Is it worth getting into video games?

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I’m a 30 year old woman who’s only really played card and puzzle games on my phone. Im considering new hobbies. Is it worth trying to get into video games for the first time. Where would I even start.

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It's definitely worth trying if you're interested.

I would not recommend buying a console or gaming PC first as that is a money sink that you're not sure is worth it yet. My gaming PC broke when I arrived at university, and I got by playing less graphically intensive games on my standard laptop for a few years.

Good games I'd recommend to start with:

  • Stardew Valley — cosy, charming farming game that you can play at your own pace. Has great characters that you get to know, and fun, simple, rewarding gameplay. My girlfriend got really into this game.
  • Minecraft — this is where many of us started as kids. It's an excellent game that's fun for all ages. There isn't a clear goal so it's more about making your own fun.
  • Vampire Survivors — extremely fun, simple, cheap, and addicting game. Play at your own risk.
  • LIMBO — a puzzle game classic with a unique, dark aesthetic. Only takes a couple of hours to complete.
  • INSIDE — made by the same people as Limbo. Grabbed me and wouldn't let go for the whole 4 hour experience. I don't play many puzzle games but I couldn't get enough of this one. Probably because of the narrative.

Those can all be played on the average laptop or desktop anyone would have.

Best of luck on your journey! Feel free to reply with any questions or suggestions for specific genres and such. My girlfriend didn't play video games until I introduced them to her, and the most important thing was that I didn't try to force any games on her, just show her what there was and let her interest lead the way. So take a look at all the suggestions people are leaving and go with what interests you most. And if you're not enjoying a game, it's okay to go play a different one.

(Also, Steam provides free, no-questions-asked refunds for any games purchased that both 1) were bought less than 2 weeks ago, and 2) have less than 2 hours of game time. So you can always demo a game to see if you like it and return it easily if not.)

Agree with this. Stardew Valley and many games can be found on mobile and quite popular with the gaming community. I am not sure as a beginner player I would start off with Stardew Valley as there are a lot of mechanics? Would recommend more of the below as there are not as many things to figure out:

High recommendations for Vampire Survivors. There is a demo with that link as well as direct app access.

Additionally, Animal Crossing Pocket Camp for $20 come December is great intro. Super relaxing game.

100% recommend Slay the Spire as well.

For games without a mobile option, I feel like Portal 1 and Portal 2 are must plays for anyone. And are not too graphically intense for any computer. Its a puzzle game. You run and jump into portals to figure out the puzzles. I wish I could play them again for the first time. All the above are amazing games. Wishing you the best on your journey!

P.S. if you have a friend to game with, It Takes Two is a pleasant experience.

I'd also add Balatro and Terraria to that list.

Balatroncould be good. Terraria I think is a bit tricky to learn unless you have a friend guiding you. It requires a lot of looking up the wiki which I think isn't ideal for someone getting into video games.

Stardew can be a bit slow and boring at the beginning

Its such a vast ocean, I would just start with whatever catches your attention. Theres so many different kinds if games for all types of people that you should probably assess what you think is fun, and pick a game sort of involved with that? I tend to like cooperative games, RPGs, and games about exploring more than I like competitive games like First Person Shooters. I also really like racing games.

Yes. Start with Stardew Valley or Animal Crossing. From there, post threads asking for suggestions based on what you liked.

Just avoid games that cost a lot or have lots of micro transactions. Its like smoking cigarettes, better to not start.

Start with stardew valley and thank me later.

This is a good entry but may feel daunting to someone whos never played video games.

If you do play stardew valley, you may want to watch introduction videos on YouTube

One more day... just one more day... need to those gold star crops... got to go fish... shit need bait, got to go to the mine... one more day... just one more day...

Slay the Spire is a card based video game.

I think these types of games would be a great place to start; maybe even something like Inscryption since it shows how deep games can be even when they appear to start off fairly simple.

And it’s on mobile so she can start there without buying any new hardware

This is like asking if you should get into books or movies! The answer is absolutely! 💜 There are so so many games.

The genre "cozy game" is a pretty good place to start, I think. They focus more on the vibe than challenges.

Definitely stay away from games that use phrases like "souls like". Those are games that are trying to be intentionally difficult for the sake of being difficult.

A lot of this depends on what sort of console or computer you have access to. A lot of indie games are not very taxing and you can probably play them on your computer easily even if it isn't a gaming computer. Things like Stardew Valley and Spiritfarer come to mind.

Something else to consider is that it's a wonderful social window if you have friends that you don't get to hang out with very often due to geography and life.

I have a couple of good friends who are too far away after I moved to another area. We play games online and have a nice social hangout for a few hours each Saturday. Voice chatting works great.

It's fantastic to be able to regularly spend time with them.

I'm a 30-something woman myself. I've been gaming longer than I've had a phone. Here's my two cents:

You're already into videogames. Fuck what the haters say about mobile gaming not being """true""" gaming (whatever the heck that means), they're just sour they can't game whenever wherever without investing a ton of time. Then again, maybe I'm just mad because I've recently invested a ton of time into Youtube's playables.

If you want to get into PC or console gaming, I recommend starting off with popular E rated games in the genres you already know you like. Generally these games are more complex than mobile games, but this type will usually introduce difficulty curves to gradually transition you into their mechanics and complexity and teach you to be a master without having to look up training online.

If you want to branch out, start with genre-bending/-blending games. I'm personally a fan of puzzle-platformers, as those are my two favorite genres; while I'm not big on card games, they recently had an explosion in popularity, so there's a blend of just about every genre you could want.

Yes games are fun. I made friends, had so many memorable adventures with complete strangers, managed to keep in touch with family and close ones no matter the distances.

Honestly its about how you want to game, do you like something chill? Or something more like adventurous? How long do you see yourself playin? Something that is played on a desk or a couch? Do you like "gamey games", or do you like realism in your games?

First, you need a system if you dont have one. A system is needed to run a game.

If you are a comeplete beginner the switch by nintendo is in my experience a great onboarding experience, but that might be a bit expensive in the long run once you accumulate games. The system is a bit underpowered, but delivers such great experiences through their exclusive nintendo game titles. Great on the go, light, great for couch co-op, has online play.

Playstation and xbox are very easy to manage, and deliver more on the realism side of games while still having great gamplay first experiences. Its honestly a great balance, old ones are just as great since the old games are cheap and usually have great classics. (Warning about compatibility though). Couch gaming, has online gaming and couch+online coop.

The PC is extreme: its kinda hard to build the right machine for your needs, it can deliver whatever experience you want (it can basically "cheat" and pretend to be a playstation or switch gameboys etc through emulation, a process that is not very beginner friendly), has ALL the games (except the latest nintendo ones, except through the mentioned emulation) but can be pretty expensive if you want a high quality graphical performance to the point where you can see a cyborg sweat running down his firm and physics enhanced abs. You use launchers to go to an online store to buy games that you have to find on the internet and download, like Steam (my fav) Epic (they give a free non freemium game each week I believe!) Gog (very privacy, and consumer oriented ) and many others. Some miscreants will tell you that you can (gasp!) Pirate (arr) games, so a good system could potentially cost less in the long run! Its more of a gaming on desk unless you dont mind having a big PC next to your tv. Couch co op games are rare, but the online experience is really good.

My two cents, get minecraft if you like legos. You can also make it prettier on PC. It runs well on even old laptops. Its a great entry for anyone. If its not what you are looking for, you can look up what youd like!

Also please newcomer, do not EVER pay for the microtransactions, for they plague us all. Games should be about fun, not a tool for extracting wealth from people who just want to go on cool adventures, explore strange worlds, meet interesting characters or experience lives never lived.

I wanted to make this shorter but I get excited about theses things. Gl hf!

How about the steamdeck-like, for.PC gamas. The Pros and Cons.

I actually own a steam deck! Its a great system, that runs on Linux, so there is a little bit of tinkering and buyers awareness to get through as not all games on steam run on it easily.

The catalogue compatible with just one tap/click is still growing, but you still have to use the proton tool before launching a game that is windows based. Some online games are also protected with some anti cheat software that may or not stop you from playing your favorite online games. Its also a handheld, so unless you plan on connecting the steam deck to a screen and bringing out a keyboard for your keyboard based game, you are going to have a bad time. (Note, there is a virtual keyboard thay pops up if need to enter some text occasionally).

The thing that attracted me to the deck, is the fact that you can actually launch the steam deck in desktop mode, that gives you access to a fully functioning linux system. There, you can also download your games from other launchers/stores and link them to your steam game library and access them through the non desktop mode.

This means that with some more tinkering (kinda alot actually, i wont lie), you can turn the steam deck into the ultimate emulator for any switch/some ps3 games and lower (as in raw processing power, so gameboy, gamecube, ps1, ps2, xbox etc) on the go. You also get a rather powerful computer for an amazing price point,at the cost of an hdmi/usb/ethernet dongle or dock. Since its a computer in the shape of a hanheld console, you can dualboot windows if you wanted.

The other very cool thing, is that you can use steam to stream your games from your gaming pc right to your tv by using your steam deck as a streaming game console, which is amazing and in the end extends your desk PC capacity to offer the best couch gaming experience with no drawbacks if it wasnt for the whole ensemble price. Also the trackpads are a very cool addition to the gamepad layout, amd it has extra buttons on the back! Since it has bluetooth, you can also just get a controller and let it chill next to your tv.

You can configure it the way you want, you can apply cool mods, change components within pretty easily (some ppl buy the cheapest version then upgrade the hardware to save money!) And since its a steam hardware product that has successfully proven itself to enough ppl, the support its gonna be getting is very exciting.

To me the problem of the Steam deck is the time and tinkering that it requires to setup this perfect machine, but its a new system, and emulation is in a gray zone legally in many countries so it will probably always require some amount of tinkering. (There are vids online that take you through it, its absolutely doable but can be a barrier for some newcomers) You can manage well the battery, but it drains rather fast. If you dont like steam, idk if this product is right for you, but you can install windows or another linux distro if youd like. (Level 3 tinkering right there)

I love my steam deck, and actually do work on it occasionally, which got me more comfy with the linux ecosystem (but this is about just using linux as an operating system so im gonna stop here). Its the best for the indie games on steam as long as they have gamepad support and are compatible with or without the proton tool.

Now for the other handheld PCs, I cant speak. I heard that some are very powerful, more than the steam deck by quite alot, however imo they are held back by being run on windows, an Operating System that is not made for such a device, but will absolutely get you through the anti cheat headaches that a steam deck might have.

They also have a 1080 p screen for the fancy ones, but this impacts battery.

You can install chimera OS or Bazzite if you want the linux experience, and the Steam Os (on the steam deck) is coming soon (its gonna be a while though).

So yeah im gonna stop there cuz i cant stop talking about this thing.

You are already a gamer!

I’m a 36 year old woman who grew up playing them with my dad. My sister is a year younger than me get than me. She grew out of it a bit but she still plays “cozy”, low to no pressure games. I like long role playing games with interesting stories.

If you want any recommendations or a new friend to play with, I’m here! I also know of several gaming groups for women.

I’d like to know more about what you’re interested to give better suggestions but here are a few that might pique your interest.

Balatro is a recently popular card game. You can play it on your phone or on a computer. It works sort of like poker, but you apply effects to the cards to multiply your score.

A Little To The Left is a puzzle game. You play the owner of a mischievous cat and your goal is to reorganize the messes that your cat made throughout the house, like sorting the mail, organizing a battery draw, displaying sea shells you collected etc

Unpacking is also a puzzle game. You literally unpack boxes in various rooms. Sometimes it’s hard to make everything fit. As you progress through each level, you learn about the main character’s life.

If you want something more traditional, Ori and the Blind Forest is absolutely beautiful. In that, you play as a small guardian spirit and you navigate through a forest solving puzzles, collecting items, and jumping between platforms (sorta like Mario).

In general, it's worth getting to video games. I would caution against trying corporate-created games, mainly because they are a money sink (for you) first and worthwhile entertainment second. There are a lot of "indie" games out there typically created by people truly passionate on their craft... you can take a look at them and see if it interests you.

  • Stardew Valley
  • Songs of Conquest
  • No Man's Sky
  • Factorio
  • Disco Elysium

Worth getting into? Absolutely. It can be very cheap, too.

Where to start? That's the trick question. It will depend on whether you start with console or PC, the latter having a much more extensive catalogue of games, plus emulation of older systems.

My personal recommendation is getting a PC, it doesn't even need to be a gamer one, anything that isn't a piece of shit and was released in the past 4 or so years will do good for playing low end games and emulate anything up to N64 and possibly Dreamcast games (2003 and earlier). You can use a variety of console controllers on computer, so it's fine. Whe searching for ROMs, be sure to have uBlock Origin installed on your web browser.

If you have any friends, talk to them, see what they're playing or would recommend you to play. If you don't, download steam and download demos of games that look somewhat interesting to you. Check GOG as well, it tends to have some older PC games as well, plus demos and whatnot.

Try out a variety of genres. It's possible one game of a certain genre might not "click" with you, but another might.

Yes. I highly recommend it. You don't need to get a high end gaming PC or spend a lot of money on new titles. You can go to websites like GOG (DRM-Free games), or Steam (more mainstream platform with more games) to pick up some older games at massive discounts, and they are likely to run well on your normal PC with minimal spending to test the waters. If you enjoy it and want to spend more money for a better experience with newer games, that's entirely optional.

What kind of games are you interested in?

What gaming is like for a non-gamer

This guy had his non-gaming wife try different games, very enlightening for your purposes

I'd recommend Portal and its (much better) sequel Portal 2. Excellent puzzle games, good writing, fun characters and short. It should take you abojt 3-5 hours if you have never played a 3D video game before.

Oh and btw the website linked is Steam, the most beloved PC game buying plateform. Be aware that you shouldn't buy the games at full price on stem, check websites like instant gaming, humble bundle or fanatical to get better deals (-80% sometimes!) On these alternative websites you will get a code that has to be activated in the steam app (downloaded on your computer). Search "activate steam game code" on YouTube for explanations on how to do that.

Portal should cost about ~3$ now (it's a 2007 game so it can run on basically anything)

Of course portal and portal 2 are fantastic games but I would never recommend them to someone who has never played a game before. One of the reasons it's so good is because it subverts the tropes and even mechanics of other games.

If you have a PC download steam and get half life 2 for free.

We all have our type of game. Try out a ton of new genres. Maybe you don't like shooters and you like simulators. Or maybe you like roguelikes. Or just platformers or building games. Don't stop trying new things till you find the genre that is right for you, then ask people for recommendations within that genre.

I had a comment earlier that had a bunch of.free games, I will try to post links later.

I would highly recommend Portal and Portal 2 as primers for basically all your 3D games. Not only did Yahzee give The Orange Box in general a glowing review, but they teach you basic gaming mechanics almost intuitively.

If you're unsure, buy a nice used ps4 with some games for dirt cheap to see if you like it. If you do, I suggest eventually moving forward with the PC route. Either a steam deck or a laptop and an Xbox controller. If you know you're liking gaming you could go all out on a gaming desktop PC.

Consoles are nice, but a PC game library is compatible for decades of games, and you can buy them for a lot less $ most of the time.

Considering you're already into card games, give Balatro a try. It's got it's basis in poker, but puts some extra spice on it that might interest you.

Chants of Sennar is also a strong recommend. It's a puzzle game based around intuitive language translation, but also has a really strong story that keeps it interesting.

There are some decent to good video games available on Android & iPhone, of a wide variety of genres.

If you have the self discipline to not let gaming take over all your spare time (whistles innocently while totally not looking in mirror), it’s absolutely worth getting into.

Where to start? I recommend keeping it simple. If you don’t already own a desktop or laptop computer at home, it’s probably easiest to stick with games on your phone.

  • ask friends & family what games they play, particularly those who fall on the same side of the Apple/Google divide as you.
  • open your app store and look at lists of popular games by genre. Pick a free one, download it, and try it out. If you don’t like it, delete it and try another one.
  • if there’s a news or culture site whose judgement you trust & like to follow, even if it’s not a technology or gaming related site, it’s worth spending a couple minutes to see if they have review articles or recommendation lists available. You can even find a related Lemmy community and ask there.

Personally, I play the following:

  • an older logic puzzle game
  • a free klondike solitaire game
  • Egg, Inc - this is an idle incremental game available on both iOS & Android
  • Leaf Blower Revolution - just started this one. It’s in the idle incremental genre as well. Available on iOS, Android, and through Steam. Supports cross platform play by way of cloud saves. I picked it up a week ago and it has been fun so far.

I don’t have the reflexes for active combat games. I like RPGs but prefer to play those on desktop.

I would highly recommend not starting with phone games. 90% of them are designed to be addicting, borderline gambling games, which you can collect or accomplish more things if you just pay them an easy $2 or more... which quickly turns into $20, which then becomes $50+. Before you know it, you're throwing hundreds of dollars at what is essentially a repetitive unending game, just for the dopamine hit.

I know; my wife is addicted to these games and I see $20 charges to our bank account every few days. Nothing ever changes in her games. She never progresses anywhere and there's no end to the game, but it gives her a boost on scores or collectibles or rare limited items, so she drops the money. It's been especially hard to break her of the habit.

I got her to sign up for Steam on her desktop PC and I gifted her a few co-op games, and so we play games online together to give her something fun to do that doesn't require spending money to progress. She used to be awful at FPS games, but playing with me gave her more confidence and practice, and now she's pretty decent.

She really loves Deep Rock Galactic, because a lot of the game is just mining and resource-collecting, with only a little alien bug shooting. She plays as the engineer, so she can set up a turret and not have to worry too much about aiming herself. Plus, playing solo means she gets Bosco, the flying droid, to help her with combat and resource-collecting too. If I'm not around to play with her, she has all the assistance she needs to relax and enjoy the game. It was a very good intro to video games for her.

I got my 75 year old father into video games.

With him, I started by getting him an xbox and an xbox live account (which allows playing multiplayer games online).

We play World of Tanks now together quite a bit.

Lots of good advice here, but I would just add, start with your interests and work out from there. You like puzzle games? Portal is a great physics puzzle game, so you might like that. It's also a 3D platformer, so you'll find out if you like games with a lot of running and jumping. It's also technically a first-person shooter (not in the sense that you shoot enemies, but you do shoot a portal gun at walls), so if you don't like that aspect of the game, you'll know that FPSs aren't for you.

Doesn't have to be the type of gameplay either. You like designing things? Maybe try the Sims or Animal Crossing. Like horror movies? Maybe start with something simple but creepy, like Limbo. Detective stories? Something like Strange Horticulture might be up your alley.

The most important thing is to look around and see what catches your interest. Read some reviews, watch some gameplay footage, and find something that's right for you. Don't just say, "I'm going to do video games now," and buy a Call of Duty or Dark Souls because, "gamers," like them.

I think this is the best answer. I'd like to add, that game genres are often comparable to forms of sport. So e.g. I hate running 😅 but love surfing.

So just as there is a sport for almost everyone, there is probably at least one genre you like. Now where to start, that's a but more difficult. But there are already good answers for that

Yeah, sports is a great analogy. Just because you don't like basketball, doesn't mean you won't like soccer, and just cause you don't like turn-based RPGs, doesn't mean you won't like 2D platformers. It's all about finding what you vibe with.

A place to start might be a friend or family member who is into video games.

Gaming hardware can be a little costly, so you may want to visit with someone and play a selection of games before deciding which direction you'd like to start in. I'll also point out that video games are often the very most fun when shared with friends.

If my 30 year old woman friend came up to me one day and said "Hey I've never really played video games before and I'd like to give them a try, but don't know where to start," I think we'd talk awhile first to see if I can find what games are interesting to you. I see a lot of people in this comment section recommending Stardew Valley, which is a game I deeply like and respect though I have seen people bounce right off it, including someone recently here on Lemmy. So while I would recommend giving it a look, if you do bounce off it, don't just go "video games aren't for me," maybe cozy games aren't for you.

Some questions I might ask are:

Are you looking for a more relaxing or more exciting experience?

Would you like your play sessions to be challenging, contemplative, creative, or competitive?

Are you more interested in story, or gameplay?

How important are flashy fancy graphics to you?

Where will your gameplay sessions fit into your life? Do you want something to do during your daily train ride? Will this replace your daily television hour? Is it what you're going to do all Saturday afternoon?

Do you see yourself playing games on your couch, at a desk, or on the go?

Do you want to enjoy games alone, or with friends? Will you gather in one place to play together, or play across the internet?

Do you have a genre of fiction you like? Are you into historical drama, sci-fi, fantasy, slapstick comedy?

How do you feel about horror? Both the psychological Lovecraftian existential crisis type, and the "oh god a 10 foot monster with 50 mouths for a mouth just jumped out behind a tree and roared" type?

Yes, it is worth getting into video games. Mental quickness, friends, and less Alzheimers are some benefits.

People in this post are making excellent recommendations for quality commercial games.

I can recommend starting out in videogames, by getting into Free Software (Libre) games.

Libre Games cost nothing, have no spyware, and usually have positive, helpful, DIY focused communities.

Here is a post I made that lists a few of my favourite free games on desktop and mobile.

https://lemmy.world/post/20786563

If any on this list are too difficult or hard to set up, just skip.

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Historical note

The Fool's Errand game, from 1987, sold very well with women gamers. Over 50% IIRC.

It is a tricky puzzle game with Tarot Card theming and an excellent sense of humour.

Fool's Errand is not Free Software though, and way out of print. It could probably be emulated on a device that you have, PC or phone.

Game detail at Wikipedia

Play original Mac version online

PC version online

Games can be one of the nice forms of entertainment like tv series or films, so i'd say yes.

Just try to look for really good games, like zelda breath of the wild, bioshock infinite, twelve minutes, sayonara wild hearts and so on. No online games, no infinite games, no games that are more like a job than a game (where you have to grind for everything) and so on. Games that let you enjoy the gameplay, the art and the story without making you feel like ''oh i have to login or i lose the fit and i have to get the daily rewards and bla bla bla''.

Good advice. Solo player games where you actually buy them is usually a safe bet. If it's free, they'll want your money later or make it an impossible grind. It's a bit of the same on the mobile side so OP is probably aware.

You can make some searches about good games for new comers because of all the games I'm currently playing, none would be a good start.

Done recently that could work :

Baldur's Gate 3. It's turn by turn so not reliant on mechanical skills. Can be played on concoles or pc with keyboard or controller. The story is so amazing. The acting, the branching, the choices... Loved it.

Frostpunk. Game where you try to save people gathered around a generator cause the earth is now ice cold. You manage ressources and tech to meet people expectations. They'll have demands but you can't say yes to everything. Hard choice. Can be kinda hard but you just start over the scenario with the knowledge you just got. It's mostly just figuring things out...

Skyrim? I liked the story / setting. I don't know if that aged alright or if there's something better in the same genre that could be welcoming. I remember that it wasn't particularly hard. On easy it should be more focused on the story / immersion.

bioshock infinite

no infinite games

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Why are you recommending the worst BioShock game as a really good game? Shouldn't a person start with the best BioShock game, BioShock? Or at least start with the second best BioShock game, BioShock 2? It just doesn't make sense to start with the one BioShock game that actually kinda sucks, that being BioShock Infinite.

Heck yeah, my wife didn't play video games before she met me. Now she's obsessed with Assassins Creed, and Stardew Valley. Like others have said, there's something for everyone out there. You just gotta try stuff and see what you like.

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I just realized that the most obvious choice for new players is Stardew Valley. I never really thought about it. Even newer Mario or Minecraft could be a barrier. Controlling cameras can be confusing and difficult for newer players. Stardew doesn't require you to be good at twin stick mechanics (although that is used for the slingshot if you want to do that). It gives you lots of encouragement and is very straightforward with missions. The screen is never cluttered with junk or pop-ups. It gets more complex as you progress but you'll never be "stuck". The fishing and fighting games teaches how to use button control and timing. Everything feels rewarding like you are making progress. Not to mention it's pretty universally loved and will run on almost any PC and is available on all consoles or tablet or mobile devices

Loads of great experiences and tons of diversity. I've had lot of great experiences through video games and it's never too late to start.

You could start with by looking through some video game threads and asking more specific question like "I'm new to video games, what are some games that you recommend that are not to hard to pick up" or something.

Recommend: Portal

I personally think you should give Portal a shot, it's a 3D puzzle game that you can run on any computer and is one of the best games of all time, it's also pretty funny on top of that.

Video games are great and there is something for everyone.

But without more info, it is hard to advise.

Got an ex Nintendo Switch and Zelda breath of the wild. It was beautiful seeing her get into it.

Video Games are a broad medium, akin to reading. Asking "should I get into books?" would be similarly difficult to answer.

Also, be mindful of sturgeon's law. 90% of everything is crap. For every "Taylor Swift" that was widely popular and successful, there's 9 meh bands no one remembers.

All of that said, it's a wide and deep medium with a lot of experiences.

If you like card games, there're related genres. Deck builders are popular. Slay the Spire is popular. Cobalt Core is fun and not as hard. Monster Train is pretty good.

Those are all also "rogue lites", so you could make the leap from there to something like FTL.

Lots of options.

Probably don't spend a lot of money up front. Stuff goes on sale on Steam pretty often.

Probably avoid "gacha" games that are free to play or have "loot box" stuff. Those tend to be exploitive and bad.

Steam for your PC will have a large library of free games you can try, and also paid games. If you like board or card games there is an application called table top simulator. This opens up access to traditional board games people have converted to PC--when you can't find it as a standalone game. Also a suggestion for standalone games if you are into cards:

  • Wingspan. It has a steep learning curve but hours of fun once you learn it.

  • Dominion. If you like this genre of game it can be a lot of fun.

  • Catan. if you have played Catan board game and enjoy it, you can also play online for free https://catanuniverse.com/en/game/

Where would I even start.

There's a lot of good information provided video game reviewers. I tend to start there, when looking for something new.

In particular, I've learned about entire genres such as "cozy games" and "couch co-op", that way. Then, once I know what the genre I'm in the mood for is called I can search for "best cozy games of 2020", to find ideas of what I might like to try.

In order to not worry about whether each game will run, I feel that the SteamDeck is the current nicest all around game console available, followed by the Nintendo Switch.

Get a Switch Lite and go from there. If you already have a midrange PC with decent iGPU, download Steam and play an older but highly rated game.

Don’t spend too much before deciding if it is for you. Find the cheapest entry point.

Oh, there are so many kinds!

If you have a PC, why don't you check out some free-to-play games on Stream? Or even a couple demos to see what you may like. I wouldn't go straight into getting major equipment until you know a little more about what you like.

My grandma has been playing video games since before I was born. Her tastes have changed as she's gotten older, but there's absolutely something for everyone.

If you're 100% a beginner, I may even go a step back to some flash games. Just to get used to moving around (if not using a controller) and some of the more common UI. There's also a interesting series on YouTube called "gaming for non gamers" about a man and his wife who is trying out different genres. He goes over some things she misses just because she's not used to it since some mechanics they just assume you know these days.

And be easy in yourself! A new hobby always has some rough points. There will be bad games, matches, complete wastes of time. But there will be some truly remarks gems in there. Good luck!

Very much so. As people have mentioned there’s a lot of good advice here. A Nintendo Switch might be worth checking out as a starting point. It’s handheld and can also connect to your TV to play on a larger screen.

If you want to try an FPS, the original Half-Life is amazing (if visually dated), and was designed to ease the player into the experience as opposed to something like Doom or Dusk that throws you into the action without any tutorials. I'm biased though, Half-Life is my favorite FPS of all time lol.

It goes on sale for around $2 regularly, which is a nice bonus. I second the Portal and Stardew recommendations of others too.

Half-life is good -- I played it recently -- but I think it relies on having a bit of skill already, it's not a great choice for a beginner in my opinion. I would suggest Minecraft (if you're creative) or Portal (if you like puzzles) instead, to learn the ropes of how to control a game in first-person perspective.

Others have said it and I agree, Stardew Valley. Don't even need to buy a console.

Depending on your tolerance for low resolution graphics there are a literal lifetimes worth of games from NES to PS1 that can be emulated at better quality features available than the originals.

Evoquest 1-2 would be wild for you, the gameplay is designed to replicate the evolution from 8 bit to modern mobile gaming platforms. You'll get a chance to "catch up" on what games have been like with a coherent story tying it together.

If you want to get into multi-player stuff there are a lot of MMOs out there for mobile as well.

maybe something like Minecraft or terraria? I'd recommend starting with the classics, no shooter games or stuff like that.

Depends on what you want to achieve.

Video games are an easy way of losing yourself in a hobby for an afternoon. Can become addictive and you may lose the entire weekend.

Do you want games that focus on the social aspect and make friends? The story? Quick reactions and precise timing? Building something? Compete? Challenge yourself and improve (at ultimately a pointless task in a video game)? Simulate something accurately?

Before you start, as a gamer what do you non gamers do to spend your free time on anyway?

I'm 31 and I only really started playing games around 4 years ago, apart from playing on bootleg NES consoles or C64 as a kid.

It is worth it if you have fun doing it, and you probably will!

If you don’t know where to start, you probably still haven’t figure out what genres you'd be into.

You might like Steam Deck, an affordable console-like handheld PC, because:

  • It offers a wide variety of games from all generations, so if you want to experiment with different genres you can always find something for yourself - you can purchase a game on Steam store and if it’s not for you, just return it below 2h of gameplay
  • Very user friendly, easy to navigate for non-techies, despite being PC, for the most part it just works, great entry for folks with no prior experience with PC gaming
  • It's a handheld! Take it with you anywhere easily, play in bed, on couch, toilet, whatever. If you're used to playing on a phone, this might be appealing
  • you can still dock it as a regular PC and have mouse+keyboard+external screen if you want to try gaming this way
  • if you want to tinker to explore even further, you can emulate older consoles, play with 3rd party launchers, use it for other things than gaming, even replace the software completely - it is all possible

Other choices are perfectly valid like Nintendo Switch, Xbox or PS5, but they’re within their respective closed ecosystems. With Xbox and PS5 you’re also stuck with TV. Consoles have limited backwards compatibility, so for example Switch only supports games for Switch, PS5 supports games for PS5 and PS4, and it’s a bit better with Xbox iirc.

If you want Nintendo Switch (if games like Mario or Zelda are appealing to you), maybe wait a little bit as they’re cooking new generation for release soon-ish, and the current one is old and miserable in terms of performance.

Steam would be a great place to start. Tons of games, many of them free. If you're willing to buy some hardware, getting a Switch would be a good bet. Lots of excellent games, many of them are beginner-friendly.

App games are video games so if you think playing on your phone is worth it, then playing on a dedicated gaming device should be worth it too.

You can start by choosing a platform. You can stick to mobile (Switch, Steam Deck), go console (Xbox, PS5, Switch), or a gaming PC.

Plus 1 to this. A lot of great games have broken through to mobile, and are really affordable. Two specific recommendations:

  1. Balatro— if you have any familiarity with poker this will make a ton of sense to you. It's very popular, easy to pick up, and has a lot of depth.

  2. Listen to video game podcasts for recommendations. I love The Besties, but there are a ton. Try the games they recommend. If you like what they say is good, then you've found a reliable source of Future recommendations. If not, try another podcast!

I really do recommend the hobby. It's a lot of fun, there are a bunch of different kinds of games, and the landscape is constantly evolving so there's always something new (or old—retro games are super fun) to discover. Take your time and try a bunch of different things!

There is a concern about accesability and hidden gamer slang.

First person 3d games can make you motion sick.

There you would need to learn to control a camera.

Red is health, Blue is mana, Yellow is for climbing.

There will be countless stuff that are build upon years of gaming culture.

Try to start with co-op so someone can guide you.

Make a post it note on the monitor with button mappings especially if you play on gamepad.

There are lots of different kinds of games out there. If you're new to games and like puzzles, here are a few I can recommend.

Portal is humorous and has fun puzzles, pretty easy to get into. Viewfinder is another similar type of game, also The Stanley Parable

Baba Is You is a creative puzzle game.

Planet of Lana, and Limbo, and Somerville are neat puzzle/platformer games.

Torchlight us a good example of an action RPG genre, Children of Morta is another.

FTL is a neat roguelike game.

Faeria is a card deck building game.

Turn based tactics games can be pretty fun, and are easy to get into. Triangle Strategy is a good one to try.

I also find narrative driven games really fun. For example, The Wolf Among Us is really excellent. Afterparty is pretty entertaining.

All of these should be fairly easy to get into if you're just starting gaming.

If you like puzzle games, Tetris effect is the greatest puzzle game I have ever played. I love horror games but Tetris is still fun as fuck. Never to old to get into gaming. Good luck!

If you like phone puzzle games, have you tried Monument Valley?

https://g.co/kgs/9BWGKjZ This for a game called belatro. I hear it has the rules of poker but it’s a very replayable game that every time you play it is new and different.

There are many games that have great stories and have game modes that make it very easy or hard to die so you can just really enjoy the story.

Switch is the most user friendly PlayStation has some of the best single player story based game X box is mainly for online play These are all just very general statements

Try a little bit of everything.

I would only recommend short games. Ive been gaming my whole life and basically quit recently, because I was playing grindy games that were so exhausting mentally.

Even great games like Terraria, Minecraft and dont starve leave me exhausted. Such huge time sinks. Ive moved onto hobbies that are much more satisfying.

I started recently after a 15 year hiatus.

I chose steamworld dig 2. It's a fun game

Yes. It's a scalable hobby, and can run from virtually no cost to why-are-you-burning-money. But you can do a lot in gaming with little monetary investment.

There are lots of budget indie games that are lots of fun, and if you find out you like gaming and want to try more fancy titles, you can always upgrade hardware.

Minimal entry: your current pc. Install steam, and buy/try what you like, returning it if it's too slow/doesn't work.

Light entry: get familiar with your pc's ram size, hd/ssd size, cpu speed/type, and graphics card. Use that to ensure your pc can handle the game by looking at the game's minimum requirements.

Medium-heavy entry: Upgrade things.

  • ssd if you don't have one. The difference between that and spinning disks is night and day. If you wished things loaded faster, get this.
  • 8 gb graphics card in the $150 range, amd or nvidia-based. Get this if you want a smoother experience / if you can notice individual frames happening. You don't need the most expensive tech to play most games that are out there.
  • Genuine XBox or PS4/5 controller. These standard controllers are generally pretty solid and durable. $60ish
  • new cpu ($$$, and may not even be an option): most games won't be processor-bound. But some are cpu-heavy. Get this if you really want to upgrade overall, or have a particular title in mind that needs it. Or..
  • Low-mid range gaming computer ($900 ($600-$1500)): wait until you want to do a pc upgrade, and get a low-end gaming computer. I recommend Lenovo LOQ or Legion. Lenovo in general has provided laptops that don't fall apart on me, and that's not something I can say about most computer manufacturers. That said, keep them long enough and you'll have to replace the keyboard - but that's every laptop out there that I've run across.
  • or: go crazy and buy everything all the time at the moment it his the market because it is a game or has "game" written on, near, or associated with it (not recommended)

Absolutely!!

There are video games that work like card games, you'd love Balatro or Magic the Gathering.

If you like puzzles, Tetris is the perfect start, its the greatest puzzle game of all time. Tetris Effect and Tetris 99 are good recent games for that.

If you want to graduate from Puzzles to something more gamey, I'd recommend any Mario or Zelda game, and to develop a game mind, Metroid and metroid-like games are excellent.

Many games work like movies too, so if you like movies those are nice.

If you like books, there is a genre of game called a visual novel, (most of those are from Japan though, but many have an English option for text)

If you see a game you think you'd enjoy, go for it.

Personally I find that I'm not super into video games as an adult just because I don't have the time, and I don't find them very fun in short bursts. And when I do have the time I always think to myself I'd be better off spending it on a "productive" hobby like programming. That's an entirely personal thing for me, but it may be something you want to consider, ie if you want to learn a hobby that's also considered a real world skill so to speak, and one that could give you products of your hobby you can actually use and enjoy (eg programming, crochet, cooking, woodworking, etc—so creative hobbies).

Also, feel free to pirate a game if you don't know if it's worth the investment, especially since you won't have a reference point of games you do enjoy. I have no ethical quandary with pirating any game, but if you do, you can just buy the game if you like it, and that way you won't waste money on a game you only get 5% of the way through before getting bored.

Sure! Are there any that interest you? There are many genres and types.

My advice would be to look into emulators. Old school games do not have any micro transactions and are complete. Plus there is a vast library of consoles and games to go through.

There are a lot bad games out there, and not everyone likes every type of game. So try highly rated games from various categories. Just be aware that video gaming consumes a lot of time that you could use for productivity in other areas of your life. I play video games pretty regularly, but I also turn it off when it seems excessive.

Yes it is worth it. The return on gameplay hours for the cost of a game can be incredibly high.

I recommend you start by downloading Steam on a laptop or PC and browse some games, or try some demos. Some games require mouse and keyboard, while others are better with a controller - my preference is a regular Xbox controller, it's plug and play.

Get a Nintendo console. Nintendo Games are absolutely a gateway drug. They're high quality and generally very easy to get into.

Something I don't really like seeing when someone asks a question like this, is everyone just jerking someone around with their recommendations.

I would advise first to feel your tastes out, what do you feel like doing? What do you think is worth your time and even money to invest in? Whatever you feel gravitates you, go for it.

It's just like any other hobby, you have to see and decide for yourself! All I can say as a person who's been playing video games for 27 years and loves them for both their mechanics and their artistic potential is that so far it has been time well spent!

To start, i'd first think about what kind of games tempt you most. You have a wide array of genres from which to choose, like cerebral real-time strategy or 4x games (Explore, Expand, Exploit, Exterminate), narrative and player expression centric role-playing games, action-packed shooters, or agile and clever platformers.

Then, you can use storefronts like Steam or Epic and run general searches based on genres - I'd recommend sorting according to top sellers/most purchased, as score-based sorting isn't always reliable.

At the end of it all, however, the most important factor is whatever tempts you in any way. Steam (this is what I use most of the time) offers Demos for a lot of games nowadays, so you should be able to try pretty much whatever tempts you! Be it flashy graphics, an interesting story hook, or just sheer bloodlust, everything is valid!

I'll leave a list of games I think would serve as a gentle introduction to this hobby below - they're also not resource intensive, so you should be able to play them on any consumer laptop (or smartphone, some of them!):

  • Stardew Valley - management-like game, you have to administrate a farm. But there's a lot of extra complexity I won't spoil

  • Cloudpunk - combination of cyberpunk delivery person simulator and role-playing game, I've found it both relaxing and gripping!

  • Cultist Simulator - it's technically a card game, but what you actually do is balance having a socially acceptable life with investigating incomprehensible forces and leading a cult

  • Star Wars: Knights of The Old Republic I and II - these two are meat-and-potatoes role-playing games with really solid stories, well-written and presented characters, a neat progression system which sees you unlocking awesome Force powers and/or other valuable perks, and the combat, I find, is the perfect mix of engaging and lenient

  • Rocket League - this is as a taste of faster-paced action, basic multiplayer interactions, and relatively high-end graphis - it's football with cars, but awesome!

As an extra note, you may notice I've left links from everywhere. That's because you'll have to select a game storefront (it's a whole thing nowadays, but you really don't need to interact with that side of the hobby if you don't want to...). The storefronts share most of their libraries of games, but there are a few exceptions, so it's best to check them all out before sticking with one. Some examples of such:

  • Steam is the most popular and is good, but you can't run games without running Steam, plus it periodically needs to connect to the internet. Things are fairly priced, the community features are nice, the community is ok, frequent sales. They also offer a no-questions full refund if you choose to do so within two hours of play time, so that's a way to try out games without Demos.

  • GOG (Good Old Games) is basically Steam, less meaty. However, the main strongpoint is that, beyond installing the game through their platform, that game then exists as its own independent entity, not requiring any periodic validation through an internet connection (unless the game itself is online), no shady 3rd party software installed alongside the game to "protect it from piracy," etc. The games are as yours as they could possibly be in a digital-only environment.

  • Epic wants to be Steam's direct rival, so their storefront has many of the same features, but it's not as popular within the community. I honestly have no opinion about them.

Other than that, all I can say is try to explore the hobby, check out gaming outlets, watch Lets-Plays on YouTube, and you can always lean on the online community for suggestions and tips! Also applicable to myself!

  • Epic wants to be Steam's direct rival, so their storefront has many of the same features, but it's not as popular within the community. I honestly have no opinion about them.

I have an opinion on them. They're a terrible company with anti-gamer friendly policies.

I have no problem with competition. It keeps businesses legit and cheap/reasonable for consumers. Heck, GOG does a great job as a companion storefront with Steam.

Epic Games could have tried to be competitive too and provide a similar or better platform for games. But instead, they wanted to corner the market and steal gamers from Steam, so they started pushing exclusivity contracts with publishers. New games would come to only their storefront for the first year, then release to other PC storefronts after that.

Then they started publishing games themselves, which kept them isolated to their storefront indefinitely. Even game series that were released to other consoles and PC platforms suddenly had a sequel that was stuck on Epic Games. I'm looking at you, Alan Wake II.

Or worse, buying up IPs and removing them from other storefronts, like Fall Guys and Rocket League.

They also tried to pull people in by releasing a new game for free every week (even AAA titles!), which was actually the coolest thing they ever did. But it doesn't excuse all their other anti-gaming practices. If anything, it made me feel dirty using their platform.

I have never given Epic Games a penny of my money and until they decide to be competitive with Steam instead of just stealing the market from them, I will continue to boycott them.

I'm not alone in this mindset. Ubisoft was releasing games exclusively on Epic Games for a while and they've just decided that their newest Assassin's Creed game will release on Steam, due to poor sales on Epic. Also, Alan Wake II had dismal sales because it's locked behind Epic's storefront. So a lot of other gamers aren't willing to put up with Epic Games' BS and their model is crumbling.

Epic is what happens when a corporation pops up expecting to make money off gamers. Steam is what happens when someone who is a gamer themselves and appreciates the gaming experience creates a store for gamers. I have given thousands of dollars to Steam over the years and have a massive library of their games. I only have a few free games on Epic and I won't even install their launcher anymore. As a consumer, I vote with my wallet, and Epic needs to get with the program or go away.

They also tried to pull people in by releasing a new game for free every week (even AAA titles!), which was actually the coolest thing they ever did.

You're using the past tense, but they're very much still giving away games for free. On a related note for OP, I'm pretty sure amazon prime gives away games for free too, so if you don't know where to start, you can always start with something that doesn't cost you anything (extra, assuming you have prime).

Video games used to be good, now most games are just quick cash grabs. I highly recommend old classics if you're planning to get into it.

Lots of modern indie or AA games are cheap and really, really good.

Everyone has different preferences, so it can be difficult to judge what you may like or dislike. Even in gaming, there are such disparate subcommunities that one subcommunity may not even know of the existence of another. I personally prefer slow paced, artistic, single player games and I can't stand multi-player games, much less competitive ones.

So my answer is there's likely something for you somewhere, but without more information, I wouldn't know how you would begin finding that something

Start with Dark Souls.

Imagine my surprise when my gf at the time who barely played video games with more depth than Kingdom Hearts beat Gundyr on her first try

Yes it's absolutely worth getting in to video games, there is huge breadth and choice on what to play, and a huge vibrant community.

Starting place is really what devices do you have? Do you have a laptop or PC? If so the world is your oyster and you will find plenty to play even if it's not very powerful.

If you want something popular, cosy and accessible I'd recommend Stardew Valley. It's cheap for such a great game, plenty of content, great learning curve and a huge wholesome community.

But there is loads of choice - you could play card games or puzzle games on you other devices and explore what's available. PC games offer much more variety and depth compared to a mobile, and is very easy to access - no need to buy a console or hardware.

They can tell wonderful stories if you pick the right ones. Personally I find Disco Elysium to be particularly good at this.

If you have a continuous online connection, download Steam. Also look at GoG if you dont want to deal with valves drm

Casual gamer me would tell you there are amazing short narrative games these days.

If you want to start playing video games, you should try easy games like celeste

By "easy" i mean extremely hard, if you play the game you will die thousands of times

Well, what is it that you would like? Women usually go for stuff like the Sims, Stardew Valley or Zelda, maybe some of those are for you?

Do you want to play alone, are you looking for a group, ...? The games I mentioned are usually played alone (Stardew can also be played with up to four friends) so they aren't very social, but they are fun nonetheless.

Get a Quest 3! If you're brand new to gaming I think VR is more intuitive than picking up a traditional controller for the first time.

Or don't give Meta any money. Idk, I just don't want something made by Meta that has cameras and an internet connection inside my home.

I don't blame you. Personally I use a Pico 4 and don't touch Quest. I've got two PCVR gaming rigs, full body tracking with lighthouses etc etc. But we're not taking about me, or you, or an experienced gamer. We're talking about a 30-something whose never touched a controller.

For someone that's new and wants to see what VR is about a Quest is undeniably the easiest way to try things. Then they can decide to upgrade from there if they so choose.

Right, then play the one or two games on it that don't suck and never touch the thing again.

Your personal experience isn't everyone's experience. VRChat alone is worth spending some time in (assuming you escape the kids). I know some people that Only play Walkabout Mini Golf, and there's nothing wrong with that. For someone completely new to gaming I think it's a good start. Wish there's been a shitload of new VR games this year.

It's great that you like VR and want other people to try it. But when someone asks for a recommendation, you can't just attempt to drag them into your own world like that, c'mon. VR is expensive, cumbersome, needs extra space in the house, has very few games (actual games) worth playing, etc. It's an amazing immersive technology, yes. But a 30yo that never touched a game before? There's very little in terms of gaming on any VR platform for them to experience, instead there's a lot of VRing, which I think misses the point of this thread.

I'm just giving the OP a suggestion to look into to see if it's something they might be interested in. You sound like a teenager fanboying for the console of their choice and shitting on anything else. Go back to reddit with that shit.

VR is expensive

It doesn't have to be, which is why I'm saying start with a Quest. A Quest 3S is cheaper than other consoles out there. We also don't know OP's financial situation. This is not a child we're talking about.

cumbersome

I'll give you that in regards to a front-heavy Quest. Other headsets are much better in terms of comfort. But myself and others would spend hours a day in a Quest 2 when it came out and we survived.

Needs extra space

The vast majority of games can be played sitting down. And most standing games have you standing in place. I live in an RV and manage fine.

has very few games

That's simply not true anymore. And we don't know what kind of games OP would like.

Again, I'm not saying VR is the only solution for OP. I'm simply making a suggestion that nobody else had mentioned yet. Maybe it's for them, maybe it's not. That's for OP to decide.

Yep, you're blind to how much worse VR is than anything else, even mobile gaming. But alright, keep pushing new people into this trap, I don't have any stakes in this.

I quit playing video games in my mid 30's. Pretty much went cold turkey. Why would you want to start now? Plenty of healthier things to do with your time