Those of you who are not okay: What's going on in your life right now and how could we help you make it better?

pinkdrunkenelephants@lemmy.world to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world – 117 points –
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That's the neat part, you can't. Unless you can fix healthcare, housing/transportation, money etc (even if you could, it wouldn't be the same as if those were never problems in the first place). That or the old escapist dream of "get me out of here" but I also don't ever see that happening for a lot of reasons. So again, no.

Even trying to broaden the definition of help... things are probably too personal, too difficult/specific, and maybe even inconsequential. Like the type of thing there just isn't an answer for.

For some reason I find it absolutely hilarious that some idiots have downvoted this.

"Please keep your existential dread to yourself as we only really want to hear problems that can be fixed with a pithy Lemmy comment."

Sorry bro, not much consolation but I feel you.

I would say the point of my comment was more on despair than dread.

And anyone who downvoted probably didn't get that I was speaking from my own life, as addressed in another reply. Guess that's my fault for trying to make it not about me.

Though either way I can't actually see the downvotes. None of them are federated to Kbin and on the Lemmy side the score seems identical now and no vote tracking to show negatives (unless that's only if you have an account).

Helping a person doesn't require systemic change. Ultimately yes, to end the major problems people face will require that change to occur, but helping an individual isn't that hard. Sometimes people are just in a bind and could use advice or $50. Don't call that inconsequential. If you get so in the weeds on systemic change that you fail to see how to help an individual in need, then you lost the thread.

This, right here.
Getting rid of people who say, "Stop being so dramatic!"
The human world is dying, and I'm supposed to just piddle around and not shout that it's shit!?
I sell plasma to pay bills, after working a full-time salary job.
So, unless you have an answer, how about YOU be quiet.

If it's unclear, I was stating my own problems. I don't see how a perfect internet stranger could help those issues, and even if they could I would probably just want them to help someone else instead.

The inconsequential bit was also speaking for myself. As in a situation of "I got this small thing that I wanted, but it didn't have as much of an effect as I expected it would and now I feel worse that I asked for it". I was also thinking in the mindset of not-something-everybody-needs but also not-something-that-could've-been-an-image-search-for-puppies.

Ah, I understand now. I'm in the same boat. My day-to-day is alright and I'm getting along fine, but the issues I'm facing are generally systemic. My solution is to do what I can to fight the system: I'm a union organizer at my company to fight the general unaffordability in my area (and obviously lots of other issues too), I'm drafting legislation for tenants rights so I don't have as much landlord bs, etc. It's hard work to do that stuff, but since those are my only major problems I think it's worth my effort.

I don’t think OP was actually proposing that they’d solve our problems. Just wondering what they are (I guess).

I wanted some idea of where the problems lie and from there figure out what an individual could do.

For an actual reply from me, I'm a NEET shut-in with untreated health issues in a semi-rural area so probably not much unless in the same state (USA, MI). My ideas for individual help would be if somebody could:

  1. Tell me when the trail is going to open back up, or maybe they are the ones working on it (though either of those would likely just have me know slightly sooner)

  2. Tell me if atlas orthogonal adjustment is a real+effective thing (particularly in context of sleep quality/energy, autonomic issues, POTS, known whiplash history etc) and if the chiropractors near me (+the trail) have the equipment for that procedure plus X-rays (paperwork info etc).

  3. (If you live in an intentional community, again near the trail) tell me if I could be a good fit. Which is also a gamble when it comes to personality compatibility. And I don't have high hopes for it.

So you see it'd be like trying to get a bullseye blindfolded when you don't know where any dartboards are. Unlikely even if you had many darts.


On a non-local and less important note there is tech stuff that is specific, a high bar, and the sort of thing I already talk about here on the Fediverse already:

  1. Like still no Nim-lang bindings ready for Godot 4.

    • Or alternatives that have similar feel+capability (from what I've seen, none do) but better support.
  2. Anything relating to untextured polygonal art.

    • Godot 4 has a still-unmerged PR that allows for dynamic constructed art (animated eye example) but performance is likely an issue using it like that especially with MSAA

      • and Godot still has vertex colors done via a list (no painting/color tools like index/layers).
    • Raylib has polygons but there is no editor (I have an unfinished text format, because there are 2 formats for polygons).

    • If I went with 3D that may be easier but I'd need to learn Blender unless there is also a good simpler low-poly+vertex colors model program.

  3. Free games that I don't find tedious.

    • It would be nice to have a Minetest game that doesn't copy certain things from MC

      • like hunger/stamina and cluttering cosmetic variants of blocks
      • would be nice to have things like pistons (but more powerful/viable in survival mode, chain-able w/o manual logic), but with a close-enough base game (and not too wiki-dependent) I might try to figure out how to make what I can.
      • Maybe something more like MC beta, though I guess maybe it's subjective plus difficult to add real compelling elements.
    • Not quite satisfied with S.Pixel Dungeon or other roguelikes.


Hopefully this makes sense and isn't too eclectic, answering something perhaps. Because I know these are probably too out-there.

I interpreted it as they'd happily solve our problems providing we bring our own solutions.