It could be the verbal abuse or the situation as a whole. Idk, everyone is different.
One-time verbal abuse from a stranger is not traumatizing, and neither is thrown food.
Were you there to witness the situation? Do you know exactly what happened and when?
Nope, but any one-time interaction with a stranger that doesn't result in injury is not traumatizing for the vast majority of people. If it is, that just indicates they should have been in therapy already.
My point is you can't judge the people involved without knowing the people involved, or at least what happened. It's kinda unreasonable to assume that everyone involved is perfectly average because a significant chunk of the population isn't part of "the vast majority."
Right but the world is cruel, everyone you know will die and then you will too. You'll probably shit yourself on the way out.
A burrito in the face (sans burns) is literally nothing.
No, a burrito to the face is physical abuse. Being verbally and physically abused every day of your job is not how jobs are supposed to work, and viewing things like that as silly small things to be affected by is itself pretty damaging.
If I lean across the counter and punch you in the head, you're allowed to have some kind of feeling about that. Especially in a setting that heavily discourages and may even punish defending yourself, the way retail often does.
Convincing yourself it's fine because the world is cruel keeps the world cruel. More importantly, it keeps you from considering you deserve anything other than cruelty. We need to care about each other.
It isn't fine, your employer and your life should reflect that, but therapy for food in the face is weakness.
Totally aware the crowd here is all "self care, labels, wellness" and I'll burn for this idea, but if we're so broken that food to the face is needing another human to talk you through it for 60+ minutes then we are toast.
Good game.
The employer should pay, the criminal should pay. That should cover you.
Never worked in those type of environment huh? Those kinds of work wear you down little every shift, and shit like this mess with you.
Retail for 5, construction for 5. Truly, life is bigger than this. Fire service after that.
Again if you need another person to talk you through the situation of someone throwing food at you, to convince you you did nothing wrong, that the thrower is wrong, that their action is the wrong one, then you are weak.
I'm not saying you don't deserve compensation or that you should just "take it".
In my experience, the weakest people are the ones who don't fix their issues, especially internal ones.
Agree, Mauro didn't fix shit, and tried to blame downstream applications. Punk move.
He should have asked for coaching
"Hey I es self reviewed my code, checked the docs, but I'm getting some unexpected errors when testing some downstream applications. Can you help me step through my code to check for silly mistakes or somewhere I went off track? I reviewed the core project rules so I'm confident the trouble likely exists within my changes"
Bet that would get a very very different response.
He was referring to you lmao. You're the weakest.
but therapy for food in the face is weakness.
Ok. Weak people exist. Hell, we all have some weaknesses. Is acknowledging them and working to improve not the right thing to do?
have you heard of the phrase 'the straw that broke the camels back'?
It could be the verbal abuse or the situation as a whole. Idk, everyone is different.
One-time verbal abuse from a stranger is not traumatizing, and neither is thrown food.
Were you there to witness the situation? Do you know exactly what happened and when?
Nope, but any one-time interaction with a stranger that doesn't result in injury is not traumatizing for the vast majority of people. If it is, that just indicates they should have been in therapy already.
My point is you can't judge the people involved without knowing the people involved, or at least what happened. It's kinda unreasonable to assume that everyone involved is perfectly average because a significant chunk of the population isn't part of "the vast majority."
Right but the world is cruel, everyone you know will die and then you will too. You'll probably shit yourself on the way out.
A burrito in the face (sans burns) is literally nothing.
No, a burrito to the face is physical abuse. Being verbally and physically abused every day of your job is not how jobs are supposed to work, and viewing things like that as silly small things to be affected by is itself pretty damaging.
If I lean across the counter and punch you in the head, you're allowed to have some kind of feeling about that. Especially in a setting that heavily discourages and may even punish defending yourself, the way retail often does.
Convincing yourself it's fine because the world is cruel keeps the world cruel. More importantly, it keeps you from considering you deserve anything other than cruelty. We need to care about each other.
It isn't fine, your employer and your life should reflect that, but therapy for food in the face is weakness.
Totally aware the crowd here is all "self care, labels, wellness" and I'll burn for this idea, but if we're so broken that food to the face is needing another human to talk you through it for 60+ minutes then we are toast.
Good game.
The employer should pay, the criminal should pay. That should cover you.
Never worked in those type of environment huh? Those kinds of work wear you down little every shift, and shit like this mess with you.
Retail for 5, construction for 5. Truly, life is bigger than this. Fire service after that.
Again if you need another person to talk you through the situation of someone throwing food at you, to convince you you did nothing wrong, that the thrower is wrong, that their action is the wrong one, then you are weak.
I'm not saying you don't deserve compensation or that you should just "take it".
In my experience, the weakest people are the ones who don't fix their issues, especially internal ones.
Agree, Mauro didn't fix shit, and tried to blame downstream applications. Punk move.
He should have asked for coaching
"Hey I es self reviewed my code, checked the docs, but I'm getting some unexpected errors when testing some downstream applications. Can you help me step through my code to check for silly mistakes or somewhere I went off track? I reviewed the core project rules so I'm confident the trouble likely exists within my changes"
Bet that would get a very very different response.
He was referring to you lmao. You're the weakest.
Ok. Weak people exist. Hell, we all have some weaknesses. Is acknowledging them and working to improve not the right thing to do?
have you heard of the phrase 'the straw that broke the camels back'?
Quantum immortality or biological immortality. Hell, basic empathy.
Burrempathy? How's the dish doing