A conversation with my wife

Striker@lemmy.worldmod to Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world – 372 points –
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Religious mutilation: Not even once.

I had medical mutilation. I lost a lot of sensitivity down there. But it allows it to work and wife has been supportive in a country where it's a rare thing.

I don't think anyone is arguing against it being done for medical reasons and especially on someone willing.

But I feel like I'm a rare breed of someone experiencing it and having years with "both" types. There's a lot of curiosity from both camps because realistically, there's little chance of anyone ever finding out which one is "better". Honestly, both have pros and cons. I hope my comment puts people a bit at ease for having it forced upon them when they couldn't say no and those who still can choose, don't feel pressured into it or mislead by misinformation.

You weren’t a baby?

Nope... In adulthood.

WOW. I can’t imagine the fear.

I also feel like it’s impossible to learn about the lost sensitivity: in the half dozen posts I have seen over the years about non-babies being circumcised, they say the sensitivity lost isn’t as much as we circumcised suspect it was. I’m not doubting you. I just wish I knew what the proper amount of resentment about my parents having chosen this is.

I can tell you. It is a lot.

But it's not life altering and I do prefer it in a way, I'm not having issues finishing or anything like that. I had it done at a private hospital so it was done esthetically well. Very little scar tissue etc. But I wouldn't make my son have one, that's crazy. It happened and I had little choice in the matter. But it was conscious, body autonomy is important.

Yep. If an adult wants to do it, then it's nobody else's business. But parents shouldn't be allowed to make a decision like that. An infant can't be religious.

Neither of my parents are or were religious, yet I have a scar there (not hyperbole, actually hurts if touched too much). I don't know if foreskin is useful for anything in GRS, but if it is I'm gonna be pissed I don't have any.

Bad news girlfriend, it is useful. The more you have to work with, the better.

I too am pissed.

I already have less to work with than average 😭

Its not a death sentence though. Surgeons are quite adept these days.