Advice on finding a partner?

Lemmy@lemm.ee to Asklemmy@lemmy.ml – 129 points –

I just got ghosted by the girl I was talking to, I want to find another girl to talk to. This girl and I met at the gym, but I don't want to be the guy that goes to the gym just to meet girls. I mean sure there's the bar and Tinder, but I want a real relationship. I mean, I guess it'll come to me.

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I've found the most important part of finding a mate on Lemmy is to run Arch Linux. If you do not run Arch Linux, are you even trying?

I use Arch BTW

Sorry, I'm only interested in serious partners. I use Gentoo.

But is Gentoo reliable enough?

For a fresh breath, I use Mint.

Did you build a beowulf cluster for double your pleasure and double your fun?

Speaking of Linux, where can I find a woman who's into that? Defcon?

You might consider going to conventions, meetups, or other hobby events (including for other interests you might have)

Bro, go to as many concerts and gigs as you can. Take a single mate, its crazy watching how many random interactions take place.

Dont be scared to move around and chat to people. No one cares if you are trying to find a new viewing spot and its a great convo starter. I wish I went to more when I was younger.

But number 1 rule, earplugs

.... So you're at a concert, wandering around the crowd (with earplugs) just conspicuously sliding up to different spots and striking up conversations with attractive people while they're enjoying the performance? I would emphasize you want something more like a festival where there are multiple events and people have down time in-between to socialize. A normal concert would be like wearing sunglasses to a theater and moving around to get "the best viewing spot" while talking to everyone which is creepy as hell and not a good setting to strike up an actual conversation.

Nah, I didnt explain myself well. You arent going just to chat to attractive people. I just see plenty of organic interactions whenever I go to a concert. You def have to enjoy the music and have a good time. Any social situation can be creepy or non creepy, the individual needs social awareness to understand the difference. I dont talk to people while the music is playing but inbetween songs or sets you can simply comment that was awesome. I agree with you about festivals, downtime is good to chat and chill

I was just worried someone might take it to heart without realizing the nuance lol. You or I may do well, but someone asking such a broad question like finding a partner probably doesn't have that much social awareness (it's been answered so many times and really all boils down to the individuals or specific situations like the scenarios we presented). I was just imagining a guy walking around in cargo shorts with socks and sandals awkwardly screaming "hi" at everyone with a pair of orange earplugs sticking out.

Throw on some striped knee high socks and you're in high demand.

  1. use Arch Linux
  2. use a Cast-Iron Skillet
  3. be Vegan

Opensuse it the way. if I had time to waste and no responsabilities Id certainly use Arch though.

It it just me or did you just get so hot?