What's a bit of good advice that's really bad advice?

SolidGrue@lemmy.world to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world – 155 points –

You know, like "always split on 18," or "having kids is the most rewarding thing you can do in life."

What's that one bit of advice you got from a trusted friend that you know deep, deep down would just ruin your thing?

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"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger."

No it doesn't. In most cases, you're now weaker.

What doesnt kill you now may still be a contributing factor later down the road.

Right?! What doesn't kill you may almost kill you.

It does make you wiser. You may learn how to better deal with your emotions or feelings. Or how to avoid the situation in the future.

Nah, usually just more trauma after a certain point, if its anywhere near even the hyperbolic description of "Kill."

I've been through enough. A mild to moderate amount of life challenges will be plenty going forward.

Yeah, it's really best to learn by observation than direct pain lol, but some of us are too stubborn for that.

Yeah, Where can I hit the buzzer to denote I'm done.

I've been through enough already, cut it the fuck out. I dont need more. If it made me stronger I'd already beat the hulk in fucking arm wrestling at this point.

Yeah, people forget that it's a very specific type of experience for a specific type of person where this saying actually works. Like overcoming a fear by facing it head-on is great for some people and a source of further trauma for others.