I met a girl in a flight and thought we got along well, but she was only in a layover flight while I was in the last flight of my trip. Still, we kept in touch, and she's apparently coming to my city for a few days in two weeks.
So I did something I had never done before (even though I've been in a few relationships before) and asked her out! She said "maybe" (her trip was already planned and she is busy and staying with some friends, she seemed genuinely sorry) so in two weeks I may have a date :)
Hot damn good for you!
Keep us updated! I don't think lemmy has a remindme bot but I'm saving this comment.
Beep boop. I'm writing this comment because you asked to be updated on my date.
She canceled it :(. She was only here for a few days and ended up not being available to meet with me. It's ok, I think I read more into it than I should have!
Michael Scott once quoted some guy that said "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."
You shot your shot. That's the important thing.
Good for you!
Well there's gotta be a reason she's keeping in touch after meeting you once on a flight. I don't still talk to someone I met on a plane, so you must've made an impression. I hope it pans out for you (and her).
I tip my hat to you!
It's a public holiday today in South Africa. (Good Friday)
So I came up with a cheeky dad joke
"What holiday is it? Workers day? Freedom day?"
"Good Friday"
"Every Friday is a good Friday"
I got two chuckles
Now you have three.
Lol Then there were four
To whoever downvoted this: you suck.
I got some chickens.
You can't just say you got some chickens and not show the chickens
They're sleeping, I will pay the tax tomorrow morning.
Chicken tax!
Someone please tag me if they post the chickens!
See above, I will pay the Iron Price.
Mans gotta pay the chicken tax, please show us the chickens 🐔🙏
I finally progressed to 4 reps of 45kg dumbbell overhead press.
That wild. I can't even do 4 reps of 45kg barbell overhead press. Then again I am quite a small person. I only weigh 57kg.
Yeah thats the flip side. I am a very heavy dude and it ain't all muscle that's for sure but I'm slowly working towards my goals.
Awesome, congrats!
Remember, form, form, FORM. Please make sure you research thoroughly and/or get a pro consult on proper form. Great tip I got once is to think of each movement as “practicing the move,” getting really good at doing each exercise while maintaining perfect form.
Older you will thank younger you for every moment spent on alignment, balance, weight distribution, etc. and building a foundation that lasts you a lifetime!
I purchased a new (to me) car the other day. Despite my age, this is the first time I’ve done this all on my own and I’m geeked over my credit score. ☺️
Congrats!
You’ve accomplished something that I haven’t. I’ve been an adult for a while and haven’t made a purchase of this size without some assistance. Way to go!
I fixed my refrigerator. 2 months ago I was changing the filter, and I was too lazy to turn off the water first, so the pressure was too high and it didn't seat properly. When I turned it, I broke the filter receptacle. I called Samsung, and they said they'll fix it, but they can't tell me how much it will cost until they make the work order, and at that point I can't cancel it if it's too expensive. I asked if they could ballpark, like $100 or $1000. They said they couldn't. So I told them to go fuck themselves. I ordered the part on Amazon for $60. I had to disassemble a decent amount of the refrigerator to get to the part. But I did it! I swapped out the part and everything works perfectly. All in all, it took about 2 hours. There were multiple videos on the internet on how to do it.
Fuck Samsung.
I'm never buying a Samsung appliance again for other reasons but I'll add this to the list. Great work, hope they go bankrupt since they certainly won't quit being little shits.
I don't recommend LG either. Mine is on at least its third compressor and it's less than 8 years old. And I know two other people who have had the same experience... and I only know like five people.
I fixed a boot issue from the grub command line for the first time.
Restarted my show / podcast yesterday, 1 year after losing my co-host (and best friend) to cancer. Moving forward, without forgetting him.
Some would see this as a big step. It's one of the hundreds of things that I've been doing to move forward...
Thank you for restarting, in spite of grief and bad times. So many good podcasts end abruptly with no explanation and you always wonder what happened. It must be hard to start again. Much respect
Thanks for your message! It wasn't much a mystery as he stopped joining me in the show when undergoing treatment and people knew. We got a lot of love from the fans.
Good, what is the name of your podcast?
It's called Go Pyrate. It's in québécois French.
Obligatory: Fuck cancer!
Also, sorry for your loss.
I published the first chapter of a fanfiction and someone already liked it.
Which genre?
A post apocalyptic adventure with political drama.
This week has been rough for me. My nervous system is fucked up for various reasons.
Normally I drink one cup of coffee per day. But I had an Uber passenger whom I took to his job at a convenience store. He said “Can I offer you some coffee?” so I came in and grabbed a cup (my second for the day).
That was Monday evening.
I was then awake until wednesday night. I could not catch a fucking wink of sleep for that whole time.
What the fuck, brain??
Well, Tuesday and Wednesday I obviously didn’t drive, because I’m not going to put my passengers in that situation, of having a sleep deprived Uber driver.
Finally Wednesday I realized how I could knock myself out. I cooked a big thing of pasta and ate a ton of it, and sure enough having a big meal knocked me out.
Fucked up, but I’m proud that (a) I didn’t risk my passengers’ safety by giving in to the temptation to drive (I really need the money so it was tempting), and (b) found a way to fall asleep finally.
I know this story doesn’t make sense. I really wish the way my brain worked made sense. It would make life so much easier.
I struggle with insomnia due to bipolar. This sort of reaction seems familiar and atypical. If it happens again, maybe see someone. Good on you for staying safe.
I've got a 5(A) on my math(algebra+geometry) exam. Before that I've always had a 4(B). I'm very proud of myself :)
I helped a stranger at Costco load up a giant grill into his truck. I have no idea how he would have managed it on his own.
I planted some baby trees in my previously barren yard! The maples are already starting to leaf, and since I've never planted a hickory before I'm going to fret over it until it leafs and proves to me that I didn't somehow manage to kill it
That's super exciting! Any plans for other plants?
Tentatively. I really want to have a full food forrest eventually, but I'm trying to to take it slow and start with establishing the bigger plants, then play it by ear from there.
What hardiness zone are you in, and have you ever had a paw paw fruit, by any chance? Because if it grows in your area, I highly recommend it. It's the most tropical-tasting native Midwest fruit I've ever had.
Interesting you say that! I'm in 7b (recently reclassified from 6a) and I actually did plant some pawpaw seeds! Still waiting to see if they'll sprout though - they had a bit of mould growth after taking them out from cold stratification so I'm hoping at least a couple survived.
Ooh, crossing my fingers for you! 🤞🏽🤞🏽
Managed to get myself referred to a psychiatrist/psychotherapists for my complex issues after having previously done counselling/CBT with very little help in effectiveness of my emotional wellbeing due to having a complex past. Honestly can’t really believe it’s taken for me to get health insurance to be able to get help for it after having tried to get help via state healthcare but they’re entirely useless and only offer counselling/cbt within short terms and discharge you if they can’t help you anymore ;-;
It’s been such a slow process and it’s had a huge effect on my university education negatively, due to it but honestly I’ve haven’t felt more optimistic than ever tbh despite having days where it does get difficult.
That is fantastic news. Sounds like it's been a long journey and now your persistence is about to pay off.
Speaking from decades of therapy, keep it up. You wouldn’t believe the changes that can occur over the long run.
::: spoiler (disabled in a weird way from thoracic spinal damage) No matter how impossible it seems, every time I have something take me off my physical therapy routine of mostly riding a bike every day, I drag myself back out and force myself to hold a minimum fitness level at any cost.
I got sick and a week and a half of inactivity has me at 3 days on the bike in the last 6, and I'm back to 16 miles, 2 days ago. I'm about to leave for 26.
After over 10 years of spending almost all day, every day, in bed laying very reclined, riding a bike is my only real physical activity. This is a strange state to exist in long term. I atrophy extremely quickly, probably because I was in race shape when I was disabled. While I am no longer at that level, I never lost my legs, very low resting heart rate, or lung capacity.
It hurts so bad each time I struggle back to ~30 miles daily. I can't do anything else at the same time, and take Tylenol at max doses for little relief. I can't even manage to read much or cook right now. However, I think I'm already over the hump for this one. I slept 4.5 hours last night compared to ~3.5 the nights before.
Right now I'm procrastinating. It feels impossible, like there is no way I should be going out and riding a bike, but I'm going to put down this phone, kit up, and make myself coast down the hill; mentally picking one little target after another; lying to myself dozens of times about how far I must go before I can just turn around and go home.
:::
a friend invited me to play a boardgame online, called Kingdomino. I really loved it, and since money is tight, I made my own copy of the tiles for in-person play.
They aren't perfect by any means and it took a fucking age to do them, but it's a playable version I can bust out with friends and family.
Family loves Kingdomino; yours turned out great!
You painted these yourself? They look so good! (I haven't seen the originals).
I both filed my taxes and got my insurance sorted today.
Holy shit!
Made another appointment for physical therapy. The last time I was in so much pain for the next couple of days I couldn't function, but... I still can't really move around like a normal person now anyways, so I gotta give it another shot.
Thanks for asking.
Stick with it. PT can be amazing, but you have to commit to following their instructions. I spend years of my life at a 5/10 pain level with a herniated disk because I thought doctors would either just prescribe me drugs or see me as a drug seeker. PT care got me to being able to pick up my kids again.
That sounds familiar, had surgery on my back a few years ago which helped immensely but ever since then I've degraded. Walking for more than an hour puts me in pain for the rest of the day, which.... Thankfully I've made work with my life. But even things like cleaning the house requires days long rest.
I'm so happy for you and your kids, I'll keep that in mind when it gets painful. I truly appreciate your response. ♥
I’ve done physical therapy once. I thought you should work through the pain because it’s exercise. Big mistake. Communicate with your therapist to find out if the level of discomfort is expected or too much so they can help you adjust.
This! Some discomfort is to be expected but it shouldn't hurt. It should be a good "pain" like it feels good afterwards not a "I really regret all the things" pain.
I finished a landscape project in the front yard.
Pics please!
Didn’t get good before pics.
Nice! That's a lot of work. Bet you're excited to see everything come in and fill out.
I signed up to run a half marathon. I have never ran that far in my life.
You won't be able to say that for much longer. Good luck with it!
I've only ever run a half once and that was obviously the day of the race. Training I only got up to about 15k. I just thought of it as two 10k runs and it got me through.
Good luck with it!
I always liked Barney Stimson's advice on running a marathon.
Step 1: start running
Step 2: there is no step two
I started a blog this month and happy I got 20 posts published
I got my iron farm working in Minecraft
Finally found out why I couldn't renew my Let's Encrypt cert.
Did you know fresh installs of Debian Testing come with firewalld installed and enabled to auto-block all incoming connections? Me neither!
Oh yeah. Docker too. Can't spawn a docker container and don't know why? Yeah, you need to make a firewall exception so that the virtual system running on your system can see itself. Yeah.
Last week I ran my first ever under 1hr 10k(56:20 to be precise). I had run 10k before but my PB was 1:08:00.
Wow! I'm still working my way to doing 5k at any time, and this looks huge to me. Congratulations! I can't imagine having that kind of cardio endurance right now
I can’t imagine having that kind of cardio endurance right now
Even I was thinking the same when I started running. Now, here I am. I think you can also do it.
I started with the target of 5k, once I reached that, my target was to run for 1 hour, then 10k and after that under 1 hr 10k. Now my target is to run a half-marathon.
Thank you for your words of inspiration. I'm proud of my progress to date, and really happy with how running makes me feel. But I still felt like 5k must be an eternity away.
Your words make me feel closer to 5 and even 10 k than I would have thought possible
These are all big things. I beat super mario wonder 100% the other day
It's small because I knew it was coming, but I got the job offer for a promotion! Not many people I can tell.
By popular DEMAND, here are some of the chickens mentioned yesterday. They don't have names, so we don't get attached, as they are for improving our soil and, eventually, for homemade stock.
Aww, Leslie, Susan, Hannah, and Rick are pretty cute.
Chaotica and Barbra Streisand are the top hens. They body slam Becky and hang around Rick's neck shamelessly.
I have irrational emotional resistance to thinking about long term planning related to money. Set meeting and met with three financial advisors with my partner. She said that when yesterday’s meeting touched on retirement I looked miserable, but hey, took some steps.
Built my first LED lamp
Interesting, share more details?
I picked up a Roborock S5 vacuum and flashed valetudo onto it. It's so fun!
Oh dear, I didn’t know there was tomato for vacuums… depending on how it goes, this knowledge will make you either my new friend or my latest enemy…
Finally made it over to the in-laws to replace a ceiling fan that had stopped working
Were you successful, though?
I was!
Over 2 calendar months without a drink today. Coming from 2-3 beers a day, previously. Did February, but told myself that didn't count since it's a short month, so now I've done March. I thought I would start drinking a bit now to "celebrate" but it's funny now that I'm here the urge is gone...
I'm going to Muslim wedding next month, so now I'm thinking I'll at least keep it up until then, just to make going to a dry wedding easier on myself.
I'll see after that. I definitely don't want to go back to daily drinking again.
Same boat (started with dry January and didn’t stop)!
I still feel good. Not sure long term if I’ll become more lax for special events but not for now.
I crossed the Gulfstream on my sailboat. Twice.
100 days of studying Japanese every day
Superb!
I am planning to start studying Japanese. I always install duo lingo and then find it too basic and not worth it and I stop using it all together.
Can you share your study routine or resources?
Thanking you in advance!
My general approach is to use Anki as my primary resource with the addition of the Genki textbook, video lectures and grammar videos on YouTube (Toki ni Andy, Game Gengo, Livakivi, etc.), and immersion content (Manga, anime, YouTube). I use Anki because I believe it's the most effective method for me having used it previously to learn Esperanto; although I believe that you should use whatever method is the most fun for you, whatever will keep you coming back for daily work is good. Don't fall for the "Bro Science" language learning people who promise quick shortcuts, there are none, these people are usually trying to sell you something.
My daily study consists of about 40 minutes of Anki per day. I split my time between two decks, which is suboptimal in terms of occasionally containing duplicates, but I like it as it serves as a method of chunking my study out throughout the day and as a way to recognize the same Kanji in different contexts. These two decks are the KanjiTransistion and Core 2.3k decks. I do four new cards from the KanjiTransistion deck and three new cards from the 2.3k deck. Following that if I'm in the mood I'll return to reviewing my Hiragana and Katakana decks (you should do this first if you haven't already!). I also use the Review Heatmap plugin to see my streak, which helps me stay focused on goals and milestones.
You should form your own opinion about what method of learning works best for you, but don't fall victim to spending time strategizing and figuring out the scientifically perfect way to learn the language, there isn't one. If you're spending time planning how you're going to learn the language, you're spending less time actually learning. The only way to get good at a language is to literally be exposed to it and learning it for 1000+ hours.
Superb. Thank you so much for taking time to write a detailed response.
Set up immich in a vps with reverse proxied ssl access
Right on!
Explain to me like I am 5
I got a number of patches merged into Movim & after a new release is cut, I plan to ask for a review on my first NixOS module (currently complete, but no one has reviewed)
I learned to play a cool song that incorporates slapping and fingertapping on guitar, but I re-areanged it to play without fingertapping cause finger tapping on my guitar sounded horrible. Still sounded pretty close.
I wrote a short story that is actually well written and doesn’t make me puke.
Obviously I never finished it and moved on to the next project, so well… glass half empty?
I did "Friend Like Me" for karaoke with coworkers. It took quite a bit of practice, but I got most of it.
Speaking of friends, I had dinner with a friend I haven't seen since high school. They hadn't had falafel before so I made falafel, hummus, muhammara, and tzatziki. Those are two achievements: rekindling a past friendship and honing my hosting abilities.
I just reached the final cut scene of Nioh where the main story ends!
To me, the difficulty is OK and my biggest challenge is the lack of free time to play it. Free time to play video games is a luxury because not only I need to have free time, I also need to decide if I want to use it on playing video games, among lots of other hobbits, and learning, upgrading work skills. It was a struggle but I managed to finished it without feeling too guilty.
How are the hobbits taking your lack of attention to them?
I mean, they're hobbits. They turn to food for comfort.
I successfully made a checklist of work tasks, and checked several of them off
I made a gourd fiddle.
Sounds cool; pictures please!
Thank you; looks like it turned out pretty good!
Not real loud, doesn't stay in tune very well, but you can play a tune on it.
I successfully line danced in 4 inch stilletos. Yes it was a Cowboy Carter launch party.
Might have fixed my mail server with a bodge. I will see if its still up and running tomorrow.
Yesterday, I made a choice that was very tough for me to make. So three years ago, I had a best
friend, and we both liked each other. Things got hard because my feelings went too
far, I became emotionally unstable and turned into an attention seeker. So because of
that, I then ended the friendship.
Recently, she added me back. I thought we could be friends again because I felt like I
improved my mental state in the last two years and won't turn into an attention seeker
again. Well, a week later, I was the same as I was three years ago.
It was ruining my mental health severely. I couldn't focus on anything. But I still
wasn't ready to give up on the friendship because she was a very nice friend, and I still
liked her for some reason. So I refused to give up. But things got worse real quick, and
then I decided to write a long message to her explaining why I can't continue this
friendship and then I blocked her everywhere.
At the cost of ending all probabilities of a future with her, I feel much better now.
Gotta do something about this attention-seeking thing, though.
You should look into the concept of borderline personality disorder and its tendency to cause favorite persons
I planted some baby trees in my previously barren yard! The maples are already starting to leaf, and since I've never planted a hickory before I'm going to fret over it until it leafs and proves to me that I didn't somehow manage to kill it
I was on time for an event that happened before noon.
The bar may be low, but for once I cleared it!
I know that I couldn't clear that bar, that's why I never make appointments before noon.
Taking part in my daughter's school dance, wearing a ballerina costume and not making her look bad, on the contrary, her laughter made my day!
I finally got an ultimate clear in Final Fantasy 14, after seeing the end of two separate fights right before the groups I was running them with went on break. For reference, Ultimates are the big end game raids that take upwards of 30+ hours of practice at the low end to get through
I taught my dog weave poles and he loves them!
Two nights ago I finished the minimum viable product of the app I've been working on for a while. I've been a programmer in one form or another since I was 8 years old, but here I am now in my twenties and I'm only just getting my first app ready to publish. I've done small stuff for my friends before once or twice, but this is my first public app. Part of me is ashamed it took this long, but a bigger part is excited! The program is a desktop client for e621 (if you don't know what that is, it's probably because you aren't a furry, and I'd advise you not to google it) that has some nifty search features the main site doesn't. It's not ready to publish yet, but I do have a first draft working, GUI and everything, and I'll probably have at least some version public (alongside the GPL'd source code) by the end of the month, hopefully by the end of the week (since that's when school starts back up).
I actually had all the backend code working for this a few months ago, wired up to a Discord bot that I had never gotten around to making public. Unfortunately, about a month ago, my laptop's SSD got corrupted (due almost entirely to my own incompetence) and I lost all the code for that bot along with all the other data on that laptop -- and hadn't made any backups. It was tough. I bounced back, though -- I rewrote the backend code in record time since I remembered how I did it and since the power of horny compelled me -- and the rewritten version even has some features the original didn't. I rearchitected the entire search query parsing algorithm and made it roughly three times as complex, but it was worth it because the spaces between terms in the search query are OPTIONAL now!
In all seriousness, if anyone reading this who knows what e621 is would find this program useful, please let me know, and I'll get you a beta copy. Bug reports and feature suggestions welcome!
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Getting a gf and convincing her to have sex.
Congrats on the sex.
I just convinced her but we haven't done anything yet. It'll be on Saturday :(
Well just remember, she can still change her mind at any time.
I made a therapy appointment
First step to feeling better! It's a tough one.
Proud of you. <3
That’s big!
Oh yes! Awesome my friend.
Good work! Keep going bravely.
Tl;dr: I asked a girl out :)
I met a girl in a flight and thought we got along well, but she was only in a layover flight while I was in the last flight of my trip. Still, we kept in touch, and she's apparently coming to my city for a few days in two weeks.
So I did something I had never done before (even though I've been in a few relationships before) and asked her out! She said "maybe" (her trip was already planned and she is busy and staying with some friends, she seemed genuinely sorry) so in two weeks I may have a date :)
Hot damn good for you!
Keep us updated! I don't think lemmy has a remindme bot but I'm saving this comment.
Beep boop. I'm writing this comment because you asked to be updated on my date.
She canceled it :(. She was only here for a few days and ended up not being available to meet with me. It's ok, I think I read more into it than I should have!
Michael Scott once quoted some guy that said "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."
You shot your shot. That's the important thing.
Good for you!
Well there's gotta be a reason she's keeping in touch after meeting you once on a flight. I don't still talk to someone I met on a plane, so you must've made an impression. I hope it pans out for you (and her).
I tip my hat to you!
It's a public holiday today in South Africa. (Good Friday)
So I came up with a cheeky dad joke
"What holiday is it? Workers day? Freedom day?"
"Good Friday"
"Every Friday is a good Friday"
I got two chuckles
Now you have three.
Lol Then there were four
To whoever downvoted this: you suck.
I got some chickens.
You can't just say you got some chickens and not show the chickens
They're sleeping, I will pay the tax tomorrow morning.
Chicken tax!
Someone please tag me if they post the chickens!
See above, I will pay the Iron Price.
Mans gotta pay the chicken tax, please show us the chickens 🐔🙏
I finally progressed to 4 reps of 45kg dumbbell overhead press.
That wild. I can't even do 4 reps of 45kg barbell overhead press. Then again I am quite a small person. I only weigh 57kg.
Yeah thats the flip side. I am a very heavy dude and it ain't all muscle that's for sure but I'm slowly working towards my goals.
Awesome, congrats!
Remember, form, form, FORM. Please make sure you research thoroughly and/or get a pro consult on proper form. Great tip I got once is to think of each movement as “practicing the move,” getting really good at doing each exercise while maintaining perfect form.
Older you will thank younger you for every moment spent on alignment, balance, weight distribution, etc. and building a foundation that lasts you a lifetime!
I purchased a new (to me) car the other day. Despite my age, this is the first time I’ve done this all on my own and I’m geeked over my credit score. ☺️
Congrats!
You’ve accomplished something that I haven’t. I’ve been an adult for a while and haven’t made a purchase of this size without some assistance. Way to go!
I fixed my refrigerator. 2 months ago I was changing the filter, and I was too lazy to turn off the water first, so the pressure was too high and it didn't seat properly. When I turned it, I broke the filter receptacle. I called Samsung, and they said they'll fix it, but they can't tell me how much it will cost until they make the work order, and at that point I can't cancel it if it's too expensive. I asked if they could ballpark, like $100 or $1000. They said they couldn't. So I told them to go fuck themselves. I ordered the part on Amazon for $60. I had to disassemble a decent amount of the refrigerator to get to the part. But I did it! I swapped out the part and everything works perfectly. All in all, it took about 2 hours. There were multiple videos on the internet on how to do it.
Fuck Samsung.
I'm never buying a Samsung appliance again for other reasons but I'll add this to the list. Great work, hope they go bankrupt since they certainly won't quit being little shits.
I don't recommend LG either. Mine is on at least its third compressor and it's less than 8 years old. And I know two other people who have had the same experience... and I only know like five people.
I fixed a boot issue from the grub command line for the first time.
Restarted my show / podcast yesterday, 1 year after losing my co-host (and best friend) to cancer. Moving forward, without forgetting him.
Some would see this as a big step. It's one of the hundreds of things that I've been doing to move forward...
Thank you for restarting, in spite of grief and bad times. So many good podcasts end abruptly with no explanation and you always wonder what happened. It must be hard to start again. Much respect
Thanks for your message! It wasn't much a mystery as he stopped joining me in the show when undergoing treatment and people knew. We got a lot of love from the fans.
Good, what is the name of your podcast?
It's called Go Pyrate. It's in québécois French.
Obligatory: Fuck cancer!
Also, sorry for your loss.
I published the first chapter of a fanfiction and someone already liked it.
Which genre?
A post apocalyptic adventure with political drama.
This week has been rough for me. My nervous system is fucked up for various reasons.
Normally I drink one cup of coffee per day. But I had an Uber passenger whom I took to his job at a convenience store. He said “Can I offer you some coffee?” so I came in and grabbed a cup (my second for the day).
That was Monday evening.
I was then awake until wednesday night. I could not catch a fucking wink of sleep for that whole time.
What the fuck, brain??
Well, Tuesday and Wednesday I obviously didn’t drive, because I’m not going to put my passengers in that situation, of having a sleep deprived Uber driver.
Finally Wednesday I realized how I could knock myself out. I cooked a big thing of pasta and ate a ton of it, and sure enough having a big meal knocked me out.
Fucked up, but I’m proud that (a) I didn’t risk my passengers’ safety by giving in to the temptation to drive (I really need the money so it was tempting), and (b) found a way to fall asleep finally.
I know this story doesn’t make sense. I really wish the way my brain worked made sense. It would make life so much easier.
I struggle with insomnia due to bipolar. This sort of reaction seems familiar and atypical. If it happens again, maybe see someone. Good on you for staying safe.
I've got a 5(A) on my math(algebra+geometry) exam. Before that I've always had a 4(B). I'm very proud of myself :)
I helped a stranger at Costco load up a giant grill into his truck. I have no idea how he would have managed it on his own.
I planted some baby trees in my previously barren yard! The maples are already starting to leaf, and since I've never planted a hickory before I'm going to fret over it until it leafs and proves to me that I didn't somehow manage to kill it
That's super exciting! Any plans for other plants?
Tentatively. I really want to have a full food forrest eventually, but I'm trying to to take it slow and start with establishing the bigger plants, then play it by ear from there.
What hardiness zone are you in, and have you ever had a paw paw fruit, by any chance? Because if it grows in your area, I highly recommend it. It's the most tropical-tasting native Midwest fruit I've ever had.
Interesting you say that! I'm in 7b (recently reclassified from 6a) and I actually did plant some pawpaw seeds! Still waiting to see if they'll sprout though - they had a bit of mould growth after taking them out from cold stratification so I'm hoping at least a couple survived.
Ooh, crossing my fingers for you! 🤞🏽🤞🏽
Managed to get myself referred to a psychiatrist/psychotherapists for my complex issues after having previously done counselling/CBT with very little help in effectiveness of my emotional wellbeing due to having a complex past. Honestly can’t really believe it’s taken for me to get health insurance to be able to get help for it after having tried to get help via state healthcare but they’re entirely useless and only offer counselling/cbt within short terms and discharge you if they can’t help you anymore ;-;
It’s been such a slow process and it’s had a huge effect on my university education negatively, due to it but honestly I’ve haven’t felt more optimistic than ever tbh despite having days where it does get difficult.
That is fantastic news. Sounds like it's been a long journey and now your persistence is about to pay off.
Speaking from decades of therapy, keep it up. You wouldn’t believe the changes that can occur over the long run.
::: spoiler (disabled in a weird way from thoracic spinal damage) No matter how impossible it seems, every time I have something take me off my physical therapy routine of mostly riding a bike every day, I drag myself back out and force myself to hold a minimum fitness level at any cost.
I got sick and a week and a half of inactivity has me at 3 days on the bike in the last 6, and I'm back to 16 miles, 2 days ago. I'm about to leave for 26.
After over 10 years of spending almost all day, every day, in bed laying very reclined, riding a bike is my only real physical activity. This is a strange state to exist in long term. I atrophy extremely quickly, probably because I was in race shape when I was disabled. While I am no longer at that level, I never lost my legs, very low resting heart rate, or lung capacity.
It hurts so bad each time I struggle back to ~30 miles daily. I can't do anything else at the same time, and take Tylenol at max doses for little relief. I can't even manage to read much or cook right now. However, I think I'm already over the hump for this one. I slept 4.5 hours last night compared to ~3.5 the nights before.
Right now I'm procrastinating. It feels impossible, like there is no way I should be going out and riding a bike, but I'm going to put down this phone, kit up, and make myself coast down the hill; mentally picking one little target after another; lying to myself dozens of times about how far I must go before I can just turn around and go home. :::
a friend invited me to play a boardgame online, called Kingdomino. I really loved it, and since money is tight, I made my own copy of the tiles for in-person play.
They aren't perfect by any means and it took a fucking age to do them, but it's a playable version I can bust out with friends and family.
Family loves Kingdomino; yours turned out great!
You painted these yourself? They look so good! (I haven't seen the originals).
I both filed my taxes and got my insurance sorted today.
Holy shit!
Made another appointment for physical therapy. The last time I was in so much pain for the next couple of days I couldn't function, but... I still can't really move around like a normal person now anyways, so I gotta give it another shot.
Thanks for asking.
Stick with it. PT can be amazing, but you have to commit to following their instructions. I spend years of my life at a 5/10 pain level with a herniated disk because I thought doctors would either just prescribe me drugs or see me as a drug seeker. PT care got me to being able to pick up my kids again.
That sounds familiar, had surgery on my back a few years ago which helped immensely but ever since then I've degraded. Walking for more than an hour puts me in pain for the rest of the day, which.... Thankfully I've made work with my life. But even things like cleaning the house requires days long rest.
I'm so happy for you and your kids, I'll keep that in mind when it gets painful. I truly appreciate your response. ♥
I’ve done physical therapy once. I thought you should work through the pain because it’s exercise. Big mistake. Communicate with your therapist to find out if the level of discomfort is expected or too much so they can help you adjust.
This! Some discomfort is to be expected but it shouldn't hurt. It should be a good "pain" like it feels good afterwards not a "I really regret all the things" pain.
I finished a landscape project in the front yard.
Pics please!
Didn’t get good before pics.
Nice! That's a lot of work. Bet you're excited to see everything come in and fill out.
I signed up to run a half marathon. I have never ran that far in my life.
You won't be able to say that for much longer. Good luck with it!
I've only ever run a half once and that was obviously the day of the race. Training I only got up to about 15k. I just thought of it as two 10k runs and it got me through.
Good luck with it!
I always liked Barney Stimson's advice on running a marathon.
Step 1: start running
Step 2: there is no step two
I started a blog this month and happy I got 20 posts published
I got my iron farm working in Minecraft
Finally found out why I couldn't renew my Let's Encrypt cert.
Did you know fresh installs of Debian Testing come with firewalld installed and enabled to auto-block all incoming connections? Me neither!
Oh yeah. Docker too. Can't spawn a docker container and don't know why? Yeah, you need to make a firewall exception so that the virtual system running on your system can see itself. Yeah.
Last week I ran my first ever under 1hr 10k(56:20 to be precise). I had run 10k before but my PB was 1:08:00.
Wow! I'm still working my way to doing 5k at any time, and this looks huge to me. Congratulations! I can't imagine having that kind of cardio endurance right now
I started with the target of 5k, once I reached that, my target was to run for 1 hour, then 10k and after that under 1 hr 10k. Now my target is to run a half-marathon.
Thank you for your words of inspiration. I'm proud of my progress to date, and really happy with how running makes me feel. But I still felt like 5k must be an eternity away.
Your words make me feel closer to 5 and even 10 k than I would have thought possible
These are all big things. I beat super mario wonder 100% the other day
It's small because I knew it was coming, but I got the job offer for a promotion! Not many people I can tell.
By popular DEMAND, here are some of the chickens mentioned yesterday. They don't have names, so we don't get attached, as they are for improving our soil and, eventually, for homemade stock.
Aww, Leslie, Susan, Hannah, and Rick are pretty cute.
Chaotica and Barbra Streisand are the top hens. They body slam Becky and hang around Rick's neck shamelessly.
I have irrational emotional resistance to thinking about long term planning related to money. Set meeting and met with three financial advisors with my partner. She said that when yesterday’s meeting touched on retirement I looked miserable, but hey, took some steps.
Built my first LED lamp
Interesting, share more details?
I picked up a Roborock S5 vacuum and flashed valetudo onto it. It's so fun!
Oh dear, I didn’t know there was tomato for vacuums… depending on how it goes, this knowledge will make you either my new friend or my latest enemy…
Finally made it over to the in-laws to replace a ceiling fan that had stopped working
Were you successful, though?
I was!
Over 2 calendar months without a drink today. Coming from 2-3 beers a day, previously. Did February, but told myself that didn't count since it's a short month, so now I've done March. I thought I would start drinking a bit now to "celebrate" but it's funny now that I'm here the urge is gone...
I'm going to Muslim wedding next month, so now I'm thinking I'll at least keep it up until then, just to make going to a dry wedding easier on myself.
I'll see after that. I definitely don't want to go back to daily drinking again.
Same boat (started with dry January and didn’t stop)!
I still feel good. Not sure long term if I’ll become more lax for special events but not for now.
I crossed the Gulfstream on my sailboat. Twice.
100 days of studying Japanese every day
Superb! I am planning to start studying Japanese. I always install duo lingo and then find it too basic and not worth it and I stop using it all together.
Can you share your study routine or resources?
Thanking you in advance!
My general approach is to use Anki as my primary resource with the addition of the Genki textbook, video lectures and grammar videos on YouTube (Toki ni Andy, Game Gengo, Livakivi, etc.), and immersion content (Manga, anime, YouTube). I use Anki because I believe it's the most effective method for me having used it previously to learn Esperanto; although I believe that you should use whatever method is the most fun for you, whatever will keep you coming back for daily work is good. Don't fall for the "Bro Science" language learning people who promise quick shortcuts, there are none, these people are usually trying to sell you something.
My daily study consists of about 40 minutes of Anki per day. I split my time between two decks, which is suboptimal in terms of occasionally containing duplicates, but I like it as it serves as a method of chunking my study out throughout the day and as a way to recognize the same Kanji in different contexts. These two decks are the KanjiTransistion and Core 2.3k decks. I do four new cards from the KanjiTransistion deck and three new cards from the 2.3k deck. Following that if I'm in the mood I'll return to reviewing my Hiragana and Katakana decks (you should do this first if you haven't already!). I also use the Review Heatmap plugin to see my streak, which helps me stay focused on goals and milestones.
You should form your own opinion about what method of learning works best for you, but don't fall victim to spending time strategizing and figuring out the scientifically perfect way to learn the language, there isn't one. If you're spending time planning how you're going to learn the language, you're spending less time actually learning. The only way to get good at a language is to literally be exposed to it and learning it for 1000+ hours.
Superb. Thank you so much for taking time to write a detailed response.
Set up immich in a vps with reverse proxied ssl access
Right on!
Explain to me like I am 5
I got a number of patches merged into Movim & after a new release is cut, I plan to ask for a review on my first NixOS module (currently complete, but no one has reviewed)
I learned to play a cool song that incorporates slapping and fingertapping on guitar, but I re-areanged it to play without fingertapping cause finger tapping on my guitar sounded horrible. Still sounded pretty close.
I wrote a short story that is actually well written and doesn’t make me puke.
Obviously I never finished it and moved on to the next project, so well… glass half empty?
I did "Friend Like Me" for karaoke with coworkers. It took quite a bit of practice, but I got most of it.
Speaking of friends, I had dinner with a friend I haven't seen since high school. They hadn't had falafel before so I made falafel, hummus, muhammara, and tzatziki. Those are two achievements: rekindling a past friendship and honing my hosting abilities.
I just reached the final cut scene of Nioh where the main story ends!
To me, the difficulty is OK and my biggest challenge is the lack of free time to play it. Free time to play video games is a luxury because not only I need to have free time, I also need to decide if I want to use it on playing video games, among lots of other hobbits, and learning, upgrading work skills. It was a struggle but I managed to finished it without feeling too guilty.
How are the hobbits taking your lack of attention to them?
I mean, they're hobbits. They turn to food for comfort.
I successfully made a checklist of work tasks, and checked several of them off
I made a gourd fiddle.
Sounds cool; pictures please!
Thank you; looks like it turned out pretty good!
Not real loud, doesn't stay in tune very well, but you can play a tune on it.
I successfully line danced in 4 inch stilletos. Yes it was a Cowboy Carter launch party.
Might have fixed my mail server with a bodge. I will see if its still up and running tomorrow.
Yesterday, I made a choice that was very tough for me to make. So three years ago, I had a best friend, and we both liked each other. Things got hard because my feelings went too far, I became emotionally unstable and turned into an attention seeker. So because of that, I then ended the friendship.
Recently, she added me back. I thought we could be friends again because I felt like I improved my mental state in the last two years and won't turn into an attention seeker again. Well, a week later, I was the same as I was three years ago.
It was ruining my mental health severely. I couldn't focus on anything. But I still wasn't ready to give up on the friendship because she was a very nice friend, and I still liked her for some reason. So I refused to give up. But things got worse real quick, and then I decided to write a long message to her explaining why I can't continue this friendship and then I blocked her everywhere.
At the cost of ending all probabilities of a future with her, I feel much better now.
Gotta do something about this attention-seeking thing, though.
You should look into the concept of borderline personality disorder and its tendency to cause favorite persons
I planted some baby trees in my previously barren yard! The maples are already starting to leaf, and since I've never planted a hickory before I'm going to fret over it until it leafs and proves to me that I didn't somehow manage to kill it
I was on time for an event that happened before noon.
The bar may be low, but for once I cleared it!
I know that I couldn't clear that bar, that's why I never make appointments before noon.
Taking part in my daughter's school dance, wearing a ballerina costume and not making her look bad, on the contrary, her laughter made my day!
I finally got an ultimate clear in Final Fantasy 14, after seeing the end of two separate fights right before the groups I was running them with went on break. For reference, Ultimates are the big end game raids that take upwards of 30+ hours of practice at the low end to get through
I taught my dog weave poles and he loves them!
Two nights ago I finished the minimum viable product of the app I've been working on for a while. I've been a programmer in one form or another since I was 8 years old, but here I am now in my twenties and I'm only just getting my first app ready to publish. I've done small stuff for my friends before once or twice, but this is my first public app. Part of me is ashamed it took this long, but a bigger part is excited! The program is a desktop client for e621 (if you don't know what that is, it's probably because you aren't a furry, and I'd advise you not to google it) that has some nifty search features the main site doesn't. It's not ready to publish yet, but I do have a first draft working, GUI and everything, and I'll probably have at least some version public (alongside the GPL'd source code) by the end of the month, hopefully by the end of the week (since that's when school starts back up).
I actually had all the backend code working for this a few months ago, wired up to a Discord bot that I had never gotten around to making public. Unfortunately, about a month ago, my laptop's SSD got corrupted (due almost entirely to my own incompetence) and I lost all the code for that bot along with all the other data on that laptop -- and hadn't made any backups. It was tough. I bounced back, though -- I rewrote the backend code in record time since I remembered how I did it
and since the power of horny compelled me-- and the rewritten version even has some features the original didn't. I rearchitected the entire search query parsing algorithm and made it roughly three times as complex, but it was worth it because the spaces between terms in the search query are OPTIONAL now!In all seriousness, if anyone reading this who knows what e621 is would find this program useful, please let me know, and I'll get you a beta copy. Bug reports and feature suggestions welcome!
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Getting a gf and convincing her to have sex.
Congrats on the sex.
I just convinced her but we haven't done anything yet. It'll be on Saturday :(
Well just remember, she can still change her mind at any time.
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