Who cares about red flags in people. What are your green flags

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Actually intelligent, reads books, sense of humor, actually listens.

I love my ereader but I miss the days when you could actually see what someone was reading. It was like a book recommending a person

Someone reading a book doesn't mean the book is good.

I have a book written by a mentally ill person I met, just because I wanted to have more insight into his mental state.

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  • Completely misreads my sentence

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"good" book is highly subjective. It depends not only on your tastes but also on your general mood while reading it. Same for film and art. I saw the Mona Lisa in person and was completely unimpressed.

How do you measure actually intelligent?

You don't measure it. You compare it to your own intelligence and see if it matches.

It's like art, you know it when you see it.

Excellent question. For me, it has a lot to do with their sense of humor, general outlook, and their problem solving. ymmv

Have you heard about IQ Test.

The flawed metric racists use to claim they are somehow superior?

There is a reason why it isn't standard practice and only covers certain topics. It can measure some general knowledge, but is in no way indictment to the actual intelligence of a person.

Yes I know the origins of IQ Tests and how it was used for justifying eugenics in USA and how Hitler got inspired by it. But I ment it as a joke to the original comment asking how to measure intelligence. And anyway who believes in a number on piece of paper we all only believe in how much upvotes we can get on Lemmy.

somebody talking about their IQ would be a major red flag for me lol

Is it OK if they mention that their IQ is less than 0 Kelvin.

some healthy self-deprecation is definitely nice, but the eldritch implications of somebody representing their intelligence as convertible to a temperature value transgressing thermodynamic law intrigue me more.

Have YOU been on the mensa forums?

I'm theoretically Mensa qualified but when I met some I turned away. My sense of what's fun and creative did not align. At all.