What would be an example of a healthy online conversation?

Danterious@lemmy.dbzer0.com to Asklemmy@lemmy.ml – 39 points –

I'm looking for any examples that you might have encountered and links to them.

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This one, that I just started.

The commenter after me ties their shoelaces very well, and I’m jealous.

Thank you very much. It took a lot of practice to learn to do it so well.

I initially joined this conversation to say that there would be no way for anyone to deserve such a great shoe tying complement, but after researching your abilities I must say that I stand corrected. Bravo on your fantastic ability.

Folks, he’s not kidding. They really have a knack for lacing foot apparel. I’m in awe.

i learned a new shoe-tying technique and try to share it with others when they’re game

I'm all ears. I usually just tie mine like a regular square knot

do the final cross in the opposite direction and they will never accidentally come undone

https://www.fieggen.com/shoelace/ianknot.htm

I’ve used this for years but I have a pretty high rate of asymmetry. It’s still a lot quicker to just quickly fix that than do it the way I was taught so I keep doing it.

Maybe I should practice doing it symmetrically instead of assuming I will always lopside it though

Nobody cares, fuck you /s

Styleforum has plenty. For example, people congratulating each other on thrift store finds or helping each other learn about shoe care.

You can peruse my history. I ask a lot of clarifying questions to understand what people mean before I criticize their position.

Do you ever get burned out on people not starting out in good faith? Like I used to enjoy back and forth, but a while ago I gave up because the majority are super defensive instead of inquisitive.

That's exactly why I ask clarifying questions.

Bad faith arguers usually won't answer a question because then they'd have to reveal they're arguing in bad faith. But that ends up being the tell anyway.

There was a recent instance where I asked someone if they really supported free speech, which they arguing for in response to a Canadian policy that would criminalize calling for genocide. Really supporting free speech meant permitting calls for genocide against a group that included them.

They never answeres the question about whether they supported calls for genocide that might include them. I asked them twice.

In that case, it's easy enough to just stop responding to anything they say. They've outed themselves by not participating in the conversation.

Not my comment history i spend a lot of time arguing with people.

I do have to say the person responding to me has an excellent taste in lemmy comments.

I'd say even arguing, so long as it's in good faith is healthy online conversation.

What makes a conversation unhealthy exactly? I'd say mostly things like

  • not arguing in good faith (common from the right wing)

  • not respecting other commenters perspectives

  • insulting others

  • calling them liars without evidence

  • tribalism and group think

  • getting unnecessarily heated

  • needing the last word

  • ganging up on people

I have a tendancy to call people cunts. Idk why the americans get so mad abt it for me its just a common greeting.

I do have to say the person responding to me has an excellent taste in lemmy comments.

Ur wrong and smelly.

Your mother is a hamster and your father smelt of elderberry.

And you're slower than a glass of molasses in the middle of a Canadian winter.

Why, OP? What do you need them for?

Actually, a lot of conversations here are quite healthy imho. Outside of meme-communities that is. Sometimes I’m on Reddit because on here there’s not really a flashlight 🔦 community. People comments over there used to be constructive, sometimes obviously satirical - now there’s just trolls and mean people.

Edit: made the ~ to ~~

I see posts on 'all' from a flashlight community fairly regularly on here, but I just lurk because I don't think my Lepro is up to their standards.

https://feddit.de/comment/8071252 https://infosec.pub/comment/5269310 https://programming.dev/comment/5789966

These are just some random threads I saved. As others have pointed out, niche communities are (usually) the least toxic. Applies to any site or chatroom.