When I've been horrifically depressed I took a roll of toilet paper and wrapped the dog in it. It made me laugh until I cried. Dog was like "guess this is life now".
This is fucking priceless
It was extra funny because I have a pug, and they're pretty docile so he was like "ok guess I'm a mummy now".
You're right, that does add to the humour lol
I pictured way too many dog breeds to this, and embarrassingly I did not consider pugs :P
He's pretty chill so it was extra cute.
I'm gonna use this ! thanks for the suggestion. Now to find a dog
He/she may bite you.
You need to feed first, and for weeks
I love this!
Sometimes I tell myself "since I'm gloomy anyway, might as well do some housework". And then the house looks nicer and it helps.
yea I did this with my working space yesterday, the morale improved
"Might as well do X or Y" ya, I think I'll try telling myself that more with a bit more motivation to actually do it.
In complete honesty, I spend money. Another more specific avenue is dining out for a nice meal.
I tried but then sad because the fact that I have no one to invite.
If you're also feeling lonely, you can pick specific food venues. Ones that have bar seating are a good choice. Food cart pods with picnic benches can also provide the opportunity to talk to stangers, especially in the evenings.
Treating yourself is nice
Help someone else
Ooo that's a great one! Helping someone else makes me feel good basically 100% of the times i do it. And it doesn't even have to be a major help, or even a moderate help, just helping someone in a minor way gives me a good feeling.
Alcohol. Yes, I know it ain't right.
As long as you are responsible with it and not harming yourself or others then I don't see anything wrong with having a drink or two to help relax.
What about a drink or six?
Right? The problem is, sometimes I'm like, "Wow, do I drink too much" but then I'm like "Naaah, I drink way less than (insert the name of an alcoholic you personally know here)", but sometimes it still feels like I drink too much anyway?
As long as it is not habitual and you're not hurting anyone there is nothing wrong with indulging a bit from time to time.
Seconded
I braid my hair into pigtails. I can't explain it, but everyone is nicer to me when I wear my hair like that.
This answer is adorable and cheered me up. It works!
Vaping copious amounts of marijuana. Its the only thing that takes the edge off and silences the voices that point out the hellhole we live in.
I don't think vaping is good idea. Perhaps drink water instead of vaping.
Idk what water you're drinking, but the only thing that does is make me less thirsty or more bloated. Does nothing for the anxiety or anything else....
Gimmie some clear liquid to put in there and I'll go with that option.
Usually smoke weed and play a game, or play bass guitar. Weed does well to prevent me from dwelling on things because it shortens my attention span. Games allow me to escape, and not much keeps me in the moment as much as playing music does, to do it right you must live in the moment, so it helps.
That being said, this is all escapism, which makes me feel better, but never solves any of the things I might be anxious about.
I wander. I can walk to a Boston subway stop in about 35 minutes. I often just hop on a train and get off at a random stop and just explore.
I'm literally on a train right now for this very purpose.
cool man
I can relate. I’m a huge fan of public transportation. I love exploring different places using a public train. One of the things that I liked doing with public transportation was to intentionally make myself get lost.
I was once robbed on a public train from Jakarta on my way home to Tangerang after visiting my friend. Since then, I’ve become more careful not to take a public train to places that seem dangerous or unsafe.
I play my guitar! That usually cheers me up quite a bit! Lately I've gotten into building models so that has helped a lot too!
Anything that forces me to change what I think about and pay attention to. Video games, driving, ATV rides, etc.
Also just learning to understand (within reason) that things you can’t control don’t deserve a lot of your mental capacity. No reason to worry about it, because you can’t do anything to change the outcome.
Fix the problem. Not easy
I have a problem that make me sad, that is i am poor.
It is stressful to fix my problem.
Bike ride outdoors. Stationary bike doesn't boost mood for me, only actually biking through space does it.
Beer
Eat too much chocolate. Drink too much beer.
It's easy to get up and march down the street. At the end of the hood are dozens of acres with natural sand trails and a creek.
Or, I throw a kayak or canoe on the truck on get on the water.
Self-care always makes me feel better. I prepare something nice to drink–tea, wine, beer, depending on my mood—and a tasty snack, then put on one of my favourite audiobooks or TV shows and treat myself to a hot bath or foot bath with a relaxing bath essence.
I do my job! I’m an Uber driver and I always feel fantastic about four or five hours into a shift.
Listen to music! Especially something that makes me dance, like 90s house music.
I like to sink time into games like rimworld, CDDA, sims, and the princess maker series. (2 is my fave)
Make something. Get somewhere with lots of quiet and trees. Bundle up in jammies and read.
Talk with close friends, draw, sleep, eat delicious food
Eating something, drinking some water, getting as much sun as possible without getting burnt. Those three will take care of most of it to be honest with you.
Chatting with a close friend
what about not having one
Chat with an acquaintance, grandma, cousin, neighbor...
If my mental/social energy is low:
Weed generally puts a halt to whatever ruminations are buzzing around my head and lifts me up a bit, then order a kebab and play some roguelike games for a few hours
If my mental/social energy is high:
Drop into a few of my group chats and see if anyone wants to hang out, maybe go to a pub or play some games
I recently got into making desserts. I end up with something I can be proud of, get to share sweets with my friends & family and satisfy my sweet tooth all at once. With $10 worth of ingredients and zero experience you can whip up a basic batch of fudge in less than 15 minutes and put pretty much anything else you want into there.
I don't think I ever managed to do that.
TL;DR: Occupy myself with something
At best I can just have a fake conversation in my head. Sometimes I also listen to taxi drivers with SDR. I can only pick up 2 companies, unfortunately. Fortunately though, they are just 0.15MHz apart, so I can listen on to both at once.
One of them even routes phone calls over their radios, so I can hear those as well.
But it's usually boring. Just on new year 2022/2023 one of the 3 companies' drivers were greeting each other. That was nice. Yes, 3, there used to be 3 of them I could listen to.
Actually, even before I had SDR I could listen to one on VHF because they were overlapping with FM Broadcast band. But that wasn't the most pleasant experience. With regular radio I had no squelch option and picking NFM with WFM receiver I had to have volume fairly high. The result of that was faint voice followed by absolutely loud static.
Of course, it would be better to listen to hams. That would be far more interesting. But so far I only managed to pick up the end of 2 contacts on 2m. I don't have much luck. HF is basically unusable where I am due to RFI.
The only stuff I can pick up is chinese AM radio stations, CW (but I've been too lazy to learn morse...), FT8, and the Russian-Ukrainian pirates around 7055kHz.
I don't know how to monitor the 2m band automatically. If I know the specific frequency, in SDR++ I can just set up squelch and turn on recording with "Ignore silence". But obviously that will also not allow me to listen to a real-time conversation because all silence is cut out.
Yeah, sorry, I got off-topic.
I can also play with random stuff in Termux on my phone. Right now I need to update nginx which will require also re-compiling the fancyindex dynamic module. I also want to try setting up Jellyfin and NextCloud in proot at some point.
I also want to download the 110GB Wikipedia ZIM archive and serve that with kiwix-serve after I free up enough storage, currently occupied by DVD ISO files and satellite signal baseband recordings. (Yes, on my phone.)
Of course this isn't always without larger issues.
During one math class I took out my phone from the pocket, because it was starting to get too hot, only to find it stuck in bootloop. I forced it off and tried to boot it up. Thankfully, that worked this time. I found the internal storage nearly full. It seems when I forced it into recovery to turn it off, magically 17MB were freed which allowed it to boot up. Otherwise I'd need to fully reset it, most likely. I can't access the data from recovery, and that's good from security perspective.
What happened? NGINX error log filled up the storage. I am too dumb to properly manage that, so...
error_log /dev/null;
I go on the internet and say dumb stuff to strangers... Sometimes it works and sometimes it makes them feel bad too.
pizza with anchovies, olives and capers.
This one is great cause everyone's face would light up as you bring in the pizza box. Their glossy eyes fixed upon the revealing of the most perfect food. Suddenly all their smiles turn to tears and frowns as they see you ruined it with the anchovies. Sadness and the stench of nasty fish now fill the room.
Good, I'm very territorial about my food. Want a bite? Get your own.
Toons. Vidya games. Choons. I guess card games on computers too. Old electronics. Going outside and touching grass. Simping over Europe (as a Moroccan who despises Morocco). Sleeping. Collecting literally anything I could think of. Ponies no, I abandoned those long ago.
Drug abuse.
Roll around on the ground
Watch an episode of a comedy show
Take a shower and eat a good meal
Talk to a stranger. At the park, at the bus stop, at the dog park. Doesn't matter what we talk about, it just feels good to connect and it takes my mind off my own bullshit.
Depending on the reason I'm feeling crappy, watch a comedy movie/series/video, listen to upbeat music, or play video games.
Depending on the situation. Simplified, obviously:
If I can actively do something about it immediately or soon enough “, you know, you can do it and it will really help you”.
If it is more on emotional basis“, I love you / you are important / I know it hurts / I understand — what would you like to do?” saying this type of stuff often and since I can remember, made me respond automatically, whether it is something simple like “I would really like to have an almond ice cream today” or “I am watching the movie tonight / going for a walk” etc or more advanced like “I will do X, Y and Z — in this order”. Having a self-checkup as a tool is really helpful.
If it is a more complex situation — firstly comes a quick energy level check, followed by looking for the simplest part of the problem as a hook to get the ball rolling or a solid rest (passive or active) to restart the system.
If it is a really overwhelming / prolonged thing, any form of contact / consultation, either with partner, family, friend or a professional.
Pretty much always food and a funny show snd a long walk/run/bike ride.
One things I do sometimes is listen to "Everyday Sunshine" by Fishbone
Will tell you when I find out.
John Mellencamp covers this
"I want you to dance naked and I want to join you"
When I've been horrifically depressed I took a roll of toilet paper and wrapped the dog in it. It made me laugh until I cried. Dog was like "guess this is life now".
This is fucking priceless
It was extra funny because I have a pug, and they're pretty docile so he was like "ok guess I'm a mummy now".
You're right, that does add to the humour lol
I pictured way too many dog breeds to this, and embarrassingly I did not consider pugs :P
He's pretty chill so it was extra cute.
I'm gonna use this ! thanks for the suggestion. Now to find a dog
He/she may bite you. You need to feed first, and for weeks
I love this!
Sometimes I tell myself "since I'm gloomy anyway, might as well do some housework". And then the house looks nicer and it helps.
yea I did this with my working space yesterday, the morale improved
"Might as well do X or Y" ya, I think I'll try telling myself that more with a bit more motivation to actually do it.
In complete honesty, I spend money. Another more specific avenue is dining out for a nice meal.
I tried but then sad because the fact that I have no one to invite.
If you're also feeling lonely, you can pick specific food venues. Ones that have bar seating are a good choice. Food cart pods with picnic benches can also provide the opportunity to talk to stangers, especially in the evenings.
Treating yourself is nice
Help someone else
Ooo that's a great one! Helping someone else makes me feel good basically 100% of the times i do it. And it doesn't even have to be a major help, or even a moderate help, just helping someone in a minor way gives me a good feeling.
Alcohol. Yes, I know it ain't right.
As long as you are responsible with it and not harming yourself or others then I don't see anything wrong with having a drink or two to help relax.
What about a drink or six?
Right? The problem is, sometimes I'm like, "Wow, do I drink too much" but then I'm like "Naaah, I drink way less than (insert the name of an alcoholic you personally know here)", but sometimes it still feels like I drink too much anyway?
As long as it is not habitual and you're not hurting anyone there is nothing wrong with indulging a bit from time to time.
Seconded
I braid my hair into pigtails. I can't explain it, but everyone is nicer to me when I wear my hair like that.
This answer is adorable and cheered me up. It works!
Vaping copious amounts of marijuana. Its the only thing that takes the edge off and silences the voices that point out the hellhole we live in.
I don't think vaping is good idea. Perhaps drink water instead of vaping.
Idk what water you're drinking, but the only thing that does is make me less thirsty or more bloated. Does nothing for the anxiety or anything else....
Gimmie some clear liquid to put in there and I'll go with that option.
Usually smoke weed and play a game, or play bass guitar. Weed does well to prevent me from dwelling on things because it shortens my attention span. Games allow me to escape, and not much keeps me in the moment as much as playing music does, to do it right you must live in the moment, so it helps.
That being said, this is all escapism, which makes me feel better, but never solves any of the things I might be anxious about.
I wander. I can walk to a Boston subway stop in about 35 minutes. I often just hop on a train and get off at a random stop and just explore.
I'm literally on a train right now for this very purpose.
cool man
I can relate. I’m a huge fan of public transportation. I love exploring different places using a public train. One of the things that I liked doing with public transportation was to intentionally make myself get lost.
I was once robbed on a public train from Jakarta on my way home to Tangerang after visiting my friend. Since then, I’ve become more careful not to take a public train to places that seem dangerous or unsafe.
I play my guitar! That usually cheers me up quite a bit! Lately I've gotten into building models so that has helped a lot too!
Anything that forces me to change what I think about and pay attention to. Video games, driving, ATV rides, etc.
Also just learning to understand (within reason) that things you can’t control don’t deserve a lot of your mental capacity. No reason to worry about it, because you can’t do anything to change the outcome.
Fix the problem. Not easy
I have a problem that make me sad, that is i am poor.
It is stressful to fix my problem.
Bike ride outdoors. Stationary bike doesn't boost mood for me, only actually biking through space does it.
Beer
Eat too much chocolate. Drink too much beer.
It's easy to get up and march down the street. At the end of the hood are dozens of acres with natural sand trails and a creek.
Or, I throw a kayak or canoe on the truck on get on the water.
Self-care always makes me feel better. I prepare something nice to drink–tea, wine, beer, depending on my mood—and a tasty snack, then put on one of my favourite audiobooks or TV shows and treat myself to a hot bath or foot bath with a relaxing bath essence.
I do my job! I’m an Uber driver and I always feel fantastic about four or five hours into a shift.
Listen to music! Especially something that makes me dance, like 90s house music.
I like to sink time into games like rimworld, CDDA, sims, and the princess maker series. (2 is my fave)
CDDA is free too. https://cataclysmdda.org/
Make something. Get somewhere with lots of quiet and trees. Bundle up in jammies and read.
Talk with close friends, draw, sleep, eat delicious food
Eating something, drinking some water, getting as much sun as possible without getting burnt. Those three will take care of most of it to be honest with you.
Chatting with a close friend
what about not having one
Chat with an acquaintance, grandma, cousin, neighbor...
If my mental/social energy is low:
Weed generally puts a halt to whatever ruminations are buzzing around my head and lifts me up a bit, then order a kebab and play some roguelike games for a few hours
If my mental/social energy is high:
Drop into a few of my group chats and see if anyone wants to hang out, maybe go to a pub or play some games
I recently got into making desserts. I end up with something I can be proud of, get to share sweets with my friends & family and satisfy my sweet tooth all at once. With $10 worth of ingredients and zero experience you can whip up a basic batch of fudge in less than 15 minutes and put pretty much anything else you want into there.
I don't think I ever managed to do that.
TL;DR: Occupy myself with something
At best I can just have a fake conversation in my head. Sometimes I also listen to taxi drivers with SDR. I can only pick up 2 companies, unfortunately. Fortunately though, they are just 0.15MHz apart, so I can listen on to both at once.
One of them even routes phone calls over their radios, so I can hear those as well.
But it's usually boring. Just on new year 2022/2023 one of the 3 companies' drivers were greeting each other. That was nice. Yes, 3, there used to be 3 of them I could listen to.
Actually, even before I had SDR I could listen to one on VHF because they were overlapping with FM Broadcast band. But that wasn't the most pleasant experience. With regular radio I had no squelch option and picking NFM with WFM receiver I had to have volume fairly high. The result of that was faint voice followed by absolutely loud static.
Of course, it would be better to listen to hams. That would be far more interesting. But so far I only managed to pick up the end of 2 contacts on 2m. I don't have much luck. HF is basically unusable where I am due to RFI.
The only stuff I can pick up is chinese AM radio stations, CW (but I've been too lazy to learn morse...), FT8, and the Russian-Ukrainian pirates around 7055kHz.
I don't know how to monitor the 2m band automatically. If I know the specific frequency, in SDR++ I can just set up squelch and turn on recording with "Ignore silence". But obviously that will also not allow me to listen to a real-time conversation because all silence is cut out.
Yeah, sorry, I got off-topic.
I can also play with random stuff in Termux on my phone. Right now I need to update nginx which will require also re-compiling the fancyindex dynamic module. I also want to try setting up Jellyfin and NextCloud in proot at some point.
I also want to download the 110GB Wikipedia ZIM archive and serve that with kiwix-serve after I free up enough storage, currently occupied by DVD ISO files and satellite signal baseband recordings. (Yes, on my phone.)
Of course this isn't always without larger issues.
During one math class I took out my phone from the pocket, because it was starting to get too hot, only to find it stuck in bootloop. I forced it off and tried to boot it up. Thankfully, that worked this time. I found the internal storage nearly full. It seems when I forced it into recovery to turn it off, magically 17MB were freed which allowed it to boot up. Otherwise I'd need to fully reset it, most likely. I can't access the data from recovery, and that's good from security perspective.
What happened? NGINX error log filled up the storage. I am too dumb to properly manage that, so...
I go on the internet and say dumb stuff to strangers... Sometimes it works and sometimes it makes them feel bad too.
pizza with anchovies, olives and capers.
This one is great cause everyone's face would light up as you bring in the pizza box. Their glossy eyes fixed upon the revealing of the most perfect food. Suddenly all their smiles turn to tears and frowns as they see you ruined it with the anchovies. Sadness and the stench of nasty fish now fill the room.
Good, I'm very territorial about my food. Want a bite? Get your own.
Toons. Vidya games. Choons. I guess card games on computers too. Old electronics. Going outside and touching grass. Simping over Europe (as a Moroccan who despises Morocco). Sleeping. Collecting literally anything I could think of.
Poniesno, I abandoned those long ago.Drug abuse.
Roll around on the ground
Watch an episode of a comedy show
Take a shower and eat a good meal
Talk to a stranger. At the park, at the bus stop, at the dog park. Doesn't matter what we talk about, it just feels good to connect and it takes my mind off my own bullshit.
Depending on the reason I'm feeling crappy, watch a comedy movie/series/video, listen to upbeat music, or play video games.
Depending on the situation. Simplified, obviously:
If I can actively do something about it immediately or soon enough “, you know, you can do it and it will really help you”.
If it is more on emotional basis “, I love you / you are important / I know it hurts / I understand — what would you like to do?” saying this type of stuff often and since I can remember, made me respond automatically, whether it is something simple like “I would really like to have an almond ice cream today” or “I am watching the movie tonight / going for a walk” etc or more advanced like “I will do X, Y and Z — in this order”. Having a self-checkup as a tool is really helpful.
If it is a more complex situation — firstly comes a quick energy level check, followed by looking for the simplest part of the problem as a hook to get the ball rolling or a solid rest (passive or active) to restart the system.
If it is a really overwhelming / prolonged thing, any form of contact / consultation, either with partner, family, friend or a professional.
Pretty much always food and a funny show snd a long walk/run/bike ride.
One things I do sometimes is listen to "Everyday Sunshine" by Fishbone
Will tell you when I find out.
John Mellencamp covers this
"I want you to dance naked and I want to join you"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKrcvol1NsM
:)
Weed. I mean lots of weed. Weed as far as the eye can see.