it's Friday night, what's everyone doing this weekend?

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Mine is going to be laid back if all goes according to plan. I'm going to do some birding with a friend tomorrow morning, then I'm headed to a used bookstore to buy a copy of "the pricess bride" that I talked myself out of the other day (I've never read it). Then I'm hitting the farmers market and then relaxing at home for the foreseeable future. Enjoy your weekend!

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Old friends and their kids are coming to visit for about half a week. Haven’t seen them for a few years. No big plans: just hang out and catch up.

Birthday celly tomorrow! Rooftop pool in the afternoon, whisky bar in the evening. Gonna be the BEES knees baby

Man, you are all such nerds, and that's why I feel at home here. :)

I'm going to continue playing Tears of the Kingdom and hopefully crush pull day at the gym tomorrow.

I've never heard of a "pull day" at the gym before, what's that mean?

Oh, don't get me started talking about lifting! You'll never get me to shut up. :-)

It's a way to describe the "split" that a person does at the gym. I do the so-called PPL ("push, pull, legs"), split, meaning that on some workouts I'm focusing on the muscles that generally push things away from you (like the muscles of the chest, the shoulders, and the triceps), and on others, I train the "pulling" muscles (the lats, traps, and biceps). Then of course there's leg day!

All it is is a shorthand to structure your workouts so that you don't fatigue the same muscle on subsequent days. Hope that helps!

Do you know of any ressources for anyone looking for a new workout plan?

Sure, can you tell me what your goals are? If you can, I might be able to point you in the right direction.

I tried gym subscriptions but I always end up not going. Now I'm doing cardio at home but I would like to lift again. I don't have equipment yet, but I am contemplating buying a bench and dumbbells. I don't really want to bulk up, I just want to stay in shape.

I saw Jeff Nippard on YT recently discussing minimalist training (and his The Essentials Program) and it sounds right up my alley, because I don't want maximum gains (nor maximum time training). But it looks like I would need to go to the gym for a lot of the exercises he suggests.

As I am a newbie for all of this, I would love to know where to look for more info on this. Anything I can do at home a few times a week without it being a major time investment. Thanks for any help :)

Sure, happy to help!

If you're willing to work out three times a week, I'd say that you could also do the push-pull-legs routine. It's super simple. On push day, pick one chest exercise, one triceps exercise, and one shoulder exercise. On pull day, do one lower-back or lat exercise, one trap exercise, and one biceps exercise. On leg day, do hamstrings, quads, and glutes. If you structure it like that—just three exercises, three times a week—it should put you ahead of almost everyone. Because most people don't lift. :)

So here's a sample schedule. Do 3x 8–12 of each:

Monday (push): Push-ups or bench press; tricep dips or skullcrushers; overhead press

Wednesday (pull): Chin-ups or pull-downs; shrugs; bicep curls or hammer curls

Friday (legs): Dumbbell, bodyweight, or sumo squats; dumbbell deadlifts; dumbbell hip thrusts

The beauty of a routine like that is that you can vary it as you like—there are dozens of available exercises as replacements for the above—and you can make it as intense as you want as well by doing heavier weights, more reps, etc. If you get close to failure at the end of your sets, that's good enough. And you can completely do it with just a set of dumbbells. It might be handy to have a bench for doing bench press as opposed to push-ups or for tricep dips, but it's not necessary.

I hope that helps! Let me know if you have any questions.

Edited to add: And don't feel like there's a bar to jump over before you can start something like this, either. If you can't do push-ups, there's no reason that you can't do them on a wall or on your knees. That's just as good!

Thank you for the wealth of information! I will for sure adopt this regimen. Looks like I only need to reinstall my pull up bar and I am golden! :) Thanks again!

I just finished watching the first John wick while having a beer! Going to pour myself a glass of wine and watch the second one now

I'm sick. So I'm just passing time on my bed, setting up a new laptop I just got. Not super exciting, but it's always fun getting a new toy.

Drinking, smoking, and trying to convince myself that "ok, tomorrow is it, stop drinking and start walking".

Maybe jump on a bike or e-bike? It's like walking but gets you further. Maybe ride to a nice lunch spot so you have a 'reason' to go?

Depends a lot on what your neighbourhood is like.

I hate anecdotes so I’ll make this quick: grew up fat, weighed 315 at age 19, got to 165 by 23, maintained ~190 until covid.

It’s not the work, it’s the lack of motivation. But I think I’m close again to finding it. He says, as he’s sipping a drink that’s literally 50% vodka. Ugh.

Celebrating my anniversary! Going to go do some fun boat stuff on the water. Have a nice dinner afterwards. Also planning a murder mystery birthday party for next weekend.

That sounds lovely, happy anniversary to you and your partner!

The Princess Bride is as wonderful a book as it is a movie! You're gonna love it 😊

I'm gonna be cleaning my apartment because we're finally getting a couch!! And I need to get the place in order so it's easy to maneuver it in. We've lived in our place for a few months already but still in box city... so it's nice to have something to force me to unpack and make it look presentable.

I think it was nearly 3 years in our new house before we finally opened the last box and sorted it all so don't feel to bad!

Thank you!! That's very validating to hear 😊

I still have things in boxes from 2 moves ago, maybe I don't need them...

My husband and I have decided to start our own book club this weekend. We are nerds and both enjoy reading but he has limited time and I have limited patience with it because I had a stroke a few years ago and it's not as easy as it used to be for me. We're starting with short stories and we'll just read one at a time ad discuss when we're done. I'm hoping it will improve my skills over time and I know we'll enjoy the extra bonding. We're reading A Knight of The Seven Kingdoms by George R R Martin. He's read all of the ASOIAF books and I've not read any of them. We've both watched both of the related TV shows.

That’s really cool. Tried to do something similar with my partner, but we didn’t end up sticking with it. We tend to have different reading habits. I like to read one book at a time and he always has a few he’s actively working through. The timing was just always off.

I was a voracious reader for most of my life and it never occurred to me to read more than one at a time. was thinking of some other options earlier tonight for if'm into it this weekend and I finish the first story long before my husband. He has to work tomorrow and I do not. I have some options.

I'm getting off a medication that give me extra panic and anxiety so I'm taking as much anxiety medication I can and sleeping it out of my system hopefully! Fingers crossed!!

I've been there too, remember that even if you didn't have the medication to sleep through the weekend, YOU WOULD STILL SURVIVE.

Of course there can be a difference between a horrible experience and just a bad one, but sometimes the little phrases we can repeat to ourselves in our head can go a long way to providing peace and calmness.

I hope this doesn't read like it's easy to handle this stuff, it's not, but hopefully you will find the strength when you need it!

Oh I'm so glad you're getting off it! I hope the meds help with the transition.

Probably hitting up some stores with the wife tomorrow. We looked at paints last weekend for the house and found them to be a bit dark, so we’re going a little lighter! May wash that down with some Korean BBQ and then probably spin up some characters on Diablo 4 with the wife too. Guild Wars 2 has had my attention lately too, so I may farm achievements on that

It's kinda funny to me, that the day you described sounds like an amazing day to me, mostly because my 3 year old and 10 year old boys are still turning every day into chaos lol

I'm taking notes for when they are out of the house though and it's just me and my wife finally!

Aww!! It’ll happen soon enough before you know it. Hope you get some quality time soon!

Racing a sailboat from San Francisco to Half Moon Bay, spending the night there and motoring back on Sunday. We've been doing well in the ocean races so far this year, so I'm hoping for a good result tomorrow.

Enjoy the book! I've not read it yet either, though I plan to some day. :)

Finally getting some time to discover this site and getting myself used to browsing here.

If I can give you an advice: don't stop trying to get used to kbin.
For me, at the beginning it felt a little complex and hard to find what I wanted, but after some days it started to feel like home and everything now makes sense (except for the upvote button that don't really upvote a post)!

I hope you enjoy it, I’ve been using it the past two days and really like it. Been having some good fun conversations with people.

Getting an MRI to see if my prolactinoma has shrunk.

Oh god, good luck!!!

Eh, MRI's aren't bad. Just lay in a tube for 45 minutes while giant magnets whir around and take images of the brain / body.

The prolactinoma is benign, but screws with hormones a lot. Prolactin being the inverse of dopamine and testosterone explains a lot about the last several years, so glad to be getting back to normal. Thankfully, the excess prolactin has never caused me to lactate either, which is a common symptom of high prolactin.

Thankfully got to spice up the weekend with a guys' night, so that was fun.

Downloaded Surveillance Capitalism and going to play Diablo 4

I'm seeing lots of videos of soldiers on streets in Russia and feeling uneasy.

I really got the feeling when I read about this, that this is going to be a major turning point in this conflict, I just don't know what that outcome will be unfortunately. I hope it's things getting better rather than worse :/

We will be doing stuff around the house. One kids has a birthday party in the afternoon. Start meal planning for next week so we can do our big shop on Sunday.

Bringing a thermos of soju and dancing at all the free music booths from Pride Toronto! I really needed this.

Recovering from work this week. Getting ready to fly cross-country. Probably going to have to spend the next day running errands and going shopping before starting it all over again on Monday.

i just got back from flying cross country. my ears are still f'ed 24 hours later

Lots of streaming and calls with my gf

I'm finally getting a quiet weekend where I don't have to go anywhere. I plan on finishing this week's to-do list, and then Saturday night a friend and I are having our weekly anime night. We're watching Demon Slayer. Then Sunday I want to watch The Amazing Mr. X from 1948.

It's my birthday on Sunday but due to my previous landlord fucking me over I am very broke this paycheck so no real plans other than stay home and be with my wife.

Happy birthday! Enjoy spending time with your loved one, that's a present in and of itself! Also, fuck landlords

Happy bday. Enjoy your day and many fucks to your landlord!

Visiting my Dad in Toronto. Seeing the sights with my family for the first time. Just wrapping it all up and loving the overall pride vibe. Happy Pride to everyone! Spread love... I'm sending it right now!

Convincing myself to get going on a TTRPG I've been wanting to write T_T. Motivation is hard.

If it helps there are some interesting papers on the idea that motivation comes from seeing the results of your own actions, and not before.

So that means you are supposed to feel this lack of motivation, and once you start writing and the feedback loop kicks in, the motivation will come on its own.

Feel free to ignore me if that doesn't help but here's a link to some more information on the idea: https://www.entrepreneur.com/living/dont-wait-for-motivation-do-this-instead/232349

Get high. Drink vodka. Watch The Office. Laugh uncontrollably. In no particular order, and all with my amazing wife. That's just tonight tho. Tomorrow we have to clean the house. I'll be high for that too because cleaning sucks.

A few of us are going fishing, but I think I'm gonna swim.

Our weather has been all over the place, so If it cools off probably a long bike ride with my wife. It it gets hot again then hopefully planting our butts in one of the glacial runoff rivers to stay cool.

Going to a concert tomorrow night, and then reading and spending some time with my newborn. Should be a good rainy weekend.

Nothing is planned because I was almost sure my wife would be in labor by now. So, I guess just more sitting around and waiting.

Don’t sit, walk! Good for her and helps move things along (but if you already have a kiddo you probably know that). Good luck with the baby.

Thanks! Yeah, I just meant it figuratively. We walked to the church bazaar and she's been gardening and trimming roses here and at her mom's. We have an almost 3 year old so even sedentary time is very active.

There’s an art festival I’m planning to go to tomorrow. It’s horror, occult, and oddities type of stuff, so it should be fun. Then maybe hanging out with a friend visiting from out of town.

No specific plans but probably a combination of Diablo IV and System Shock :)

Picked up FF16 so I'll be playing through that, hanging out at the [small] local coffee shop we do every Saturday and celebrating one of the patron's birthday's, and doing a final walkthrough on a house we just closed on. Exciting things!

I want FF16 so bad! Unfortunately the other day someone tried to use my bank info to buy some stuff. The bank caught it, but that means they had to cancel my debit card. So now I have to wait till my new card comes in.

@HipHoboHarold
Aw, bummer. Hopefully you can recover anything they stole and can get it sorted properly though!

Well luckily the bank denied the purchases both times. Both sites were weird. It was something like bsttc4.com or some shit. One was for about $10, the other $35. So I didn't lose any money. I just don't have a card. And I work when the bank is open, so I can't go pull cash out.

Also luckily I should have enough groceries and what not. They said it should be in 4-6 days, and that was Tuesday, so hopefully soon. And if an emergency does happen, I have people I could probably borrow money from.

Gotta finish planning the D&D session I'm running on Sunday

Halfway through finishing my basement, running electric tomorrow, then if I finish in time got tickets to a show.

Saturday afternoon where I am. But last night I went out for dinner and drinks with a few friends, tonight I have a 30th birthday party to attend, and tomorrow I'm playing dungeons and dragons

watched a bunch of shows. finished black mirror. vacuumed the floor and thinking of how to make an analytics newsletter

Two TTRPG sessions (Dungeons & Dragons in person, Call of Cthulhu online), going swimming at the public pool, working some more on my translations of German folk tales.

I’ve had a very tiring past 3 weeks so I’m taking it easy this weekend. So far today I’ve done my first decent calisthenics workout in a long time, and geeked around some with my Emacs org mode GTD setup.

Well, for me the weekend is the start of my (very weird) weekly work schedule so my weekend is pretty much just ending.

However, thanks to a recommendation at the Star Trek community I picked up one of the Star Trek books for my Kindle since they're on sale so I'll definitely be reading that!

Additionally, I updated my Minecraft server to 1.20.1 and nuked the world since I hadn't really progressed at all (the TL;DR of that situation is that I've been "working" on that server since 2021 - it was intended to be a new public server that my ex and I were going to create, but I just haven't had a lot of time or motivation to do so after we split up) so I'll probably be giving that a go!

I finally got a refill for an important medication I'm on, it was three weeks late and has been stressing me out so I'm relieved over that. There are plenty of other stressors going on as of lately, but that was a pretty big one.

Other than that, for better or for worse I'll just be going wherever the days take me!

Planting grapes and irises, then going to the local Italian restaurant for dinner. Tomorrow, picking up hay for the donkeys. Playing Valheim between all that. 😆

Three hours of community radio broadcasting from home, then maybe finish cleaning the caravan, put some washing on while the sun is hitting the solar panels, maybe a trip to bunnings to get some root killer for the sewer, and drop a dead dishwasher to the recycling place.

Wooorrrkkiiinngg. I work weekend shift as a warehouse supervisor. Pretty much live there for three days but then I've got four days off.

Cleaning around the house and catching up on Silo. Might tweak my Emacs config a bit.

Trying to figure out how to stain the maple cabinets I built. It's been harder than anticipated... But progress is progress. One step at a time and all that.

Unfortunately I work on the weekends. I got Mon and Tues off. My boyfriend also works the night shift on Thur, Fri, and Sat night.

But tomorrow night I'll probably take my dog for a walk, and when I get back have a beer or two and mod my PS3. Been thinking about it for awhile. Started busting out my PS2 and was thinking about updating it since I modded it awhile ago, then realized I never got around to doing the PS3. Unfortunately I eventually need to get an external hdd for the games, so it's just gonna be the basics of modding it.

I'm currently rejoicing over the fact that I finally solved my issue with the computer speakers playing, along with taking a good rest from my graduation!

might go to the gym tomorrow, but honestly hoping i don't unless i feel significantly better. past 2.5 weeks have been rough on my mind and body; feeling super scarily depressed and drained and exhausted, had a massive breakdown this morning. just hoping i can relax as much as possible and be gentle with myself. i know some may say the gym is good for mental health and all that, but for me it can be draining, especially if i'm already feeling low. and with my current level of dysregulation, i might feel more socially anxious/paranoid. if i do feel well enough, though, it'll be good to get back on track with that.

if any linux users would like to try and make me feel better - whyyyyyyyyyyy won't debian 12 boot, grub keeps whining about like 14 failed sectors????? but my ssd should be okay, it's only a year old and macos (mid-2012 macbook pro) is running fine on the other partition???????? i keep reinstalling linux and it just does not care, i tried update-grub and it does not caaaarrreeeeeeeeee

Rough times come and rough times go. Sometimes it seems all times are rough and in hindsight, some weren't. Sometimes, everything sucks in hindsight.

Go to the gym every time you are able and congratulate yourself for pulling it off. Don't go when you are not able and congratulate yourself for being good to you. It's not always easy, but if both outcomes can eventually feel like a win, then you get some wins in the list, make sense?

DM'd my 2nd ever Dungeons and Dragons game online with Foundry Friday night, then Saturday is some cleaning and fixing my back porch followed by some beer and Mexican food for dinner, and probably a nighttime Pokemon go walk.

May check out some vinyl bars around me! I'd just read about these recently and am curious to check them out

Midsummer festivals to celebrate the Solstice have all been scheduled for this weekend in my city :D very excited to go with my family

What am I doing? Anything but pooping. But seriously, apparently I'm going to be eating a lot of protein and minimal fiber...

Was a an enjoyable evening on Friday or drinking with my partner and one of her friends.

Then yesterday was the Edinburgh Pride march which was a heck of a lot of fun.

I'm on annual leave all next week so I have a very long weekend!

I'm planning to stay up late playing Railway Empire 2, lie in when I can, go for walks along the seafront when it isn't too hot, and spend the rest of the time hiding from the sun playing DRG with my wife

I built a desktop for VR, just received my Index in the mail, and have spent the last 3 days desperately trying to install Windows.

Nothing I’ve tried has worked and my computer confidence is shattered lol. I may get high and try again. Maybe my wife helps. She’s great at being calm.

Happy to try and help get Windows installed - I'm not much better than a YouTube video but sometimes talking it out helps.

Good luck with the VR rig! They're so much fun!

Happy to get any input from anyone on this so I do appreciate the offer :)

I have 2 nvme drives that are completely empty and have been formatted and drive partitions deleted several times.

Every time I install windows from a usb key, the installation goes without a hitch up until the installation restart. Then, my motherboard gives me the error: B1InitializeLibrary failed 0xc00000bb.

All the advice online that I can find involves trying to repair the installation using bootrec.exe and fixing mbr and rebuilding bcd. I get weird errors that differ every time when I do this.

The most painful part of this all is that the very first time I installed windows, it all worked perfectly. I fucked it all up when I decided to install Fedora Linux on the second drive. It messed up booting and everything since.

I can install Fedora Linux on any of these two nvme drives and boot to them perfectly without any issues which means this is not a hardware issue. Blaaaahhh. I just wanna use my new Index 😭

That is certainly strange! I can't seem to find much online about the issue, though I saw a couple of recommendations about disabling Secure Boot. I'm not sure why that would make a difference (especially given Microsoft's involvement with OEMs and Secure Boot...) and it probably wouldn't be the best thing to keep turned off permanently (or rather, as a "disclaimer": if you haven't already, do a bit of light researching on secure boot and why it exists) but it wouldn't hurt to try turning it off temporarily (if its not already off) to see if that gets past the error.

I did get a chuckle out of this bit from Microsoft's docs on the error:

Cause: This problem occurs because the boot firmware on the computer generates lots of memory fragmentation.

Workaround: We recommend that you do not let boot firmware create large amounts of fragmentation. Large memory fragmentation degrades the overall startup performance and causes problems.

Ah that's real helpful Microsoft, thank you!

Ya that was one of the things I’ve tried. I’m going to try disconnecting all my hard drives except for the one I want windows on and buy a brand new usb stick and hope for the best.

I’m getting on a plane in a few hours and flying home after a week in Jamaica for my honeymoon.

Then tomorrow my wife and I are plopping our asses on the couch and not moving for the rest of the day.

Cleaning ☠️ Both my tabletop games have been cancelled, and what with work lately, a backlog has started to pile up.

Sleeping if I can help it, but lately I can't nap for fuck and I wake up at (at the latest) 9. Not so bad normally but weekends are the only time I can hang out with my night shift friend who wakes up at like 6 PM. He's a bit depressed lately and I don't want to leave him hanging, so I've been working out how to be well slept and still give him some time of day.

I've been getting ready to sell my jewelry at local markets, so I'm going to be working on bulking out my inventory and putting together my table :)

Self-hosting projects! Excited to dig more into docker and portainer. Today was a database, knowledgebase, and dashboard. Tomorrow who the fuck knows but I'm psyched.

studying for my final exam on monday! one of my least favourite classes i’ve had, but it is what it is

going out for brunch and nails with a friend tomorrow so doing various errands today before my partner and i veg out on the couch to some edibles (for him, i’m not allowed rn bc of health stuff unfortunately) and a movie. should be nice!

Got home kat was looking for this cricket that was chirping in my rose bush...didn't find it so will try again tomorrow...