Getting everyone to agree on a date and time for D&D is harder than any encounter you could face in-game
I swear, planning any sort of group activity with adults is an absolute nightmare
Plan the activity with a smaller group than you would want initially. Then invite others to an already organized event and rely on fomo to get people to go. Works great.
I have two small friend groups of four and in both is someone who often works weekend, so that's always fun trying to plan something, let alone if I want to have both groups somewhere. It was honestly a miracle I could get all 6 of them in one place at the same time somewhat close to my birthday.
The way myself and my party does it is we play every other week on Saturday from 6pm to 10pm. This way everyone knows the schedule and can plan around it. If people can't clear their schedule to play then we replace them. It's harsh but it's the only way I found to play D&D consistently.
And I myself have excused myself from a game because my life schedule changed and couldn't keep the commitment I had previously and it would be too much work for the rest of the party to change their schedules.
Harsh but fair. It ensures that everyone can work their schedule out in advance, while also presenting clear expectations for participating in a voluntary hobby. Is there a consecutive number of missing sessions before being replaced? If not, how does the DM work it out in the campaign?
You have to be harsh, otherwise nobody gets to play. When we started our new group we made sure to inform everyone that playing DnD is not to be treated as a secondary hobby that can just be canceled for other stuff all the time. Make it your priority, plan other things around the sessions if you want to play with that group. Of course, any emergencies excluded but otherwise treat it as if it is your sport club training. If you miss too many sessions, you're out.
I know this sounds super arrogant and mean, but it's the only thing that works consistently. Also filters out friends who are not ready or able to commit that much time for playing.
I only run west marches style games now. The pcs need to be back in town by end of session or miss out on carousing or possibly worse depending on where they are. Each game is self contained so people can drop or join as they want.
You have to lure them by asserting drink.
Food is great too
I've found that few people can resist the call of "New York Style Cheesecake Stuffed, Chocolate Covered, Graham Cracker Rolled, Strawberries."
I have had friends say they put on a pound just reading the name, lol.
I can't even get more than 3 people to join in a multiplayer session on steam and you don't even have be physically there.
Left out Deep Rock Galactic, since if you can't get friends to joint, you can always make new ones. Only game where randos are never a nuisance.
You've got to get people to commit to a weekly slot, ad-hoc sessions lead to madness
It's been over a year and there are still two people that haven't finished their damn character sheets.
Or even just a board game night.
Maybe it just means boring guys. Drinking is a secondary activity, not a primary one.
Yeah this convo is either saying they're going to a bar which can be fun. Or they're 18-22 and drinking is as much about buying the alcohol as it is imbibing it.
When I was a student, a friend texted me one evening:
"Tequila. Name of our usual bar. Now."
I replied "OK" and was there 20 minutes later. She was a little surprised, but learned exactly the lesson of this post that evening.
Proximity really makes friendships better, and at least easier. Some of the best memories are made on a whim. And even with the busiest people you can have a better chance of seeing them with a spontaneous text versus a long-term plan.
This is literally how we taught English to the Russian exchange student in our dorm back in uni
Since drinking is most likely their first hobby 😂.
Drinking and fucking around with Ladas in the garage.
Some pretty cool things came from garages and drinking/smoking 😉.
Don't threaten me with a good time.
When I was a lad, it was two words, the first with a question mark, the second with a full stop
Pint?
Pint.
It is universal. A full conversation from when I was younger:
Øl?
Øl.
What about the time dimension though? Oh silly me it's if course right now.
Pils?
Pils.
When I was younger (and it wasn't about drinking but smoking):
?
!
A question mark? You got laid off a question mark?
I don't see the connection?
I mean, the answer is actually yes (if I understand correctly that once a single question mark led to me being laid) , but I don't understand how you come up with the question
I'm 7 months too late. I thought you were just making reference to How I met your mother's episode where Barney got laid off of a question mark, and my reply is how Lily responded.
Makes sense, thanks for the (late) explanation xD
when I drink you drink we drink
I put my hands up on your pitcher
too bad I don't drink anymore, well actually I drank this Saturday while celebrating a friend's birthday but I literally can't remember when I drank before that, probably like my birthday in May.
I am drank. Peace out.
Simple like caveman
The spanish class speaking test that concerned Sra. Rodgers enough to call our parents.
Man I wish.
Getting everyone to agree on a date and time for D&D is harder than any encounter you could face in-game
I swear, planning any sort of group activity with adults is an absolute nightmare
Plan the activity with a smaller group than you would want initially. Then invite others to an already organized event and rely on fomo to get people to go. Works great.
I have two small friend groups of four and in both is someone who often works weekend, so that's always fun trying to plan something, let alone if I want to have both groups somewhere. It was honestly a miracle I could get all 6 of them in one place at the same time somewhat close to my birthday.
The way myself and my party does it is we play every other week on Saturday from 6pm to 10pm. This way everyone knows the schedule and can plan around it. If people can't clear their schedule to play then we replace them. It's harsh but it's the only way I found to play D&D consistently.
And I myself have excused myself from a game because my life schedule changed and couldn't keep the commitment I had previously and it would be too much work for the rest of the party to change their schedules.
Harsh but fair. It ensures that everyone can work their schedule out in advance, while also presenting clear expectations for participating in a voluntary hobby. Is there a consecutive number of missing sessions before being replaced? If not, how does the DM work it out in the campaign?
You have to be harsh, otherwise nobody gets to play. When we started our new group we made sure to inform everyone that playing DnD is not to be treated as a secondary hobby that can just be canceled for other stuff all the time. Make it your priority, plan other things around the sessions if you want to play with that group. Of course, any emergencies excluded but otherwise treat it as if it is your sport club training. If you miss too many sessions, you're out.
I know this sounds super arrogant and mean, but it's the only thing that works consistently. Also filters out friends who are not ready or able to commit that much time for playing.
I only run west marches style games now. The pcs need to be back in town by end of session or miss out on carousing or possibly worse depending on where they are. Each game is self contained so people can drop or join as they want.
You have to lure them by asserting drink.
Food is great too
I've found that few people can resist the call of "New York Style Cheesecake Stuffed, Chocolate Covered, Graham Cracker Rolled, Strawberries."
I have had friends say they put on a pound just reading the name, lol.
I can't even get more than 3 people to join in a multiplayer session on steam and you don't even have be physically there.
What game?
Various. Barotrauma, Phasmophobia, Lethal Company...etc.
Left out Deep Rock Galactic, since if you can't get friends to joint, you can always make new ones. Only game where randos are never a nuisance.
You've got to get people to commit to a weekly slot, ad-hoc sessions lead to madness
It's been over a year and there are still two people that haven't finished their damn character sheets.
Or even just a board game night.
Maybe it just means boring guys. Drinking is a secondary activity, not a primary one.
Yeah this convo is either saying they're going to a bar which can be fun. Or they're 18-22 and drinking is as much about buying the alcohol as it is imbibing it.
When I was a student, a friend texted me one evening:
"Tequila. Name of our usual bar. Now."
I replied "OK" and was there 20 minutes later. She was a little surprised, but learned exactly the lesson of this post that evening.
Proximity really makes friendships better, and at least easier. Some of the best memories are made on a whim. And even with the busiest people you can have a better chance of seeing them with a spontaneous text versus a long-term plan.
This is literally how we taught English to the Russian exchange student in our dorm back in uni
Since drinking is most likely their first hobby 😂.
Drinking and fucking around with Ladas in the garage.
Some pretty cool things came from garages and drinking/smoking 😉.
Don't threaten me with a good time.
When I was a lad, it was two words, the first with a question mark, the second with a full stop
Pint?
Pint.
It is universal. A full conversation from when I was younger:
Øl?
Øl.
What about the time dimension though? Oh silly me it's if course right now.
Pils?
Pils.
When I was younger (and it wasn't about drinking but smoking):
?
!
A question mark? You got laid off a question mark?
I don't see the connection?
I mean, the answer is actually yes (if I understand correctly that once a single question mark led to me being laid) , but I don't understand how you come up with the question
I'm 7 months too late. I thought you were just making reference to How I met your mother's episode where Barney got laid off of a question mark, and my reply is how Lily responded.
Makes sense, thanks for the (late) explanation xD
when I drink you drink we drink
I put my hands up on your pitcher
too bad I don't drink anymore, well actually I drank this Saturday while celebrating a friend's birthday but I literally can't remember when I drank before that, probably like my birthday in May.
I am drank. Peace out.
Simple like caveman
The spanish class speaking test that concerned Sra. Rodgers enough to call our parents.
Image Transcription: Text and Text Messages
This is how easy it is for guys to make plans.
Left: I drink tonight
Right: I drink
Left: You drink with me
Right: I drink with you
Left: We drink