Listen, it's a very easy premise: these anti-gay workers and activists believe homosexual thoughts are something everyone struggles with, because they experience similiar thoughts and urges all the time, and homosexuals are just people made the wrong choice. The logic is easy to follow. People bias their own experiences and wrongly assume that most people have similiar thoughts and feelings. So when you have feelings that you have been told your whole life are "wrong", "unclean" or "evil", you don't assume that they're unique to you; you see them as demons that everyone faces and attribute your ability to turn them away as a virtue. These people believe homosexuality is a choice because they believe themselves to have made the other choice.
The hate you see isn't loathing for things they don't understand. It's resentment. It's a deep-seated bitterness born of resentment and envy for people who chose not to fight against their own nature and instead celebrate it. And they believe they're doing good by helping people like them make the "correct" choice, and eliminating any attitudes, conversations or, in extreme cases, persons, that would normalize the "incorrect" choice.
Wait...
Everyone morning I wake up and think "don't think about dicks, don't think about dicks, don't think about dicks..."
YOU MEAN EVERYONE ISN'T DOING THIS????
That's weird because every morning I wake up, I think "Dicks, dicks, dicks!"
I feel like we should get to know each other over coffee sometime...
Well, I mean.... Not EVERY day.
People bias their own experiences and wrongly assume that most people have similiar thoughts and feelings.
(Neuro)typical people and narcissists thinking everyone experiences life like them 🤝 people with an undiagnosed disability thinking typical people experience the same exact hardships they do and being self-deprecating over it
Apparently thinking things you're allergic to are just spicy or acidic and really taste like burning is common, or that everyone hates their dad for being a douching ball of suck.
I love my dad. My dad was, and is, great. Yeah, he was absent a lot, because work and church shit kept him busy, but I've never met anyone IRL that was as genuinely kind and willing to help.
If I live my life being only a tenth of the man that my dad is, I'll be doing well.
...My mom on the other hand...
I worded that reply very badly, and it's not clear to me reading it again what it would mean to you when you read it. So my bad all around. To clarify, I ment to communicate, hopefully humorously, that people assume their very specific life experiences are typical, and that everyone is going through what they are going through, even though that's not a universal or even typical experience.
You might already know all this, so sorry, but I think the reply I wrote was badly written.
You're making a lot of sense. I've never thought about it that way.
Listen, it’s a very easy premise: these anti-gay workers and activists believe homosexual thoughts are something everyone struggles with, because they experience similiar thoughts and urges all the time
What is the mental defect that makes people think everyone is like them or everyone is the same?
It's just the classic case of projection.
I'm not sure. For me and some others, just mental maturity. Mine wasn't that bad, I just thought a song was so good everyone would love it, then realized once I pushed some into listening to it that that wasn't true. Vihart has a (to me) nice vid discussing her experience.
Listen, it's a very easy premise: these anti-gay workers and activists believe homosexual thoughts are something everyone struggles with, because they experience similiar thoughts and urges all the time, and homosexuals are just people made the wrong choice. The logic is easy to follow. People bias their own experiences and wrongly assume that most people have similiar thoughts and feelings. So when you have feelings that you have been told your whole life are "wrong", "unclean" or "evil", you don't assume that they're unique to you; you see them as demons that everyone faces and attribute your ability to turn them away as a virtue. These people believe homosexuality is a choice because they believe themselves to have made the other choice.
The hate you see isn't loathing for things they don't understand. It's resentment. It's a deep-seated bitterness born of resentment and envy for people who chose not to fight against their own nature and instead celebrate it. And they believe they're doing good by helping people like them make the "correct" choice, and eliminating any attitudes, conversations or, in extreme cases, persons, that would normalize the "incorrect" choice.
Wait...
Everyone morning I wake up and think "don't think about dicks, don't think about dicks, don't think about dicks..."
YOU MEAN EVERYONE ISN'T DOING THIS????
That's weird because every morning I wake up, I think "Dicks, dicks, dicks!"
I feel like we should get to know each other over coffee sometime...
Well, I mean.... Not EVERY day.
(Neuro)typical people and narcissists thinking everyone experiences life like them 🤝 people with an undiagnosed disability thinking typical people experience the same exact hardships they do and being self-deprecating over it
Apparently thinking things you're allergic to are just spicy or acidic and really taste like burning is common, or that everyone hates their dad for being a douching ball of suck.
I love my dad. My dad was, and is, great. Yeah, he was absent a lot, because work and church shit kept him busy, but I've never met anyone IRL that was as genuinely kind and willing to help.
If I live my life being only a tenth of the man that my dad is, I'll be doing well.
...My mom on the other hand...
I worded that reply very badly, and it's not clear to me reading it again what it would mean to you when you read it. So my bad all around. To clarify, I ment to communicate, hopefully humorously, that people assume their very specific life experiences are typical, and that everyone is going through what they are going through, even though that's not a universal or even typical experience.
You might already know all this, so sorry, but I think the reply I wrote was badly written.
You're making a lot of sense. I've never thought about it that way.
What is the mental defect that makes people think everyone is like them or everyone is the same?
It's just the classic case of projection.
I'm not sure. For me and some others, just mental maturity. Mine wasn't that bad, I just thought a song was so good everyone would love it, then realized once I pushed some into listening to it that that wasn't true. Vihart has a (to me) nice vid discussing her experience.