What's an easy yet useful skill that everyone should learn?

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Mindfulness. You may not be able to turn off the (insert negative feeling here), but you absolutely can turn off the suffering.

I tried guided meditation daily for two months and didn't really notice a difference. Do you have any recommendations?

EDIT: I should mention this was with the Headspace app, following their mindfulness uh... lessons.

It took about a year to make a difference for me.

I guess they call it mindfulness practice for a reason

A year! I didn't really know what to expect, so two months seemed like more than enough.

Oh man I tried meditation with Headspace too and I couldn't hack it. For some reason meditation made me so angry! Like this weird rage would come out of nowhere.

I did find it frustrating that the narrator would give a prompt for what to do, then just enough quiet time to begin, and then interrupt my effort with his talking. Aggravating! But the anger was a separate thing.

I always thought meditation was supposed to help you feel calm and grounded but all it did was frustrate me. :(

It made you feel something. Now sit there quietly and think about why that is. What are you getting frustrated with? Why is it bothering you? Unfounded rage is trying to tell you something about yourself. There's a reason, but you have to be able to be honest with yourself to figure out what it is. Once you can begin to understand it, you can begin to find ways to manage it.

I feel frustration because it sounds like you are right and that is not helping.

I've heard of people having similar reactions to yoga.

Lol that's really funny...I actually hate yoga too, but it doesn't provoke rage, just annoyance because the last thing I wanna do is listen to some white lady done on about chakras! But for it to provoke anger in inmates is disturbing.

I've had good experience with the Waking Up app, which is primarily Insight Meditation. If you can, a multi-day silent retreat allows you to be truly immersed in the practice of just watching your mind and all of its silliness.

When I was little, meditation was the buzz. I've tried it many times and I just found myself "sitting in style". Meditation is described as inspired by hypnosis but they never tell you what to do when you're from the small percentage of people immune to hypnosis.

I have no doubt some people struggle more than others to get to the point where they can sit back and watch. It wasn't immediately obvious to me either, but a couple of months of short daily practice enough to start seeing what the fuss was.

I mean, mental illness is still going to exist, no matter how much power you give your mind.

Mental illness is treatable, and being aware of the symptoms as they're happening is a major part of the treatment for many such illnesses.

Yeah, but that doesn't mean it completely goes away. Mental illness is the human equivalent of software issues, the very definition entails you can't be like Neo from the Matrix and seize one's own mind.

I'm not understanding your comment. Mindfulness is paying close attention to the actual experiences in consciousness, as opposed to just being carried along by thoughts. It's not about taking control of your mind.

Oh. Yeah that makes sense then. The way you described it in your original comment made it seem like gnostic-esque advice.