized as equivalent to the other partners and comply to restrict sexual and romantic relationship activities to exclusively only other members within the group. "

I mean yeah, it means marriage to multiple people, which is illegal in most of the world. Polyamory is having multiple relationships.

and marriage to multiple people is effectively what i want, i want as many partners as we can make work all "married" to each other.

Obviously it's not tremendously simple to manage, but that's the ideal. In reality you'd presumably have varying degrees of people being into each other but as long as everyone's fine with it and no one feels limited by the group fidelity it's fine.

wait i just realized, are you actually saying that being married to multiple people is bad somehow?

Personally, thanks to polygamy's history and recency to current times, yes, I think being married to multiple people is a bad idea. I'm for keeping it illegal until we can be sure it won't be used like that again. I don't think now is that time.

i really don't like that reasoning, that sounds way to close to the reasoning used to make gay marriage illegal.

Who are you to decide whether i get to marry the people i love?

And I don't think it's valid at all to compare the two. Polygamists were never "oppressed", they were the ones doing the oppression (of their wives).