I’m usually ready to laugh at this asshole, but if he has a drug problem, then I pity him.
Important note: pity and sympathy are similar, but not the same thing.
Normalize pitying your enemies instead of hating them.
Yeah do like Mr T. And pity the fools.
I used to work with this mean miserable guy and there were so many times a lot of us would try to cheer him up. Share food, invite to after work drinks, movies, concerts, just include him. He never took anyone up on it, ever. After a friend of mine left that job and confronted him about his shitty attitude and self alienation, he just said, “I don’t want your pity.”
Ironically, after I heard that I stopped sympathizing and did just pity the guy.
Maybe he just didn't want to hang out with you guys and had a perfectly fine life outside of work. Crazy, I know.
I sincerely hope he does, but I think it’s pretty sad that someone conflates kindnesses with pity.
I often don't want to hang out with coworkers. I just politely decline if asked affirmatively. There's no reason to decline and say, "I don't want your pity" since I assume they're just to be inclusive and friendly. I know a lot of people on here have a hard work/life separation, but you do have to exist with your coworkers for some portion of your life. Might as well make interactions with them pleasant.
I can do both. I pity the sad man who is addicted to drugs, but also he’s a fascist campaigning for human suffering and I hate that about him.
Sometimes I say "sympathy without empathy" for these situations lol
Empathy is to understand another's emotional state. Sympathy is to effectively mirror it.
Buuuut, much like "literally" now means "figuratively" and "decimate" has lost all meaning after being mistaken for "devastate"... Carry on. The species is circling the drain anyhow.
Misuse of decimate gets me every 10th time
You miss 100% of the pants you don’t shit
Does decimate actually mean to place a decimal?
It meant to kill every tenth soldier as punishment for bad performance.
I’m usually ready to laugh at this asshole, but if he has a drug problem, then I pity him.
Important note: pity and sympathy are similar, but not the same thing.
Normalize pitying your enemies instead of hating them.
Yeah do like Mr T. And pity the fools.
I used to work with this mean miserable guy and there were so many times a lot of us would try to cheer him up. Share food, invite to after work drinks, movies, concerts, just include him. He never took anyone up on it, ever. After a friend of mine left that job and confronted him about his shitty attitude and self alienation, he just said, “I don’t want your pity.”
Ironically, after I heard that I stopped sympathizing and did just pity the guy.
Maybe he just didn't want to hang out with you guys and had a perfectly fine life outside of work. Crazy, I know.
I sincerely hope he does, but I think it’s pretty sad that someone conflates kindnesses with pity.
I often don't want to hang out with coworkers. I just politely decline if asked affirmatively. There's no reason to decline and say, "I don't want your pity" since I assume they're just to be inclusive and friendly. I know a lot of people on here have a hard work/life separation, but you do have to exist with your coworkers for some portion of your life. Might as well make interactions with them pleasant.
I can do both. I pity the sad man who is addicted to drugs, but also he’s a fascist campaigning for human suffering and I hate that about him.
Sometimes I say "sympathy without empathy" for these situations lol
Empathy is to understand another's emotional state. Sympathy is to effectively mirror it.
Buuuut, much like "literally" now means "figuratively" and "decimate" has lost all meaning after being mistaken for "devastate"... Carry on. The species is circling the drain anyhow.
Misuse of decimate gets me every 10th time
You miss 100% of the pants you don’t shit
Does decimate actually mean to place a decimal?
It meant to kill every tenth soldier as punishment for bad performance.
That's a hell of a way to make... a point
Romans weren't known for their subtlety.
It gets me like every third time