Someone asking to see my YouTube recommendations is a good test for red flags, too. I’m not interested in a relationship with someone who will judge me based on an algorithm.
A party is indeed the time and place where no jokes are made ever, no alcohol is involved, no cheesy flirting techniques occur, and everything is meant a 100% seriously always.
Good point. I would have had to be there to see what the mood was like. She could have been funny as hell, and I’m just not picking it up from this tweet.
Edit: I just watched the video. It’s only about 8 minutes long. A great combination of funny and interesting. Recommended!
I did not get invited either.
Probably for the best.
It's hard to convey tone with text.
The algorithm sucks anyway. I have to clear my cookies every couple days because all my recommendations starts to turn into weird manosphere stuff and DBZ videos. Sprinkled with a small amount of shit from channels I have watched recently.
I’ve found that being really aggressive with my not interested/do not recommends keeps it down (but not absent). In my case I assume they pop up because I like watching history and gaming videos, even though I go out of my way to avoid anyone who’s dog whistle-y or chuddy.
The topic and creator based clustering of multiple interests will pollute that anyway, because they don't care about precision and just care about keeping your attention
What is the reason for these two things to get grouped up and shoved down my feed? I'm a life long and very public activist for medical financial aid programs, public housing, sexual wellness, free kindergarten, hot meals, direct aid, take back the night, ada accomodations, needle exchanges, loan forgiveness, and just about every humane cause I know of. My viewing history is about as antithetical to Tate's small dick energy as I can imagine and the anime I watch is more likely to be weird surreal stuff like Tengoku Daimakyou than some 50th year of dragon Ball
How does my feed switch from normal shorts to the incel only feed?!
At best it's because there's just a shitload of other people that are into that stuff no matter what else they're watching so everything ends up associated with it. At worst Youtube specifically funnels people to that kind of content.
Clustering algorithms plus a focus on keeping your attention (watch time), not on quality
I wish I knew what I was doing because I very rarely get that stuff, unless I go to Shorts. Then that crap shows up in both the Shorts and my recommendations. After ignoring them for a couple days they go away and stay away as long as I also avoid Shorts... So maybe that's the key?
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Hey this person likes anime and political subjects. You know what audience also likes these things, and is most likely to watch/click ads? Manosphere, incel, altright, losers! Recommend some Andrew Tate and Lotus Eaters.
Wait you also watch DBZ highlights and wonder what super Saiyan Piccolo would have looked like? 😍
No. So why do they keep coming up to me? Nothing against DBZ btw.
It's giving you what your heart secretly wants and that's useless DBZ facts. Accept our Lord and Savior Goku.
The last time I saw a DBZ episode there was only one set of dragon balls and the animation was 8-12 frames a second. Now it seems like everyone is immortal, there is a multiverse, and Goku can clown on actual gods for the lols.
Why do so many people on Lemmy take things way too seriously
This is clearly meant to be a small tease for fun, and you're telling them to fuck off lol
No context. What seems obvious to one person doesn’t come across that way to another. Plus, this is the internet. We see too many people who would do this seriously.
Most of my browser history, youtube and podcast recommendations etc. are benign.
My fear is when they ask the question "when does VR Porn become cheating?" Because I don't think anyone can answer that one honestly and the way one would expect.
Like my brain would say "when you can smell it" but that leads down a lot of other questions that scare me.
IMO if you ever ask someone whether porn is cheating, you should probably be put into an asylum and studied, because i cannot for the life of me figure out why someone would give a shit, unless it's a shared mutual agreement between two parties, in which case, you probably wouldn't ask that question.
It's almost as insane as asking whether or not touching your dick counts as masturbation or not.
“when does VR Porn become cheating?”
The same point anything else does. It's when you're getting involved with another person and your partner is not cool with that. If you're just consuming media it's not cheating.
Someone asking to see my YouTube recommendations is a good test for red flags, too. I’m not interested in a relationship with someone who will judge me based on an algorithm.
A party is indeed the time and place where no jokes are made ever, no alcohol is involved, no cheesy flirting techniques occur, and everything is meant a 100% seriously always.
Good point. I would have had to be there to see what the mood was like. She could have been funny as hell, and I’m just not picking it up from this tweet.
Edit: I just watched the video. It’s only about 8 minutes long. A great combination of funny and interesting. Recommended!
I did not get invited either.
Probably for the best.
It's hard to convey tone with text.
The algorithm sucks anyway. I have to clear my cookies every couple days because all my recommendations starts to turn into weird manosphere stuff and DBZ videos. Sprinkled with a small amount of shit from channels I have watched recently.
I’ve found that being really aggressive with my not interested/do not recommends keeps it down (but not absent). In my case I assume they pop up because I like watching history and gaming videos, even though I go out of my way to avoid anyone who’s dog whistle-y or chuddy.
The topic and creator based clustering of multiple interests will pollute that anyway, because they don't care about precision and just care about keeping your attention
What is the reason for these two things to get grouped up and shoved down my feed? I'm a life long and very public activist for medical financial aid programs, public housing, sexual wellness, free kindergarten, hot meals, direct aid, take back the night, ada accomodations, needle exchanges, loan forgiveness, and just about every humane cause I know of. My viewing history is about as antithetical to Tate's small dick energy as I can imagine and the anime I watch is more likely to be weird surreal stuff like Tengoku Daimakyou than some 50th year of dragon Ball
How does my feed switch from normal shorts to the incel only feed?!
At best it's because there's just a shitload of other people that are into that stuff no matter what else they're watching so everything ends up associated with it. At worst Youtube specifically funnels people to that kind of content.
Clustering algorithms plus a focus on keeping your attention (watch time), not on quality
I wish I knew what I was doing because I very rarely get that stuff, unless I go to Shorts. Then that crap shows up in both the Shorts and my recommendations. After ignoring them for a couple days they go away and stay away as long as I also avoid Shorts... So maybe that's the key?
Right wing propaganda receives heavy financial backing.
Hey this person likes anime and political subjects. You know what audience also likes these things, and is most likely to watch/click ads? Manosphere, incel, altright, losers! Recommend some Andrew Tate and Lotus Eaters.
Wait you also watch DBZ highlights and wonder what super Saiyan Piccolo would have looked like? 😍
No. So why do they keep coming up to me? Nothing against DBZ btw.
It's giving you what your heart secretly wants and that's useless DBZ facts. Accept our Lord and Savior Goku.
The last time I saw a DBZ episode there was only one set of dragon balls and the animation was 8-12 frames a second. Now it seems like everyone is immortal, there is a multiverse, and Goku can clown on actual gods for the lols.
Why do so many people on Lemmy take things way too seriously
This is clearly meant to be a small tease for fun, and you're telling them to fuck off lol
No context. What seems obvious to one person doesn’t come across that way to another. Plus, this is the internet. We see too many people who would do this seriously.
Most of my browser history, youtube and podcast recommendations etc. are benign.
My fear is when they ask the question "when does VR Porn become cheating?" Because I don't think anyone can answer that one honestly and the way one would expect.
Like my brain would say "when you can smell it" but that leads down a lot of other questions that scare me.
IMO if you ever ask someone whether porn is cheating, you should probably be put into an asylum and studied, because i cannot for the life of me figure out why someone would give a shit, unless it's a shared mutual agreement between two parties, in which case, you probably wouldn't ask that question.
It's almost as insane as asking whether or not touching your dick counts as masturbation or not.
The same point anything else does. It's when you're getting involved with another person and your partner is not cool with that. If you're just consuming media it's not cheating.