Sucks to be you, I own a home made from recycled cardboard with a nice concrete roof (they call a bridge) ;)
On a serious note yeh renter too can't afford one doesn't matter what I earn unless I want to go paycheck to paycheck
Even paycheck to paycheck it's impossible. I calculated that the minimum salary needed to buy a run down 1br/studio sized apartment in the ass end of the outer boroughs of my city is $200k.
They generally start around $500k for a shit tier place.
Get a doctors appointment on the same day.
That'll be a hard one even in ideal circumstances, I literally live in a city where half the residents are doctors that commute into the larger city nearby for work part time and yet appointments are still only available a month out.
Or the same 6 months.
Zero gravity dancing?
Yeah lol that would be neat. I don't know if you could move
You push off against the walls.
Honestly I've often thought it would be fun to hire a sex worker, but it's seemingly impossible to ensure safety from any diseases, from getting mugged, and also to ensure nobody is being exploited or coerced. I really wish it was legal and regulated (and ideally unionized) in my area. It would be cool to be able to access a service like that as easily as I can book a haircut.
tryst d link will usually have trustworthy SWers to contact if you're really interested
Usually the ones that come off as spiritually into the whole thing will be your best bet for a first encounter
Also, don't trust anyone who isn't asking for vetting, seems backwards but sting ops will usually skip that part while legit SWers will often demand it to make sure they're not exposing themselves to a sting on your end.
Also, don't trust anyone who isn't asking for vetting, seems backwards but sting ops will usually skip that part while legit SWers will often demand it to make sure they're not exposing themselves to a sting on your end.
Where I am, SWers are decriminalized, but buying their services isn't. So they don't need to be afraid of stings. Not sure if that affects what you're saying.
Anyway this is all hypothetical since I have a gf right now, but I've spent most of my adult life single and lonely and would have loved to be able to access SW services safely and legitimately during those times.
I might be stupid, but can someone explain why sex workers are decriminalized while buying their services isn't? I don't get the logic behind only punishing one party involved in the transaction. Note that I'm not against sex workers at all; I'm just confused about the logic.
Because sex work being criminalised can prevent sex workers from feeling safe going to the police if they get assaulted in their like of work, and can also prevent trafficked people from coming forward.
They're seen as "victims" by many people
Because in a significant portion of cases, they are. They're owned by someone and didn't choose to sell themselves.
The fact that trafficking is such a meaningful portion of sex work is a big part of the reason it hasn't been legalized most places. I think it should be legalized and regulated to try to make it harder to have the workers be people who don't freely and fully consent, but the increase in demand if it's legal could make it worse in the short term at least.
Dungeons and dragons. I live in a foreign country and am still learning the language. I’m years away from being able to play.
It would be hilarious if you learned D&D vocabulary first.
There are translated versions of the D&D books in a couple of languages, though unfortunately not very many.
Frankly though, if you can read English well enough to slowly go through the rules, that's good enough. Because while you're actually playing it at the table, you and your friends can be speaking your own language, no problem.
Thanks for the link I was not aware of it and will read it.
My main concern is that I’ll miss out on what’s happening as everyone will be speaking a different language. So I will not know what the dm is talking about or what choices the other characters have made.
You should try to play with other people who speak your language, so the DM and other players can describe the world & their actions in your language, using English only for the technical rules.
For example, if your language was French, you could have the following interaction:
Player: J'attaque le gobelin avec mon «Greatsword».
DM: D'accord. Roule pour frapper.
Player: C'est un d-vingt plus mon «Strength» ?
DM: Oui, plus ton «Proficiency» aussi.
I'm using French just because it's the only other language I can write in, but the same idea could work for any language. Keep technical terms in English but mostly speak your language.
The trick is to find a group—or set up the group yourself, out of your friends!—of people you can play with IRL, not a random group of English-speaking strangers online.
I'd love to go to a sober bar. Sure, I can get non alcoholic cocktails at my local, but it'd be nice to have the atmosphere and know everyone else is sober too
Isn't that a coffeeshop?
If you've ever had a man hopped up on way too much espresso try to hit on you at a coffee shop, you'd know coffee makes people kind of drunk as well lmao
You're just kidding, right? Is that a real thing?
(I looked it up, apparently it is real)
May I ask, why do you want a bar without alcohol?
Are you not allowed to or not drinking by choice?
Sounds kinda like atheist churches. Something that looks nonsensical on its face, but actually makes sense when you think about it.
One of the really beneficial things about religion is the sense of community and the ritual of going to church every week, singing some songs, etc. It's a great place for religious people to meet people, make friends, and establish a good social life that can even extend outside of the church itself. So why not do all those things, but without the magic sky fairy?
In general many people consider it to be kind of rude to ask people why someone isn't drinking/doesn't want to drink. A lot of the reasons may be things they don't want to share details about, past alcohol abuse, family history, traumatic experiences, health issues, etc. Even if it's something pretty benign like they just don't enjoy the taste it can get old just having to answer the same questions again and again because a lot of people really want to push the issue for one reason or another.
Personally, I do enjoy drinking, and don't have anything against bars in general, but I can see the appeal of sober bars. Some people are just in search of a "third place" somewhere that's not work or home that they can just go to hang out, talk to people, etc. and for a lot of people bars fill that role, but if they're not drinking for any reason, bars may not be very attractive option for them. Also a lot of people when drunk can get loud, annoying, or just otherwise unpleasant to be around, not that sober people can't also be jerks, but people in general are probably going to be dialed back a bit more when they're all sober than when they're drinking. And if your goal is to try to meet more people, you might have a chance of having more authentic interactions with the people you're trying to meet, some people's personalities can really change when they've been drinking, you might hit it off with people you wouldn't have if one or both of you were drunk.
I'm not the person you asked but I've heard of people wanting this and I would be willing as well. A non alcoholic bar would allow for less chaos in a welcoming environment. Bars are loud to force you to drink more. That incentive is gone when you take the alcohol away. Some nice light music as you converse with friends sounds great to me.
Wine bars are typically geared toward the light music to converse with friends angle, and if you don't need it to be alcohol free, are much easier to find than sober bars.
To go hang out with people in a cool setting while having alcohol-like drinks without the problems. Like going to a Kava bar or something, or tea bar. Bunch of places out there with themed drinks to hang out. Sometimes you like the taste of cocktails but don't want to get drunk.
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Is owning a home an activity?
At this point in my life, other than opportunity costs, there's nothing stopping me from doing anything reasonable. The issue is time and will.
I'd love to be able to see the stars better. I live in a very bright, and often overcast area. I have a nice little telescope, but I've only taken it out a couple of times. I've been meaning to catch up with the local astro club, but, you know, time and will.
I am in the local club and have two over-the-top scopes and still can't pull it together.
Have you considered purchasing a night vision device? They help cut through light pollution better than anything, you will see a crazy number of stars.
I appreciate the idea. I just really like the photons to hit my eyes directly. Putting electronics in between makes it feel more like looking at photos than real stars.
A track day in a performance/racing car.
traditional archery.
I want to make a tunnel boring machine for digging ~2 meter tall tunnels in sandstone.
Sadly I live in a place with only sand in the underground and that's not suitable for digging tunnels DIY style
That's all?
Man, I'm really sorry you're stuck in a sand pit.
We have so much fun with our TBM's in my area. My neighbor, Ralf, built a 3M BEAST! You wouldn't believe the daily progress he makes. It's got integrated support walls and everything. Our club is in a bit of a feud with the hacks 3 subdivisions over. They keep boring too close to our tunnels. Not. Cool. Man.
Anyway, at least you can cut and cover with sand, a perfectly viable tunnelling strategy with lower startup costs.
Oh that sounds so cool, you got any videos of those machines?
I could do other tunneling methods, but I really want to make a TBM specifically
It feels like you guys are speaking a different language from a different planet
Cody's Lab is also looking for an area to do stuff like that.
Offroading.
I have a somewhat capable truck but very limited places to get to try out its full capabilities. Here it's illegal to drive motor vehicles without permission on a land that you don't own.
So much fun, good memories with the offroad group I fell in with during the Forum era of the internet, some of us still keep in touch.
The group had people from around the US, and even though I lived in a place like you are now there were opportunities for road trips to meet up with & go with waaaay more experienced people.
I was NOT mechanically inclined but made Incredible meals camping (sushi, smoked pulled pork, bbq tri tip beef, etc.) so I traded that for help installing mods & fixing broken shit.
The group also went to the national meet up, but we never went on "official" runs, just went on our own and to make shenanigans & meet up.
Check out (your vehicle) 4x4 groups and start there!
Burn fossil fuel and tear up the land?
God forbid someone finds cars fun, right?
You could probably design and build an ev off-road vehicle. It would likely suck as the batteries are super heavy, but someone could.
As for land, it's amazing how a lot of places designate ohv (off highway vehicle) trails and put time and money to maintain them so they don't completely ruin the area.
Skiing. But i guess i'll never get to try that in the future.
As an Austrian I can say that skiing is kinda overrated. I mean, Sure its fun but it gets pretty repetetive after a while
I think OP means skiing for fun, not to commute to work, run for groceries, or grab the mail.
skiing to commute to work?! Never heard of anyone doing that
Make friends
hangliding. the midwest is too flat :(
They used to do it at Warren Dunes in south west Michigan right on the lake.
Walking from my house to the store
Medieval combat. I'd love to learn how to sword fight, like genuinely sword fight.
Look into Hema. I'm sure there's a club local-ish to you and if not just start one.
Totally doable. Many large cities in the US have places that teach European sword. There are two primary manuals of arms, Meyer (German) and Liberi (Italian). Different schools will tend to teach either German or Italian fencing. Longsword duels--assuming you weren't armored--likely would have been over in a matter of seconds for the most part.
Hunting.
I'm interested exclusively in hunting for food. There is very little state-owned land in my area (I think my state has the least amount of state own land in the country), and they have very, very brief windows for hunting. I'm primarily interested in hunting feral pigs, which are invasive. But despite them being invasive, hunting regulations are written in such a way that you can only practically hunt feral pigs on state-owned land during the same time that you would hunt deer, which is limited to a few days each year. (Technically I could hunt them during turkey season with a shotgun, and small game season with a rimfire, but neither of those are practical. I would need to hunt them on private property, because there's no bag limit, no closed season, and no caliber limits on private land. Aside from that--which is already a challenge--I would likely need to get thermal imaging equipment, because feral pigs have gone from being diurnal to largely nocturnal, due to human predation. Oh, and you can't hunt public land at night. So...
I hope that I can go on a pig safari later this year.
Skiing.
We have a lot of great skateparks, but I've always wanted to try a pump track.
Only ones I can find in the midwest are dirt for BMX.
Regularly hang out with the friends I've made online who live in different countries.
We met up about a month ago, but would be nice to magically be able to meet up once a week or so.
Surfing. We have water nearby but insufficient waves.
I miss swimming in a mermaid tail :( NYC
I want to experience zero-G sometime.
I'd like to pick up woodworking. Unfortunately, the houses we generally live in are way too small (and expensive) to do that. There are no garages, unless you're super rich. There also aren't a lot of shops selling lumber we can just easily buy.
Guns. Lots of guns.
It's fun. If you live in the US, extremely doable. If not, well, sorry my dude.
If you are in the US, and want things that are fast-paced, I'd suggest looking up IDPA, USPSA, and PSCL. If you want more long range, the PRS. You can also look into 3-gun, Cowboy Action Shooting (although stage design is pretty boring now), and on, and on, and on. Be warned: it gets expensive very fast. Guns seem expensive at the start, but you will very quickly spend more on ammunition than you did on that CZ Shadow 2 and Trijicon SRO red dot. Oh, you think reloading will be cheaper? Nope, you'll just shoot more.
Homeownership.
Sucks to be you, I own a home made from recycled cardboard with a nice concrete roof (they call a bridge) ;)
On a serious note yeh renter too can't afford one doesn't matter what I earn unless I want to go paycheck to paycheck
Even paycheck to paycheck it's impossible. I calculated that the minimum salary needed to buy a run down 1br/studio sized apartment in the ass end of the outer boroughs of my city is $200k.
They generally start around $500k for a shit tier place.
Get a doctors appointment on the same day.
That'll be a hard one even in ideal circumstances, I literally live in a city where half the residents are doctors that commute into the larger city nearby for work part time and yet appointments are still only available a month out.
Or the same 6 months.
Zero gravity dancing?
Yeah lol that would be neat. I don't know if you could move
You push off against the walls.
Honestly I've often thought it would be fun to hire a sex worker, but it's seemingly impossible to ensure safety from any diseases, from getting mugged, and also to ensure nobody is being exploited or coerced. I really wish it was legal and regulated (and ideally unionized) in my area. It would be cool to be able to access a service like that as easily as I can book a haircut.
tryst d link will usually have trustworthy SWers to contact if you're really interested
Usually the ones that come off as spiritually into the whole thing will be your best bet for a first encounter
Also, don't trust anyone who isn't asking for vetting, seems backwards but sting ops will usually skip that part while legit SWers will often demand it to make sure they're not exposing themselves to a sting on your end.
Where I am, SWers are decriminalized, but buying their services isn't. So they don't need to be afraid of stings. Not sure if that affects what you're saying.
Anyway this is all hypothetical since I have a gf right now, but I've spent most of my adult life single and lonely and would have loved to be able to access SW services safely and legitimately during those times.
I might be stupid, but can someone explain why sex workers are decriminalized while buying their services isn't? I don't get the logic behind only punishing one party involved in the transaction. Note that I'm not against sex workers at all; I'm just confused about the logic.
Because sex work being criminalised can prevent sex workers from feeling safe going to the police if they get assaulted in their like of work, and can also prevent trafficked people from coming forward.
They're seen as "victims" by many people
Because in a significant portion of cases, they are. They're owned by someone and didn't choose to sell themselves.
The fact that trafficking is such a meaningful portion of sex work is a big part of the reason it hasn't been legalized most places. I think it should be legalized and regulated to try to make it harder to have the workers be people who don't freely and fully consent, but the increase in demand if it's legal could make it worse in the short term at least.
Dungeons and dragons. I live in a foreign country and am still learning the language. I’m years away from being able to play.
It would be hilarious if you learned D&D vocabulary first.
There are translated versions of the D&D books in a couple of languages, though unfortunately not very many.
Frankly though, if you can read English well enough to slowly go through the rules, that's good enough. Because while you're actually playing it at the table, you and your friends can be speaking your own language, no problem.
This page has some advice on how to deal with non-English speaking tables. It's talking about Pathfinder, which is a sort of "off-brand D&D" (personally I think Pathfinder 2e is a superior game to D&D 5e), but the advice is general enough to work for any RPG.
Thanks for the link I was not aware of it and will read it.
My main concern is that I’ll miss out on what’s happening as everyone will be speaking a different language. So I will not know what the dm is talking about or what choices the other characters have made.
You should try to play with other people who speak your language, so the DM and other players can describe the world & their actions in your language, using English only for the technical rules.
For example, if your language was French, you could have the following interaction:
I'm using French just because it's the only other language I can write in, but the same idea could work for any language. Keep technical terms in English but mostly speak your language.
The trick is to find a group—or set up the group yourself, out of your friends!—of people you can play with IRL, not a random group of English-speaking strangers online.
I'd love to go to a sober bar. Sure, I can get non alcoholic cocktails at my local, but it'd be nice to have the atmosphere and know everyone else is sober too
Isn't that a coffeeshop?
If you've ever had a man hopped up on way too much espresso try to hit on you at a coffee shop, you'd know coffee makes people kind of drunk as well lmao
You're just kidding, right? Is that a real thing? (I looked it up, apparently it is real)
May I ask, why do you want a bar without alcohol? Are you not allowed to or not drinking by choice?
Sounds kinda like atheist churches. Something that looks nonsensical on its face, but actually makes sense when you think about it.
One of the really beneficial things about religion is the sense of community and the ritual of going to church every week, singing some songs, etc. It's a great place for religious people to meet people, make friends, and establish a good social life that can even extend outside of the church itself. So why not do all those things, but without the magic sky fairy?
In general many people consider it to be kind of rude to ask people why someone isn't drinking/doesn't want to drink. A lot of the reasons may be things they don't want to share details about, past alcohol abuse, family history, traumatic experiences, health issues, etc. Even if it's something pretty benign like they just don't enjoy the taste it can get old just having to answer the same questions again and again because a lot of people really want to push the issue for one reason or another.
Personally, I do enjoy drinking, and don't have anything against bars in general, but I can see the appeal of sober bars. Some people are just in search of a "third place" somewhere that's not work or home that they can just go to hang out, talk to people, etc. and for a lot of people bars fill that role, but if they're not drinking for any reason, bars may not be very attractive option for them. Also a lot of people when drunk can get loud, annoying, or just otherwise unpleasant to be around, not that sober people can't also be jerks, but people in general are probably going to be dialed back a bit more when they're all sober than when they're drinking. And if your goal is to try to meet more people, you might have a chance of having more authentic interactions with the people you're trying to meet, some people's personalities can really change when they've been drinking, you might hit it off with people you wouldn't have if one or both of you were drunk.
I'm not the person you asked but I've heard of people wanting this and I would be willing as well. A non alcoholic bar would allow for less chaos in a welcoming environment. Bars are loud to force you to drink more. That incentive is gone when you take the alcohol away. Some nice light music as you converse with friends sounds great to me.
Wine bars are typically geared toward the light music to converse with friends angle, and if you don't need it to be alcohol free, are much easier to find than sober bars.
To go hang out with people in a cool setting while having alcohol-like drinks without the problems. Like going to a Kava bar or something, or tea bar. Bunch of places out there with themed drinks to hang out. Sometimes you like the taste of cocktails but don't want to get drunk.
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Is owning a home an activity?
At this point in my life, other than opportunity costs, there's nothing stopping me from doing anything reasonable. The issue is time and will.
I'd love to be able to see the stars better. I live in a very bright, and often overcast area. I have a nice little telescope, but I've only taken it out a couple of times. I've been meaning to catch up with the local astro club, but, you know, time and will.
I am in the local club and have two over-the-top scopes and still can't pull it together.
Have you considered purchasing a night vision device? They help cut through light pollution better than anything, you will see a crazy number of stars.
I appreciate the idea. I just really like the photons to hit my eyes directly. Putting electronics in between makes it feel more like looking at photos than real stars.
A track day in a performance/racing car.
traditional archery.
I want to make a tunnel boring machine for digging ~2 meter tall tunnels in sandstone. Sadly I live in a place with only sand in the underground and that's not suitable for digging tunnels DIY style
That's all?
Man, I'm really sorry you're stuck in a sand pit.
We have so much fun with our TBM's in my area. My neighbor, Ralf, built a 3M BEAST! You wouldn't believe the daily progress he makes. It's got integrated support walls and everything. Our club is in a bit of a feud with the hacks 3 subdivisions over. They keep boring too close to our tunnels. Not. Cool. Man.
Anyway, at least you can cut and cover with sand, a perfectly viable tunnelling strategy with lower startup costs.
Oh that sounds so cool, you got any videos of those machines?
I could do other tunneling methods, but I really want to make a TBM specifically
It feels like you guys are speaking a different language from a different planet
Cody's Lab is also looking for an area to do stuff like that.
Offroading.
I have a somewhat capable truck but very limited places to get to try out its full capabilities. Here it's illegal to drive motor vehicles without permission on a land that you don't own.
So much fun, good memories with the offroad group I fell in with during the Forum era of the internet, some of us still keep in touch.
The group had people from around the US, and even though I lived in a place like you are now there were opportunities for road trips to meet up with & go with waaaay more experienced people.
I was NOT mechanically inclined but made Incredible meals camping (sushi, smoked pulled pork, bbq tri tip beef, etc.) so I traded that for help installing mods & fixing broken shit.
The group also went to the national meet up, but we never went on "official" runs, just went on our own and to make shenanigans & meet up.
Check out (your vehicle) 4x4 groups and start there!
Burn fossil fuel and tear up the land?
God forbid someone finds cars fun, right?
You could probably design and build an ev off-road vehicle. It would likely suck as the batteries are super heavy, but someone could.
As for land, it's amazing how a lot of places designate ohv (off highway vehicle) trails and put time and money to maintain them so they don't completely ruin the area.
Skiing. But i guess i'll never get to try that in the future.
As an Austrian I can say that skiing is kinda overrated. I mean, Sure its fun but it gets pretty repetetive after a while
I think OP means skiing for fun, not to commute to work, run for groceries, or grab the mail.
skiing to commute to work?! Never heard of anyone doing that
Make friends
hangliding. the midwest is too flat :(
They used to do it at Warren Dunes in south west Michigan right on the lake.
Walking from my house to the store
Medieval combat. I'd love to learn how to sword fight, like genuinely sword fight.
Look into Hema. I'm sure there's a club local-ish to you and if not just start one.
Totally doable. Many large cities in the US have places that teach European sword. There are two primary manuals of arms, Meyer (German) and Liberi (Italian). Different schools will tend to teach either German or Italian fencing. Longsword duels--assuming you weren't armored--likely would have been over in a matter of seconds for the most part.
Hunting.
I'm interested exclusively in hunting for food. There is very little state-owned land in my area (I think my state has the least amount of state own land in the country), and they have very, very brief windows for hunting. I'm primarily interested in hunting feral pigs, which are invasive. But despite them being invasive, hunting regulations are written in such a way that you can only practically hunt feral pigs on state-owned land during the same time that you would hunt deer, which is limited to a few days each year. (Technically I could hunt them during turkey season with a shotgun, and small game season with a rimfire, but neither of those are practical. I would need to hunt them on private property, because there's no bag limit, no closed season, and no caliber limits on private land. Aside from that--which is already a challenge--I would likely need to get thermal imaging equipment, because feral pigs have gone from being diurnal to largely nocturnal, due to human predation. Oh, and you can't hunt public land at night. So...
I hope that I can go on a pig safari later this year.
Skiing.
We have a lot of great skateparks, but I've always wanted to try a pump track.
Only ones I can find in the midwest are dirt for BMX.
Regularly hang out with the friends I've made online who live in different countries.
We met up about a month ago, but would be nice to magically be able to meet up once a week or so.
Fight my friends in a cqb environment with simunition https://youtu.be/QsfXsaO-9vs?si=mtbDkf3r4RZrn5Oh
Skiing
Surfing. We have water nearby but insufficient waves.
I miss swimming in a mermaid tail :( NYC
I want to experience zero-G sometime.
I'd like to pick up woodworking. Unfortunately, the houses we generally live in are way too small (and expensive) to do that. There are no garages, unless you're super rich. There also aren't a lot of shops selling lumber we can just easily buy.
Guns. Lots of guns.
It's fun. If you live in the US, extremely doable. If not, well, sorry my dude.
If you are in the US, and want things that are fast-paced, I'd suggest looking up IDPA, USPSA, and PSCL. If you want more long range, the PRS. You can also look into 3-gun, Cowboy Action Shooting (although stage design is pretty boring now), and on, and on, and on. Be warned: it gets expensive very fast. Guns seem expensive at the start, but you will very quickly spend more on ammunition than you did on that CZ Shadow 2 and Trijicon SRO red dot. Oh, you think reloading will be cheaper? Nope, you'll just shoot more.