ADHD Emotional Spectrum

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There's also the wretched feeling when you witness something unjust (for me anyways)

oh is this why i nearly murdered that guy for dropping his cigarette butts down the drain

haha that is the main reason why I'm choosing to live in ignorance about what's happening in the news, I can't handle so much of it. It makes my blood boil. The important things get to me through memes anyway

You forgot "all consuming dread"

Wednesday forever and this whole grocery store hated me kind of covers that, but yeah, dread is especially apparent with phone calls and late afternoon appointments.

Tbh the anger spiral helped me cut out toxic people from my life and made me less codependent on awful social groups.

I feel genuinely much better after completely cutting off an entire community of people

I'm currently the one being cut off from someone and I feel like shit... I double-booked a thing and now they think I suck and am not reliable. And it's probably true. I'm so bad at dates and remembering to write things down, but I want to change. This is probably the push I need to remember forever now, but don't want to lose my friend group over it. Fuck, I hate myself so much.

Oh hey, that whole type of rant is on the list,too lol.

Hey man,

you're probably fine. I don't know the details, but humans are fallible. you're only human. friends should know this, they're only human too. I doubt these friends have all been perfect all the time, and I doubt they'll do everything perfect from here on out.

If it caused a problem, tell them the truth. you double booked. you had to pick one over the other. you feel bad you flaked. you don't intend to make it a habit.

if it cost people something, consider making it up somehow. but I would propose that unless it's cost them real bad, good friends ought to accept the apology without expecting the compensation. they'll mess up someday too, and it's better for everyone to be kind.

don't hate yourself. it does no good for anyone. counterproductive and undeserved. develop a system to help you. you can't always change your nature, but you can build around it.

Thanks. I needed this.

I know it's hard to get in the habit, but take out your phone when making any plans or appointments, get the calendar app out and add it as it happens. Don't wait even 1 minute. Feel free to tell the person you're adding it to the calendar as you do it if you feel like you're being rude. I set reminder notifications for all appointments based on how much notice I would need if I completely forgot about it.

Yeah I've been doing this ever since I got a smart phone

Remember that emotional dysregulation is a very common thing among the general population and many cannot separate that they are frustrated with a situation and being frustrated with you. You don't really want to be around people capable of such heavy levels of judgement or an unwillingness to be charitable in their interpretations of others.

Yeah pretty much I spent years being traumatized by idiots before I realized that most people are stupid and not worth your time. Once I understood that, life became so much better. I am now of the opinion that few people are worth the drama they bring to your lives, and your real goal is to find those few who are worth it.

I'm currently on anger and it's all about to come crashing down

Tell me about "Wednesday forever," please?

My guess is its the exhaustion of having survived the start of the week combined with the dread of having to survive that long again

In my mind it's just the slow realization that you'll have to repeat the same cycle forever.

The cycle never ends. There's never a downtime, just more "do-do-do". The moment you finish something, it's already time to start it again.

Am I misreading this, or is there something about lust that's specifically ADHD?

If I remember correctly, hypersexuality is often a symptom of ADHD because the sweet release of dopamine that comes with sex and sex related activities often helps ease the other symptoms of ADHD.

That makes at least a portion of my youth make more sense all of a sudden. It also doesn't help that at least stimulants-based treatment adds its own bump.