Motivation is my worst enemy.

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Motivation is my worst enemy.

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Putting your foot down and telling yourself to do something then not doing it because nobody tells me, not even me.

So is that why I'm decently productive at work but it's a miracle if I can force myself to do the laundry or load the dishwasher or other chores?

Very likely. I find it also has a lot to do with environment, like work is the place I go to get stuff done, home is the place I play games and chill. So when it's time to get stuff done at home, the wires get crossed a bit.

I'm a great student because of deadlines, guidelines, rubrics, and structure, but have had a hard time focusing with every job I've ever had lol.

1: Cut all those chains and never get anything done!
2: …
3: There’s no profit in this.

Thank you for reminding me to call me out on my own bullshit :D

Memes like this are why I asked to be screened for ADHD as an adult. Thanks for this. Vyvanse is the best thing to have ever happened to me, when I can find it.

Combine ADHD with BED and #ThisIsWhyImFat. “I want to lose weight and get healthy”…”too fucking bad”.

Can you elaborate a bit?

The meme's from this sub often do resonate with me, but I had understand that most of these things are commonly experienced by people just generally, but a diagnosis of ADHD will depend on the degree to which these things are experienced, and the harm they're causing.

I do struggle with my mental health, (as in, struggling to be productive because I'm paralyzed by anxiety), but thus far (I'm 41) I've managed to hold it together. I've built my own small business with a few staff. IDK if I'd call it "successful" but it's enough to provide for my family so I must be "functional" in some capacity.

I'd love to be diagnosed with whatever thing that is easily treatable with whatever drug that will cure all that ails me, but having been on and off SNRIs and SSRIs over the last few decades, I know that's a promise that meds rarely fulfil.

I hear you, and I’m no doctor or psychiatrist. I do know, for myself, a combination of SSRIs, amphetamines, and talk therapy have helped me tremendously. I’m actually in the process of switching off the SSRIs for something else now due to side effects.

I’d see a lot of these memes and get a chuckle but then realized that these seem to be more relatable to me than most others. Things like OPs, or ADHDinos, or w/e.

That’s what ultimately got me to talk to my doctor about ADHD. Especially when I realized that eating disorders actually go both ways, not just anorexia/bulemia but also binging without purging, and compelled me to talk about other things, which also lead to treatment for anxiety and BED (fortunately Vyvanse is super effective for both ADHD and BED, and really feels like it’s helping my confidence/social anxiety more than Adderall would)

Side note, public service announcement, up to 80% of people can experience sexual side effects from SSRIs. More often this leads to poor medication adherence instead of dealing with talking to your doctor and finding other therapies. It’s incredibly common and there’s no reason to feel embarrassed or anxious for it, but poor sexual health can certainly exacerbate symptoms of anxiety or depression that the SSRIs are usually used to treat. Moreover, the side effects can present in single-player mode, multi-player mode, or both. No reason to feel bad having trouble going solo. Everyone does it, and more than likely your doctor won’t care for that level of detail anyway (unless you care to provide it).

That wasn’t directed at you. That’s just for everyone (but especially SSRI patients and their partners) to know.

Some of these memes are scarily accurate to me, I'm very seriously considering getting a diagnosis.

Do it. Whats the worst that could happen, you find out you’re normal?

Or you could self assess first. The diagnostic criteria is public knowledge.

My wife tried to talk me out of it, talking about Ritalin zombies from elementary school. Honestly if anything, compared to my baseline I feel like a superhuman when my SSRIs and amphetamines kick in. Then I realize that that’s what “normal” is supposed to feel like.

I've recently taken up using a check list app to make sure I do the million stupid little dumb things I need to do during the day and it's been really helpful.

Lists. Lists everywhere.

It’s not the lists. It’s knowing to look at the list.

So I need a reminder to look at the list. But that reminder to look at a list itself needs a reminder to be reminded of it. Then I need a reminder to be reminded of the reminder to look at the reminder that tells me to look at the list.

It’s elephants all the way down. Seriously. There is no way out of that chain of suck unless/until we create true digital sentients who would gladly suffer babysitting a salty bag of mostly water that has a really bad case of time and task blindness.

There is no way out of that chain of suck unless/until we create true digital sentients who would gladly suffer babysitting a salty bag of mostly water that has a really bad case of time and task blindness.

Damn it. If you reached the same conclusion...No, I will not accept the "Human Condition", fuck that.

This gamified task app will do the trick, surely.

making appts and being really strict abt scheduling things has really helped. creates accountability without exactly telling me what to do.

and bringing an early bag, so that i can be entertained when i show up early to things (never gets opened but I'm usually only 5 min early/late now cuz I'm not scared of being bored while i wait!)

Past me can't tell me what to do! F that guy!

But yeah, works well for me too. Throw your hat over the fence.

It’s even worse when it’s mashed up with other issues that run at cross-purposes to it.

I’ve got a particularly nasty Voltron of ADD combined with Asperger’s, and holy hell does it give me the ability to concentrate for hours on my least important and most useless tasks, while violently rejecting that which is critically due to get done.

I feel that in my soul. I've got ADHD and bipolar disorder, sometimes they align in absolutely awful ways. Experiencing hyperfocus and mania at the same time is a special level of hell.

I started a bullet journal to manage my days and it helped a lot with this.

this worked wonders for me

then bullet journals lost its "new" factor and now its dusting in the corner w all the other calendars, organisers, diaries and notebooks I tried to start

The trick is games. When the computer gives you an objective and then your score, you don't feel like it's some other asshat trying to play you. You're doing the playing!

Now get Habitica from the play store.

Habitica worked for about a month until it lost the new factor and I just never looked at it again, just like all the other habit apps

Ouch. This one cuts deep.

The dude in the middle is even making the closed eyes zen concentration face that I do 20 times a day.

I feel called out. Which is a little terrifying since I'm about to go back to school for graphic design with the plan that I'd be doing freelance work and have to get myself to be productive on my own.