I sent flowers to my best friend, anonymously
She means the world to me, I just want her to be happy. I don't know if she'll realize they're from me.
Edit: okay, I let her know it was me
Edit to add context: I do like her more than as a friend, I know she doesn't and that's why I did it anonymously.
I don't want her to feel pressured, just cared for. We have been good friends for a long time, I think my feelings can become an obstacle for our friendship and I hate that.
I wish I didn't feel this way.
Update: we're not friends anymore
Nice of you!
Hey apologies if I sound like I'm greatly underestimating your maturity but it's probably better to act on the side of caution.
Flowers are lovely I really hope she likes them! I also have a best friend who I really want to be happy and would probably appreciate nice flowers, although I'd personally steer away from valentine's as I wouldn't want them to be interpreted romantically.
As for that, I trust you know if you want them to be interpreted as a romantic gesture and you should absolutely let her know they're from you and if they are or aren't.
If you want it to be mysterious if they're from you, absolutely expect her to either figure it out or assume they're from someone else secretly and show them gratitude, it's a rare person who would receive something anonymously and not try to presume the sender.
It is a really thoughtful gesture to get flowers for someone you care about today in the want for them to be happy, but it's not fun for anyone if it's misinterpreted and someone ends up less happy for it.
Thank you for the heads up, I let her know already.
Edit to add context: I do like her more than as a friend, I know she doesn't and that's why I did it anonymously.
I don't want her to feel pressured, just cared for. We have been good friends for a long time, I think my feelings can become an obstacle for our friendship and I hate that.
I wish I didn't feel this way.
I think it’s nice you told her it was you. I can’t speak for others but if I got anonymous flowers I’d be delighted at first but soon I’d be obsessing over who it was and feeling all sorts of weird stress about feeling the need to find out.
I think you had good intentions but the flowers probably made her feel uncomfortable. As a woman, receiving flowers from a guy who knows I don't reciprocate his feelings would not make me happy. It puts the woman in a bad spot. If she says thank-you to be polite, it can be misinterpreted as encouragement. And if she reminds him that she's not interested, she's a bitch. Either way it's unwanted pressure because a man giving flowers to a woman is always going to be interpreted as a romantic gesture, which she clearly doesn't want.
No, I get it, makes sense, didn't even want her to know but shouldn't have sent her anything at all
Its a nice gesture, but wouldn't it mean so much more to her knowing they came from you?
Maybe. Idk if OP is like this too tho, but when I want to do something nice for someone, I don't like singling them out to make them feel uncomfortable. So I try to do nice things more covertly. I guess it sounds stupid, but that's the way my mind works. Idk.
Anything good come from this?
Narrator: No
OP: no
Unfortunate, but without these risks we don't progress.
Did she not like the flowers, or is the good a condition of something else?
It was fine, she didn't say she liked them but she said thank you
Was your goal of making her happy successful?
She was probably happier not knowing it was me, but then I told her because of good points other people made.
Maybe she's scared, if you two are good friends then complications like evolving feelings could be an uncomfortable thing for her, its lovely that you sent her flowers to make her happy. Did you tell her about your real feelings?
She knows, I don't need anything to evolve, in fact I would rather not feel anything either because I don't want to have anything with anyone now.
I’d let her know they’re from you.
That's sweet. I myself got multiple bouquets of flowers from people (almost out of vases lol). Thank you to any anonymous flower donors who might be reading this.
That last update shocked me, rip man worth the try