I'm all ears for recommendations. I've wasted money on pillows that were great for one night and then started causing problems. =(
Personally I love the memory foam, harder pillow from IKEA I got for £15. It's so comfortable that other pillows feel like shit compared to it. It's not for everyone though
Lol that's what I use! They're great!
Love that you have a meme for this exact thing
No way me too! I always had OPs problem until I bought it. I resent going away without it because it's that good.
I got one for myself and feel like I had more neck problems than before using it
I went and tried the Purple Harmony pillow when there was a similar thread on Reddit ~1 year ago. It was fantastic! I wanted it sooo bad, but it was just too expensive. I did find out later that Purple runs sales a few times a year. Think the best was around Christmas and it was damn near 50% off. So, I've had it since Christmas and been very happy.
I've got a purple harmony pillow (medium size) and it's okay. I feel like it's too high for back sleeping and not high enough for side sleeping. And due to the nature of it it's nearly impossible to try to mold to the shape I need. I'm thinking of getting a Coop tbh
I've got some generic memory foam pillow, best pillow ever.
Use https://www.sleeplikethedead.com/ to look up what works best for you. I went with latex pillows ten years ago and they're still going strong, though starting to smell like latex recently. Probably time to replace them ...
i bought a buckwheat pillow a couple months ago and it led directly to the issue in the meme. BEWARE!
You can take some buckwheat out if it's too much! I love my buckwheat because I can shape it to my head/neck
I got some memory foam pillows from IKEA for like 32e piece for me and wife couple years ago. Still going good, wouldn't want anything else
mjolkkloca ergonomic pillow
I used to be a 2 pillow guy but I've moved down to one. I'm using a Nectar pillow now. It's pricey but so far so good.
I'm on the buckwheat train. Tried different pillows and ended up with buckwheat. The pillow allows you to mold the shape to an extent which makes it extremely flexible. They also come in different sizes and good pillow sellers will either overstuff them or give you a bag with extra stuffing. You can open the pillow up (via zipper usually) to remove and add more buckwheat for even more customization. It's just extremely flexible overall.
I've been thinking of getting one, are there any downsides you've noticed? Like how noisy is it cause I'm a restless light sleeper
Tough call, it makes most noise when you fluff it and a bit if you move about on it.
Jumping on the buckwheat train. I was terrible at pushing all my pillows into the bedhead and waking up with a bent neck before picking up one of these. Another benefit is they don't get uncomfortably warm. It's really nice that I can wriggle to flatten it out for back sleeping, or fluff it up to the perfect height for side sleeping.
I tried Tempur. Slumbar worked for me as a side sleeper. They have the knee pillow too but it just ends up popping out. I just use the duvet.
Right? My one pillow is just on the verge of almost too much, but I like few pillows and my neck is fucked up.
I have a tempur "soft" pillow and it's too high.
I used to have a beaten up old fuck feather pillow and you could mould it into any shape you needed, it was great! I miss my shitty old pillow, my futuristic pillow isn't the answer.
What’s a fuck feather
When daddy feather loves mommy feather very much...
When two feathers like to get down, know what I'm sayin?
It's the feather of a very rare inverse auto correct bird
Displayed when a bird wants to impress a potential mate
Birds of a feather fuck together. 🪶🪶💞
I feel this. I just moved and a certain family member 'helped' me move by throwing away stuff that I'd already dropped off at my new place that didn't meet their arbitrary standards including, yes, almost all the bedding. So now I'm sleeping through the hottest part of the year with the most unforgivingly thick pillows and the winter duvet.
I have a memory foam pillow (or something like that)for years and stays the exact same hardness. Would really knock someone out in a pillow fight with it. Best pillow ever
This is the way. Any medium fill power down will be like that in a few weeks.
Everything I’ve tried is worse than down. The memory foam pillows are better than the synthetic fake down pillows that are hot garbage.
If your pillow is $10-20 it’s probably not a good pillow.
But pillows are super subjective. My wife grew up with the thicker synthetic ones and hates my pillows. Upside is hers are cheap I guess!
Me in every hotel
And wake up in the morning with a headache and can't move your neck.
Same. Hotel pillows are too thick for the head/neck. There should be 2 different pillows, a thick and firm one for hugging, and a thinner and softer one for the head.
And a big long one for spooning....
Called a bolster. Or go full weeb and get a waifu pillow...
If full weeb is a dakimakura what level of weeb is the dakimakura with legs and and a Fleshlight pocket?
The thinner the pillow, the better. Fuck hotels
So... Do you just use the pillow case? 🤔 That would be quite thin.
I have the purple pillow. It's great! Both sides are "the cold side" and, if needed, you could kill a man with it!
My wife has one of these. I don't like the weird texture it has and often refer to it as her "space waffle" pillow, which gets a laugh out of her.
I got used to the texture pretty quick, and it's well worth it. I even got a purple mattress, which is just as great
I'm definitely not paid by Purple, haha
Honestly, I've been having trouble with this lately so even if you were I'm desperate for solutions.
They didn't tell me as a kid that side sleeping would be a problem.
I sleep every-which-way. Some days stock still on my back like the dead, other days on my front sprawled out, and other days on my side. I've got pretty broad shoulders and the purple pillow (the flat one, not the poofy one) and medium-firm mattress combo does wonders for me. On my side I sink just enough into the mattress to lay my head flat, and on my back/front works just the same. Not sure how well it would work for you, and Purple is a bit pricey, but I highly recommend them. Just make sure you try them out at one of their locations, first. The grid is easy to get used to (I got used to it in a few days, and now I never notice it), so try to ignore the texture, just go by overall feel
Wool filled pillow that you can add/remove filling from.
I'll shill for the above company, have had the wooly down for 9+ years, added more to it once a couple years ago.
I bring a couple of pillows from home whenever I can. Doesn't work for flights, of course, but on shorter trips it's a godsend.
I use one of those bags with a pump to shrink my pillow to a tiny size for travel. Fits great in the luggage then.
My mom uses like ten thousand pillows to sleep and I just cannot. I need a thin pillow, so I like ones that are already "broken in". How do side sleepers manage to sleep with thick pillows and not hurt their necks?
Life pro tip for side sleepers who need a super thick / fluffy pillow:
Buy a king sized pillow and put it in a normal sized pillow case that has one of those little flaps at the open end. The extra stuffing compressed to a normal sized pillow makes for the best thick pillow.
Get one of those pillows where you can remove or add stuffing - Be your own Walter White.
I can't handle that kind of pressure
You should learn how to fluff your pillow
Your body posture also plays a part and if you have horrible posture that can contribute to pain
I have the posture of an ice age caveman huddled for warmth.
Side sleeper here. I put one thin one between my legs so they are parallel and the joints don't press against each other. I have a thick "hugger" so my top arm doesn't just hang unsupported and pull on my back muscles all night. The problem is my lower arm gets pressed on all night or I have to find the magic position for it that is comfortable.
Back sleeping means I have to get the neck just right but then I usually snore and I get wacked by my wife.
I use one old flat pillow on the bottom and one new pillow on the top. Perfect 1.5 pillow height every night.
I'm a side sleeper but the human body keeps interfering (this arm is in the way). If I sleep on my back I snore and my wife wacks me.
Tempted to buy a message table and sleep on it. Sleeping face down seems like the real solution here.
i have never found those things to be very comfortable on my face.
I have found the problem. You're supposed to be laying on it, not the table laying on you.
There was post in diwhy reddit how to make pillow to sleep face down
I just got one of those pillow cubes and use it all of the time because I hate myself
Two is just right for sleeping on the side if the bottom pillow is super firm and the top pillow is super not firm.
Where my no pillow gang at? You have an arm! Use it
Wait are you being for real? That can't be good for your neck. I've fallen asleep like that 1 time when i got way too high on the zaza and i had the worst neck pain ever.
Haven't used a pillow in five years. Your spine is meant to be straight at night, so no pillow is the way to go. It is also helpful if you have breathing issues.
I take it you sleep on your back or stomach then? I think for people like me who sleep on their side, my neck hurts just from the idea of not using a pillow.
That's wild man. I sleep on my belly with one leg hiked up to my chest and a pillow that's big enough for my head and for me to hug and wrap around. Sure it's also bad for you but man do i get some insane sleep and dreams from it
Try that when you're old. Side sleeping leads to extreme neck pain /stiffness the next day because your neck isn't straight when sleeping without a pillow.
We’re meant to die by Polio and Smallpox at age 12 but we don’t follow that living standard, now don’t we?
I find sleeping on my recliner actually feels the best because my head is kept aligned with my spine better. I've read that in the old days (like 1700s and such) they slept sitting almost upright.
My pillow is so thin my wife is like "well just put a towel in the pillowcase"
Yeah, way better for my neck
I sleep on my back without a pillow.
But I still have a pillow so I can look at my phone.
Seems more like a meme than a shit post
And here I am with a half stuffed pillow because a full pillow makes me choke on my sleep
You need to find the right pillow. This is important for good quality sleep. For instance I know that i need a thin pillow if I am on a soft bed but a thicker pillow if I am on a firm bed.
I use a Costco memory foam on top of a really thin shitty feather pillow I've had forever. The memory foam is like a cm or two too short for my neck to be comfortable so the feather pillow is used to lift it up that extra bit.
But one folded over is just right.
I have whiplash and two pillows is just right. I'm blessed.
I got a buckwheat pillow and I'm never going back. It's perfect.
I had a buckwheat pillow but the zipper broke six months in.
It's not fun cleaning up all the little shells at three in the morning.
Yeah that would be horrible
I use small pillows, sort of like the end pillow on a sofa, about the size of a shoebox maybe. It's all the support I really need and it's small enough to be able to shift it around easily into whatever shape or position you need. Give that a shot.
There are better pillows out there, friend
I'm all ears for recommendations. I've wasted money on pillows that were great for one night and then started causing problems. =(
Personally I love the memory foam, harder pillow from IKEA I got for £15. It's so comfortable that other pillows feel like shit compared to it. It's not for everyone though
Lol that's what I use! They're great!
Love that you have a meme for this exact thing
No way me too! I always had OPs problem until I bought it. I resent going away without it because it's that good.
I got one for myself and feel like I had more neck problems than before using it
I went and tried the Purple Harmony pillow when there was a similar thread on Reddit ~1 year ago. It was fantastic! I wanted it sooo bad, but it was just too expensive. I did find out later that Purple runs sales a few times a year. Think the best was around Christmas and it was damn near 50% off. So, I've had it since Christmas and been very happy.
I've got a purple harmony pillow (medium size) and it's okay. I feel like it's too high for back sleeping and not high enough for side sleeping. And due to the nature of it it's nearly impossible to try to mold to the shape I need. I'm thinking of getting a Coop tbh
I've got some generic memory foam pillow, best pillow ever.
Use https://www.sleeplikethedead.com/ to look up what works best for you. I went with latex pillows ten years ago and they're still going strong, though starting to smell like latex recently. Probably time to replace them ...
@Lt_Worf
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B073HNLW8Y/ref=ppx\_yo\_dt\_b\_search\_asin\_title?ie=UTF8&th=1
Worth every penny.
@Matthew
Thanks!
i bought a buckwheat pillow a couple months ago and it led directly to the issue in the meme. BEWARE!
You can take some buckwheat out if it's too much! I love my buckwheat because I can shape it to my head/neck
I got some memory foam pillows from IKEA for like 32e piece for me and wife couple years ago. Still going good, wouldn't want anything else
mjolkkloca ergonomic pillow
I used to be a 2 pillow guy but I've moved down to one. I'm using a Nectar pillow now. It's pricey but so far so good.
I'm on the buckwheat train. Tried different pillows and ended up with buckwheat. The pillow allows you to mold the shape to an extent which makes it extremely flexible. They also come in different sizes and good pillow sellers will either overstuff them or give you a bag with extra stuffing. You can open the pillow up (via zipper usually) to remove and add more buckwheat for even more customization. It's just extremely flexible overall.
I've been thinking of getting one, are there any downsides you've noticed? Like how noisy is it cause I'm a restless light sleeper
Tough call, it makes most noise when you fluff it and a bit if you move about on it.
Jumping on the buckwheat train. I was terrible at pushing all my pillows into the bedhead and waking up with a bent neck before picking up one of these. Another benefit is they don't get uncomfortably warm. It's really nice that I can wriggle to flatten it out for back sleeping, or fluff it up to the perfect height for side sleeping.
I tried Tempur. Slumbar worked for me as a side sleeper. They have the knee pillow too but it just ends up popping out. I just use the duvet.
Right? My one pillow is just on the verge of almost too much, but I like few pillows and my neck is fucked up.
I have a tempur "soft" pillow and it's too high.
I used to have a beaten up old fuck feather pillow and you could mould it into any shape you needed, it was great! I miss my shitty old pillow, my futuristic pillow isn't the answer.
What’s a fuck feather
When daddy feather loves mommy feather very much...
When two feathers like to get down, know what I'm sayin?
It's the feather of a very rare inverse auto correct bird
Displayed when a bird wants to impress a potential mate
Birds of a feather fuck together. 🪶🪶💞
I feel this. I just moved and a certain family member 'helped' me move by throwing away stuff that I'd already dropped off at my new place that didn't meet their arbitrary standards including, yes, almost all the bedding. So now I'm sleeping through the hottest part of the year with the most unforgivingly thick pillows and the winter duvet.
I have a memory foam pillow (or something like that)for years and stays the exact same hardness. Would really knock someone out in a pillow fight with it. Best pillow ever
This is the way. Any medium fill power down will be like that in a few weeks.
Everything I’ve tried is worse than down. The memory foam pillows are better than the synthetic fake down pillows that are hot garbage.
If your pillow is $10-20 it’s probably not a good pillow.
But pillows are super subjective. My wife grew up with the thicker synthetic ones and hates my pillows. Upside is hers are cheap I guess!
Me in every hotel
And wake up in the morning with a headache and can't move your neck.
Same. Hotel pillows are too thick for the head/neck. There should be 2 different pillows, a thick and firm one for hugging, and a thinner and softer one for the head.
And a big long one for spooning....
Called a bolster. Or go full weeb and get a waifu pillow...
If full weeb is a dakimakura what level of weeb is the dakimakura with legs and and a Fleshlight pocket?
The thinner the pillow, the better. Fuck hotels
So... Do you just use the pillow case? 🤔 That would be quite thin.
I have the purple pillow. It's great! Both sides are "the cold side" and, if needed, you could kill a man with it!
My wife has one of these. I don't like the weird texture it has and often refer to it as her "space waffle" pillow, which gets a laugh out of her.
I got used to the texture pretty quick, and it's well worth it. I even got a purple mattress, which is just as great
I'm definitely not paid by Purple, haha
Honestly, I've been having trouble with this lately so even if you were I'm desperate for solutions.
They didn't tell me as a kid that side sleeping would be a problem.
I sleep every-which-way. Some days stock still on my back like the dead, other days on my front sprawled out, and other days on my side. I've got pretty broad shoulders and the purple pillow (the flat one, not the poofy one) and medium-firm mattress combo does wonders for me. On my side I sink just enough into the mattress to lay my head flat, and on my back/front works just the same. Not sure how well it would work for you, and Purple is a bit pricey, but I highly recommend them. Just make sure you try them out at one of their locations, first. The grid is easy to get used to (I got used to it in a few days, and now I never notice it), so try to ignore the texture, just go by overall feel
Wool filled pillow that you can add/remove filling from.
https://www.holylamborganics.com/collections/natural-pillows
I'll shill for the above company, have had the wooly down for 9+ years, added more to it once a couple years ago.
I bring a couple of pillows from home whenever I can. Doesn't work for flights, of course, but on shorter trips it's a godsend.
I use one of those bags with a pump to shrink my pillow to a tiny size for travel. Fits great in the luggage then.
My mom uses like ten thousand pillows to sleep and I just cannot. I need a thin pillow, so I like ones that are already "broken in". How do side sleepers manage to sleep with thick pillows and not hurt their necks?
Life pro tip for side sleepers who need a super thick / fluffy pillow:
Buy a king sized pillow and put it in a normal sized pillow case that has one of those little flaps at the open end. The extra stuffing compressed to a normal sized pillow makes for the best thick pillow.
Get one of those pillows where you can remove or add stuffing - Be your own Walter White.
I can't handle that kind of pressure
You should learn how to fluff your pillow
Your body posture also plays a part and if you have horrible posture that can contribute to pain
I have the posture of an ice age caveman huddled for warmth.
Side sleeper here. I put one thin one between my legs so they are parallel and the joints don't press against each other. I have a thick "hugger" so my top arm doesn't just hang unsupported and pull on my back muscles all night. The problem is my lower arm gets pressed on all night or I have to find the magic position for it that is comfortable.
Back sleeping means I have to get the neck just right but then I usually snore and I get wacked by my wife.
I use one old flat pillow on the bottom and one new pillow on the top. Perfect 1.5 pillow height every night.
I'm a side sleeper but the human body keeps interfering (this arm is in the way). If I sleep on my back I snore and my wife wacks me.
Tempted to buy a message table and sleep on it. Sleeping face down seems like the real solution here.
i have never found those things to be very comfortable on my face.
I have found the problem. You're supposed to be laying on it, not the table laying on you.
There was post in diwhy reddit how to make pillow to sleep face down
I just got one of those pillow cubes and use it all of the time because I hate myself
Two is just right for sleeping on the side if the bottom pillow is super firm and the top pillow is super not firm.
Where my no pillow gang at? You have an arm! Use it
Wait are you being for real? That can't be good for your neck. I've fallen asleep like that 1 time when i got way too high on the zaza and i had the worst neck pain ever.
Haven't used a pillow in five years. Your spine is meant to be straight at night, so no pillow is the way to go. It is also helpful if you have breathing issues.
I take it you sleep on your back or stomach then? I think for people like me who sleep on their side, my neck hurts just from the idea of not using a pillow.
That's wild man. I sleep on my belly with one leg hiked up to my chest and a pillow that's big enough for my head and for me to hug and wrap around. Sure it's also bad for you but man do i get some insane sleep and dreams from it
Try that when you're old. Side sleeping leads to extreme neck pain /stiffness the next day because your neck isn't straight when sleeping without a pillow.
We’re meant to die by Polio and Smallpox at age 12 but we don’t follow that living standard, now don’t we?
I find sleeping on my recliner actually feels the best because my head is kept aligned with my spine better. I've read that in the old days (like 1700s and such) they slept sitting almost upright.
My pillow is so thin my wife is like "well just put a towel in the pillowcase"
Yeah, way better for my neck
I sleep on my back without a pillow.
But I still have a pillow so I can look at my phone.
Seems more like a meme than a shit post
And here I am with a half stuffed pillow because a full pillow makes me choke on my sleep
You need to find the right pillow. This is important for good quality sleep. For instance I know that i need a thin pillow if I am on a soft bed but a thicker pillow if I am on a firm bed.
I use a Costco memory foam on top of a really thin shitty feather pillow I've had forever. The memory foam is like a cm or two too short for my neck to be comfortable so the feather pillow is used to lift it up that extra bit.
But one folded over is just right.
I have whiplash and two pillows is just right. I'm blessed.
I got a buckwheat pillow and I'm never going back. It's perfect.
I had a buckwheat pillow but the zipper broke six months in.
It's not fun cleaning up all the little shells at three in the morning.
Yeah that would be horrible
I use small pillows, sort of like the end pillow on a sofa, about the size of a shoebox maybe. It's all the support I really need and it's small enough to be able to shift it around easily into whatever shape or position you need. Give that a shot.
I can recommend water pillows.
Bolster pillow gang rise up.