Friends? A non-toxic BY DESIGN gaming community?

Saintzillla@beehaw.org to Gaming@beehaw.org – 27 points –

I am a 33 year old dad to a toddler with a few screws loose (ADHD, Bi-polar). Life can be tough. Gaming is supposed to be fun. Looking for someone who can vibe with that and has an interest of any level in these games cause I do be picky.

Rocket League (C1/C2) The Division 2 Madden

I know, Madden stinks, but if you like football and games at all have an open mind. I use mods (mine and community) to both deliver better gameplay and a better overall franchise experience, but the real key is couch co-op over Parsec so one of us can grab the INT when the QB barely gets the ball off cause the other is chasing them down. It's lit.

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Try out Deep Rock Galactic! Very fun coop game and it’s very non toxic. Highly recommend!

I think I've had one toxic player ever in deeprock in my 150+ hours. Someone with the big nuke GL.

It's hard to use that nuke in a full party and not be toxic. You almost always end up catching someone or someone gets forced into the blast radius burn.

Yeah, its pretty toxic when you use it and leave. If you stick around its pretty funny most of the time.

Eh, I don't think using the Fat Boy is inherently toxic. Yeah, you're a lot more likely to hit friendly fire than basically anything else the Engineer does, but you can't really say that friendly fire is toxic behavior without saying nobody should ever play Driller.

You absolutely can use it as a toxic player, but it's usually not that hard to tell if someone is being a dick or trying their best.

Accidentally killing the Scout as Driller with C4 is a time-honored tradition. (Sorry Scout mains)

I saw someone say that the playerbase is generally chill because the dwarves are the toxic ones, and the more I play the more I think there's something to that. It's hard not to feel silly complaining about friendly fire, or a slow rez, or the rest of the team not building the pipelines, etc, when your dwarf is already complaining about it. Combined with the fact that Ghost Ship has gone out of their way to identify all of the toxic monetization practices of the industry and do exactly the opposite, which also goes a long way towards keeping people who want to play chill games for fun over salt factories.

More games should be like this. I’ve never once had an instance where there were trolls or people trying to screw us all over like so many other games.

I'd say that if you're looking for that, you should be looking at communities of co-op games that have mostly chill and casual gameplay with little competitive areas. Guild Wars 2 and Warframe are two MMO/Live service examples I can think of.

I can't promise that we'll have people down to play those specific games immediately (though I do know we have a couple Rocket League players), I welcome you to check out TheAdultGamer.com. We're a gaming community that has been around in some form or another since 2005. We currently primarily live on a Discord server.

When I was where you are now (I'm a little older with older kids) I found a gaming clan on Discord and it really helped. Someone has posted a link to their clan and I'd get in there if you haven't already.

My clan were there when I went through my depression and they were there when I came out the other side and sponsored me for my 10k.

Clans are where it's at when you're a Dad.

If you need a good football game Retro Bowl is definitely it