Tl;Dr: a meme went around asking women if they'd rather be stuck on an isolated island with a strange man or a strange bear. Most women chose the bear, largely due to the bear being more predictable and easier to deal with than a man inclined to do them harm, which, based on the experience of most women, is a whole lot of men.
Fragile men took this as an attack on all men everywhere and were offended at being "called a predator".
There's a pretty good thread in my comment history where I try to address the issue with one such fellow male and their response is about what you'd expect, confirming all the reasons why women chose the strange bear over the strange man
Edit/preface: none of this is intended to diminish the very real and valid sense of fear that women may feel towards unknown/untrusted men. I am in no way trying to gatekeep other people’s emotions, nor saying women should “toughen up” or whatever. If my comment was construed as such, I apologize.
It’s a bit of a silly premise, because I’m willing to bet the VAST majority of answerers have never been in close proximity to an actual, honest to god, “hmmm that meatbag looks tasty imma eat its face” bear.
I have. It’ll bring you a clarity of mind and a knowledge of complete vulnerability that you can’t really find outside of other imminently life-threatening situations.
Sure, random dude could be a psycho. But if there’s not much (or any) food on the island, the bear is definitely going to eat you at some point, and there’s nothing you can do about that.
All that said, as a dude myself, I wish there were less shitty men out there. Why can’t we all just fucking respect other humans?
Why can’t we all just fucking respect other humans?
Exhibit A: The internet.
Exhibit B: Social Media.
I rest my case your honour. No further questions. I object.
You're objecting to your own argument!
Jury's not expecting that, are they?
It reminded me of Liar Liar.
Prosecutor: "He's badgering the witness!"
Josh: "It's his witness..."
It’ll bring you a clarity of mind and a knowledge of complete vulnerability that you can’t really find outside of other imminently life-threatening situations.
Thanks to that experience now you know how women feel very often, sometimes multiple times in the same day. It's something they learn to live with their whole lives.
It's not hyperbole. They're not making light of the danger. When women say "I'd rather meet a bear" they really mean it. It's the same feeling, but it would happen extremely rarely instead of daily.
I think the question here is, if the bear attacked - would people believe the woman that she was attacked? Would they blame her for what she was wearing?
she wasn’t wearing bear armor, and thus obviously wanted to be mauled
Well... When a bear ate Grizzly Man and his girlfriend, a bunch of people blamed it on her menstrual cycle, so I think the chances are high that people would blame her for one thing or another. Perhaps they'd blame her for choosing to be alone on an island with a fuckin bear.
a bear will kill you, perhaps horribly.
a bear will not kidnap you, rape you, and keep you in a cage.
I'm frankly amazed I have to keep explaining the order of magnitude difference in the horror of wildlife vs. horrible humans.
Maybe I'm misunderstanding, but it sounds like you are trying to say that kidnap and rape are magnitudes more horrible than being horribly murdered?
sounds like you are trying to say that kidnap and rape are magnitudes more horrible than being horribly murdered?
that's a bingo. Kidnap, imprisonment and rape are worse, in my opinion, than just being murdered.
just a few moments search. I'm certain there's far more.
It wasn't whether they are worse (I'd agree that they are often worse), but if they are magnitudes worse. If the kidnap, imprisonment and rape of one person is comparable to the murder of hundreds or thousands of people (since that would be magnitudes more).
In my opinion to call one magnitudes worse than the other is to immensely downplay the seriousness of the other.
magnitudes
I mean, one death by bear, vs., years of imprisonment and repeated sexual assault with no end in sight. seems like magnitudes of difference to me. YMMV
Ah ok. I was thinking of specific instances rather than an indefinitely long situation, so I see where you are coming from now.
When those are just the precursors to the horrible murder, I'd have to say yes, magnitudes worse.
Because on one hand you get brutally murdered, and on the other you get brutally raped and brutally murdered.
Makes perfect sense to me.
So to be clear, when something is magnitudes more than something else, that means on the scale of 100-1000x more, or even higher powers of ten. If rape + murder is magnitudes worse than murder, then definitionally rape alone must also be magnitudes worse than murder.
Of course multiple atrocities are worse than a single atrocity, but talking about one being magnitudes worse than the other, to me seems to immensely downplay the seriousness of the other.
For example, to me "murder is magnitudes worse than petty theft" would be an appropriate use of the word.
I'm aware of the definition of the word, yes. And I stand by what I said.
Then I think I'm not understanding something here, maybe you can explain (asking genuinely). Because it seems to me that what you said doesn't make sense with the definition of the word?
I think what you should be considering is just how horrifying a brutal rape is. I'm not going to describe that. I'm going to tell you to put on your thinking hat, and really do some thunking on this one.
I'm not sure why you are being so condescending. I'm well aware how brutal rape can be, I'm also aware how brutal murder can be. But this doesn't explain the logic of yours that I wanted to understand, which was that "when rape includes murder, then rape is magnitudes worse than murder alone".
For one thing, that isn't what I said, is it?
Second, I'm not explaining why a brutal rape is awful. We are done.
Isn't it?
When those are just the precursors to the horrible murder, I'd have to say yes, magnitudes worse.
And I never asked you to explain why rape is awful, I never disagreed with that. I wanted you to explain why it being a precursor to murder, makes it magnitudes worse than murder. But for some reason you insist on pretending that I'm asking "why is rape awful"??
A) it's much less about whether the bear is a bigger threat and much more about how fucking awful men must treat women for the average woman to go "hmmm... Maybe the bear, tbh?" The fact that it's even something women have to think about for more than a split second is a dramatic failure of our society. THAT is the point, and any discussion of "well you don't know about bears then..." is reply-guy shit that misses the entire point and simply serves to further solidify how blind most men are to what goes on in the day to day life of women.
B) An aggressive bear is a known quantity. Is it a threat? Obviously. But it's a threat that we understand extremely well. Like, a quick Google search will teach you everything you need to know about what to do if you see a bear. But a strange, unknown man? Who the fuck knows. They might seem perfectly pleasant and reasonable, act like your friend, and then flip the fuck out when the woman refuses to sleep with him that night in return for all that manly protection he provided during the day or whatever. THAT is why women pick the bear: a known problem is often preferable to uncertainty that could lead to being extremely vulnerable against a really smart attacker.
Remember, the question wasn't "would you rather be in a locked room with a bear or a man?" It was "would you rather be stuck on an island with a strange bear or a strange man?"
And to your final question, why can't we just respect other humans? Great fucking question, but the misogynists should be the ones facing that inquiry, not the people on the internet trying to point you towards them. It may be more uncomfortable and even dangerous to confront them, but don't take the easy way out by asking victims and their allies to be "nicer" instead
Considering no one I've met so far that I've told "a grizzly bear can bend steel bars" knows that - no, most people don't know much about bears, or how dangerous a bear is. Heck most don't know how fast a bear can run or swim. Heck there's people who constantly get injured or killed because they want to pet a wild bear.
This doesn't negate point A that you made, but the other huge factor is, most women, men, and everything in between don't really know much about bears, or have been exposed to bears, and that's a gigantic reason why so many women picked the bear too. Heck, your point B proves that - you clearly don't understand the threat, or you'd know that it's not a threat, it's a death sentence. You are not, in virtually any scenario of being stuck on an island with a ever growingly hungry bear, going to live. You can't swim away, you can't climb a tree to escape. You'd have a much better chance of killing an openly hostile man than surviving a wild bear. You basically just said "yeah, I know how missiles work, they fly in the air and go boom when they land - that's why I can survive a missile".
And the question was designed to create this divide, because had this question instead been with something that IS perceived as more dangerous (like, would you rather be stuck in the middle of a large pool with a shark of a man), it wouldn't have received the same amount of replies, since sharks are seen and portrayed as scarier than bears. It wasn't designed to actually improve society, it was designed to drive another wedge and make us forget that the real danger is the wealthy and corporations that literally kill and poison us daily.
And the question was designed to create this divide
It's literally just a classic page from the bigot's playbook, but since it's being used against cishet men for some reason that makes it okay?
If JK Rowling said she would rather go to a bathroom with a bear than a trans woman I think we would all rightfully call that hate speech.
If a white supremecist said this about black people it would be dismissed as racist nonsense. I've seen a lot of defenders saying that this is somehow different because violence by cishet men against women is real. How many years have racists loved to use the good ol' "did you know x% of crimes are committed by x% of the population" tactic for?
And I see the "not all men" getting tossed around. How is that any different from saying "I know not all Muslims are terrorists. The good ones know we aren't talking about them"? Change the conversation from cis men to anything else and it gets called out as hate speech. It does nothing to help solve any issues or lead to a better society.
Does the question say "with a bear, in an enclosed space, where the bear only has you as a source of food?" No, it didn't. Your entire argument is based on "women - and people like you - are dumb and don't know what they're talking about if they think men are less scary than bears." But the truth is, YOU don't understand the question being posed. You are literally doing the thing that people have a problem with. You aren't asking questions. You aren't seeking clarification. You aren't giving the benefit of the doubt. You aren't trying to understand. You aren't doing anything to indicate that you aren't exactly the reason why so many women picked the bear.
You could have said all of this in a way that wasn't being an ass. But you chose not to. Thank you for self-identifying as part of the problem.
Does the question also say "on an island, the size of Ireland"? If you're going to argue in bad faith, we can be here all day, because if it's just you and some man in Madagascar, you're equally as safe as sharing that island as with a bear or much anything really.
But then, you knew that and are being purposefully obtuse, since "island" type questions are usually about being in a limited amount of space (btw - bears hunt in forests, known not enclosed spaces, so kinda still proving my point most people really don't understand the danger a bear poses).
Either way, you're falling for the trap I just mentioned. It's not to further discussion on the problem, because it doesn't actually address the problem. Secondly, there's no reason I need to prove I'm the "reason" so many women picked the bear. That's a logical fallacy designed to inflame, not unite. And at it's core, you're proving what some have said, and showing how this question is malicious - it's designed to paint men as bad by default, rather that what the real problem is - statistically more likely to be abusive than the other sex. And before you misinterpret that, statistically significant ≠ everyone. It means to practice caution, of course, because the problem is there. It doesn't mean assume every single man will be evil, because then you won't be able to have healthy relationships (and I'm not even talking romantic ones here, but familial, social, professional) if by default you assume you will be in danger. That is, after all, the only logical conclusion to thinking a random man is more dangerous than one of the strongest predatory mammals on earth.
That you then dismiss someone simply because they didn't tow some now created narrative is exactly what identity politics also wants. Because then you're not open to dialogue that might fix the problem, and you're also preventing focus from the true root of virtually all modern societal issues: the wealthy ruling class. They are, end of the day, the ones that tip the scales of power so that things are the way they are.
Just as one example - does roe v Wade being overturned help in any way with the current fear many women have of men? No, it doesn't, because now rape becomes even more horrific without access to abortion. So why would Republicans appoint members to a supreme court that would do such a thing?
Well, we don't have to guess, because they've even said the quiet part out loud - to create more cheap human labor for the economy. And that's not the only thing it does - it's harder for a worker taking care of a child to quit a job where she's being mistreated or underpaid. It's harder for her to risk her job to join a union.
And that's just one part of the multifaceted issue that is (especially American) women being afraid of men in general, regardless of the bear or not. And it, like most societal issues, come back to the wealthy ruling class. But instead of that, they've managed to get people like you to play identity politics. Solve the real problem - an oligarchy that wants people divided - and most of the other issues go away.
This furthering of a perception of men being more dangerous than a bear is just another scheme to prevent us from working together.
Yikes. That's a while lot of words just to show exactly how much you are part of the problem.
This isn't about you. It was never about you. Your desire to pivot this to a class issue is some hardcore mansplaining. Get over yourself and listen to victims instead of thinking you know better than everyone.
Well, I guess you at least proved to everyone here that you're arguing in bad faith and not reading any responses.
Oh I read the whole thing. Doesn't change my opinion of your behavior one bit
I didn’t mean to diminish any of that. I agree - the fact that so many women would answer that way is distressing.
I understand that it wasn't your intention, but by shifting the conversation towards "have these people been near an angry bear? Well I have" you inadvertently detract from the issue at hand. It misses the point of the conversation: everyone knows an angry bear in your face is a more immediate threat than an unknown average male on the street. That's not why the women pick the bear.
That whole thing is not to be taken literally and if you do you are missing the point by a mile.
I'm pretty sure that almost none of the men who were offended have spent time in an enclosed area with an angry human who is a foot taller and 100 pounds heavier than they are.
On the contrary I think you'll find close to 100% of them were indeed children at one point.
...and many still seem to be children.
[thanks so much for the set up!]
Have a rough childhood? I was never in a room with an angry human who was a foot taller and 100lbs heavier until much later in life. Sounds like maybe there's something to consider here in terms of normalizing aggressive male behavior.... hmmm
I straight up don't believe that you were never in a room with an angry adult as a child. Personally I was never sexually or physically abused, but I know plenty of people who have been. A lot of strides have been made over the last several decades to improve parenting, but no one can be perfect for 18 years. Plus you add in teachers, coaches, or other community leaders that might be trusted with children.
The most important part of my comment was just pointing out the absurdity of the comment I was replying to. I could also point out the extent of hyperbole they used- the average American adult male is ~30 lbs heavier than the average American adult female, per the CDC. Or... Well, I could dive deeper into it but ultimately this whole conversation is based in bigotry and isn't worth looking at much more closely than that.
You think most adults were 100lbs heavier than me at 18?
Bruh, based on your criteria I had until maybe 15 at the latest and then only for men on the larger end of the spectrum.
Fact is, my family was kind and loving, I associated with other families that were equally so, I went to a private school with caring, supportive teachers, and I was certainly never left alone with someone my parents didn't know well.
Whether it happened a handful of times I can't say, but I certainly have no memory of it until my mid to late teens when I started spending most of my time with people of my own accord and took more risks.
I was truly blessed to grow up the way I did. I'm sorry you didn't have the same
You think most adults were 100lbs heavier than me at 18?
No. I never said that. I have no idea why you think I did?. According to Guinness, the heaviest baby ever birthed was 22lbs in 1879 (and only lived a few hours). I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess you were born weighing less than that, and spent a considerable portion of your early years weighing less than most adults.
I think you're construing this into specifically abusive and destructive people. Those do exist, but my comment was referring to a broader scope. Anger can be a valid emotion, and there are healthy and unhealthy ways of handling it.
Ultimately, my point is that the original comment I replied to was ridiculous.
It's called going to McDonald's walk-in and seeing a Karen...
While I don't want to diminish the problems of the interactions between men and women in our society, I think there's a point that's not been discussed here yet: what does STRANGE bear entail? Is it sick? Is it like an eldritch horror bear? Does it just behave weirdly sometimes? Does it just wear a hat?
Dr. Strange Bear
I'll leave it up to you whether that's Marvel's Dr. Strange or a twist on Dr. Srange Love
For someone raised in a city, all bears are strange. Whereas, a man has to have some visible deviation from normal behaviour like a red armband or an anime porn hoodie in order to be strange.
It's to make sure you don't assume they mean the familiar bear from down the street
It travels around with a little pal named Boo Boo, and steals pick-a-nick baskets.
I find this concerning.
That gender disputes reached such an explosive level, that women say they'd rather a bear join them than a man and that man get super upset over this. There's a little truth in everything. Imagine trying your hardest as a man and still being told ppl prefer a wild animal over you. Imagine knowing as a woman you can't trust men to the point where you'd prefer a wild and dangerous animal keep you company. And also imagine hating another gender with such a deep passion that a meme becomes a toxic war of insult and discrediting.
I don't like this timeline, I want a do-over.
I think you hit on something that is a pretty big part of the problem: Men taking it personally. As far as I know, no specific man is mentioned, but a lot seem to insert themselves into the situation.
I try to do my best in life to be a good person, to be a good man, but I completely get why a woman would be worried about being in the middle of nowhere with a strange man, even if that man was me, because they don't know what that person is capable of.
Oh so if someone says 'black people are dangerous thugs, I'd rather encounter a bear than a removed', it's all good, a black person shouldn't take it personally? After all, no specific black person is mentioned. Come on, just be a good ally, stfu and nod.
I am willing to bet many, many people wouldn't be ok with that, and rightfully so. I know I would not.
The automatic moderation is kind of funny here lmao
That is, at least to me, is both a bit of a strawman and an invalid comparison.
First: The statement "black people are" implies it applies to all of them, or at least the average person, whereas the sentiment that I usually see isn't that all men are dangerous but rather that some are and it's difficult, if not impossible, to know which are beforehand.
Second: Men have not been marginalized, discriminated, and systematically oppressed for centuries. People of color have been, at the very least in the west and the countries they've colonized.
There's an additional point to be made here that I feel is relevant: Ethnicity does not inherently infer a large difference in physical characteristics the same way biological sex does. I don't imagine the strength of an average person varies as much depending on ethnicity as it does depending on biological sex. The average man is much physically stronger than the average woman, in a physical confrontation she'd be at a distinct disadvantage.
"black people" applies to all black people, but "men" doesn't apply to all men?
That's honestly an interesting way of thinking.
I'm not sure if you're trolling or not but "black people are dangerous thugs" is very clearly a racist generalizing statement.
Sorry to ping you again, but I want to run a few other things at you, as I find people with the ability to doublethink without blinking absolutely fascinating.
Let's say, okay, 'men' is vague enough that a single individual man should not feel insulted when someone says they're so bad they would rather get mauled by a bear, because... Reasons idk.
Is 'women' vague enough so that it's just as fine to say, idk, some stereotypical bullshit like 'women are weak, dumb, and therefore belong in the kitchen'? Should an individual woman not be annoyed after hearing this? Is it not sexist?
What if it was stereotypes targeting idk, LGBT people, Christians, Muslims, liberals, right wingers, etc?
How do you determine whether a group is sufficiently generic that they are not allowed to be annoyed at stereotypes targeting them?
Let me know when you want to have a conversation instead of arguing in bad faith. Aside from that I suggest you learn how to be less angry about things on the internet, it'll make you happier.
I'm not angry, I am curious. This whole man or bear thing has been an absolute blast for me.
It's a shame you refuse to answer though. That makes me sad. Why are you uncomfortable with this question?
I'm not angry, I am curious.
Bullshit, you're JAQ'ing off.
FWIW I disliked the answer too, it's feels pretty insulting, but then it struck me. I go camping deep in the back country. When I go, sometimes I carry a gun.
The gun isn't for bears or mountain lions, but for the off chance I'd run into a person with bad intentions 10 miles out on a remote trail, 30 miles from the nearest po-dunk town. They'd probably just be another hiker, but maybe not. The point is I'd rather run into a wild animal in the woods than a person I don't know with unknown intentions.
Idk about whatever arbitrary lines the other commenter has.
I was just relaying a way I thought about it that helped me try to relate and understand.
Asking questions is being angry now?
Man you guys really don't like having your opinions challenged lmao.
Dude made an absolute arbitrary selection between two groups of people about who's generic enough to not be angry at being targeted by stereotypes.
I'm just curious about where that arbitrary line sits.
I never claimed the opposite.
Like, I understand why some people might answer that way. And as a dude, it makes me sad that it’s such an apparently omnipresent societal problem these days.
THIS is EXACTLY the point of the meme. If you understand this, and are a man, you stfu and nod along, or support the women talking about it as a good ally should. The men who don't understand this are the reply-guys trying to explain how all the women are unreasonable and this is discrimination against men and blah blah blah
It's pretty insane just how many men can't wrap their heads around something this simple. Goes to show how deep the patriarchy programming goes.
I'd rather a strange bear than a strange women.
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Now watch as this gets down voted and I get called sexist...
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Non-misandry/-sexism version:
A meme was made posing the humorous rhetoric of whether sex A would rather be stuck on an island with sex B or a bear. No distinction was made about the character of the sex B persona or the bear persona, it was left as a fill-in-the-blank for those who respond to rhetoric.
Sex B largely understood this to be stereotyping and hate speech directed towards them at large without any distinction about whom the rhetoric was implying. Audience was then divided between those who recognize equality and sexism versus those who believe either only apply to marginalized groups
with love, from an agender
Don't forget it's literally a very slight rewording of a common racist one, but that's different. For reasons. "Rather run into a black man or a bear (or wolf, or other dangerous animal)" has been asked by racists for years.
Punching up and punching down are extremely different and your comparison is deeply disingenuous.
Black men don't hold positions of power in society simply by being black. Black men don't get off with nothing but a slap on the wrist for serial sexual assault because "we don't want to ruin the promising life he has ahead of him".
Knock it off with the false equivalence.
Because the stereotype of crossing the street when heading towards a black men isn't a thing? Just because you don't believe it don't make it untrue. I bet if you'd honestly be surprised. But your probably still shocked when a priest molests a child.
You didn't read his response correctly, and your response comes off as nonsense because of this. Replace black with white, and the comparison is more accurate. Understand the dynamics between oppressor and the oppressed, and the different ways similar rhetorics are used to muddy the waters to create disingenuous conversations. "It's sexist because women are saying men are scary" is a bad take.
Dear Dr. Leg your mind is made up cool. Good luck with your crusade. Why don't you get back to asking important questions now like weather a woman would rather fuck a sparkling vampire or a tan werewolf? https://youtu.be/O7jN9_vB174
Are you a bot?
So youve never seen a bear in the woods? Hint: if you see a bear, its probably brown, and you're in a heap of trouble. Best hope you're in a car or something like that. They will eat you alive if they can get at you.
Gods, it's like some people never passed 10th grade English. Sometimes the important part of the text isn't the literal meaning. There's like metaphor and hyperbole and shit.
When you meet a bear in the woods, there is a 0% chance they will notice how the situation bears a resemblance to the popular meme and proceed to mansplain about how bears are more dangerous.
This is and has always been the one and only reason women choose the bear. But one question yet eludes us: how did the cycle start?
If youre so suicidal youd rather to be eaten alive than a chance to be condescended to, theres a problem.
Dude was going around asking if theyd rather meet a man or a bear in the woods. There isnt much hidden meaning behind it, its not a 4deep2me tumblr post
Here's the thing. You're very right, it's not deep at all. Metaphors, similies, analogies, hyperboles, implications, etc. are all very normal parts of human speech, and this meme is pretty surface level in its requirement to use these things.
However, something has dawned on me, and I feel it necessary to ask you: are you perhaps on the spectrum? We sometimes have difficulties not taking everything literally, and this causes a communication gap. If this is the case, I will be completely and totally clear for you.
We are not literally talking about a literal bear vs a literal man. This is in fact a real metaphor for "danger vs danger". The literal interpretation is "men can be scary to many women". Going further, respond to this point and don't fixate on the hypothetical bear.
Depends on where you live... Northeast us most likely a black bear, as long as its not a mother protecting its cubs make some noise and it will leave you alone. If your in the artic, how the hell are you in woods but ignoring that's and it's likely a polar bear and you are dead.
The whole point of it is to show that most women are irrationally afraid of men. So many immediately assume the bear is somehow good and the man is somehow evil when the stats for reality show the complete opposite.
Edit: (Yikes, I feel sorry for all of you. Not sure if it’s white knights, too much death scrolling on the internet, or the weird woke Lemmy culture.)
The bear would not call women irrational.
(The best part of this meme is that the people in question supply the rebukes themselves.)
You're right, a bear wouldn't call women irrational.
Personally, I'd rather be called irrational than get mauled/eaten by a bear, but I know better than to kink shame people.
Good job telling on yourself! This is my favorite part of the meme.
You don't have to be a predator to enable and protect predators.
Try listening to women next time instead of being, you know, exactly the thing they're talking about 👍
They are probably pretty rational about men. I think they like bears a bit too much. Bears are the scariest thing on earth. 2/7ths of our continents are named as bear warnings.
No, the point was to who that women so frequently suffer from abuse from one or more men in their lives that they would rather pick a wild ainmal.
Now there’s a real question. Would you rather come across Pepe the Frog or a man in the woods?
Holy shit you laid the bait brilliantly cause look at all the dipshits in this comment section. Fuckin dumpster fire.
It was perfectly crafted ragebait. Your feedback will be used to improve future psyops.
No but you need to understand, not all men are bears or something
People who don't understand why she would pick the bear don't deserve bears.
As a dude i prefer a bear.. if I can't choose my wife
Same, this comment section is an amazing collection of why
Many men would prefer to be a momma bear's cub. That sort of protection and care is one of the most valuable treasures out there.
have we finally full circled to the gay men aspect of bears?
Or are we still waiting on that?
Of course women want to be lost in a forest with a fabulous hairy gay man
i can't think of someone who wouldn't to be honest. Would be a rather amusing time.
he just don't care to be there with her basic ass
I have a job that I go to residential homes to fix computers. 100% would rather be there alone with a 1%er than a women.
My personal experience tells me that it's safer whether statistically it is or not.
Got falsely accused of sexual assault a while back after my patient didn't like her workers compensation case outcome. Ruined how I felt my job and I quit the following year. Every female patient felt like a minefield after that.
I hope the accusations didn't lead to anything. Sad that people on here seemingly disregard personal experience, despite no generalizations being made, and you only sharing you feelings.
Oh it got shut down fast. Nothing happened, just soured the gig for me thats all.
Yeah I can see why people wouldn't be thrilled for me to mention it in a thread like this. This thread is about women. And bears 🐻
That's good to hear.
Yeah but still, it's not like you turned into an incel because of it. I think your response to that situation is totally understandable, and so is wanting to share it.
OP's username got smushed with the community when I read it and thought this was the LinuxMemes community...
I spent way too long trying to figure out what Linux terminology related to "women bears" before reading the comments and realizing this didn't have anything to do with Linux, lol. I was searching for famous bears named Wayland for a bit there.
Hello fellow bear, I don't know why we're talking about women either. Since we're both fellow confused bears can you please direct me to the nearest top secret bear club, where we bears meet to eat berries and drink fermented honey while laughing at beaver related memes?
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Women are much more likely to be physically hurt by a male partner than a (totally safe 🙄) bear because (I know, shocker) women spend a lot more time around male partners than bears.
The meme said "strange man" not "male partner".
No-one is talking about "women bears". There are people talking about women and bears for sure, though.
At least one person was talking about the sexy waddle of the female bear.
Edit: Downvote it all you want, but that's the fucking source.
I'm pretty sure the downvotes are just men who don't know any better (or less likely, users who passively despise tiktok). It wasn't inflammatory or offensive, and it's a coherent and brief video. Thanks for sharing.
I didn't follow any of this, it was forced down my throat :
Random Twitter woman says she'd rather be with a bear than a man while in the woods.
Some men gets angry that she'd rather be with a dengerous wild beast rather than a man.
the Woman double down. Other women agree with her.
it becomes a meme. Mostly by men making fun of how it would end if she really meets a bear or making jokes about how even the bear wouldn't want to be near her.
I don't want to choose the dangerous wild beast, I want to choose the bear. /j
I rate this meme 0.5/10.
The different fonts unironically and questionable punchline all add up to make this score.
I rate your rating a 4/10
It’s been rated a 5/23 so far and I think that’s even a little high for what’s basically a shitpost by me.
Tl;Dr: a meme went around asking women if they'd rather be stuck on an isolated island with a strange man or a strange bear. Most women chose the bear, largely due to the bear being more predictable and easier to deal with than a man inclined to do them harm, which, based on the experience of most women, is a whole lot of men.
Fragile men took this as an attack on all men everywhere and were offended at being "called a predator".
There's a pretty good thread in my comment history where I try to address the issue with one such fellow male and their response is about what you'd expect, confirming all the reasons why women chose the strange bear over the strange man
Edit/preface: none of this is intended to diminish the very real and valid sense of fear that women may feel towards unknown/untrusted men. I am in no way trying to gatekeep other people’s emotions, nor saying women should “toughen up” or whatever. If my comment was construed as such, I apologize.
It’s a bit of a silly premise, because I’m willing to bet the VAST majority of answerers have never been in close proximity to an actual, honest to god, “hmmm that meatbag looks tasty imma eat its face” bear.
I have. It’ll bring you a clarity of mind and a knowledge of complete vulnerability that you can’t really find outside of other imminently life-threatening situations.
Sure, random dude could be a psycho. But if there’s not much (or any) food on the island, the bear is definitely going to eat you at some point, and there’s nothing you can do about that.
All that said, as a dude myself, I wish there were less shitty men out there. Why can’t we all just fucking respect other humans?
Exhibit A: The internet.
Exhibit B: Social Media.
I rest my case your honour. No further questions. I object.
You're objecting to your own argument!
Jury's not expecting that, are they?
It reminded me of Liar Liar.
Prosecutor: "He's badgering the witness!"
Josh: "It's his witness..."
Thanks to that experience now you know how women feel very often, sometimes multiple times in the same day. It's something they learn to live with their whole lives.
It's not hyperbole. They're not making light of the danger. When women say "I'd rather meet a bear" they really mean it. It's the same feeling, but it would happen extremely rarely instead of daily.
I think the question here is, if the bear attacked - would people believe the woman that she was attacked? Would they blame her for what she was wearing?
Well... When a bear ate Grizzly Man and his girlfriend, a bunch of people blamed it on her menstrual cycle, so I think the chances are high that people would blame her for one thing or another. Perhaps they'd blame her for choosing to be alone on an island with a fuckin bear.
a bear will kill you, perhaps horribly.
a bear will not kidnap you, rape you, and keep you in a cage.
I'm frankly amazed I have to keep explaining the order of magnitude difference in the horror of wildlife vs. horrible humans.
Maybe I'm misunderstanding, but it sounds like you are trying to say that kidnap and rape are magnitudes more horrible than being horribly murdered?
that's a bingo. Kidnap, imprisonment and rape are worse, in my opinion, than just being murdered.
And it's hardly an isolated incident:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fritzl_case
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kidnapping_of_Tanya_Nicole_Kach
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Natascha_Kampusch
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kidnapping_of_Jaycee_Dugard
https://voi.id/en/memori/5584
https://6abc.com/michael-nicole-swanson-arrested-couple-charged-with-raping-kidnapping-2-women-intellectual-disabilities-from-delaware-county/14716082/
https://www.cbsnews.com/sacramento/news/elk-grove-kidnapping-rape-assault-stockton/
just a few moments search. I'm certain there's far more.
It wasn't whether they are worse (I'd agree that they are often worse), but if they are magnitudes worse. If the kidnap, imprisonment and rape of one person is comparable to the murder of hundreds or thousands of people (since that would be magnitudes more).
In my opinion to call one magnitudes worse than the other is to immensely downplay the seriousness of the other.
I mean, one death by bear, vs., years of imprisonment and repeated sexual assault with no end in sight. seems like magnitudes of difference to me. YMMV
Ah ok. I was thinking of specific instances rather than an indefinitely long situation, so I see where you are coming from now.
When those are just the precursors to the horrible murder, I'd have to say yes, magnitudes worse.
Because on one hand you get brutally murdered, and on the other you get brutally raped and brutally murdered.
Makes perfect sense to me.
So to be clear, when something is magnitudes more than something else, that means on the scale of 100-1000x more, or even higher powers of ten. If rape + murder is magnitudes worse than murder, then definitionally rape alone must also be magnitudes worse than murder.
Of course multiple atrocities are worse than a single atrocity, but talking about one being magnitudes worse than the other, to me seems to immensely downplay the seriousness of the other.
For example, to me "murder is magnitudes worse than petty theft" would be an appropriate use of the word.
I'm aware of the definition of the word, yes. And I stand by what I said.
Then I think I'm not understanding something here, maybe you can explain (asking genuinely). Because it seems to me that what you said doesn't make sense with the definition of the word?
I think what you should be considering is just how horrifying a brutal rape is. I'm not going to describe that. I'm going to tell you to put on your thinking hat, and really do some thunking on this one.
I'm not sure why you are being so condescending. I'm well aware how brutal rape can be, I'm also aware how brutal murder can be. But this doesn't explain the logic of yours that I wanted to understand, which was that "when rape includes murder, then rape is magnitudes worse than murder alone".
For one thing, that isn't what I said, is it?
Second, I'm not explaining why a brutal rape is awful. We are done.
Isn't it?
And I never asked you to explain why rape is awful, I never disagreed with that. I wanted you to explain why it being a precursor to murder, makes it magnitudes worse than murder. But for some reason you insist on pretending that I'm asking "why is rape awful"??
Here's what you're missing:
A) it's much less about whether the bear is a bigger threat and much more about how fucking awful men must treat women for the average woman to go "hmmm... Maybe the bear, tbh?" The fact that it's even something women have to think about for more than a split second is a dramatic failure of our society. THAT is the point, and any discussion of "well you don't know about bears then..." is reply-guy shit that misses the entire point and simply serves to further solidify how blind most men are to what goes on in the day to day life of women.
B) An aggressive bear is a known quantity. Is it a threat? Obviously. But it's a threat that we understand extremely well. Like, a quick Google search will teach you everything you need to know about what to do if you see a bear. But a strange, unknown man? Who the fuck knows. They might seem perfectly pleasant and reasonable, act like your friend, and then flip the fuck out when the woman refuses to sleep with him that night in return for all that manly protection he provided during the day or whatever. THAT is why women pick the bear: a known problem is often preferable to uncertainty that could lead to being extremely vulnerable against a really smart attacker.
Remember, the question wasn't "would you rather be in a locked room with a bear or a man?" It was "would you rather be stuck on an island with a strange bear or a strange man?"
And to your final question, why can't we just respect other humans? Great fucking question, but the misogynists should be the ones facing that inquiry, not the people on the internet trying to point you towards them. It may be more uncomfortable and even dangerous to confront them, but don't take the easy way out by asking victims and their allies to be "nicer" instead
Considering no one I've met so far that I've told "a grizzly bear can bend steel bars" knows that - no, most people don't know much about bears, or how dangerous a bear is. Heck most don't know how fast a bear can run or swim. Heck there's people who constantly get injured or killed because they want to pet a wild bear.
This doesn't negate point A that you made, but the other huge factor is, most women, men, and everything in between don't really know much about bears, or have been exposed to bears, and that's a gigantic reason why so many women picked the bear too. Heck, your point B proves that - you clearly don't understand the threat, or you'd know that it's not a threat, it's a death sentence. You are not, in virtually any scenario of being stuck on an island with a ever growingly hungry bear, going to live. You can't swim away, you can't climb a tree to escape. You'd have a much better chance of killing an openly hostile man than surviving a wild bear. You basically just said "yeah, I know how missiles work, they fly in the air and go boom when they land - that's why I can survive a missile".
And the question was designed to create this divide, because had this question instead been with something that IS perceived as more dangerous (like, would you rather be stuck in the middle of a large pool with a shark of a man), it wouldn't have received the same amount of replies, since sharks are seen and portrayed as scarier than bears. It wasn't designed to actually improve society, it was designed to drive another wedge and make us forget that the real danger is the wealthy and corporations that literally kill and poison us daily.
It's literally just a classic page from the bigot's playbook, but since it's being used against cishet men for some reason that makes it okay?
If JK Rowling said she would rather go to a bathroom with a bear than a trans woman I think we would all rightfully call that hate speech.
If a white supremecist said this about black people it would be dismissed as racist nonsense. I've seen a lot of defenders saying that this is somehow different because violence by cishet men against women is real. How many years have racists loved to use the good ol' "did you know x% of crimes are committed by x% of the population" tactic for?
And I see the "not all men" getting tossed around. How is that any different from saying "I know not all Muslims are terrorists. The good ones know we aren't talking about them"? Change the conversation from cis men to anything else and it gets called out as hate speech. It does nothing to help solve any issues or lead to a better society.
Does the question say "with a bear, in an enclosed space, where the bear only has you as a source of food?" No, it didn't. Your entire argument is based on "women - and people like you - are dumb and don't know what they're talking about if they think men are less scary than bears." But the truth is, YOU don't understand the question being posed. You are literally doing the thing that people have a problem with. You aren't asking questions. You aren't seeking clarification. You aren't giving the benefit of the doubt. You aren't trying to understand. You aren't doing anything to indicate that you aren't exactly the reason why so many women picked the bear.
You could have said all of this in a way that wasn't being an ass. But you chose not to. Thank you for self-identifying as part of the problem.
Does the question also say "on an island, the size of Ireland"? If you're going to argue in bad faith, we can be here all day, because if it's just you and some man in Madagascar, you're equally as safe as sharing that island as with a bear or much anything really.
But then, you knew that and are being purposefully obtuse, since "island" type questions are usually about being in a limited amount of space (btw - bears hunt in forests, known not enclosed spaces, so kinda still proving my point most people really don't understand the danger a bear poses).
Either way, you're falling for the trap I just mentioned. It's not to further discussion on the problem, because it doesn't actually address the problem. Secondly, there's no reason I need to prove I'm the "reason" so many women picked the bear. That's a logical fallacy designed to inflame, not unite. And at it's core, you're proving what some have said, and showing how this question is malicious - it's designed to paint men as bad by default, rather that what the real problem is - statistically more likely to be abusive than the other sex. And before you misinterpret that, statistically significant ≠ everyone. It means to practice caution, of course, because the problem is there. It doesn't mean assume every single man will be evil, because then you won't be able to have healthy relationships (and I'm not even talking romantic ones here, but familial, social, professional) if by default you assume you will be in danger. That is, after all, the only logical conclusion to thinking a random man is more dangerous than one of the strongest predatory mammals on earth.
That you then dismiss someone simply because they didn't tow some now created narrative is exactly what identity politics also wants. Because then you're not open to dialogue that might fix the problem, and you're also preventing focus from the true root of virtually all modern societal issues: the wealthy ruling class. They are, end of the day, the ones that tip the scales of power so that things are the way they are.
Just as one example - does roe v Wade being overturned help in any way with the current fear many women have of men? No, it doesn't, because now rape becomes even more horrific without access to abortion. So why would Republicans appoint members to a supreme court that would do such a thing?
Well, we don't have to guess, because they've even said the quiet part out loud - to create more cheap human labor for the economy. And that's not the only thing it does - it's harder for a worker taking care of a child to quit a job where she's being mistreated or underpaid. It's harder for her to risk her job to join a union.
And that's just one part of the multifaceted issue that is (especially American) women being afraid of men in general, regardless of the bear or not. And it, like most societal issues, come back to the wealthy ruling class. But instead of that, they've managed to get people like you to play identity politics. Solve the real problem - an oligarchy that wants people divided - and most of the other issues go away.
This furthering of a perception of men being more dangerous than a bear is just another scheme to prevent us from working together.
Yikes. That's a while lot of words just to show exactly how much you are part of the problem.
This isn't about you. It was never about you. Your desire to pivot this to a class issue is some hardcore mansplaining. Get over yourself and listen to victims instead of thinking you know better than everyone.
Well, I guess you at least proved to everyone here that you're arguing in bad faith and not reading any responses.
Oh I read the whole thing. Doesn't change my opinion of your behavior one bit
I didn’t mean to diminish any of that. I agree - the fact that so many women would answer that way is distressing.
I understand that it wasn't your intention, but by shifting the conversation towards "have these people been near an angry bear? Well I have" you inadvertently detract from the issue at hand. It misses the point of the conversation: everyone knows an angry bear in your face is a more immediate threat than an unknown average male on the street. That's not why the women pick the bear.
That whole thing is not to be taken literally and if you do you are missing the point by a mile.
I'm pretty sure that almost none of the men who were offended have spent time in an enclosed area with an angry human who is a foot taller and 100 pounds heavier than they are.
On the contrary I think you'll find close to 100% of them were indeed children at one point.
...and many still seem to be children.
[thanks so much for the set up!]
Have a rough childhood? I was never in a room with an angry human who was a foot taller and 100lbs heavier until much later in life. Sounds like maybe there's something to consider here in terms of normalizing aggressive male behavior.... hmmm
I straight up don't believe that you were never in a room with an angry adult as a child. Personally I was never sexually or physically abused, but I know plenty of people who have been. A lot of strides have been made over the last several decades to improve parenting, but no one can be perfect for 18 years. Plus you add in teachers, coaches, or other community leaders that might be trusted with children.
The most important part of my comment was just pointing out the absurdity of the comment I was replying to. I could also point out the extent of hyperbole they used- the average American adult male is ~30 lbs heavier than the average American adult female, per the CDC. Or... Well, I could dive deeper into it but ultimately this whole conversation is based in bigotry and isn't worth looking at much more closely than that.
You think most adults were 100lbs heavier than me at 18?
Bruh, based on your criteria I had until maybe 15 at the latest and then only for men on the larger end of the spectrum.
Fact is, my family was kind and loving, I associated with other families that were equally so, I went to a private school with caring, supportive teachers, and I was certainly never left alone with someone my parents didn't know well.
Whether it happened a handful of times I can't say, but I certainly have no memory of it until my mid to late teens when I started spending most of my time with people of my own accord and took more risks.
I was truly blessed to grow up the way I did. I'm sorry you didn't have the same
No. I never said that. I have no idea why you think I did?. According to Guinness, the heaviest baby ever birthed was 22lbs in 1879 (and only lived a few hours). I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess you were born weighing less than that, and spent a considerable portion of your early years weighing less than most adults.
I think you're construing this into specifically abusive and destructive people. Those do exist, but my comment was referring to a broader scope. Anger can be a valid emotion, and there are healthy and unhealthy ways of handling it.
Ultimately, my point is that the original comment I replied to was ridiculous.
It's called going to McDonald's walk-in and seeing a Karen...
While I don't want to diminish the problems of the interactions between men and women in our society, I think there's a point that's not been discussed here yet: what does STRANGE bear entail? Is it sick? Is it like an eldritch horror bear? Does it just behave weirdly sometimes? Does it just wear a hat?
Dr. Strange Bear
I'll leave it up to you whether that's Marvel's Dr. Strange or a twist on Dr. Srange Love
For someone raised in a city, all bears are strange. Whereas, a man has to have some visible deviation from normal behaviour like a red armband or an anime porn hoodie in order to be strange.
It's to make sure you don't assume they mean the familiar bear from down the street
It travels around with a little pal named Boo Boo, and steals pick-a-nick baskets.
I find this concerning.
That gender disputes reached such an explosive level, that women say they'd rather a bear join them than a man and that man get super upset over this. There's a little truth in everything. Imagine trying your hardest as a man and still being told ppl prefer a wild animal over you. Imagine knowing as a woman you can't trust men to the point where you'd prefer a wild and dangerous animal keep you company. And also imagine hating another gender with such a deep passion that a meme becomes a toxic war of insult and discrediting.
I don't like this timeline, I want a do-over.
I think you hit on something that is a pretty big part of the problem: Men taking it personally. As far as I know, no specific man is mentioned, but a lot seem to insert themselves into the situation.
I try to do my best in life to be a good person, to be a good man, but I completely get why a woman would be worried about being in the middle of nowhere with a strange man, even if that man was me, because they don't know what that person is capable of.
Oh so if someone says 'black people are dangerous thugs, I'd rather encounter a bear than a removed', it's all good, a black person shouldn't take it personally? After all, no specific black person is mentioned. Come on, just be a good ally, stfu and nod.
I am willing to bet many, many people wouldn't be ok with that, and rightfully so. I know I would not.
The automatic moderation is kind of funny here lmao
That is, at least to me, is both a bit of a strawman and an invalid comparison.
First: The statement "black people are" implies it applies to all of them, or at least the average person, whereas the sentiment that I usually see isn't that all men are dangerous but rather that some are and it's difficult, if not impossible, to know which are beforehand.
Second: Men have not been marginalized, discriminated, and systematically oppressed for centuries. People of color have been, at the very least in the west and the countries they've colonized.
There's an additional point to be made here that I feel is relevant: Ethnicity does not inherently infer a large difference in physical characteristics the same way biological sex does. I don't imagine the strength of an average person varies as much depending on ethnicity as it does depending on biological sex. The average man is much physically stronger than the average woman, in a physical confrontation she'd be at a distinct disadvantage.
"black people" applies to all black people, but "men" doesn't apply to all men?
That's honestly an interesting way of thinking.
I'm not sure if you're trolling or not but "black people are dangerous thugs" is very clearly a racist generalizing statement.
Sorry to ping you again, but I want to run a few other things at you, as I find people with the ability to doublethink without blinking absolutely fascinating.
Let's say, okay, 'men' is vague enough that a single individual man should not feel insulted when someone says they're so bad they would rather get mauled by a bear, because... Reasons idk.
Is 'women' vague enough so that it's just as fine to say, idk, some stereotypical bullshit like 'women are weak, dumb, and therefore belong in the kitchen'? Should an individual woman not be annoyed after hearing this? Is it not sexist?
What if it was stereotypes targeting idk, LGBT people, Christians, Muslims, liberals, right wingers, etc?
How do you determine whether a group is sufficiently generic that they are not allowed to be annoyed at stereotypes targeting them?
Let me know when you want to have a conversation instead of arguing in bad faith. Aside from that I suggest you learn how to be less angry about things on the internet, it'll make you happier.
I'm not angry, I am curious. This whole man or bear thing has been an absolute blast for me.
It's a shame you refuse to answer though. That makes me sad. Why are you uncomfortable with this question?
Bullshit, you're JAQ'ing off.
FWIW I disliked the answer too, it's feels pretty insulting, but then it struck me. I go camping deep in the back country. When I go, sometimes I carry a gun.
The gun isn't for bears or mountain lions, but for the off chance I'd run into a person with bad intentions 10 miles out on a remote trail, 30 miles from the nearest po-dunk town. They'd probably just be another hiker, but maybe not. The point is I'd rather run into a wild animal in the woods than a person I don't know with unknown intentions.
Idk about whatever arbitrary lines the other commenter has.
I was just relaying a way I thought about it that helped me try to relate and understand.
Asking questions is being angry now?
Man you guys really don't like having your opinions challenged lmao.
Dude made an absolute arbitrary selection between two groups of people about who's generic enough to not be angry at being targeted by stereotypes.
I'm just curious about where that arbitrary line sits.
I never claimed the opposite.
Like, I understand why some people might answer that way. And as a dude, it makes me sad that it’s such an apparently omnipresent societal problem these days.
THIS is EXACTLY the point of the meme. If you understand this, and are a man, you stfu and nod along, or support the women talking about it as a good ally should. The men who don't understand this are the reply-guys trying to explain how all the women are unreasonable and this is discrimination against men and blah blah blah
It's pretty insane just how many men can't wrap their heads around something this simple. Goes to show how deep the patriarchy programming goes.
I'd rather a strange bear than a strange women.
::: spoiler Title Now watch as this gets down voted and I get called sexist... :::
Non-misandry/-sexism version:
with love, from an agender
Don't forget it's literally a very slight rewording of a common racist one, but that's different. For reasons. "Rather run into a black man or a bear (or wolf, or other dangerous animal)" has been asked by racists for years.
Punching up and punching down are extremely different and your comparison is deeply disingenuous.
Black men don't hold positions of power in society simply by being black. Black men don't get off with nothing but a slap on the wrist for serial sexual assault because "we don't want to ruin the promising life he has ahead of him".
Knock it off with the false equivalence.
Because the stereotype of crossing the street when heading towards a black men isn't a thing? Just because you don't believe it don't make it untrue. I bet if you'd honestly be surprised. But your probably still shocked when a priest molests a child.
You didn't read his response correctly, and your response comes off as nonsense because of this. Replace black with white, and the comparison is more accurate. Understand the dynamics between oppressor and the oppressed, and the different ways similar rhetorics are used to muddy the waters to create disingenuous conversations. "It's sexist because women are saying men are scary" is a bad take.
Dear Dr. Leg your mind is made up cool. Good luck with your crusade. Why don't you get back to asking important questions now like weather a woman would rather fuck a sparkling vampire or a tan werewolf? https://youtu.be/O7jN9_vB174
Are you a bot?
So youve never seen a bear in the woods? Hint: if you see a bear, its probably brown, and you're in a heap of trouble. Best hope you're in a car or something like that. They will eat you alive if they can get at you.
Gods, it's like some people never passed 10th grade English. Sometimes the important part of the text isn't the literal meaning. There's like metaphor and hyperbole and shit.
When you meet a bear in the woods, there is a 0% chance they will notice how the situation bears a resemblance to the popular meme and proceed to mansplain about how bears are more dangerous.
This is and has always been the one and only reason women choose the bear. But one question yet eludes us: how did the cycle start?
If youre so suicidal youd rather to be eaten alive than a chance to be condescended to, theres a problem.
are you a goldfish.
*salmon
They remember the stream where they spawned tho.
Dude was going around asking if theyd rather meet a man or a bear in the woods. There isnt much hidden meaning behind it, its not a 4deep2me tumblr post
Here's the thing. You're very right, it's not deep at all. Metaphors, similies, analogies, hyperboles, implications, etc. are all very normal parts of human speech, and this meme is pretty surface level in its requirement to use these things.
However, something has dawned on me, and I feel it necessary to ask you: are you perhaps on the spectrum? We sometimes have difficulties not taking everything literally, and this causes a communication gap. If this is the case, I will be completely and totally clear for you.
We are not literally talking about a literal bear vs a literal man. This is in fact a real metaphor for "danger vs danger". The literal interpretation is "men can be scary to many women". Going further, respond to this point and don't fixate on the hypothetical bear.
Round 12 people, all aboard.
Depends on where you live... Northeast us most likely a black bear, as long as its not a mother protecting its cubs make some noise and it will leave you alone. If your in the artic, how the hell are you in woods but ignoring that's and it's likely a polar bear and you are dead.
The whole point of it is to show that most women are irrationally afraid of men. So many immediately assume the bear is somehow good and the man is somehow evil when the stats for reality show the complete opposite.
Edit: (Yikes, I feel sorry for all of you. Not sure if it’s white knights, too much death scrolling on the internet, or the weird woke Lemmy culture.)
The bear would not call women irrational.
(The best part of this meme is that the people in question supply the rebukes themselves.)
You're right, a bear wouldn't call women irrational.
Personally, I'd rather be called irrational than get mauled/eaten by a bear, but I know better than to kink shame people.
Good job telling on yourself! This is my favorite part of the meme.
You don't have to be a predator to enable and protect predators.
Try listening to women next time instead of being, you know, exactly the thing they're talking about 👍
They are probably pretty rational about men. I think they like bears a bit too much. Bears are the scariest thing on earth. 2/7ths of our continents are named as bear warnings.
No, the point was to who that women so frequently suffer from abuse from one or more men in their lives that they would rather pick a wild ainmal.
Now there’s a real question. Would you rather come across Pepe the Frog or a man in the woods?
Pepe easily, fucking love frogs
Holy shit you laid the bait brilliantly cause look at all the dipshits in this comment section. Fuckin dumpster fire.
It was perfectly crafted ragebait. Your feedback will be used to improve future psyops.
No but you need to understand, not all men are bears or something
People who don't understand why she would pick the bear don't deserve bears.
As a dude i prefer a bear.. if I can't choose my wife
Same, this comment section is an amazing collection of why
Many men would prefer to be a momma bear's cub. That sort of protection and care is one of the most valuable treasures out there.
have we finally full circled to the gay men aspect of bears?
Or are we still waiting on that?
Of course women want to be lost in a forest with a fabulous hairy gay man
i can't think of someone who wouldn't to be honest. Would be a rather amusing time.
he just don't care to be there with her basic ass
I have a job that I go to residential homes to fix computers. 100% would rather be there alone with a 1%er than a women.
My personal experience tells me that it's safer whether statistically it is or not.
Got falsely accused of sexual assault a while back after my patient didn't like her workers compensation case outcome. Ruined how I felt my job and I quit the following year. Every female patient felt like a minefield after that.
I hope the accusations didn't lead to anything. Sad that people on here seemingly disregard personal experience, despite no generalizations being made, and you only sharing you feelings.
Oh it got shut down fast. Nothing happened, just soured the gig for me thats all.
Yeah I can see why people wouldn't be thrilled for me to mention it in a thread like this. This thread is about women. And bears 🐻
That's good to hear.
Yeah but still, it's not like you turned into an incel because of it. I think your response to that situation is totally understandable, and so is wanting to share it.
OP's username got smushed with the community when I read it and thought this was the LinuxMemes community...
I spent way too long trying to figure out what Linux terminology related to "women bears" before reading the comments and realizing this didn't have anything to do with Linux, lol. I was searching for famous bears named Wayland for a bit there.
Hello fellow bear, I don't know why we're talking about women either. Since we're both fellow confused bears can you please direct me to the nearest top secret bear club, where we bears meet to eat berries and drink fermented honey while laughing at beaver related memes?
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Sorry, I had to do this!
Ugh... It is so stupid.
Women are much more likely to be physically hurt by a male partner than a (totally safe 🙄) bear because (I know, shocker) women spend a lot more time around male partners than bears.
The meme said "strange man" not "male partner".
No-one is talking about "women bears". There are people talking about women and bears for sure, though.
At least one person was talking about the sexy waddle of the female bear.
Shake that bear!
Because a fat milf with body hair is lovely
It's at the end of the video
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZPRKemJRs/
Edit: Downvote it all you want, but that's the fucking source.
I'm pretty sure the downvotes are just men who don't know any better (or less likely, users who passively despise tiktok). It wasn't inflammatory or offensive, and it's a coherent and brief video. Thanks for sharing.
I didn't follow any of this, it was forced down my throat :
I don't want to choose the dangerous wild beast, I want to choose the bear. /j
I rate this meme 0.5/10.
The different fonts unironically and questionable punchline all add up to make this score.
I rate your rating a 4/10
It’s been rated a 5/23 so far and I think that’s even a little high for what’s basically a shitpost by me.
That's only a 21%
Better than I did at school.