Fr. Do people forget that they have autonomy in their experiences? You can still decline the call even if you aren't actively engaged; nobody is automatically entitled to your free time.
You can, but their opinion of you may be damaged by doing so.
Good, that will make it less likely for them to call again.
Until you get complaints that you are not communicating effectively from management and should embrace random fucking calls that could be 2 small paragraphs of text
From management? If that's the case I hope you're clarifying to them that work conversations are legally work, so you will be expect to be paid fully for any hours clocked on the phone outside normal scheduled hours.
Of course if you're talking about fielding calls while on the clock... well yeah you're probably gonna have to answer those.
Has that actually happened to you? I would quit tbh but I am also a priviliged af software dev
Edit: also thats not a problem for non-work related ppl
“A bit, but I can text. What’s up?”
I’ve learned to reply like that every time and it works. It convinces them to text me and if I see it’s important, I say something like “give me a few minutes and I’ll call”.
ignores call
"Why didn't you answer?"
I already said I'm not busy
Pro Tip: when someone asks you an open question like this, always reply with "why's that?" It forces them to either tell you what they want or bail on it, either way you get time to come up with something to get out of it.
I feel like just responding with a “what’s up?” forces that too, without outwardly saying “…before I answer: why?” Then if they do call and you don’t want to talk, you can ignore it or respond with a rejected call text saying, “can’t talk, what did you need?”
Yeah anything that throws it back on them is what you need, "why's that?" is my go-to, just never give a definitive answer to their first question, it's always a trap.
The only person I know who does this is my dad. Which is weird because the literal motherfucker is going deaf so he can't hear anything over the phone.
It depends what it is. There are some things better reserved for a call, where tone of speech can be heard.
I'm glad to not have quite this level of social anxiety, sounds really not fun for the suffer :(
What's wrong with calls?
As much as we all know talking is the fastest way to convey information, some people (myself included) don't like talking on the phone. It's not malicious or anything we'd just rather text.
Everything.
Phones are far worse for hearing clearly than they were pre-cell phone era. People fail miserably to speak into the mic and often use speakerphone to make it even more hellish.
"In crankin my hog whaddya want"
Go away, batin'!
my phone is for talking to the silly little people on the internet
"I'm not busy but I'm not available to take a call."
I can't express how much I hate phone call, if you want to talk we can talk in person if it too far away we can send messages
So far have blocked about a hundred botspam calls through two separate area exchanges
"I don't want to call"
Done.
Fr. Do people forget that they have autonomy in their experiences? You can still decline the call even if you aren't actively engaged; nobody is automatically entitled to your free time.
You can, but their opinion of you may be damaged by doing so.
Good, that will make it less likely for them to call again.
Until you get complaints that you are not communicating effectively from management and should embrace random fucking calls that could be 2 small paragraphs of text
From management? If that's the case I hope you're clarifying to them that work conversations are legally work, so you will be expect to be paid fully for any hours clocked on the phone outside normal scheduled hours.
Of course if you're talking about fielding calls while on the clock... well yeah you're probably gonna have to answer those.
Has that actually happened to you? I would quit tbh but I am also a priviliged af software dev
Edit: also thats not a problem for non-work related ppl
“A bit, but I can text. What’s up?”
I’ve learned to reply like that every time and it works. It convinces them to text me and if I see it’s important, I say something like “give me a few minutes and I’ll call”.
ignores call
"Why didn't you answer?"
I already said I'm not busy
Pro Tip: when someone asks you an open question like this, always reply with "why's that?" It forces them to either tell you what they want or bail on it, either way you get time to come up with something to get out of it.
I feel like just responding with a “what’s up?” forces that too, without outwardly saying “…before I answer: why?” Then if they do call and you don’t want to talk, you can ignore it or respond with a rejected call text saying, “can’t talk, what did you need?”
Yeah anything that throws it back on them is what you need, "why's that?" is my go-to, just never give a definitive answer to their first question, it's always a trap.
The only person I know who does this is my dad. Which is weird because the literal motherfucker is going deaf so he can't hear anything over the phone.
It depends what it is. There are some things better reserved for a call, where tone of speech can be heard.
I'm glad to not have quite this level of social anxiety, sounds really not fun for the suffer :(
What's wrong with calls?
As much as we all know talking is the fastest way to convey information, some people (myself included) don't like talking on the phone. It's not malicious or anything we'd just rather text.
Everything.
Phones are far worse for hearing clearly than they were pre-cell phone era. People fail miserably to speak into the mic and often use speakerphone to make it even more hellish.
"In crankin my hog whaddya want"
Go away, batin'!
my phone is for talking to the silly little people on the internet
"I'm not busy but I'm not available to take a call."
I can't express how much I hate phone call, if you want to talk we can talk in person if it too far away we can send messages
So far have blocked about a hundred botspam calls through two separate area exchanges