How does someone with no experience learn to make food?

IJustWentPsycho@lemmy.world to No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world – 103 points –
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Can you follow directions? Congratulations, you can cook! It's really not that difficult, cooking is just simple chemistry.

When I was young my mum bought me a cookbook and once a week, usually Sundays, we would make a recipe or two that were in it. Sometimes full meals, sometimes just desserts, etc. You'll learn by doing, so get yourself a cookbook or find a cooking show to watch if you're a more visual learner. Just put yourself out there and try. I believe in you.

When I was young my mum bought me a cookbook and once a week, usually Sundays, we would make a recipe or two

This is why it might seem so easy to you, wouldn't you think?

Well obviously OP can't go back in time to when they were a child, but there's nothing to stop them getting a cook book once a week and trying out a recipe or two.

I mean, yeah, obviously. But claiming it's really easy because you were lucky to have normal parents and have been doing it since you were kid, especially on a question that implies someone didn't have the luxury, is not helping.

I think the part about knowing how to follow instructions is pretty much true though, at least for me. I only started cooking by myself in my mid-20s. I started by just searching a recipe and adding “simple” in my search query so I get something I can realistically make with what I have in the kitchen/pantry. Then I just follow it to the letter. Through repeated trial and error I eventually learned what could be done faster or easier, what ingredients can be substituted, etc.

But claiming it’s really easy because you were lucky to have normal parents and have been doing it since you were kid, especially on a question that implies someone didn’t have the luxury, is not helping.

I don't think they did that. The bit about cooking being easy and just a matter of following instructions was a completely separate paragraph to the anecdote about it being so easy they learned it when they were a child. And that was my takeaway, incidentally, not the whole "I started as a kid and now I'm a master chef and it's all easy" but rather "9 year olds can figure this out, I'm sure an adult will have no problem picking up the basics". You're combining two separate things in search of a negative take.

I'm not searching for a negative take, I'm just saying how it looks to me. Not OP, not you, not anyone else, just me personally.

I know, and I'm not saying that's completely the wrong take, just that it's almost certainly and pretty obviously (although maybe not immediately) not the one that was intended to be delivered.

It may sound meaningless, but the best way to learn to cook is to cook. Learning by doing, that is the way.

Agreed. You can't really mess up that badly when cooking. Burnt bits can be scraped off and there's always a way to fix food when you season too much.

I would slightly disagree. Real bad things can happen while cooking. Kitchen safety should not be taken easy. One thing that comes directly to my mind is deep frying. Any higher amount of hot oil needs to be treated with respect. AND NEVER EVER PUT WATER INTO BURNING OIL. Suffocate it with a pot lid or a fire blanket.

Good point! Adding on to that, NEVER USE DULL KNIVES or catch a falling knife. Generally just be careful around sharp or hot objects

Always put a damp towel underneath a cutting board so it doesn’t move when you’re using it. I credit this in combination with safe knife holding techniques as the reason why my comically clumsy ass hasn’t had to go to the ER to get stitches/reattach digits in the 15 years I’ve been cooking.

A quote I think about is “a falling knife has no handle.”

I’ve never dropped a knife but I’m hoping if I do I’ll be prepared!

Start small - like a fried egg. All you need is a pan, a spatula, some butter/oil and an egg itself.

Then upgrade to an omlette.

Then omlette du fromage.

Then a pirate's eye (egg in a slice of bread/bagel). Add some dill.

Boil some potatoes.

Mash some boiled potatoes.

Rice is simple - just boil it for some time.

Essentially - you'll learn by doing. Just don't start with making your own bread and you'll be fine.

When starting to cook on my own, I always found it very stressful, because I felt you had to do so many things in parallel and then you look away for too long at the wrong time and something burns.

What helped me is reading the whole recipe very carefully and then prepare everything before actually starting to cook. Many recipes tell you something like "while x simmers, cut y / prepare z". That's fine, when you have developed a feeling for how long things take, but as a beginner, it's better to do everything sequentially. It takes longer that way, but it makes it much less stressful and overwhelming.

Lots of people are recommending YouTube for learning recipes. That's great advice, but carefully vet what channels you view. Lot's of creators are interested in views, not education. Those recipes often gloss over important steps or are altogether fake. Avoid big personalities who make gimmicky dishes with exotic ingredients.

I can recommend Chef John, Kenji Lopez-Alt, Ethan Chlebowski, and Helen Rennie.

Don't forget the godfather of educational cooking shows - Alton Brown

Brian Lagerstrom is great too. I combined parts of his and chef John's chili technique to win a local chili cook off!

if you’re looking to get into BBQ, then Chef Tom from All Things BBQ (atbbq) and Bradly Robinson (Chudds BBQ) are some of the finest BBQ tutorials on youtube.

I second chef John. I love Kenji too, but his videos are not polished enough to be good for beginners. John provides all the detail you need in an easy to follow fashion which is great for beginners. His channel is called Food wishes for anyone looking for him since chef John might be too vague.

Not familiar with the others but if they're mentioned in the same breath as them then I'll definitely want to check them out!

YouTube

Yeah YouTube is a pretty good place to learn how to cook, I've learnt a lot from Binging with Babish.

Instagram also a great source for good food with simple recipes.

In addition to what others have said already: make peace with the fact that you WILL make mistakes, that the first few tries WILL look weird and that you WILL forget an allegedly important step. This is just part of the learning courve and happened to literally everyone who ever learned to make meals in the history of cooking, so do not compare the first ever flattened sushi roll you made with something a master chef with 30+ years of experience is able to do or the heavily photoshopped pictures on food blogs.

You will learn from those mistakes, and you will gain more experience over time. Small progress is still progress.

Also, it can help to only make PART of a recipe yourself when you're still a bit unsure how all of it works, like for example buying premade pizza dough and only add the sauce and toppings yourself, or buying premade pie dough and only make the filling. One step at a time.

Didn't bother learning to cook until my mid 20s. You will be a disaster chef before your a master chef but sick with it and always have cereal on standby!

Start out with the basics: if you like pasta, try a basic tomato sauce recipe. If you like eggs, try an omelette with some veg. Figure out what you like and use that to keep you interested and growing your skills.

You will learn as you go on how to prepare/cut up different vegetables. YouTube is a great resource.

The more you do, the more confident you will become. Watching YouTube videos on cooking is no substitute for time in the kitchen cooking though!

You will cremate food, undercook food, over season, under season, ruin pans, smash dishes, have food weld itself into oven trays, laugh, and cry - and you'll be all the better cook for it.

Good luck!

We used Hello Fresh. Both my partner and I had basic cooking skills, but were not very good cooks. He was also a very picky eater. Hello Fresh reduced the overwhelming amount of recipes in the world down to a more reasonable number to choose from. As we kept going, we started to see the same techniques, like reduction sauces, happen in new configurations and we started to understand how they work, not just follow the instructions. It also helped my partner overcome a lot of his pickiness by being in control of what recipes we had each week, allowing him to explore new ingredients when he felt comfortable.

While maybe not super cost friendly, I second the meal box angle. I wasn't bad at cooking, but was definitely super slow with knife skills, not comfortable with some stovetop methods of cooking, etc. We used Hello fresh and Plated (before they went out of business), and that really springboarded us into feeling like we could cook. Haven't ordered any meal boxes in like 5 years now, and make homemade dinners 4+ times a week.

Agree that meal boxes are a good training step. We started using blue apron and after we got the hang of things, realized how much cheaper it would be to buy the ingredients on our own. The bottles of sauces can be pricey up front, but once you have a collection of them, cooking is easier and cheaper. Also, people are really impressed if you can impromptu make something without having to go out shopping.

I felt like a true adult when I decided to make hummus one day and just happened to have everything for it.

I started with one recipe: split pea soup. I got this recipe from a coworker, followed the instructions exactly and started with a success. This made me want to try other things, and I got turned onto Good Eats with Alton Brown, easily the most entertaining and informative cooking show.

Then I just started collecting and trying recipes. I eventually got enough experience to try modifying recipes and toying around with ideas.

Especially at the start, recipes are your friend. Try a broad array of them, follow them exactly, and get the experience. Also, use tools. Yes, people can punch a steak to see if it’s about done, but that will never beat a thermometer.

If you’re into baking, avoid recipes that don’t use weight as a measure of ingredients. Those recipes get different results every time.

These are the best tips I have for starting out. As you get experience, discard the ones that no longer apply.

Meal kit delivery services are awesome, in my opinion. They send you the ingredients for like 3 meals every week. For me personally, the worst part about trying to cook was always looking at a cookbook and realizing you don't have all the ingredients. So this takes the shopping out of the equation, which just makes it super simple. I've talked to a few people that don't like them, so they're not for everyone.

No matter how you learn, remember that you will mess up a lot and don't let that discourage you. Just try to learn from it and remember it for next time.

Youtube.

Start with the suoer basics. Such as: how to boil rice, how to boil pasta, or something like that.

Boiling is the simplest. With pasta you can grab a bit and just taste it. If its still solid on the inside, its not done yet.

But read the instructions on the package. Its usually pretty accurate.

When youve nailed one you move on to make something else. Like.. frying an egg etc

Remember when cooking.. you almost NEVER turn the heat all the way up.

My stove only goes up to 3. So i keep it around 1.5 or 2. If i set it to 3, the food will get burnt on the outside but still raw on the inside. (This is ok for steaks but not much else)

Practice! Dont give up. Just because you screwed up cooking some chicken once, soesnt mean you cant learn it. Consider what went wrong, try to prevent that from happening again.

When things are just boiling or slowly frying, instead of staring into the wall or your phone, clean up stuff. This makes it more managable. A dirty kitchen is not a good idea.

Also when it comes to salt.. too much salt means you cant eat it. Too little salt? Just add more. So, when in doubt, add little to no salt. You can always taste it, then add more.

With pasta you can grab a bit and just taste it. If its still solid on the inside, its not done yet.

/Just over the hill many Italian people flail their arms wildly after hearing this.

Pasta should have just a little bite, just a little hardness on the inside, to be the perfect al dente. And if you're cooking it again (eg a pasta bake) then you should boil it even less or not at all (I don't know of anyone who boils lasagne sheets).

But at the end of the day most of what you do with food won't ruin it completely, and much of it comes down to personal preference. The secret is to taste everything (except raw meat, of course) - if you're adding something, taste or smell the dish then taste/smell the thing you're adding to help guess how much you should add, then taste again after adding and stirring. If you cook food to your own taste then you'll pretty much always enjoy it.

Nobody boils lasagna sheet What an idea... And yes i can see me and others on the Hills with guns aiming at overcooked pasta

I learned from trial and error, asking for help from those who could, and cooking shows. Specifically good eats with Alton brown, he explains the science behind different aspects of cooking and it helps you to understand the *why * of each step instead of just doing what you're told.

Start simple. Like pasta. You boil water, add pasta, set a timer, stir. Drain the water when the timer goes off, but taste it first to make sure. Boom. You cooked pasta.

Beyond that, I would say that you have to make sure you read the recipe to completion, at least once, before you start cooking. Don’t have the recipe ready, and start cooking without having read the whole thing.

Then break it down. Get all your prep work done before you turn on the heat. Have stations for different processes, and have any utensils & bowls you’re going to need, during cooking, ready to go.

Have all the things you’re adding on the side of your weak arm, while your dominant arm stirs, and have all the things lined up in order, so you don’t have to think beyond “grab closest thing & dump.”

Get as much of the thinking done before you turn on the heat, and have everything ready to go, lined up, and sorted out. Then you’ll be able to fully focus on the cooking, not getting things ready at the last minute.

of the websites that I used to learn how to cook some fifteen, twenty years ago, serious eats is still pretty reliable. I like their articles - they tell you why food cooks the way it does. I learned to cook on a basic red pasta sauce what's been going around the family for generations so I'd recommend looking at their italian and starting there.

you'll need a pot, and/or a skillet, and a source of heat. without that you'll eat a lot of cabbage and apples, but you still need a knife. if you want to lazy up to spices: parsley, sage, rosemary and thyme. there's an old hippy song on that. and, it's really difficult to fuck up a baked potato.

What is your favorite meal? Start with the most basic part of that and slowly develop skills to make all the things you want to enjoy. Reading a cookbook can seriously help to understand the basic tools and measurements. There are classes for learning to cook basic meals availability depending on where you live. Basics with Babish on Y o u t u b e. Also, your local library.

There’s a cool book called The Ministry of Food or something by yer man Jamie Oliver.

Taught me a thing or two.

Tasty dishes, simple recipes.

Try one of these five ingredient recipe cookbooks. It will get you going with the basics.

This is how I got started 20 years ago when I got my first apartment. Cookbook with "easy" or "quick" recipes and you'll eventually get good at it. It's still the best way to learn.

I highly recommend subscribing to a meal delivery kit for a few weeks, I think they’re fantastic for beginners. Reasons:

  • Grocery shopping and ingredient portioning is already done for you, allowing you to focus on the cooking
  • Ability to try new ingredients without committing to buying a full quantity of the ingredient. It sucks when you buy a specific sauce for a new recipe you want to try, only to realize you’re never going to want to use it again.
  • Enough choices in recipes but not an overwhelming amount; there are so many recipes and resources online that that’s all you need to learn, but it can be overwhelming and hard to know where to start
  • Recipes are generally standardized, well-tested, and don’t require special equipment or advanced techniques

I definitely don’t recommend doing this long term because it starts to get repetitive and is ultimately more expensive than doing your own shopping and planning, but it removes quite a few barriers to entry. Home Chef was the one I enjoyed the most personally but Blue Apron is also reliable and liked by many. Once you are comfortable with the basics you can really just search any recipe you’re interested in and just go for it; follow your interests and the skills will come with experience.

Similar idea to this is to look at CSA (Community Supported Agriculture) in your area. Each are a bit different but the ideal would be one where you can do a smaller share that will let you get a wide variety of produce in weekly pickups. I'm subscribed to one this summer I'm quite liking. Each week it's a different variety of fruit and veggies with recipe recommendations. They give out pack lists in advance so you can do your shopping to make sure you have what you need for cooking (because it doesn't give you everything like a meal kit).

The big thing is it forces you to figure things out and just try things to a greater degree than meal kits in my opinion. Like recently summer squash and zucchinis were in season so I ended up cut them up together and throwing them in butter and oil really lazily due to some random recipe suggestion I found. Had too much zucchini left over so tried out zoodles which is surprisingly trivial. I've even now done quick pickling because they gave me so many fucking mini-cucumbers, which also is surpringly easy as long as you have glass jars. I liked that especially as it gives me much more of a sense that I actually made something VS something immediately eaten.

It's only about a year ago I started making any attempts at cooking, having the CSA has done a lot more for pushing me into the deep end than anything else. I tried meal kits in the past and it never really stuck with me or felt less overwhelming. Starting from an ingredient just seems to click more for me, but it'll definitely depend on what is it about cooking that's a problem for you. For me I knew the basic mechanics and have no problem grocery shopping but how ingredients combine and why was a mystery that following a complex recipe roboticly didn't help with.

I know not everyone has the same availability for access to local farms and it can be an upfront cost that's difficult for people. But if you look around you might be surprised what's available, some farms will really go out of their way to make things convenient since CSA can be a huge way for them to stay in operation. And you get a lot of the freshest food possible over the course of months.

There are many youtube channels that aim at beginners. Find recipes there that are easy (no advanced techniques required) and require few ingredients that are easy to prepare.

The advantage of youtube is that you actually see how the food is made, how it should look, how much salt "to taste" means etc.

Stay away from short videos with titles like "most delicious meal with only 5 ingredients, I make this every week". They're mostly made to farm views and don't actually teach the basics. Not to mention they're mostly unhealthy.

Look for stews, soups, casseroles and oven cooked meat. They're the easiest to make in my opinion, you prepare everything and wait until it's done, maybe you stir every 10-15 minutes. Eastern European recipes are generally easy to make, cheap and taste very good. Simple Italian pastas are also great for the same reason.

Pay attention to the heat level, wash your ingredients, follow the instructions to the letter for the first several recipes and don't worry if your first few meals are too salty/spicy or tastes bland. Take it as a learning experience, you'll do better next time.

Big recommend for "Basics with Babish" on YouTube and basicswithbabish.com.

I used YouTube alot. I like sam the cooking guy , Joshua wisman and cooking with babish .

Pick the simplest things you enjoy eating and start with those. I usually just cooked the same thing over and over until I got fed up of them. This is okay as long as your diet remains diverse.

And not everything needs to be cooked. Make use of cold salads and such. I love olives. Olive oil is awesome for both salad and cooking. Salads are often seen as the main dish but I much prefer them as a side, like rice.

Follow the recipe as best as you can at first. You'll be fine, the only important thing is food safety, e.g. handling raw chicken.

Oh and btw even pros screw up their cooking here and there. Don't feel too bad if you get it wrong while millions of kids starve out there.

Try to deliberately learn something each time you cook.

Feel like curry? YouTube how to make it from raw spices.

Feel like soup? YouTube how to make your own stock.

Didn't like a meal? Ask yourself what you didn't like.

Was it the texture? Cooking time? a particular ingredient?
If it was an ingredient, learn about other ways to prepare that ingredient, or find another version of that recipe and do it slightly different next time.

Once you learn a bunch of recipes you start to acquire techniques and knowledge of how flavours balance and interact. These days if I want to make something I will find 5 versions of that recipe, see what's common, what's unique. I'll use only the bits I want because I have a feel for the general flavours, what I like / don't like, what I can be bothered buying.

So, learn new recipes on YouTube, start to play around with them. Try to watch videos where they are actual qualified chefs who explain not just how but why they do something. For example, some basic tips and tricks videos from Gordon Ramsey. Consider buying some high quality essentials to start with - a knife, chopping board, a pot and a pan will do.

Above all, give yourself time. You gain confidence when you know what works only after years of trial and error.

The two basic steps to making food are to combine food and heat them.

Sandwiches and salads are examples of food that are only combined. Toast and poptarts are examples of foods that are only heated.

Typically, you start with something simple: pasta, eggs, etc. These are basically just cooking with little to no prep.

Later, you can start working on foods that need both prep and heating.

Genuine question with no intention to talk down on someone: how are there adults that don't know how to cook at least the basics? My mother told me a story about how she went on a trip at school and a teacher that apparently had never cooked before wanted to make spaghetti by putting them in the cold water and then boiling them. Ended up with a huge fused chunk of pasta. How can you not know how to at least make pasta as an adult? Parents and then partner that always cook for you?

Make a meal, you will get better at it every time and figure out your own method and feel. New things I use recipes for as reference. At first you will just wanna take your time and don't stress yourself out.

Rather than searching recipes you could cook, just think about what you’d like to eat today and try to do it yourself

I like the book "Jamie Oliver's food revolution" for short, easy recipes. Should take you max 35 minutes at first and then you can get it down to 20.

Delia Smith's "How to cook" series of books were an absolute godsend when I first moved into a house by myself.

Here's a UK link so you can see how it looks.

https://www.wob.com/en-gb/books/delia-smith/delia-s-how-to-cook-book-one/9780563384304

Book one starts with eggs - how to poach, boil, fry them, then how to use them in basic recipes like omelettes and scrambled egg, then ramps up in complexity slowly again.

They're super basic, super easy to follow, and I still run and get them sometimes when I want something to be perfect and need to jog my memory.

Another, more expensive but delicious method, is to order food from hello fresh (you can get a trial membership with heavy discounts at the start).

They send you all the ingredients you need, already weighed and in little bags, all you have to do is follow the instructions they've sent you using the ingredients in the bag.

Really good way to get used to making a variety of meals you like, as you don't need to worry about if you've bought the right ingredients.

I cancelled my membership as A) it worked out too expensive, and B) I didn't have time or energy to prepare a meal every day of the week! But the food was great and opened some culinary doors in my brain.

Definitely worth a trial and then note down the ingredients you used in your favourite meals for the future when you want to make it again.

My mother taught me how to cook basic stuff at an early age and every time she would remind it was important I knew how to make my own food in case something happened to her.

Kindergarten age: make your own chocolate milk

6 y/o to 8: Learn how to boil rice, learn how to cook pasta. Sandwiches.

8+ : fried eggs, potato and pumpkin mash. Veal and chicken schnitzel (crumbed) is very easy too, though time consuming. Cooking steak in the oven is very easy, same for chicken drumsticks. You don't need to add anything to it, just salt or lemon, remember to oil the tray though.

Learn to wash veg thoroughly for salads. Lemon, olive oil and salt make a good dressing 90% of the time. Grate carrots. Learn you can boil legumes too.
At this point, with this knowledge and a can opener you have enough resources to eat healthily and cook your own very easily. I still eat pretty much this most of the time and I'm in my mid 30s now.

Next come omelettes, meatballs, patties. Quiche is super easy too. Once you master this level you can easily follow more complex recipes from any book. If you got any questions for the basic recipes just let me know.

Cooking is one of the easiest professions to begin. I dunno about mastery though

Cooking as a hobby is easy. Cooking as a profession is hard. There's a reason most professional chefs do a lot of drugs.

You start with something simple and easy to make then gradually start trying to make more complex things once you have some confidence. "How do I get experience in something I've never done before?" You do it, make some mistakes, and do it again.

The lucky ones survive poisoning themselves long enough to figure it out.

try thinking of some food and then look up the recipe and simply follow instructions. maybe you'll mess up a few times but it just happens. you can also go on YouTube and look for those cooking channels. their recipes might be hard and use exotic ingredients, but generally you can cut corners. if you can, try cooking with a friend. having a hand really helps.