Because that might require honest, open communication. And result in more satisfying relationships, wherein the parties to the relationships can actually get what they desire. Who wants that? /s. Hmm, is there a polyamory magazine on the Fediverse? I hadn’t looked… dang, I searched, yielded nada. Am I obligated to make one, now? We’re building a whole new social media. Each contributing as they will.
While it’s not my bag I very much believe people should love the way that makes them and all fully consenting members happy, but there’s not a lot of people that want to be part of something like that tbh. The polyamory itself I mean, not the sub. You should totally make a sub if there isn’t one
Some people are monogamous and they are allowed to be in relationships that are satisfying and make them happy.
Then why cheat?
Because sometimes people would rather lie and sneak around than have an adult conversation about relationship expectations.
people would rather lie and sneak around
Well yeah. That's a lot more fun then a conversation. And if you don't care about your relationship anyways, why does it matter how you end it really? Might as well cheat
Edit: okay I'm being downvoted so I should mention that I know this "breakup strategy" isn't for everyone but if you don't mind permenantly burning a bridge, to me there is no harm in it. As long as the person you are cheating on them with knows what you are doing and is okay with it
If you don't care about a relationship, the other person still might, and them being hurt should matter to you.
End the relationship since you don't care about it anyways, to let the other person move on with the least lies and sense of betrayal, and then fuck everyone you wish.
Cheating isn't a way to end a relationship, cheating is lying in order to keep it longer.
Cheating isn’t a way to end a relationship, cheating is lying in order to keep it longer.
Maybe that's what it is for you
Maybe that’s what it is for you
This seems like the same logic those people who keep a relative's corpse around for years to keep collecting their social security checks use...
That sounds like a great plan honestly
Well, you certainly get points for consistency.
That's rather selfish. There is harm, but not to you. You're okay with hurting other people for your own gain to avoid having one difficult conversation. I can only assume that you wouldn't feel good if a partner treated you like that, so why do so to them? Either you have a general lack of empathy, lack introspective ability, or are just perfectly okay with the idea of being cheated on, and also the idea of someone else hurting because of your own actions. I'm fascinated, and also recommend you try consensual polyamory next time instead.
to me there is no harm in it.
Well yeah, but you could say the same about hitting a pedestrian with your car. To you, there's no harm. But the person you're cheating on, the person who's trust you've violated, who's time you've wasted, who feels stupid and used and humiliated after the relationship is over, there's a lot of harm for them.
you could say the same about hitting a pedestrian with your car
Yeah, and I hit pedestrians with my car all the time!
Edit: for context I have the all-new f950 goliath
If you're being sarcastic, neither do I. But I also cheat on my spouse as often as I hit pedestrians with my car.
But I also cheat on my spouse as often as I hit pedestrians with my car.
Like 30 times a day?
As frequently as I want to.
Because they're too selfish and gutless to end the relationship. Slme people need monogamy and some need multiple partners, they should be honest aboit that and avoid having relationships with those who aren't compatible.
Because that might require huge, boatloads of cash. And result in more satisfying prostitutes, wherein the parties to the relationships can actually get paid.
Why not just have two relationships?
Because that might require honest, open communication. And result in more satisfying relationships, wherein the parties to the relationships can actually get what they desire. Who wants that? /s. Hmm, is there a polyamory magazine on the Fediverse? I hadn’t looked… dang, I searched, yielded nada. Am I obligated to make one, now? We’re building a whole new social media. Each contributing as they will.
While it’s not my bag I very much believe people should love the way that makes them and all fully consenting members happy, but there’s not a lot of people that want to be part of something like that tbh. The polyamory itself I mean, not the sub. You should totally make a sub if there isn’t one
Gotcha covered, it's a thing, now let's see where we want to take it. https://kbin.run/m/Polyamory
Some people are monogamous and they are allowed to be in relationships that are satisfying and make them happy.
Then why cheat?
Because sometimes people would rather lie and sneak around than have an adult conversation about relationship expectations.
Well yeah. That's a lot more fun then a conversation. And if you don't care about your relationship anyways, why does it matter how you end it really? Might as well cheat
Edit: okay I'm being downvoted so I should mention that I know this "breakup strategy" isn't for everyone but if you don't mind permenantly burning a bridge, to me there is no harm in it. As long as the person you are cheating on them with knows what you are doing and is okay with it
If you don't care about a relationship, the other person still might, and them being hurt should matter to you.
End the relationship since you don't care about it anyways, to let the other person move on with the least lies and sense of betrayal, and then fuck everyone you wish.
Cheating isn't a way to end a relationship, cheating is lying in order to keep it longer.
Maybe that's what it is for you
This seems like the same logic those people who keep a relative's corpse around for years to keep collecting their social security checks use...
That sounds like a great plan honestly
Well, you certainly get points for consistency.
That's rather selfish. There is harm, but not to you. You're okay with hurting other people for your own gain to avoid having one difficult conversation. I can only assume that you wouldn't feel good if a partner treated you like that, so why do so to them? Either you have a general lack of empathy, lack introspective ability, or are just perfectly okay with the idea of being cheated on, and also the idea of someone else hurting because of your own actions. I'm fascinated, and also recommend you try consensual polyamory next time instead.
Well yeah, but you could say the same about hitting a pedestrian with your car. To you, there's no harm. But the person you're cheating on, the person who's trust you've violated, who's time you've wasted, who feels stupid and used and humiliated after the relationship is over, there's a lot of harm for them.
Yeah, and I hit pedestrians with my car all the time!
Edit: for context I have the all-new f950 goliath
If you're being sarcastic, neither do I. But I also cheat on my spouse as often as I hit pedestrians with my car.
Like 30 times a day?
As frequently as I want to.
Because they're too selfish and gutless to end the relationship. Slme people need monogamy and some need multiple partners, they should be honest aboit that and avoid having relationships with those who aren't compatible.
Because that might require huge, boatloads of cash. And result in more satisfying prostitutes, wherein the parties to the relationships can actually get paid.