how's your week going, Beehaw

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we're so back. anyways as you can tell by the other pinned post, we've been a little busy with a lot of stuff on the backend and that's probably going to continue into the foreseeable future

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I got a new job! finally out after 9 years at a call center. Things are heading in a positive direction. I hope everyone has a great week :)

Congratulations!
Hope it's a start of more good things to come.

Lol, can I answer this even though I don’t have a Beehaw account anymore?

It’s ok. But it’s been hot weather, like summer. I want winter and the cold to come already. I have gotten started with a programming course in C#, some tasks are difficult but it’s fun problem-solving. School is ok, my classmates are nice but unfortunately I don’t seem to have much in common with most/any of them.

All in all, things are going alright. I remade all of my Spotify playlists which has been therapeutic. Now I’m just chilling, school is draining sometimes. But life is ok. 👍

Had an exposition over the weekend and it was amazing to see all the different perspectives, and made new contacts. I'm currently secretly living in my atelier so I really need contacts to find a better living situation, so that was a relief. Also my aunt and uncle were there and they were the last people I hadn't come out to yet, because I love them but they can be very conservative at times. But well, it was kinda hard to hide considering that my new name was written on the flyers and that I was wearing my makeup. I can't express how happy and relieved I am that they are completely supportive!

That's great news! Sometimes I think things are better without a 'conversation' if you know what I mean. They can see you're happy as you are and you don't necessarily have to put pressure on yourself to explain anything.

Ya it was like that. I really hate it when people start asking about genitalia.

In this case it was more emotionally validating from their side, and we agreed we can talk more about it in detail another time because it doesn't matter so much.

What's funny is that I prepared really a lot to talk with them, an prepared materials and stuff. But then it went like this.

Yesterday was my birthday!
It was a nice and easy going day spend with my family. Topped it off with going out for a nice dinner.
I enjoyed it, nothing fancy but just the way I like it :)

Stuck in meetings all week. Caffeine will be critically important.

Also, Zombies, Run, a magnificent app, has stopped working for most android phones, and it's a major bummer

Honestly, pretty miserable. A "promotion" ended up docking my partner's pay (the difference in what they were making got rolled into benefits) and now we went from being totally fine to things being tremendously tight basically overnight. It's been hard finding work on my end and I'm just incredibly stressed. I'll be alright though, I hope.

Starting off rough, honestly. Local citizens where I live are fucking with the public library and it’s infuriating and depressing and frustrating and I feel powerless to stop them because the majority of the people here are okay with it.

What exactly are they doing with the library?

Trying to get books relocated/removed because they find them “obscene” (i.e. featuring gay characters or addressing things like racism). This kind of nonsense has been happening in a lot of libraries around the US, sadly.

Oh no..
Is this a situation where people with the loudest voices get their way, or is there some board pushing their views on the population?
What kind of recourse do you have in such situations?
Asking out of concern and interest, feel free to leave it at this if you don’t want to go into it.

A little of both, actually. Not sure what the recourse is, which is part of the distress.

But…coincidentally I just found out the city is hosting a book drive for literacy awareness this week, so my book club is donating copies of all of the books that have been removed to the book drive. Not much but it’s honest work, I guess!

I guess that means my week is improving!

Sorry to hear about your library, it's awful when a place that's supposed to have a positive influence on people gets treated like that.
At least the book drive will make up for things, a little bit.. It's great that you manage to put a positive spin on things.
I hope the drive will be a success, best of luck!

Flying out to visit my parents and brother this evening, so that's pretty good.

What's not very good is that my Mom got caught COVID for the first time last week. Then my brother says that he's tested positive, though he's not feeling anything. So yeah, I'm flying into the hot zone apparently. And as far as I know, I've never gotten COVID. That new booster that just got approved by the FDA can't come soon enough.

Either way, it'll be good to have the whole family together for about a week.

Hope everyone gets better soon. Had Covid twice and the sore throat is the worst, feels like you've swallowed glass.

I got food poisoning on vacation yesterday so that fucking blows. Can only really lie down mostly and then I still feel like I got hit by a truck. Hopefully it gets better :(

Ugh, food poisoning sucks so much, there’s not much you can do except go through it. Hope you recover quickly!

Mixed bag so far. It's been hot over here and I've barely slept so feel like hell. Auditioned for a new choir this evening and got in which was nice, it's a great choir but just annoying that it's the opposite side of the city.

Seriously considering getting an ebike now that they've ended one of the escooter trials here. Hard to know where to start though, not had a bike since I was a teenager.

My relationships are really struggling. I’ve been focusing my time on installing and configuring Arch Linux on my desktop to take my mind off of it all.

Stuck in the middle of a drama at work I would rather not know about; leadership fired a manager for apparently personal/favoritism reasons, and now their team left behind is upset - with good reason. As a manager myself, I was pretty shocked that the decision and action was taken in this way, so I am having to deal with the fallout since the staff in that department is coming into mine to seek support they feel they no longer have... I love my own team and what I do, but am starting to really question if I want to be part of a place that treats people like this. For all I know, my own neck could be on the chopping block too and I don't know about it, any more than the manager they fired knew that was in store for them. Why are people such asshats sometimes, is beyond me.

I've been through that too, like all that vagueness around someone amazing being fired.

This probably doesn't apply to your case in mine he seemed to get a little too familiar with the women, from the get go. I can imagine that instead of opening that up for the whole world to see they simply kept it vague. Of course most people were confused.

My point being that if you know you're integral then you can feel safe again. You could always ask.

Thanks for the kind reply. At this point, being integral or not seems to mean little. This is the third time they have gotten rid of someone and brought in/promoted a "friend" instead. It's like it's becoming the personal playground for the person who fired them because it's easier for her to hire in friends than actually develop some vision for our organization. I had an amazing year last year in terms of my own work, my team's, and our deliverables, but so did the person she fired. If there is one constant in non-profits it's that there is often a lack of accountability to otherwise normal hr standards, since all the power is held by one or two people at the most. I could take it to the board, if so inclined to advocate over this, but having been through this before at another place long ago, I know the outcome of that. It's better to just move on.

My week just started cause I work Mon-Fri and I'm super nervous for tomorrow cause I have a project I have to do with someone I am not use to working with.

I'm gonna go get an edible after work though and hopefully I run into my crush.

spent the last four days at a music festival, and my nose has been running all morning even though i was masking anytime i was indoors. 😷

i’m house sitting for the next three nights, so at least i’ll be able to get plenty of rest.

Any chance it's allergy related? I get hit pretty hard in the spring and early fall with allergies, and it has always felt remarkably similar to the early signs of when I had COVID.

it might be, but i don’t think so. i’ll probably test in a few days to be sure.

in a tragic moment one of my friends has inexplicably nuked all of their contacts with my friend group for the 3rd time in a year and a half so lol, guess i'm just not gonna talk to that person again since i do not have the patience to try and sort their shit out again

As someone who does this often, or rather did as I don't reappear anymore, was always shocked when everyone just rolled with it when I popped back up.

But, never had shit to be sorted.

Sorry about your friend. Here

What do You think 🤔 happened to them?

Going good! Got a few new games, been feeling a bit blah but am getting over that gradually. Been cutting my social media usage a bit, I deleted my microblogging fediverse account and pretty much just have Lemmy now which still eats up a lot of my time but still a huge improvement since I'm not spending nearly as much time online anymore as I was, it was getting to be a bit too much.

Edit: Also just today, I decided to drop my Japanese studying that I've been doing for a few years and fully focus on Castilian Spanish that I've been learning on the side instead. Japanese was getting to be way too much of a workload and timesink for me. Hoping this helps get rid of some stress.

Hey Nia what games did you get

I got No Man's Sky (for some reason seeing Starfield stuff made me want to play that again, haven't played it since launch on console) and Monster Hunter World again, really just old games I used to have on console and have been really tempted to play again since I found them on good sales

Oh ya it has its charm. It's definitely unique.

And mhw, is that where you smack those large animals?

Yep! I played it years ago but it's been on my mind for some reason, tempted me enough to pick it up again

I started a new full time job at a deli, big change from sitting around all day. It is a pretty chill job, everyone is super nice, but my feet/legs/back are killing me. Hopefully the new shoes I ordered arrive today and help out. I've been pretty exhausted, but I think I'll get used to it.

Alright here & calmer than usual, which is nice.

Might be the cooler, damper weather coming in - not that it gets hot here in the summer & we've been incredibly fortunate to avoid extreme weather so far this year, but just greatly prefer autumn & winter.

Planning to start exercising later in the week, which will feel good as currently an uncomfortable mix of feeble as jello, gnarled up with stiffness.

Excited to see how Beehaw develops next, in light of discussions initiated by recent admin posts.

New depressive episode after being almost functioning 👍

Don't forget about your daily stupid mental health walk.

And have other people potentially see my physical form? No thank you 😤

(U right tho i really should get out of my smelly cave 🫠)

Do you mean that you're obese? I've actually met someone today that I really like who is obese, and I've had a ONS with someone who was obese. Don't sell yourself short!

Doesnt change the fact that im still really fucking ugly but thank u kind stranger 🥰

You know a lot of guys feel insecure about balding but I've always liked it. Same with gray hair. I also have a friend who is into people who are very skinny or are missing limbs. Weird I know but I am just saying you never know what other people look for. And at the end of the day its not your looks people fall for.

And I am not even talking about friendship here, which is arguably better for many people, or simply strangers.

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Cautiously optimistic. Weather is looking pleasant all week. I've managed to get my backlog at work down from about 6 months to 2, so that's a lot less stress.

Prepping for a dirt bike race next month (hare scramble) and it's been 4 years since I have; I'm super out of shape but it'll be fun.

Little hectic, I moved and changed jobs and still I had to "visit" my parents sometimes to get my stuff and dealing with paperwork. But it will get better I will probably have everything done today.

One month on CPAP. I hate the thing and it hasn't improved my sleep. I made a recording using Sleep As Android and I'm still snoring a bit. I am waiting to get an appointment with the actual specialist who ordered my sleep test and prescribed CPAP- I've never met him, and am not sure I ever would have met him if I hadn't melted down a little when the ResMed drone said that my numbers are excellent and that "studies show" that most people adjust within six weeks. Well, I'm not a number, I'm a neurodivergent individual with individual needs and quoting study results at me does not help or reassure.

I am studying for an online degree and since past 4-5 days my laptop has been acting up. I reset my pc, but it's still behaving weird sometimes, but not so much as before. So I am feeling a bit better now. I was very stressed out because of this.

Do you store stuff locally? In that case make sure you have a backup.

You could visit a local library to use their computers.

If you run Windows, if you want, try to run sfc /scannow in an admin command line, it scans system files and repairs any corrupt ones, sometimes it helps sometimes not but imo it's worth a try.

Yesterday was very productive and then I got to spend the evening gaming with friends, so that was nice! Today I have jury duty, and potentially for most of the rest of the week... It's fine, but my fingers are still crossed that I end up getting dismissed and can go back to my sorely neglected research tasks!

Have you ever watched 12 angry men?

I understand healing is not a linear process, but some days just feel so hard. I’ve been exercising very regularly(dropped 15kg), going to therapy, engaging with other people, but any amount of effort still feels Herculean. It was pointed out to me that low testosterone levels could cause some of these symptoms so I guess I’ll get that checked next. But yeah, my week has been difficult…too many losses in a very short time span…

Pretty stressy this week. I've been working 2 jobs until my startup gets off the ground and we have to rebuild our bathroom and my cats had to go to the vet and my brother's wedding is next month and my adhd makes it very hard to not feel like all that stuff is happening at once.

But that's been going on for a while now, so hopefully i'll get used to it.