What is the exact meaning of a misogynist person?
On the internet, it is common to call a guy a misogynist, but what is the exact meaning of misogynist? Is it 1. A guy who hates women? Or 2. a guy who thinks men are superior. Or 3. A guy who believes in women should follow traditional norms like cooking.
All 3 of those are misogynistic view points.
All of the above.
Words very often have multiple definitions, or usages.
The word misogyny comes from Greek roots, miso (hatred), and gyne (woman). So misogynist literally means woman hater.
However, the form that the hate can take may not be the kind of rabid, foaming hatred you think of as hate. It can include anything from dislike or mistrust, up to the extreme of hatred.
It can also include prejudice against women, which isn't necessarily hate in the usual sense, but has the same effect.
More, when using it as a bigoted person that the bigotry is focused on women, it can definitely include stereotyping and the propagation of stereotyping.
The term does get a little over used to include people that are just poorly informed rather than those that actively practice misogyny as a belief, but even that still applies in usage.
Yes.
Why the downvotes? The community is called "no stupid questions"...
There's been a lot of both sides bait recently
What is that?
If someone says black lives matter inevitably someone else will say all lives matter. The all lives matter comment is the both sides bait.
JAQing off as the cool kids say "I'm just asking questions" it's a way to troll.
Not relevant is what it is
I didn't downvote this, but I can understand why
It feels almost inflammatory
Judging by OPs comments so far, it does seem to at least approach that line.
Because you don't have to sub to see it. I'm not subbed to this, but I see it in my feed all the time because I browse all
Browse all in a practical sense is subscribe all.
What? It is NOT at all common to call a guy a misogynist on the internet. It is very rare, except when actual misogynist bubbles come in contact with normal people. Most guys on the web know women and have female relatives whom they respect and appreciate and would therefore usually not act in ways that would justify calling them misogynist.
These aren't different things. If you "hate" women, you think little of them. You think you're better than them. You think they're dumb baby machines that belong in the kitchen.
If you do #2 or #3, you also do #1 even if you don't think you do.
If anyone is wondering why this person thinks it common to call a guy a misogynist, look at this guy's post history.
Fuckin’ yikes
Incellius Prime.
Someone who hates or oppresses women. It's an aggressive form of sexism.
Women can have internalized misogyny, as well, it's not just men.
Or how about, rather than your narrow, specific 3 definitions, a fourth thing, such as how it's phrased in the wiki:
The emphasis there is why you're being called names on the internet. If you're advocating systems or societal norms of gender oppression, you're being misogynist. This remains true even if you're not doing it intentionally.
The world we live in is deeply patriarchal, so it can be hard to see these problems, because the views and opinions you've got are just "normal". Something being the norm doesn't mean it isn't oppressive, and having an opinion doesn't mean you shouldn't consider the impacts of that opinion.
Generally, if someone calls you a misogynist, and you go "bUt I rEsPeCt wOmEn", you might want to take a little time to figure out where it's coming from. It can certainly be real without fitting in your 3 tidy little self-serving definitions.
I'll also point out that you can replace nearly every instance of misogyny in this thread with racism, and replace women with black, and it would be the same discussion. Or you could swap misogyny/women with misandry/men. Oppression is oppression, no matter who holds the power.
This is such a great explanation, thanks for taking the time to write it all out.
I think any of those three could be called misogynist. It's a pretty flexible term. It just means someone who is prejudiced against women.
Arguably, all three.
It's not the easiest concept to define. Kate Mann defines it as "the law enforcement branch of the patriarchy". It's not the philosophical justification of sexist beliefs, it's the (often violent) enforcement of them.
I think it can boil down to not recognizing the personhood of women. That the infinite complexity that can come from a rich tapestry woven of culture, personality, ability, interests and experiences can be shoved into a narrow and limited role. A misogynist will only see a sex doll, or a maid, or a baby making machine etc, and then judge a woman's worth based on how well they fit in that role. If a woman doesn't perform the roles that person expects or desires then they get angry and hateful that this other human being didn't meet those unreasonable expectations of them.
Misogynists might not think they hate women, just that a woman doesn't "belong" working in a machine shop. They might not consciously think men are superior, but they see certain tasks associated with women (cleaning, care work, teaching) as low value, undesirable or less worthy of respect. They might not actively choose how to divide domestic tasks, but will say that women are "naturally" better at them. And just to be clear, plenty of women are misogynists too.
Not being a misogynist involves seeing women as equally valid and worthy humans on the same bases you would judge any other person (IE, a man).
Points two and three are forms of point one... if you think you're superior to a class of humans then you hate those humans. If you think some people should do something because of the color of their skin or gender then you hate them... you're denying them the same freedom to act that you enjoy.
Look i don't think hate is required for misogony but this point you are making would mean that nearly every human being hates all animals. Just ask people, they LOVE animals. And also to eat them because we believe us to be superior.
not to justify bad behavior, but your points are rather off base. Thinking you're superior to something doesn't mean you hate it.....One might consider themselves superior to plants and not hate them. One might consider Ford superior to Chevy and not hate Chevy. A woman can be misogynistic and consider males superior without hating females. Just because the 2 other points often come along for the ride doesn't mean they are part of the definition and shouldn't be asked.
I think hate, as a word, can mean what the parent comment used it for, though I wouldn't say that's the sense I get when I hear it. It's the meaning in the phrase "hate group" though, which seems pretty relevant.
Definitely 1. and 2., imho also 3.
1 and 2 for sure. 3 if he believes this for all women to be true. Not so much if he only wishes his partner to be traditional. This however needs to be communicated and also wished by the to be house wife. Not so hard really. We are all humans with the same rights, no matter how we look down there or what hormons we got flowing through our veins. Just as we want respect and freedom we need to grant that to those around us. Or face judgement by our peers.
Mysogyny is the belief that women and the passtimes associated with cultural womanhood are less valuable, capable, worthy of resources and/or should have culturally different expectations or additional restrictions than men. Anything that places phenotypic female bodies or cultural "woman related stuff" on a heirachy beneath what is afforded to men is basic misogyny.
In practice a lot of mysogyny doesn't look like active hatred. It can be internalized by women themselves who don't on their face hate being female but still see womanly passtimes as being lesser. If are a woman who hates the women who wear pink, wear makeup and enjoy flirting with boys because you think their choice of expression of femininity is silly and purile... You are buying in to a heirachy based on cultural gendered lines that places the more feminine centric expressions as being lesser.
The targets aren't always women. Misogyny for instance can be seen when a gay or non-gender conforming person is riddiculed for being lesser for wanting to express the feminine as the underlying assumption is that the trappings of femininity is not a choice between two equally vaild options but choosing an option which is lower than what they should want. Meanwhile women emulating the masculine is not usually commented on because when the masculine is aspirational and the feminine is silly, trite garbage for inferior people it makes logical sense to ditch it.
Misogyny exists in our use of language. Examine for instance the word "pussy" which equates the female genetalia with cowardly behavior and "unmannly" inferiority. You are acting as a woman which is supposed to be insulting because women are not just categorically different but equal... They are implied to be an inferior state of being.
Furthermore some misogyny can be "benevolent" - CRITICALLY this does not mean it is good. Benevolent misogyny is harmful - but it means that the misogyny comes from a place of misplaced pity and assumption of inferiority. Treating a person as weaker, more delicate, in need of help and unable to make their own decisions or utilize their own capacity for handling things is also misogyny. Being treated as though you are a child who will never grow up will drive people to bite through solid steel levels of frustration and madness or worse injure their self worth, sense of independence and empower learned helplessness.
The companion peice to misogyny is misandry. The idea that men are all to some degree inherently violent, sex motivated and unsafe for women and children to be around and the idea that any choice of a man to express the feminine is abhorant limiting the options of men to participate in society in ways not outlined by traditional masculine expectations.
Unlearning misogyny is not an easy thing. It is a process of dismantling behavior based out of something you may not have given much consideration. Our society is generally kind of misogynist by default so reaching in and recognizing misogyny and choosing to leave it behind takes a lot of effort and willingness to honestly self critique.
Since he decided to delete a bunch of his comments and this comment thread can't be seen...
I’m a little confused. I see you accusing OP of saying things against women and then you go on to call him a slur that is specifically offensive to women, but none of those comments in the picture are the ones you’re accusing OP of saying.
Either I’m missing something, or there is quite the irony here.
Edit: Just read OP’s comment history, and yeah, seems to be a jerk and a misogynist. I still think your choice to call him a c*nt was a bit ironic in context though.
The United States is the only country I know of in which that insult is considered misogynistic, and even then only when it is directed toward a woman. OP is not a woman, and, even though I reside in the United States, I do not consider myself an American. Regarding its offensiveness to women, yes, some women do consider it offensive. If any of them are reading this, then they can go ahead and be offended if they wish, that is their right. But the C-word is not misogynistic. Misogyny involves tools of gendered oppression, the way the N-word has long been a tool of racist oppression. The C-word has never had that sort of power.
If I had called him a "pussy", then that is something different because it implies cowardice, as though people who own one are cowards. If I had accused him of having a small penis, then that would have been body-shaming and uncool. But cunt? Dick? Asshole? They are just words indicating someone is a jerk, which OP most certainly is.
I have done a lot...like, a lot of work on the vocabulary I employ. I have nothing but feminist men, women, and enbies in my circle, and we all hold each other accountable for the language we use. We shun ableist terms ("lame", "crazy"), sex-shaming ("slut"), poverty-shaming ("white-trash", "ghetto"), and a whole host of other very common terms in modern parlance. And, while a couple women I've known have had a distaste for the word "cunt", they just didn't like the way it sounded.
All this being said, thank you for what you do by trying to hold me accountable for the language I use.
There's a sort of misogynistic that thinks women are superior to men (and I assume that's the reason they "hate" women). Spanish director Luis Garcia Berlanga would an example.