Former Middle School Teacher Accused of Sexually Abusing Boy in Classroom, Giving Him Alcohol: Policelocked

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Police say a former student came forward claiming that when he was 14, Melissa Curtis, 31, sexually abused him

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I'm just amazed that it was called 'sexual abuse' and not 'an intimate relationship', a 'romp', etc. like it usually is.

It's taken a while but looks like we'll be able to call a sexual abuser a sexual abuser regardless of gender!

Was reading about one 49 year old who raped a 14 year old and just got probation. So women still get away with much worse than men.

I mean regarding teachers that may seem like the case, but there’s preteen mothers that would like a word.

Most abusers don’t even get probation, if they’re reported at all.

I really don’t understand the psychology that pushes someone to do something like this. I suppose I should be glad about that

Lots of reasons but it's generally by women who lack a partner or don't have thier emotional needs met. They don't feel threatened by the child and confuse thier mentor/pupil relationship as love and as such doesn't see thier abuse for what it is.

Source? I’m sorry, but that kind of sounds like you’re letting female sexual abusers off the hook a bit by arguing their actions are innocent in their own minds. I don’t think these women are that stupid or deluded. I agree they find boys non-threatening, but I don’t think they construe their own manipulation of a young, naïve teenager as completely innocent. They know they’re taking advantage, they just don’t care.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-act-violence/201208/female-teachers-sexual-predators

But for female teachers, other motives may come into play: the desire to “care for” a male child from a broken home, which then de-evolves into sex; a need to feel attractive, wanted, and sexually desired by a young man, who may not have the capacity to understand or give real love, but certainly has the testosterone to provide sex; or even as revenge against a husband who is no longer emotionally supportive.

https://www.psychiatrictimes.com/view/lessons-learn-female-educators-who-sexually-abuse-their-students

"Heterosexual nurturers” are women who develop sexual relationships with children and adolescents on the basis of feelings of love or a desire for intimacy. These women also often mistakenly assert that their behavior is not abusive.

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That is a horribly misleading headline when the write up clearly says she was 22 and he was 14 at the time. She is 31 now and he is now 22.

Sorry, are you saying it's ok for a 22 year old to have sex with a 14 year old? I don't really think there's a big different in a 31 year old doing it vs a 22 year old, so I'm not sure that's really the issue you should have with this article.

Never said that. I said that the title is wrong. Really shows a lack of quality of writing when the title of the article contradicts the article itself

But it doesn’t? It just says “when he was 14”, not “he is 14 and she is 31”.

The name and age of the lady in the little blurb under the title indicate her current age, not the age of when she did it.

Right after the age of the boy when she did, though. It's awkwardly phrased and misleading. Just because you can justify something by saying "it's not technically wrong" doesn't change that.

The title doesn't mention their ages. The subtitle is awkwardly phrased because it gives the student's age at the time and her age now, but it's not wrong, and again, I don't really get why you're quibbling about that when the point that it was an adult sexually abusing a child stands regardless.

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