Japanese people on lemmy, what is Japan actually like ?

x4740N@lemmy.world to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world – 142 points –

I want to know what Japan is like from people who actually live in Japan especially after seeing some misleading posts online from people who don't live in Japan & people misunderstanding something resulting in people being misleadingly negative about Japan

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I’m a permanent resident of Japan and am raising a family here. I think you would get better responses if you posed more specific questions, or provided examples of what kind of misunderstandings people have experienced and posted about online.

I find Japan a pleasant place to live, but it is far from perfect, just like any society. The cost of living is quite reasonable compared to many other countries, which makes the lower salaries go further.

People are generally friendly, but you sometimes have to read between the lines, as people tend to be less direct so as to avoid confrontation (“It is a little difficult” is a polite way to say “No!” for example).

Anyway, if you have any other questions I’ll be around.

Yeah, 建前 and 本音 are definitely a thing to get used to, heh. I agree, specific questions are definitely helpful to answer

What is the first word? Google translated it to the pronunciation, but said the second word means "true feelings"

tatemae is the romanisation. It is your public attitude, which may be different to your real attitude (hon’ne).

We don't have subtitles when speaking.

That's good. Wouldn't want the subtitles to be be against a non-contrasting background so I think you're telling me to eat shit when in fact you're merely offering me some shitake mushrooms.

Who do you think you're kidding! Next thing you're going to tell me not everybody there likes sniffing schoolgirls' underwear! Preposterous!

レミーは英語圏のサイトを圧倒しているし、日本人の大半は英語ができないから、このサイトを利用しない。だから、実際の日本人からの回答は得られない。

[Lemmy] dominates English-speaking sites, and most Japanese people don't use this site because they can't speak English. Therefore, we cannot get answers from actual Japanese people.

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How I feel browsing mastodon and it's not anywhere near as bad as the inverse for other countries.

I can verify that google translate got some things right but I don't know all the kana & kanji in that scentence yet to be able to read it

Don't use Google translate because it will get Japanese / 日本語 wrong

I only understood a some words in that scentence because I haven't yet learned enough Japanese to read that fully

I haven't learned that big of a wordset yet as I'm primarily focusing on learning grammer at the moment before continuing to learn vocabulary

Many parts of Japan are stunningly beatiful. The largest cities are some of the most overwhelming places I've ever been, but everything works much better than you might expect.

The people are generally respectful and kind if you are the same. I found people to be generally tolerant of unintended rudeness from a foreigner, especially if you apologize. Jokes and humility go a long way.

There's a TON of Japanese people there. Like, they're freaking EVERYWHERE.

To this point, the Tokyo skytree may be the most entertaining place I've ever been. You can see so much life happening all around, you can see how far Tokyo sprawls, you can see how large the breadth of humanity can be. If you intensely focus on one small spot of the city, you see a myopic little section, but then you raise up, and see the entirety of "Civilization". It's super impressive. I expected that it would be fun to see, and maybe spend 20 minutes up there looking around. I spent almost 3 hours just examining life.

I'm sure places like this exist elsewhere, Tokyo seems like the perfect place for it though.

Highly recommend sitting in a cafe in Montmartre Paris. Especially one looking down those spindly small roads. Excellent place to watch humanity on a micro scale.

There's a Japanese YouTuber my japanese learning friend would watch called "that Japanese man Yuta" who goes into this

I know about yuta because I am learning Japanese but I don't think I have seen their other videos outside of learning Japanese

Right now I'm slowly working my way through grammer at a pace that works for me

Do the videos help? I tried Duolingo with learning languages and nothing stuck from them.

If you're trying to learn Japanese, wanikani for kanji and bunpro for grammar have been the best resources I've found. People recommend to just use anki but I don't have the time to customize decks and mine sentences for hours on end. Wanikani and bunpro set up a structure that's easy to follow and understand. I've loved using them over the past year.

You could try kanji garden

https://kanji.garden/

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=is.ky.kanjigarden

It is anki like in the way it uses spaced repition but is specifically for kanji though if I remember correctly you can't customise it like an anki deck

Doesn't work on foldables for whatever reason. Actually the only app I've come across that I can't install lol. Thanks for the recommendation though

With Duolingo, it really helps if you've got someone else to practice with who's working on the same language (or already knows it).

With duolingo and apps like them I don't actually use them because they don't allow you to structure your learning to best help you learn

Yeah they help but I mainly use them as supplementary information now because hearing the same information explained differently from other sources does help me understand something that may be explained in a way I don't understand in a specific source

I mainly use the resources from: https://morg.systems/58465ab9

And I also created a github page that lists the other resources that I use though I don't update it that often:

https://github.com/njosey/Japanese-Learning-Resources/blob/main/README.md

I've even living in Japan for almost a decade (probably closer if you count times I visited for months before living here). If you have specific questions, I'm happy to answer them.

Are everyone's dicks really pixelated?

Having been to many a hot spring, yes (but only in my head).

Edit: seriously, though, sitting in an outdoor bath in the mountains as snow slowly falls is one of life's great simple pleasures

How could you check yourself for std's if it is all pixelated?

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I've often thought about taking a vacation in Japan, so I have a few genuine questions.

  • What should a visitor see or do that isn't too expensive?
  • I'm a little over 190 cm tall. Are there any popular tourist activities that my height would make more difficult?
  • My ability to communicate in Japanese would consist entirely of using Google Translate on my phone. Would language be a significant barrier to a good visit?

Thanks for making yourself available for this.

  • really depends upon what you're into and where you want to go. English ability can drop pretty rapidly outside of the cities, but I got by with and handful of words and gestures when I started visiting
  • not really. Some old building are tough, but you can duck. I have a buddy who's 194cm (I think) and he's fine (born and raised in Japan)
  • not really. I did fine as mentioned it point 1 with some very basic words and I've met plenty of people who knows zero and enjoy their visits

For your first question, maybe take a look at the youtube channel Abroad in Japan.
Usually highlights not so well known locations in various places around japan.

According to some bilingual JP youtube colleagues he is well received in the japanese community.

I think maybe older abroad in Japan might be fine. Rachael and Jun is another one I used to watch. I consume that type of content less the longer I live here. If you're into outdoorsy stuff Go North Japan is really nice

You might have to get used to ducking more than usual. And showers in AirBnBs might be too short to wash your shoulders and head. Hotels in the cities are fine in my experience.

Almost every shower I've seen in Japan has it on a movable hose rather than fixed, so at least there's that. I forgot when I went back to the US for a visit for the first time in ~6 years and was super annoyed, heh.

I've heard the work culture in Japan, like many Asian countries, can be quite oppressive and sometimes even toxic when compared to its Western counterparts.

Obviously this is highly specific to the workplace in question, and the framing of this statement has inherent biases.

That said, could you offer any insights into the veracity or lack thereof to these claims?

I've only worked at two Japanese companies. My wife has worked at several in her life (and loves her current company and job). I've also read stories of people in bad places asking for advice. I'll answer based on that, but realize that it is not a huge sample size.

"black companies" are very much a thing and take advantage of those that either can't (or feel that they can't) find other work. Recent years have seen laws to reform the number of hours worked and against various forms of "power harassment" (you can google that for what it is, but basically managers/superiors cannot do certain things). My first company in Japan kinda waffled between a company with a ton of overtime, got quite nice, and then went back the opposite direction.

Some of it is just social pressure, which is a big thing in Japan. People don't want to rock the boat, so they will, for example, clock out but keep working, not leave before the boss, etc. Corona causing a lot of people to work from home has changed things, though, and a lot of people who have gone back to the office have a much better understanding of how much useless BS there is and how many hours of their lives they're missing out on. We'll see how it plays out in the future.

Thanks so much for your detailed response! I found the latter part regarding returning to the office after the lifting of quarantine to be particularly interesting, as it hadn't occurred to me the ways working from home and then going back to the office might play out differently in other cultures.

I very much appreciate you taking the time to answer my query.

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I'm not japanese but I want to travel there. We've discovered Takeshii from Japan on YouTube a while ago and I think he is doing a good job in capturing some opinions around different aspects of living in Japan. I'd say it's worth checking.

"Japanese people on lemmy, what is Japan actually like?" "I'm not japanese but..."

"...here's someone on YouTube who lives in Japan that does a good job of showing what living in Japan is really like."

Seriously, what was wrong with that?

"Japanese people on lemmy, what is Japan actually like?" "..."

wow that's so much better than people trying to help!

I don't know of any Japanese who really know of Lemmy and I've never seen it mentioned online (though mastadon is at least somewhat known, but not by the average japanese). Also asking in English is going to limit the pool of respondants quite a bit. I'm not japanese but I've been living here since 2015 and speak japanese on a daily basis with my wife and family.

I have seen them posting on mastodon and pixelfed

But you do have to find them through Japanese specific tags which is easier when learning Japanese (日本語)

You can search for "日本" which is the native name of Japan on mastodon or pixelfed that should give you some results

I feel like Americans or Europeans would find the answers from the perspective of an American/European living in Japan more useful.

I do watch him but I need to watch more of his videos as I've only seen a select few that intrest me so far

I'd like to expand to more channels like his as well

I had honestly forgotten about his channel when posting this question but it's good to make this post because it does expand the scope of information on this subject to make it broader

These people have been living there since like 2011 or something. I don't think it's clickbait style stuff, and they give breakdowns on how some stuff works (like they bought a house last year)

https://www.youtube.com/kydeanderic

I'm subscribed to them because I saw their Japanese fridge video when searching for Japanese fridges on YouTube but haven't yet watched the rest of their videos

Thank you for reminding me of them