Gen Z, please talk to me: what management works and what does not?

Digitalprimate@lemmy.world to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world – 286 points –

I am an Xer who manages a small but crucial team at my workplace (in an EU country). I had a lady resign last week, and I have another who may be about to resign or I may have to let go due to low engagement. They are both Gen Z. Today it hit me: the five years I've been managing this department, the only people I've lost have been from Gen Z. Clearly I do not know how to manage Gen Z so that they are happy working here. What can I do? I want them to be as happy as my Millennial team members. One detail that might matter is that my team is spread over three European cities.

Happy to provide any clarification if anyone wants it.

Edit. Thanks for all the answers even if a few of them are difficult to hear (and a few were oddly angry?) This has been very helpful for me, much more so than it probably would have been at the Old Place.

Also the second lady I mentioned who might quit or I might have to let go? She quit the day after I posted this giving a week's notice yesterday. My team is fully supportive, but it's going to be a rough couple of months.

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I'm a millennial but have insight. Think about the 90s. Didn't even have MapQuest yet. No cell phones.

Okay, now you're at work, and your sister miscarries her pregnancy. When do you discover this? 6pm? 8pm? Later that week?

Gen Z finds out between customers. Or emails.

In the idle time you used to spend daydreaming about your girlfriend or lackthereof, gen Z is learning about wildfires that will reduce their air quality. They're googling rent worldwide to figure out if it's time to seriously consider moving somewhere cheaper and colder.

What am I getting at?

We as a society get ever more connected. We are therefore ever less present from our 9-5. There is so much going on that is relevant to us, and an 8 hour chunk of my day is really asking too much to sacrifice.

If your employees are at a computer, let tell them outright it's totally okay to watch Netflix or YouTube, or reddit, or lemmy, whatever as long as the work is getting done on time.

If your employees are serving customers, let them take frequent 10 minute breaks to use their phone or be away from humans.

Let them know you understand they have WAY more going on in their lives than your job which barely pays bills. Then, act that way.

But also, gen Z knows that no one gives raises like new bosses. So, don't expect them to stick around long.

Okay, now you're at work, and your sister miscarries her pregnancy. When do you discover this? 6pm? 8pm? Later that week?

Gen Z finds out between customers. Or emails.

When do millennials find out?

A week late from someone you haven't talked to in years even after talking to your sister twice since then.

Same time but we had a transition period, smaller time frame depending where they slot in that generation. Gen Z has had since/before they entered the workforce.

Explaining the transition of technology to my boy sometimes reminds me of when I was a kid and heard adults talking about a full room computer.

Back in my day, phones were connected to the house! And all they did was make calls!

Exact same, but we're conditioned enough to still wait until after 5 PM to go do anything about it. If anything, I admire gen Z for this.

I agree with most of this, but this bit

If your employees are serving customers, let them take frequent 10 minute breaks to use their phone or be away from humans.

Is comically absurd.

GenZ are not the first people to have things they'd rather be doing than work, or to be tired due to human interaction. The latter is called emotional labour and has been a thing across all service industries for literally a hundred plus years.

I'm not saying that people don't need breaks, everyone does, especially in jobs which are physically/mentally tiring, but to say people need frequent breaks solely to check their phone is derisible.

Fine: People need frequent breaks to do whatever the fuck they want

Absolutely - or as I generally phrase it, to relax and think about things more thoroughly.

This is an amazing rundown of the significant differences, and more importantly, similarities between these 2 generation, I think you did a really good job of explaining it clearly, and I found it very illuminating, thank you.

If your employees are at a computer, let tell them outright it’s totally okay to watch Netflix or YouTube, or reddit, or lemmy, whatever as long as the work is getting done on time.

... seriously? I cannot imagine ever watching YouTube or even Netflix on the job

Actually my two most senior people are permanent WFH and I'm quite sure they do this (and I do not care at al).

The ones in our offices, yeah that would not go over well with their colleagues, you are right.

It's really not an crazy prospect.

Personally I'm going into Healthcare, and the career I opted to go for has jobs which you absolutely might be bored out of your mind and literally sitting. That's not for me, Personally, and I'm going towards more of a high adrenaline environment.

Always nice knowing I have a potentially relaxing fallback option.

Lol, night shift in the lab, we watched the shit out of youtube.

This is a very convenient trick for some with ADHD. A known distraction can drown out the noise that would otherwise be very distracting. When I listen to podcasts, I work about 3 times faster. And my current boss was so pleased with my work that he put a TV in my shop, for me to use while I work. I don't use it because, these days, I prefer podcasts and audiobooks, but I do put on sports games because that's what he likes to see. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I work on a helpdesk, my phone rings around 8-12 times per day, and most calls are less than 10 minutes. I work a 7.5 hour shift, and at most am on the phone for an hour or so total on an average day. I'm also in an office cubicle farm, not working from home, or behind a series of closed doors.

Lately, between taking calls, I've been reading books, looking at my phone, practicing French, and watching episodes of Star Trek: The Next Generation on my iPad. The upper management knows I, and my coworkers, kill time this way between calls.

We're efficient problem solvers who get our jobs done with no issue, so the downtime is spent how we see fit.

Isn't it insane how managers (and professors for that matter) tend to act like you're not a person with a whole life and personality outside your job

TLDR they won’t stick around no matter what you do op

I think I'm suited to answer this. I manage multiple people, including Gen Z. I am also Gen Z. People are actively trying to work here.

One of the biggest factors is employee appreciation and respect. A lot of companies will half-ass that front through just giving their employees an occasional pizza party. The problem with that style of management, is that it removes the human aspect. It kind of just turns it into another thing to just "check off the list" for corporate. It's something commonly thrown back at employees who complain. We've seen that happen enough to not want to deal with it.

It's also important to focus on the little things. Small details are what make up the big picture. If you leave those out, the big picture will be incomplete. Congratulate them when they reach a new goal. Tell them when they do work that would make the company proud, within reason. Encourage them, and actually work alongside them sometimes. If you want to throw free food on top, maybe poll your staff for their opinions on restaurants/food trucks. Show them you care.

Regarding the human aspect, a happy employee stays, and a happy employee is also usually a productive employee. Get to know your staff a bit, casually. Try to give reasonable allowances for time off during stressful life situations, like when their home floods or their sibling dies. Most companies will only allow the legal minimum.

Don't expect more from them than what you are willing to do yourself.

Accept their imperfections and work with them towards improvement. Instead of shouting, go straight towards the solution, and include them in the process. Allow them to learn how to avoid the mistake and learn how to fix it with you. Don't baby step it, but maybe show them a cool trick for that process if you have one. Remember that they are human and that there was also a time where you didn't know how to do it.

I'll be frank with you. Many of us don't see a great future over the horizon, so we're kind of making the best with what we have. We want to enjoy as much of the time in-between as we can. We've seen our grandparents, parents, siblings, and other family members become burnt out and emotionally overwhelmed, and we don't want that for ourselves.

The best way to not have that, is to not go along with it. So, hypothetically, I would go to the next job that treats it's employees well, even if the wage is the same. Why would I waste my efforts and hard labor on someone who doesn't value it? Why not spend it somewhere where I can learn, improve, and thrive?

These apply to all employees, not just GenZ. Its just basic respect. GenZ may just be the ones who dont accept unhappiness just for the sake of having a job.

I don't disagree with you in the slightest.

In my mind, no one really asked to exist. On that basis, we should all be treated equally and fairly. You can't pick your birth year, home country, etc. In my opinion, it would be wong to judge someone on those aspects, or to treat them differently. In ny workplace, we're all just people trying to get by.

Exactly. Just wanted to point out that those arent points OP should use for treating GenZ differently but should treat all employees like that

Those all apply to any employee though regardless of generations. Gen z gonna look for another job after 2 years. Expect it.

I don't disagree with that. For some reason, a lot of places think that Gen Z will put up with it like their parents and grandparents did. They treat them like crud, then they're shocked when they leave.

Of course Gen Z might change jobs within 2 years. Most people don't have their entire life plan figured out in their 20's, which I think is fair. It's even more understandable with the craziness of everything going on around the world.

One thing to keep in mind is that they're young and have fewer responsibilities than Millennials and Xers and can afford to float between jobs. I'm not saying all GenZers, but there are ones that still get some form of assistance from their parents and thereby have a safety net. As they age and start families, they may be less inclined to do so.

Also, maybe they're not being paid enough to want to stay and feel they can leverage the experience at your workplace to get a better paying position elsewhere.

Just my thoughts, I'm no expert.

GenZ is pretty aware of the doom and gloom of the world right now, being the most online generation yet. Even without meme culture of being sucked into vapid echo chambers of any political spectrum; they know the world is headed for decline, in their lifetime.

They want to be able to live comfortably while they can, and if there is too much work/stress and not enough pay, they’ll shop around. Considering what their living costs usually are to maintain a good job, they’re willing to shop around to find decent comfort. They don’t want to spend their best years stuck working barely making ends meet only to watch it all burn around them by the time they find something that allows them to prosper.

Gen Z software engineer here. From what I can tell my generation doesn't care that much about company loyalty and all of that jazz. That's true for me as well. Companies have a soulless aspect to them. I can't put my soul into that. If another place is willing to throw more money at me, I will take it. Sure, if my workplace is extra nice I will think twice about it, but most of the time it isn't.

Then there's the lack of investment in the younger folks on the part of the company. No mentorship programs, a lack of workshops, etc. Our input isn't taken into account and is often overlooked. That's not the right way to show young people that you care about them or their future. In turn they won't care about you or your company's future.

Also the fact that people tend to bring their politics to work is a big problem for me. This is especially true with the boomers in the company. They love to stroke their right-wing, often bigoted political opinions in front of us at work. Mostly in the form of complaining about whatever they saw today on Instagram or Facebook. Now this isn't inherently a problem that can be brought up with HR, mostly because they do it in a subtle and veiled enough manner that there's not much you can do about it. But I'd say that personal politics is another big factor for me. It makes me not care that much about the workplace/company as a whole.

Milenial here. I was taught to not care about company loyalty by my father, a boomer.

I'm as loyal to my company as they are to me.

If big boss is cranky that day, I might get fired. If I make A mistake I might get fired. I am payed as little as they think they can get away with. My benefits are the vert least they can give me.

They will do very very minimum they can. Make no investments in me that are not going to be immediately beneficial to them...

I get payed pretty well concidering everything. But I Know that I am just a name in a spreadsheet to these people. If I get in a car accident and can't work for a few months, the company and management will not care. They will just be annoyed that they have to struggle to fill my shift.

Why in the world would I have any loyalty to an organization like that. Why would I have any loyalty to management like that.

Same here. My mother worked all her life at one place until she retired. She told me it's not a good idea and to only care about myself, not the company.

You just gave me insight into why my company isn’t bleeding GenZ software engineers.

We have a 1-year program for people fresh from CS degrees or coding boot camps. They have an assigned cohort to build relationships and go through the program together. In it, they have mentors and meet with people across the company to learn more about the business. And while doing this they are fully integrated members of teams. I’m in Product and I know my team takes them seriously and listens to their input.

We also have a year-long program for anyone new in a manager role (either new to the company or promoted), we have a career coaching program people can sign up for, and it’s easy to get an assigned mentor (if you show any competence and interest).

And at least my networks don’t have any of the shit heads spouting politics. Politics rarely come up (except in a small vetted group of like-minded people).

I am approaching 9 years here, and when I took the job I fully expected to leave at 2. Instead, I’ve had five different roles or titles, I didn’t have to ask for 2 of the 3 promotions I’ve gotten, and my pay is almost 2.5x of my first job. I’m not loyal to the company, but I have a hell of a lot of loyalty to the people that make it up, and they’ve earned every bit of that.

Damn, are you guys hiring? I'm going back to school for this and looking for this exact sort of thing!

Yep! One of my devs was out at a college recruiting day just this week. I do believe living in the Kansas City area is a requirement though ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Damn! If there are any remote positions, HMU. Your company sounds pretty great :)

We actually do hire lots of remote positions in general! Only the new software engineer program require being there. What kind of work do you do?

Mostly IT work, stuff with power BI. Going back to school for a certificate in computer science!

Damn, are you me? I've made recommendations to our teams, totally ignored. One year later, a more senior team member brings up the same recommendations and gets huge praise. My raises are like, maybe 4%, roughly $2-4000, if that.

No workshops. Some training, but not enough to really do much. Sometimes I feel like I shouldn't even bother with the minimal training we do get, because I'll probably move jobs before it's useful / the senior guys are reaching their 60s, and I'm not sticking around when they retire and take all the knowledge with them.

And, as you said, one of my coworkers likes to air his grievances about LGBTQ people somehow making Ukraine an inside job while I uncomfortably try and work/be professional. I never talk about anything that could potentially raise tensions, and volunteer very little about myself so that they can't start bad conversations in the first place.

I would ask her directly, say that you want to know why you lose gen z workers.

Just remember that they're still early in their careers, changing jobs is about the only way to get a raise these days.

Generations aren't a monolith. It's reductive to say "these people are leaving because they're from a different generation."

The best thing you can do is perform an exit interview and ask them why they decided to move on. If they're good people they'll give you an honest answer.

And remember, young people in the workforce now have had adults in their lives who were likely laid off during the 2008 financial crisis. Those adults were, correctly, teaching their children that companies are not loyal to their employees, so do not be loyal to your company.

They are probably leaving for more pay, better benefits, or a promotion of some kind. The only way you'll know for certain is if you ask.

They are probably leaving for more pay, better benefits, or a promotion of some kind. The only way you’ll know for certain is if you ask.

I'm going to second this. The best way to retain workers is to be pay the most in combined pay and benefits. work is transactional- it's always been transactional, really. Employees are starting to realize that, and are going to be job hopping more.

Work is inherently transactional. You pay employees for the work they do. They do work for the pay and whatever benefits get added to it. Ultimately, if people are leaving, its because they feel there's a better transaction to be made elsewhere. (and no. Donut Day and free coffee aren't 'benefits'... looking at you Clay.)

In any case, the way to retain individuals it ensure their pay and benefits keep pace with the demands of their current skill set. this means raises, increases in benefits and promotions. (Also, generally respect your employees, and stuff like that... but I'm assuming that's not really the problem.)

What do you mean by low engagement? Are they not doing their work in their given hours?

I'm a millennial but I imagine it's the same issue.

Work isn't something I want to do. It's something I have to do to for money. If someone offers me more money I'm going to take it.

So first thing to check is are they just leaving for better pay. If so paying them more is basically your only option.

In my industry (software development) the average length at a job for younger people is two years because it's the only way to get a decent pay rise in many cases.

The idea of loyalty to a company is dying a quick death.

If it's not that the only to find out is to talk to them. Ask them if they're willing to do an exit interview and see if there's anything you can improve on.

Work isn't something I want to do. It's something I have to do to for money. If someone offers me more money I'm going to take it.

GenX here. Same for me. I take pride in what I do, but the moment the clock hits 17 the whole company can burn down for all I care.

Just curious, but is your job or industry that much in demand that you know you can get a job the next day if your company were to burn to the ground?

Some people here are posting with rather wishful thinking. I think the most cost-effective actionable advice I can give is that Zoomers don't buy into the whole "we're a family here" thing. They understand that their success and their company's success are not necessarily correlated. You can act on this by expressing an interest in your team's improvements on the basis of the personal goals they've achieved rather than with corporate metrics.

This implies that millennials haven't come to the same realization. Company loyalty more or less ended with millennials, I think. Though helping employees reach their personal goals is a great suggestion in general. Their personal improvement aligns with company improvement anyway.

Yeah, millennials and Gen Z are very similar in their thinking on corporate culture

Except gen z are more marketable so gen x tends to stay (not out of loyalty)

I don't think that's it, I think it's moreso what others mentioned along the lines of gen z having a lot less responsibilities tying them down to a certain job.

I know many millennials who own houses, I don't know any Gen Z that aren't like... Influencers or kids who had wealthy parents who own houses.

Also kids

way to give 0 context, what do you want us to say?? Gen Z means fuck all it's such a wide umbrella term.

how about you give some actual examples of behavior and maybe the pay scale and you'll get some actual answers

No need to phrase it so hrashly but youre basically right. This post is pure ageism

Not a very big sample size, did you perform an exit interview? Why not just ask their thoughts on the way out?

Many won't answer honestly and just make up a polite excuse. Still worth a try.

True. Even if you hate the job, it's not worth potentially burning a bridge by being too honest

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Exit interviews can be a goldmine. Some people who don't want to burn bridges might hold back and tell you what they think you want to hear but others will tell you exactly what they think.

As a more "typical" zoomer I'd say that we're a bit skeptical of exit interviews compared to other generations as a result of the whole "not buying into corporations being a family" thing & not appreciating a checkbox approach to employee wellbeing... I know personally if I was leaving a job where (not even because) I felt like any feedback I gave fell into a void and any I received was on rare occasions and only from my direct manager then I'd consider it a bit of a waste of my time to say why I'm leaving, so just try to get through the interview faster

How long have they been at your company? A lot of younger people hold zero loyalty to their employer (for better or worse), and combining that with the guidance fo change jobs every two years for maximized income, you're more likely to see increased turnover regardless of job satisfaction.

I have exactly as much loyalty to my employer as they have to me.

And that's exactly how it should be. If a company is extremely good to you, be good back. If they're shitty, you owe them nothing.

A lot of younger people hold zero loyalty to their employer

Why be loyal to a company? I'll bet you anything the company won't show any loyalty when they decide to save money by laying people off.

None of them were there long, but none of them moved to higher paying jobs either.

Out of curiosity, how do you know this?

Combination of LinkedIn and local contacts. The two cities where the team works are rather tight communities, and you either do what we do or you do banking or FX.

Edit: I forgot one left to become a personal trainer, so that one kind of doesn't count I suppose.

Not to say that it’s not good to self-reflect and improve, and not to say that there’s nothing you can improve, but there might be other factors at play.

I don’t have the numbers to hand, but going off of my own experience and my memory, younger people are far more likely to leave a job than older people. You can try to find the stats - I’m sure they vary by country, for instance, but I changed jobs relatively often early in my career. As my career progressed (and changed from industry to industry), I tended to stay longer.

Basically, what you want to do is establish the baseline. Is it a you thing, is it a company thing, an industry thing, or just the natural process? It might be a mix, but until you know what you’re dealing with, it’s going to be hard to fix it.

Is there an exit interview? Or anyway to ask them?

Would be interested to know if there's something in particular or not. Not sure if you do this, but some leadership places do 360 reviews, where you get staff anonymously give details about. It fucking sucks to get but it can be super helpful.

Loyalty is a two way street and when it comes to jobs the company's loyalty should come first.

I often feel like my supervisors don't respect my input or my time. I work in IT, our business is solving problems efficiently. Yet when I pitch ways to improve our methods, or when I call out dumb decisions, I get ignored.

On multiple occasions in the past couple years, my immediate supervisor has made bad calls that would lead to unnecessary work for me and my team. I point this out to him, and I am ignored. Last summer, we wasted a couple days fixing computers after an unnecessary BIOS update kept them from loading Windows. We also spent a whole day installing a firmware update on a new shipment of monitors, this update was to fix compatibility with the Mac Studio - we don't use the Mac Studio at my work.

Since you’re Gen Z, it sounds like you may also be relatively new in your career, and this strikes me as a timeless problem of experience.

Young people come in with a fresh set of eyes and say “why don’t we just do X?” Then more experienced people know all the unfortunate reasons why it’s not that easy. Like in your example, it’s arguably a better policy to just run every patch that gets released, even if it’s not applicable. The alternative is to spend some amount of man hours evaluating whether each patch is needed or not; and occasionally dealing with the consequences of somebody mis-identifying a critical patch and deciding not to install it. The cost from that is greater than the cost of occasionally having to clean up a bad patch that breaks something.

I do agree that Gen Z seems to feel a greater sense of unfairness when they (as less experienced employees) get stuck doing more of the grunt work in a situation like that. I’ve had several issues with Gen Zers at my company feeling like they’re supposed to be working on bigger and better things than the entry level tasks we’re giving them, and becoming disgruntled about it.

Not really sure what to do to manage around that part of the problem though. With millennials in that position, I had reasonable success by giving them a bigger project, then reviewing it thoroughly and helping them see the areas they needed to improve in. The Gen Z’s I’ve tried that tactic with have then felt like they were being “picked on” any time they got critical feedback. I haven’t had it happen enough to know if that’s a generational thing or just those specific people though.

Try paying them better. It really is that simple.

Everyone's giving you long-winded answers, but this is the ultimate truth.

PAY MORE

I did. I fought with my CEO for two months and got everyone in the department except me a massive raise, 15%-20%.

15%-20%.

FYI, it's entirely possible that they've been undervalued so much even that's not enough.

That's not all on the manager though, they're not the final decision maker. Op isn't to blame for that

All layers of management are complicit. It is his choice to continue working there instead of resigning in protest, so he owns every decision he is directed to implement.

As long as he's implementing, perhaps. Raises are not always budgeted at the 1st line manager level. It may be beyond his control.

And quitting a job you don't agree with makes sense if you have other options, it's foolish otherwise. Keep trying to make change from within

And quitting a job you don’t agree with makes sense if you have other options, it’s foolish otherwise. Keep trying to make change from within

"I was just following orders" does not absolve OP, or anybody else. You either quit in protest or you're a motherfucking class traitor.

I barely want to continue this, but I think your view is that it's 1st line workers vs the 2%, the reality is the working class goes a few levels above that, and again you try to change the system from within, you don't resign and live in poverty

Also managers and Nazis are not the same

True lmao. I know someone that was working under a project manager making $15/hr and whenever they got promoted to project manager they got a whopping THIRTEEN percent raise. Which sounds nice and all but it only ended up being like $2 more per hour lol

She is actively taking job interviews now

Stop trying to be their friend or do anything outside of office hours. 99.9% of people are not at the workplace out of free will because whatever it is you're doing is what they want to spend the next 40 years of their lives doing exclusively.

As others have said, fight for more pay and benefits and fuck everything else. Which may not be easy in your position which I assume is middle management. Most of us footmen are very much aware of how you guys are essentially just used as the fall guys for all kinds of bad news from above, and that you have little leeway in making such decisions at your level.

###As others have said, fight for more pay and benefits and fuck everything else.

FTFY 😂 Honestly, I'm amazed how few people get this very basic concept.

My baby boy, I’m so glad I get to share what’s worked for me.

My younger peeps seem to thrive on mentorship and coaching. If you don’t already do 1-on-1s (even just meeting every 2 weeks), I recommend starting.

During that time, ask each person what their honest career goals are (even if they involve working elsewhere) and then help them gain the skills they’ll need to achieve those career goals. It’s their responsibility to do the work, but you’re the one helping them stay on track towards the things in their life that matter to them.

I’ve helped folks with all sorts of things from time-management to negotiation to coding to project management.

A tool I’ve found invaluable is the book “FYI: For Your Improvement”. It’s basically a manual for helping improve soft skills. I recommend getting an older version that’s cheaper.

Using this philosophy, I’ve only had folks leave my teams because of pay (which is something I don’t control and am constantly in contention with my company about). I’m still in contact with most who’ve left and one if my former peeps even got me a new job one time.

Yeah, this. I lean heavily into coaching, which is specifically helping them apply skills they already have to a problem.

I also draw clear lines between what I can help with and what I need to do for the company, and try my best to display when I am fighting for them and when I cannot. Building trust is a key part of the relationship, and having suspicion that you are two faced kills it dead.

With this and the other things mentioned, I too have only had peopae quit because of money, and in one instance he came to me to ask if he should do so (we talked it out without me giving any advice, just comparing opportunities)

Note:

just like you council people out when they underperform for your org, council people out when they can no longer grow or advance. Those people will also be unhappy over time, and create drag on your whole org. Make opportunites to grow, to grow elswhere in the company, and finally at other companies

Imagine a team lead calling other businesses for opportunities for you because you've hit the glass ceiling at your work.

Does that seem impossible? implausible?

For most, yea. Yes it does. Losing a valued member at a company will cost a company, sure. But when that member goes and works for competitors with that experience to tell, your stock amongst peers shoots up 1000%. Reputation like this is from principle, not principals. It's an earned investment

If youve experienced anything like this, you know how memorable that exp is.

There are few things in life as meaningful as an advocate. And I mean that. Maybe one or two things best it. It's that important to all life as it is experienced. If the word doesn't mean much to you - and to most it doesn't - rethink what you know about it. Refamiliarize yourself with that knowledge sphere. Imagine challanging situations you've had in the past. Imagine someone there with you advocating for you. Imagine how that changes a situation. How it couldve changed the outcome. How it would've changed you.

Now imagine what it's like to BE the one advocating for someone else. The relaxed kind of pride when they succeed where they didn't think they could. The emotional warmth you feel from the fire of their happiness or achievement.

That's the supervisor to be. That's the coworker to be. That's the family to be. That's the person to be.

Any interaction, be it personal, familial, academic or professional, that isn't foundationally built from ideation of support, I suggest you remove from your life.

But to surround yourself in support means you've also got to be supportive. Hence; my take on advocacy.

Imagine someone there with you advocating for you. Imagine how that changes a situation. How it couldve changed the outcome. How it would’ve changed you.

That was kind of painful to read, knowing how much further along I could be in life if I'd had some support at some of the crucial points where my strength failed me.

Unfortunately, my experience has been that if you've been through hardship, people sort of pick up on that and regard you as damaged goods. If you're lucky they'll take pity on you, but more often they'll actively or passively try to shut you out. That goes for both the professional and familial setting.

Brother I've been thru my share, let me tell you.

Shit July 6th my home burnt down. Everything. Lost. Wife woke me up at 5am pushing me screaming FIRE

I look up, entire wall and ceiling are already burning. We run out, 60secs later the roof collapsed where we were sleeping.

That's just the latest of challenges this life has thrown my way. Clearly I'm playing the master quest. It's just back to back boss battles at this point with no time to heal or save in-between.

Yr first sentence is what led me to my advocating for advocacy. An idea that, might possibly be getting spread elsewhere, but it's entirely absent in my life.

And so, be the change you want to see, right? I've spotted a void, that means I also have a chance to fill it for those behind me. My personal ethos; I consider it an obligation to do so. If you spot the problem, you've also inherited the responsibility to act on it. Cuz fuck you entropy, not today.

You second thought I actually disagree with and I'll tell you the distinctions that allowed me to grow beyond that pov.

• No one can know everything, we aren't alive long enough, it's a physical impossibility. Be quick to admit your limits, and abandon wrong positions, without shame, the moment you know better. It's better to adhere to the truth than to your ego. You can't build anything solid off falsehoods, or ego. Any solid foundations are built off truth.

• Denying help from someone else does NOT make you look better, more competent or stronger. It makes you alone.

And forgotten.

No one, including you, will waste space remembering your misallocation of stoicism. BEYOND THAT; you actively harm your relationship with whoever offered, by refusing to allow for it to grow by accepting help. You also deny them the chance to be their best self, which I think we subconsciouly learn to resent people for. Accepting help, and legitimately offering it, is pro-social, which we humans are. Therefore, it's the only moral response (morality being entirely built of behavior that reinforces and strengthens the tribe).

• If you can't help yourself, help someone else.

  1. It'll take your mind off your problems, giving yourself a probably much needed break.
  2. All you life inputs have led you to dead end. You need inputs from outside your normal routine. In other words, you don't have the answer, or know where to look, so open yrself up to new avenues, experiences and people. Go look for your answer in the unknown.

• If your life sucks and you don't do anything about it, you are accepting the same outcome. "Better the devil you know" =bullshit. Accepting suffering will crush your spirit and kill yr soul. Depression, anxiety, all kinds of ways it will manifest. Doing something drastic that you have no idea how it will turn out =at least you have hope then. If known A = guaranteed suck. Unknown B has the chance to be better. It might not be, but when shit sucks does it matter what color the shit is? Go bravely into the night.

• It's better to die on your feet than live on your knees. You are who you are. You don't need any approval or acceptance to exist. Looking for it actually makes it less likely you'd receive it regardless.

With all that said there's finally this • When you arrive at rock bottom, no one else is there. And no one is going to help you while ur there. Until they see you climbing out. We've all been burned. We've all been taken advantage of. People naturally help in times of catastrophe. People WANT to help. But people, generally, are walking bags of Capitalism PTSD. It's like finding love, you only find it when your busy improving yourself. People want to be there on the accent.

Life teaches you how to discern, you develop eyes to only help those who'll appreciate it and not squander it. It's part of the wisdom that can only come with age.

I expause advocacy because those of us who can see it and appreciate it for what it is can help each other not have to slide so far back =itll speed up the progress of all of our individual journeys.

There's much more experience gained, imo, from helping others than receiving help. But Graciousness is often overlooked and it's a scalable attribute all in itself. We all need to sink more proficiency points into exercising Grace and being Gracious. All of us. Myself included.

It's no mistake that when we see mastery (of anything) in action we describe it as being Graceful.

I'm not sure if it counts but I regularly send positive feedback on my colleagues to my higher ups, mostly unprompted.

I'm not very knowledgeable or impressive in any way so I couldn't mentor or help anyone really, but the least I can do is give them a push in the right direction even if it doesn't affect me in the long run.

I've trained quite a few newcomers who have since risen above me in rank.

Of all the actions a person can do that lend itself towards engendering compassion, empathy or altruism there is none more so than effort.

Whatever you're doing, even if you don't know it all, even if it isn't the best, simply make sure it looks like you care.

Small things. Like putting a potted lavender outside your front door, or whatever. It shows your attention to detail that primarily effects other people. It makes you approachable. It's the difference between your neighbors knocking on your door when your too loud or them filing a complaint or calling the police, both of which could have ramifications down the line.

It's a soft skill, sure, but it greases so many wheels I can't even begin to detail.

My yard is kept tidy. It's not finished, sculpted, or anything much special. But it's on purpose. Not always clean, I usually have some construction or project I'm working on, but that's always temporary. Im generally reclusive. I'd rather build my stuff and sell what Ive made or build for someone else and be left alone. But I'm always offering to help everyone with their projects. Rarely taken up, but like clockwork, I always extend help.

My obvious display of care over what's under my supervision is, honestly, defensive. I get the benefit of the doubt. My neighbors don't sick code enforcement on me, regardless of what I'm doing (which is all within code regardless, but county given the call will come out, Everytime.)

Again, it's a soft skill. A subtle thing, but it'll help you stand out, unconsciously at the very least.

Ask them what their goals are (even if it includes working somewhere else) and help them reach those goals

Yes, this. Younger millennials and gen z know better than any generation that their success, their boss's success and the company's success are three separate things. You're gonna have to give a shit about their success too, and in a tangible way.

My younger peeps seem to thrive on mentorship and coaching. If you don’t already do 1-on-1s (even just meeting every 2 weeks), I recommend starting.

I theoretically have a 121 with my superior (who is over a decade younger than I am) every two weeks, but if it actually happens once every three months it's a lot.

The feedback from above is that people are supposed to "mentor each other", not to seek mentorship from those above you in the hierarchy.

The guy is honestly great so no resentment from my part at all, and neither are those his decisions to make.

But some actual mentorship and coaching might possibly help me get rid of my 8-year long stint with imposter syndrome, feelings of inadequacy, low pay and total lack of internal mobility within my near-decade in the company.

Great book recommendation! (My friend’s dad wrote it, but I still recommend it without bias.)

What I love about it is that it’s not something you have to sit down and read cover-to-cover. You pick a topic you want to learn more on and read 2-3 pages that give you guidance on what it looks like to be skilled at that thing, what the challenges are, and some activities to improve. Short and sweet. It’s a great length for my ADHD ass that can rarely finish a book that isn’t audio.

First of all, let me say this - You are better than 99% of managers out there because you are asking yourself these questions. It means you are wise enough to acknowledge shortcomings and mature enough to seek help. So thank you. I wish more people had your worth ethic. You are probably a cool manager, and those are hard to come by these days.

Are you conducting exit interviews? I know it seems pointless, since they have likely already taken other jobs and it's too late to try and entice them back with a deal, but it does provide some context as to why they are leaving the company. They've got a new gig lined up, so they don't need to pull any punches. You will tend to get honest answers.

No, you don't know how to manage genZ (or any other cohort) because that's not a fucking thing.

Start here:

Fight to pay them more. Period. This should be at the top of your daily to-do list. Your team is the reason you have a job, and they're the reason your shareholders live such splendid lives. So, you want to keep your position(s) of benefit & security? Then never stop fighting for worker's pay & benefit INCREASES. It is really hard to care about management, production (or shareholders 🙄) when you can't take care of yourself or your family.

Curate a safe, work-focused environment that supports the life-cycle of a product that actually solves current, real-world problems like - global warming, profiteering, equality, etc.

Stop managing and learn how to lead.

Leaders:

Know how to say, "I don't know."

Show / do by example

Share knowledge

Support and foster knowledge sharing.

Shut their goddamn mouths and trust their teams to succeed (that's why you hired them in the first place right?) and when the team/member falls short of PREVIOUSLY AGREED UPON goals you work together to address the extenuating circumstance(s).

Every company's greatest asset and product is the verve, innovation, and vision of its employees. Squash, or worse, fail to invest in any of these aspects of your workforce and the human beings you're trying to "manage" will "manage" themselves into better working conditions elsewhere.

You said everything people need to hear, but in a cruel and condescending voice to someone looking to fix the issue that we're all pissed off about. Consider your presentation given the context, homie.

Is wasn't even all correct, more angry than useful overall

I really want to upvote and downvote at the same time.

Angry upvote?

That's just it, I'm not angry about it.

It's more like there's parts I really agree with and parts I really disagree with.

And then, with the parts that I agree with and the parts I disagree with, how they were presented in some ways I liked and in other ways I really disliked.

Up/down votes are just a system for suggesting other people read the post. Nothing more. Should it get more visibility?

Up/down votes are just a system for suggesting other people read the post. Nothing more. Should it get more visibility?

Well that's a side effect, I can't agree with you though that that's the only reason, as I know that's not how people use it.

They use it to either agree or disagree to what's being said, or to show their approval/disapproval of how the comment was written, that it was with written well or not, even if they disagree with what was being said.

That might be how people use it, but it's not what it does. It just controls visibility

Understood, but when you're describing it's just a technical mechanics of it. What I'm speaking towards is why the button was pushed in the first place.

Do people actually want echo chambers or is it the effect they create by using it funny?

I have no idea, you would have to ask them. But my point is an approval or disapproval switch can be pushed for multiple reasons, from logical, to emotional.

the old subreddit r/aBetterWorld is an idea that would help you exactly in this instance if it were not just an idea

Does "low engagement" mean "objectively not doing the job you are paying them to do"? Or does it mean "not going 'above and beyond,' aka not working unpaid overtime or doing things outside their job description"? Because only one of these warrants letting someone go.

In this case unfortunately it means "objectively not doing the job you are paying them to do." Like, core job duties.

I'd conduct exit interviews and ask them truthfully. For me, there's a decent amount of fucking around at our company- the same amount in person at the office as there is remotely. But regardless of location, our work always gets done, in decent quality and in a timely manner. (Gen Z/millenial + boomers)

In addition to the wealth of experiences and opinions in this thread, it is worth reminding:

2 is a really small sample size

I am not one but I am manage two. So far I have yet to see any real difference. They were like me when I was that age.

It is cynical but you have to be cynical. Everyone has basic drives. Find what it is and give it to them. One of mine is driven by praise, I praise him when he does good work. The other one is driven by achieving variety, he wants to touch on a thousand things, so I move him around.

There's a lot of garbage responses here, but this one is legit.

hold leadership accountable, provide a clear path to advancement and pay them well

hold leadership accountable

You're not wrong, but that can turn into a Game of Thrones scenario really quick like, if you're not careful.

My bosses have never held leadership accountable and it's still a bunch of feudal lords fighting over their fiefdoms

Have you tired asking them? When you sit down with the employees to discuss performance the conversation should be two way. You tell them what you expect and how they are doing while they tell you what they expect and how you are doing. Maybe what they want is unreasonable but you won't know that until they tell you.

Have you asked these unhappy employees? You’ll probably get a more helpful answer if it comes from somebody familiar with the specifics of your job / company. If you’re not doing exit interviews (or not setting a tone where they feel they can be honest in the exit interview), you’re doing yourself a disfavor.

It's okay to change positions/roles/jobs. That's what you need to understand

And in general, I think younger people are more willing to take risks. Changing jobs can be annoying. You have to start from scratch with learning everything, getting to know your coworkers, potentially moving, etc. But on the other hand, a new job can typically give a pay increase (which young people especially need). In many jobs, the only way to get a decent pay increase is to jump ship.

Perhaps you got hung up on that whole "Generations"-Thing. Generations cannot be defined by common attributes as easily as it might seem. Perhaps the explanation is less the "generation" but more the age of the people? Younger people are more likely to quit a job because they have less responsibilities that would keep them from doing so if they start to dislike their current job. Gen X/Millenials are now all in prime family-establishing age and thus more likely to prioritize job security over job excitement. Younger people might weigh this differently and switch around to try other companies/other fields.

Brave of you to assume everyone else is happy, and not just used to putting up with a job because they need the money.

Hey fair enough. But they are, and they tell me all the time because we talk constantly. It was the Zoomers I could not talk to on Skype/whatsapp/signal/slack ...whatever platform they wanted. So how did I fail to reach them? That's what I am wondering as a manger because, yeah a job is just a job, but it doesn't have to suck, and I as a manager can make it suck much less. It's within my power, but I cannot do the thing if you don't ask for the thing despite multiple attempts. There must be something wrong with how I attempt to engage them.

Were they being paid at a similar level to their generally older, more experienced co-workers?

While there certainly could be a wide variety of possibilities, age as a factor has a correlation with so many different things, it's wise to narrow it down a little bit by eliminating the most obvious possibilities. Financial compensation is an extremely easy first one to consider, as a factor.

I can tell you why I'm quitting. I'm a millennial. I generally loved the people I work with. I like the work environment. Or I did. We have several old timers quitting right now. The attrition rate is through the roof. Retirement is upon a lot of the old guys and they're leaving either for better jobs or for ones that are less stressful if they aren't retiring. The younger ones (millennials and gen z) don't see the point in sticking around if the older cohort leaves and take their knowledge with them. There's no one to train us, and worse still, changes to the way that my worksite is managed make staying untenable. We don't want to be left holding the bag so to speak. Blamed for low productivity after the older guys are all gone and the knowledge gap becomes more apparent. We aren't really paid well enough, and we don't see the kind of COLA adjustments we should.

Additionally, there is a shortage of us, we have expenses on tools and so on that add up and the company I work for doesn't manage slow times and busy times. So I can't even count on overtime. Sometimes it's mandatory. Sometimes it's nowhere to be found.

I have brought up multiple issues with safety and legal responsibility and been told by my manager that they need to think about it - repeatedly. I feel like my concerns aren't being addressed. I want a good home/work balance. I spend 10 hours or more a day at work, and sometimes that's 4 days a week sometimes it's 7.

Worrying and stress are a big part of why I am leaving. I don't want to be worried or stressed all the time. I don't want to think about work outside of work.

You sound like a good boss who is engaged in the development of your employees. That's good. But sometimes it's just that we often take jobs because we have to, not because we want to. And when something better comes along we feel like we have to take the chance.

God, when some of our senior team retires, I'm immediately finding a new job. Shit will hit the fan, and the age gap is like, 30 years. And we are probably still understaffed since most of the team is nearing retirement.

Yeah. There's a lot of new technology but nothing can make up for having thirty years experience on the old tech that's still in use.

What did they tell you when you asked them?

That is was “personal” and they didn’t want to talk about it. I spoke with all the other team members and found out it was because of things other people had - like wfh or different hours - that she never asked me about even though she knew directly approved for the others.

You don't know what she knew.

Did you inform all of your direct reports, unsolicited, that you would approve flexible hours or locations?

Yes, multiple times. We talk, all the time; we have to bring in multiple locations.

She brought this attitude over from Banking where she was last, and even though I tried to engage her, she just refused to talk to me. Despite me getting her a 20% raise this year, not that that is the central thing.

Like others said, the only way to get loyalty is to lead them in their personal lives. They need to see you as a life mentor. It’s not something your company will tell you though because it’s has nothing to do with corporate performance or business. And you might not even want to be friends with them. Gen z are really not into the work is my second family mindset.

I hard disagree with this. Zoomers do not want their company in their personal lives.

I am a millennial and I do not want my company in my personal life.

We are not a family.

Companies should provide opportunities for employees to bring their families to fun social engagements, if they want, only after the company has met all other employee requirements.

Having a group of people that like to work together is important, but trying to be a "life coach" is some boomer shit if I have ever heard any.

Edit: furthermore it is so disgustingly condescending. Just because you are a person's manager means nothing outside of work. Work mentor yes, "life coach"? Get that garbage out of your brain. I would immediately hate working for anyone who has this mentality.

Edit2: I cannot express how utterly terrible, condescending and offensive this thought process is. Fuck. I would go over your head or quit so fast. Jesus Christ this makes me irrationally angry. 💢

Well yeah that’s why zoomers look for another job after 2 years. It’s expected. Now put yourself as a startup business owner looking for smart zoomers in IT to build your product. How would you try and keep them long term because if they quit after 2 years, you’ll be in big trouble. Solution? Try to be friends outside of just work with them.

What boomer bullshit is this?

Millennials and zoomers look for new jobs because businesses don't treat them as adults most of the time. I got told by a boss that "Millennials are too young to know the value of hard work." Bitch, I'm 35 years old. Companies don't offer reasonable salary increases or promotions.

Want to keep zoomers? Pay them commiserate with experience. Give them level/title bumps. Treat them like adults.

I agree, the comment is extremely off-base. I hope anyone that reads that advice also sees your comment underneath it, the advice itself is extremely poor and likely to be counter productive.

Treat them as normal understand them listen to them you should be good

My company has struggled with this too. We’ve lost all the Zs we’ve hired within the first few months, and we were deliberately trying to mentor them so they could gain the professional skills they were very clearly lacking on hiring. I invested so much of my time training them on how to write an email, how to write a document using complete sentences, how to proofread a document, and how to be in a meeting (4 different Zers individually, who could not do any of these things without significant hand-holding).

Once we were happy that they were up to speed and on the same level as the rest of the team, they left. Consistently their reason was “thank you for giving me the skills I needed to get a better job.” Which, great! I guess. But that leaves me pretty stumped. How am I supposed to train new team members knowing that they’ll leave at the first opportunity? I’m not a manager, so it’s not really my problem, but ya, it’s frustrating for this elder millennial who just appreciates having a job that isn’t exploitative.

Those "better jobs" likely just pay more. The answer is to pay people what they're worth when they're worth it or your competitors will.

Are responsibilities being spread fairly or are older employees dumping the shitty work onto younger employees? Does the workplace unfairly reward employees based on how long they've worked there? I've worked in those environments and it sucks.

I think, like others have said, an exit interview is your best bet if you really want to know.

We don't know anything about what it's like to work for you, what you do, what everyone gets paid, etc. Tell them you want to know and they will most likely be happy to tell you.

This reminds me of what a relative told us about one of their first days at work. Some HR manager apparently told them that he wishes for everyone present to get into the situation where they'd leave the company at some point. He admitted that he probably shouldn't say something like that as HR person but they're all still young and it's a good thing to broaden their experience and see other companies/company cultures etc.

Furthermore, when seeing memes and other posts about things like the housing market I'm not surprised that lots of people steer away from being loyal to a company and towards making more money (though that doesn't seem to be the case here based on what I saw from other comments)

I'm on that brink between the two. My experience is that people are less likely to deal with inconveniences, especially during the ramp up period. There is a sense of immediacy that has been growing in recent years on all sides of work. Some people will feel as though demand on them increases disproportionately to the time and training provided them.

My parents always advised me to "Wait it out" if I didn't feel comfortable or prepared to do the tasks a job required of me. However, while most places are slow to fire someone for not being up to task, there will be a good amount of pressure and expectations to succeed. Every job I've had, I could do the work, but didn't know their proprietary systems or unique business processes in use. So while I interviewed well, I struggled to demonstrate my skills because of a ticketing system or set of forms required. Nobody was too friendly to someone who said they were good, but can't hit the ground running.

Keep in mind, as others have said, that most younger people are only just now entering the workforce. They don't know how to work, they don't know what's normal, they don't know what to do or what to expect. They're seeking a place where they can get guidance on how to be productive. Not in terms of micromanagement, but in terms of adequate instruction, offering of support if needed, and empowering them and providing them resources needed to succeed. If they aren't comfortable, don't feel the right vibe from the workplace culture, can't figure something out... the patience for such things is very very thin. Not to say you should walk on eggshells, but as also said: they don't have loyalty yet. Most young people see it as a necessary evil to work, and most companies something to tolerate, not embrace. They will bounce at a moments notice because they aren't married to the concept of being a "company person".

It's a difference in how their work ethic is applied. They need that immediate return for their input. There is no safety in working towards something several years in the future if the future doesn't exist, or won't be kind to them. So they seek more benefits that are applicable to their daily/weekly life. I know you mentioned Europe, so they don't face the American problem of being fired at will or layed off with no notice. But it is something to consider that there is seemingly no perceived value to staying at one place until you retire like was had in the past.

~ Just some thoughts.

The biggest thing I've found that make me want to leave a workplace are condescending attitudes and hovering, the absolute best jobs I've had had the attitude " you know what you're doing let me get out of your way, and I know that if you don't you'll come and ask me because I'll explain without becoming irritable"

OP, please re-frame your post title as a question with a "?".

Why would I do that? The statement is in the not the imperative mood, not the interrogative mood. Am I missing some kind of Lemmy etiquette?

Rule 2:

2) All posts must end with a "?"

This is sort of like Jeopardy. Please phrase all post titles in the form of a proper question ending with ?

They are likely quitting because you are not putting forth an effort to build trust with people who are different to you(you’re favouring genx within just a few sentences so that is saying loads about where your glaring blind spots are).

Bad management is indeed the leading cause of unemployment https://www.hcamag.com/us/specialization/industrial-relations/why-bad-managers-are-contributing-to-the-great-resignation/322106

https://hbr.org/2022/08/quiet-quitting-is-about-bad-bosses-not-bad-employees

It’s also possible If genz are unhappy, so are genx. You’re just seeing through the lens of a manager.

Genx have just been soul destroyed enough (due to years Of being told bad management is part of working, a concept handed down by the boomers to make genx more pliable) to not have any standards to quit which is problematic because they are more likely to sit through abuse without reporting it causing a missing stair syndrome which anyone else is easily picking up on and not wanting to deal with all the fixing of alone.

So just cuz a genx doesn’t quit doesn’t let you off the hook. You all just found your level. It’s not a good level.

Why are you pandering to a generation that has proven to be lazy and unreliable? Why not focus on better candidates to begin with and target older employees? Seems like Zoomers are getting a disproportionate amount of focus while at the same time are rather sub par when it comes to productivity.

And folks can downvote all they want, but that is just more proof that I am right.

Why are you pandering to a generation that has proven to be lazy and unreliable?

Complaining about younger generations is an age old pattern:

" They [Young People] have exalted notions, because they have not been humbled by life or learned its necessary limitations; moreover, their hopeful disposition makes them think themselves equal to great things -- and that means having exalted notions. They would always rather do noble deeds than useful ones: Their lives are regulated more by moral feeling than by reasoning -- all their mistakes are in the direction of doing things excessively and vehemently. They overdo everything -- they love too much, hate too much, and the same with everything else."

-Aristotle, 4th century BC

I'd say the focus is because they're the future workforce, whatever that may entail

We are doomed.

If success means slaving away for a company that exploits your labour then good, i welcome the doom.

I'll bite. How do downvotes prove you are right in any way?

Yeah that's always a stupid thing to say but it literally doesn't even make any sense here at all lmao

You're getting downvoted and rightfully so, but you have accidentally made a good point. Believe me, as an older Xer I am very aware of the age issue and look at all CVs (resumes) no matter what the date on the college graduation says and have interviewed people even older than I am.

Calling an entire generation lazy and unreliable isn't a helpful contribution to the community. I'm going to leave this comment up, but please be aware that it was a line ball whether to remove. Please be conscious of Rule 1.

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