Owning a car. I want to walk in a city made for people. I can't afford to move.
I live in a major city but like I’m in a bad neighborhood so there’s only one grocery store within 5 miles. It makes no sense. A food desert in a major city so that I’m forced to drive just to like get screws from a hardware store or toilet paper or something
Our US city (pop 180k, metro 600k) is just about to lose the last downtown grocery store.
Generations of city councils have allowed (or encouraged!) the demolition of all housing in the city core to replace it with parking lots.
There's almost no one left downtown so the city itself is dying. It's just kind of rotting away. There's currently at least some effort to reverse the trend, but the vice grip that car oriented everything has on people is terrifying to politicians.
Same. My work is only a mile away but there are hardly any sidewalks and I often have to walk next to roads going like 40 mph. Plus all of the intersections and crosswalks are catered for car travel, meaning there has to be absolutely zero cars to give you the signal to walk. Crossing a single crosswalk "legally" takes like 5 or 10 mins of waiting.
In Amsterdam the crosswalks are catered for pedestrians and you typically only need to wait 15-30 seconds as they don't mind stopping a few cars.
Being depressed.
Same. I got kicked out of a therapy group for the self-destructive today, fifth time something like this happened based on rumors that made people in charge think "we make a living encouraging people to be satisfied with life, but this woman doesn't deserve it."
It sounds like that those therapy groups suck, honestly.
I've never tried groups, but I found a really amazing therapist so they exist, hope you find one who helps you.
Before that stroke of luck, I found a few books that helped me a lot with self sabotaging and other issues. If you're interested, I could share.
Best of luck out there.
Thanks. People can't open up these days (or even talk about it) it seems.
Eating out of stress or boredom instead of when I'm actually hungry.
I am getting better, but still, sometimes work pisses me off so much it's back to angrily stuffing whatever food I have on hand into my gaping maw...
I want to stop ruminating about things I wish I would have said or some stupid thing I did say or why did I do that
Forgiving yourself is difficult. You have grown enough to realize what you did was dumb. Whenever your brain decides to throw a random cringe memory in your face, consciously tell yourself you’re better now and you forgive yourself for your mistakes. It helped me.
That and nearly everyone else has those same thoughts.
To get out of those spirals, I just remind myself that I've probably forgotten hundreds of things other people probably regret saying/doing, and odds are most people probably forgot mine. Even if I'm sure someone didn't forget it, I doubt they ever think about it anymore.
That might work until you remember that time someone made a fool out of themselves in front of you.
My ruminations got so bad after a pretty shitty breakup I had to get help....my journey brought me to medication. Depression and adhd (fluoxetine and vyvanse/adderall) meds brought brain silence that almost made me cry when they started working.
Working “full time”. I love what I actually do at work (generally) but like… doing it 9-6 five days a week is so fucking draining. It feels like working defined hours for the sake of working in those hours. Obviously for most jobs the hours spent working do matter, but for software development it may actually be counterproductive as being tired fucks up your productivity hard
It's kind of funny. When I'm working on my own stuff, I could easily dump like 60+ hours a week into it. But once there's an obligation to work on something, especially if it's scheduled, 40 is unbearable.
Yep, my experience exactly. It’s mostly because I can define my own hours when working for myself. But also - When I’m working for someone else there’s also a nagging feeling that I’m pissing away my life force if I go as much as a single hour over.
Same. Idike to tone it down to 32h/week or even better 24h/week. So 8, respectively 6 hours a day for four days. Working for a non-profit organisation and even though we a trade agreement, because we're unionised, living in a city on my own I couldn't pay the bills if I'd cut hours.
Can you go for walks or something to help break up the day
Yes and in fact I do. Unfortunately it doesn’t help with the sense of “rigidity” of the schedule and how draining it is
This isn’t a personal habit but flying. If I could never ever in my life ever have to go through a stupid security theater checkpoint at an airport and then board a plane and sit like a sardine for hours on end…
Too bad I live in public transit shithole USA
I live in the US too, but thanks to my patented secret* I rarely fly at all!
Nothing. As in procrastinate by doing basically nothing.
I'm feeling that!! I'm on summer break and i have so many things i need to do - even just simple paperwork that would yield $$ - but i can't get motivated.
Someone not too long ago asked me how I motivate myself, and I was quite puzzled by the question, like "what do you mean motivate myself? That's not how motivation works?", because to me motivation has always come from external sources, like people, situations, experiences etc. But no, apparently some (many? most?) people can somehow motivate themselves. I'd like to have that power please.
intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation.
You never do things for yourself? No hobbies or anything that are basically “pointless” aside from your own personal satisfaction? Never done something to challenge or better yourself with no reward from someone or something else?
Of course, I do things because they're fun to do. But those things don't require any effort. When people talk about motivating yourself it's usually about using the motivation as a tool to do things that take a lot of effort.
yeah but those wont pay the bills
Doesn’t matter, if you do things for yourself that’s intrinsic motivation. Doing it for money, because it pays the bills, or some other reason outside yourself would be an extrinsic motivation.
Fucking eating just too much that I can't meet my weight loss goals.
I'm not overweight by any means, but if I don't fix my diet, all the exercise I do isn't worth nearly as much.
Exercise isn't worth nearly as much as eating habits anyway.
A false narrative of exercise being like weight loss currency has been promoted for way too long.
When losing weight, it's "kilos in the kitchen, grams in the gym". You can lose weight with no exercise just with a caloric deficit.
Read "the hackers diet" or "the 4 hour body" for more info.
Yes and no.
You have to eat less than you consume, and going to the gym doesn't "burn calories" in a significant enough amount to make a difference. So there you're right.
However, the biggest factor in your consumption rate is how much muscle you have. You can be laying in bed, but your muscles still need feeding. You just don't keep muscles very long laying in bed all the time.
So, does the gym help weight loss? No, not directly, but increasing your muscle mass can.
to add to what you're saying It seems counterproductive to overemphasize exercise over diet or vice-versa. I think adding perspective also helps. -Doing a quick google search it's alleged that 1-lb of fat requires a caloric deficit of ~3500 calories. Walking 1-mile burns 100± calories which means it would require roughly 35-miles of walking to burn 1-lb of fat. -That's a challenging proposition to acheive without adding extra food just for increased energy and as you added, that doesn't necessarily account for increased muscle mass. It's also pretty easy to develop a nutritional deficiency through diet alone and speaking anecdotally, I've never achieved much weight loss without a combination of both diet and exercise.
No, but it can help you stay on track. If you're restricting calories, it gives you a little wiggle room.
Not encouraging you or anyone to take Ozempic but the fact that they work so well for weight loss proves that there is a biological pathway that reinforces overeating. It’s beyond the dopamine feedback loop - there is an actual biochemical reason that we are compelled to overeat. It validates the idea that being successful at weight management isn’t decided by willpower alone. Some people are just more biochemically predisposed to overeat.
These new GLP-1 receptor agonists have shown promise mitigating many compulsive behaviors from overeating to alcoholism to behavioral compulsions. It’s a new area of pharmacology and I’m super excited to watch them discover novel treatments for all manners of issues.
Running is surprisingly fun once you get in shape enough to enjoy it -- and has an effect on what i eat bc planning to go running later in the day has a pretty big effect on how mindfully i consume. I can't have a huge meal or chug water last minute and feel good while running.
I have never, ever, in my life enjoyed running. I never got up to long distances, but used to be able to do about 5k without too much trouble. An hour of swimming? No problem. 30 minutes of high intensity rowing? Happy to do that. Cycling 50k? I'm all over that. But running just makes me feel bad.
I have the opposite problem. I don't eat enough. On several occasions, I have gone upto 3 days without eating. Closer friends are often worried about my nutrition. It's gotten so bad, that my last 3 girlfriends have made it a topic in the relationship, while I have friends that let me come over for dinner literally any day I want. They then makes sure I eat enough.
To me, eating can be such a chore. It's like eating is something I have to do just like showering. I can find it rewarding on some occasions, but unlike showering when I feel brand new afterwards, once I eat, I get dumb, slow, bloated, and feel heavy. If I haven't eaten throughout the day, I feel light, energetic, focused, and free.
Anyway, I find it interesting to be on the other end of unhealthy eating continuum. What about eating makes it hard to stop?
Mmm food is delicious. I just ate a whole wheat sourdough pastry from a local bakery -- it was a bialy with caramelized onions. A very perfect summer Saturday snack.
Not a doctor but if you have some will try switching some meals to Soylent or another meal replacement drink. For the past ~7 years my breakfast and usually lunch has been Soylent, and I have a nice big real food meal for dinner.
It's really easy to track calories with meal replacement drinks and at least for me it's way healthier than what I was eating previously.
Yeah, chocolate Kachava was a big help for me when I was restricting calories. It's a healthy high protien meal that's more convenient than fast food. I added a banana and oat milk, and blended it with crushed ice for a nice smoothie.
Exercise is good for you even you don't lose weight
Adhd meds helped with this, had a dopamine addiction that meant going ham on a lot of thing outside of food as well.
right now, job hunting, but as soon as i can stop job hunting, my answer will change to working.
Job hunting is so extraordinarily awful that I guarantee you I will overstay my welcome when I’m working for my next abusive and micromanaging boss.
Ageing
Aging is a good sign tho. The only people that don't age are dead.
Only one way to stop and i don’t recommend it.
Opening Instagram instead of Lemmy or Mastodon :(
Pro tip: delete the app on your phone. Needing to put in the website into the browser breaks the misscle memory and you can then easier replace it with something else.
makes link to Instagram.com on home screen
Unfortunately I haven't yet convinced all my friends to go elsewhere, so I still need it as a communication platform
I'm surviving without it ... People just text me... never had one by choice so don't know about addiction but as with everything is best to just quit it definitely... Make a post saying you deleting your account and change the password to some random characters .... The social pressure of failing even to quit Instagram in front of everyone you know will definitely prevent any slip ...
Worrying. Anxiety sucks..
Working.
Worrying what other people think of me.
I know I shouldn’t care, but it’s hard not to.
Exactly! even when they don't care enough to remember me.
Vaping nicotine. I know I can stop but it’s just a very difficult challenge for me. Still better than smoking cigs but I really need to let this vice go.
When I quit smoking I holed myself up in a dark room with provisions to last a week. It was hell but it worked.
Check out Allan Carr Easy Way. It really really really works
That’s the plan! I read it originally to quit cigs but ended up picking up the vapes.
I quit 3.5 years ago using that book and have had 0 cravings since.
Nicotine is 7 times more addictive than heroin. It’s unlikely you’ll be able to stop.
Hyper bitchass comment
The statements are both true. Also, the best way to get someone to accomplish something is to tell them it can’t be done.
Maybe if it's like doing the washing or sweeping the floor or something. For addicts it's just confirmation that they shouldn't try.
Maybe they shouldn’t.
I made it a month once. It’s really seated as more of a psychological addiction for me. I am going to try reading Allen Carr’s “The Easy Way” for quitting vaping to see if I can start the brainwashing process of not “needing” this fix.
Chewing nicotine gum.
Havent had a smoke in years but trying to give the gum up means I turn into a raging asshole.
This is me but with the nicotine mints! I slowly started mixing in other "regular" mints, but it doesn't have the same kick! So after an extended period of time I get grumpy and just go back to the nicotine mints...
Maybe talk to your doctor about bupropion (wellbutrin/zyban). It's a unique antidepressant medication that work by inhibiting reuptake of norepinephrine and dopamine (other reuptake inhibitors focus mostly on serotonin or norepinephrine). When testing it, they found that many people stopped smoking, so it's now prescribed for people that want to stop using nicotine. You likey wouldn't be on it for long, just a few months until you get the cravings to stop and readjust your life to no nicotine.
No way, Ive been on the antidepressant merry-go-round before. They were not a pleasant experience for me.
When I used nicotine gum what I did was a started switching between the nicotine gum and regular gum. I eventually ran out of nicotine gum and just chewed regular gum for a while. I think the dependency and money is what pissed me off enough to stop, anger is always good motivation.
Same.
Thinking, I wish my brain would just stop.
Being angry at the world.
That's a tough one. Sorry for whatever strated you down that path It can be mentally exhausting and isolating. I hope you figure a way out of it.
I want to stop being a perfectionist. I tend to overthink very simple tasks, trying to make sure I do things in the most efficient manner. Agonize over mistakes. I find it funny that I'm so critical of myself but I would never think to apply that to other people. I'm working on it, it's just very difficult
"Perfectionism is shame leaving the body." - The Daily Llama
But seriously, I think the majority of perfectionism is rooted in childhood shame. That comes from family that was overly critical, so we attempted to address it by being perfect. Maybe try messing things up in a safe manner on purpose to behaviorally teach yourself that it's okay to make mistakes.
Overthinking everything and being a "perfectionist". So hard to finish or even start doing anything.
Shoot for getting about 70% right. That is about where the rest of the world ends up too. And the world is still turning. No need to drive yourself nuts doing the impossible.
The fact that electronic interfaces keep getting worse and more complicated. It's basically a race to the bottom at this point. I truly feel for the older generations. I don't just mean the current older generation, I mean all older generations. As a person gets older, they have a harder time understanding change. And yet the world is basically removing the ability to do things without electronics. When the current group that is 20 years old, when you guys get to be 80, the interfaces will have changed so much, you basically will be screwed.
I had to go to urgent care the other day and the only way to check in was to scan a QR code and fill out a god awful, half broken form on a random third party website. There were no error messages. The site would timeout if you spent too long on one page, so you'd have to start over. The amount of people who had all sorts of issues is nuts.
This was "an upgrade"
Now imagine if you are 85. I do not understand why companies make change for the sake of change.
Watched my gramma slip into "i can't change the channel on the tv with a remote that only has 2 buttons" from can you fix the vcr (press the tv/video button) again
Me: I wish I could stop paying taxes.
Genie: poof Wish granted!
Me: Woah...I don't feel so good!
Genie: It's a fatal heart attack.
Sweets. I’ve been through a ton of dental work the past year partly because of my love for sweets and desserts. Now that my teeth are on their way to recovery, it’s the risk of diabetes this time.
Thinking about a selfish heartless cunt.
All those dang tiny time wasters that happen every day. Needing to eat and drink... That kind of stuff.
Can't stop because I obviously enjoy being healthy.
I want to stop eating food that is making me overweight.
I started counting calories. And it's works pretty well. Maybe give it a try.
Yup doing that as well as personal trainer. The cravings and eating out are what kill me. So I started eating out once a month and making my own lower cal pizza.
Have you tried healthy alternatives tho? While i was never overweight, like most people i did enjoy unhealthy food way more than healthy food. But after a lot of trying, i get as excited for roasted Brussel sprouts and asparagus as i was for deep fried bullshit.
There is a lot of food that isn't as boring as it seems and it's also healthy.
My friend has a history of overeating and was about 70 lbs heavier than she is now. She started a keto diet that helped her get to her current weight/size, and now employs a modified diet where she goes keto regularly rather than stay on a strict diet all the time. It seems to work well for her since she can regularly eat whatever she wants between breaks. If you're interested, I could ask her for online resources. Let me know 🙂👍
Than you kind stranger. I am actually doing modified keto now with no salt. Thanks again!
You're welcome, and good luck 😊
Buying tiny thinkcentres like the m710q.
It's the best ever bang for the buck for almost anything except gaming. IMO of course.
Two DDR4 slots, an ssd Plus a 2.5drive.
Mint runs perfektly.
USB 3, some 6 of them IIRC.
Super silent.
You can get one for like 40€ or the double for a quad core.
Plug in two screens and just hack away.
🥰
Dreading the future.
This
Spending too much time on lemmy
Eating fast food. I do a ton of driving for my job and am frequently hours from home. I could pack my own meals, but the company covers lunch if I'm away from the office. I don't have to stop for any health reason, I just don't really like the taste after five years of the same things over and over. I'd be more ok with it if there were more options, but I'm in a rural part of the country.
I would love to stop having, not sure if they would technically be termed as flashbacks or PTSD-related anxiety attacks, but either way if those came with an off button that would be great.
Upside: sometimes my smart watch thinks I did an hour of exercise while I'm actually just sitting there with a heart rate of 120+ and it congratulates me 🥰
If that doesn't count because it's something I can't really control, then probably picking at my cuticles. Bad habit I've had since I was a toddler that I've never been able to fully kick.
Biting my nails
I bit my nails my whole life. One day I tasted lime. I hadn't eaten anything with lime for 3 days. I had wiped my ass maybe 10 minutes prior. That experience yucked me out of biting for good. Been over 2 years now since I've so much as nibbled.
Ok so game plan: eat some limes, wait three days, take a shit, profit
But seriously, though, thank you for this story. It will be difficult not to think of this every time I bite my nails now.
Overthinking while drawing. I'll think to myself "is this too little contrast? Too much? Are the shadows too blurry here? Does this fur look flat? It looks flat. Is the form too blurry around here? Let's try again!" I've always been considered a perfectionist, and that's one of the reasons I blame for a long time between submitting drawings!
Daydreaming. I'm sick of it, but I keep going there.
Not to downplay your issue but I kinda wish I had something like this right now. I've been dealing with a lot of anxiety recently, to the point where my brain feels like it's short circuiting. I wish I had places I could go in my mind to escape.
I get it, most of my life I've had episodes that are more like yours, and my brain just found this and it doesn't want to let go for a reason. The first couple of months I thought it was the best escape, but once I realized I couldn't stop, I've been despairing. I feel like I'm going mad but more quietly rather than explosively.
Hating the state of the union.
Taking Ambien. I'd never sleep again though because of my other meds.
Do you get crazy dreams? I sleep fine but almost never dream, and heard. Ambien gives you wild dreams and have always wanted to take it specifically for the dreams lol
It's not so much the dreams, it's the loony things I do on it. One night I hosted a whole antifa meeting in my group where we talked extensively about a very famous white supremacist we catfished into sending me penis pictures and I was high as a kite the whole time.
Does the Ambien work for you? Does it have negatives for you? Have you tried other stuff? Husband, son, and i all tried it and hated it. Husband now uses trazadone. I use CBN. Son worked to improve his general health.
Yes it works, the side effects are amazing. I have a friend who decoupaged her dishwasher with New York City subway maps on it, and I myself catfished a prominent white supremacist into sending me penis pictures and then hosted a spontaneous antifa meeting discussing it. You really get disinhibited.
My son stumbled downstairs and outside in an ice storm wearing only pajama pants.
I think one day it might be pulled from the market. It also affects memory. But I wouldn't sleep for years without it. Hope your son was ok.
Agree. I talked to a guy a few years ago at a cannabis convention who thought cbn would be the next big sleep med after rescheduling. It was a good experience with the kid. We thought he was using illegal drugs, so finding out that he took 30 Ambien in 10 days was helpful.
That must have been WILD.
drifting away from focus
playing games
Living with with family instead of my own and watch porn.
Owning a car. I want to walk in a city made for people. I can't afford to move.
I live in a major city but like I’m in a bad neighborhood so there’s only one grocery store within 5 miles. It makes no sense. A food desert in a major city so that I’m forced to drive just to like get screws from a hardware store or toilet paper or something
Our US city (pop 180k, metro 600k) is just about to lose the last downtown grocery store.
Generations of city councils have allowed (or encouraged!) the demolition of all housing in the city core to replace it with parking lots.
There's almost no one left downtown so the city itself is dying. It's just kind of rotting away. There's currently at least some effort to reverse the trend, but the vice grip that car oriented everything has on people is terrifying to politicians.
Same. My work is only a mile away but there are hardly any sidewalks and I often have to walk next to roads going like 40 mph. Plus all of the intersections and crosswalks are catered for car travel, meaning there has to be absolutely zero cars to give you the signal to walk. Crossing a single crosswalk "legally" takes like 5 or 10 mins of waiting.
In Amsterdam the crosswalks are catered for pedestrians and you typically only need to wait 15-30 seconds as they don't mind stopping a few cars.
Being depressed.
Same. I got kicked out of a therapy group for the self-destructive today, fifth time something like this happened based on rumors that made people in charge think "we make a living encouraging people to be satisfied with life, but this woman doesn't deserve it."
It sounds like that those therapy groups suck, honestly.
I've never tried groups, but I found a really amazing therapist so they exist, hope you find one who helps you.
Before that stroke of luck, I found a few books that helped me a lot with self sabotaging and other issues. If you're interested, I could share.
Best of luck out there.
Thanks. People can't open up these days (or even talk about it) it seems.
Eating out of stress or boredom instead of when I'm actually hungry. I am getting better, but still, sometimes work pisses me off so much it's back to angrily stuffing whatever food I have on hand into my gaping maw...
I want to stop ruminating about things I wish I would have said or some stupid thing I did say or why did I do that
Forgiving yourself is difficult. You have grown enough to realize what you did was dumb. Whenever your brain decides to throw a random cringe memory in your face, consciously tell yourself you’re better now and you forgive yourself for your mistakes. It helped me.
That and nearly everyone else has those same thoughts.
To get out of those spirals, I just remind myself that I've probably forgotten hundreds of things other people probably regret saying/doing, and odds are most people probably forgot mine. Even if I'm sure someone didn't forget it, I doubt they ever think about it anymore.
That might work until you remember that time someone made a fool out of themselves in front of you.
My ruminations got so bad after a pretty shitty breakup I had to get help....my journey brought me to medication. Depression and adhd (fluoxetine and vyvanse/adderall) meds brought brain silence that almost made me cry when they started working.
Working “full time”. I love what I actually do at work (generally) but like… doing it 9-6 five days a week is so fucking draining. It feels like working defined hours for the sake of working in those hours. Obviously for most jobs the hours spent working do matter, but for software development it may actually be counterproductive as being tired fucks up your productivity hard
It's kind of funny. When I'm working on my own stuff, I could easily dump like 60+ hours a week into it. But once there's an obligation to work on something, especially if it's scheduled, 40 is unbearable.
Yep, my experience exactly. It’s mostly because I can define my own hours when working for myself. But also - When I’m working for someone else there’s also a nagging feeling that I’m pissing away my life force if I go as much as a single hour over.
Same. Idike to tone it down to 32h/week or even better 24h/week. So 8, respectively 6 hours a day for four days. Working for a non-profit organisation and even though we a trade agreement, because we're unionised, living in a city on my own I couldn't pay the bills if I'd cut hours.
Can you go for walks or something to help break up the day
Yes and in fact I do. Unfortunately it doesn’t help with the sense of “rigidity” of the schedule and how draining it is
This isn’t a personal habit but flying. If I could never ever in my life ever have to go through a stupid security theater checkpoint at an airport and then board a plane and sit like a sardine for hours on end…
Too bad I live in public transit shithole USA
I live in the US too, but thanks to my patented secret* I rarely fly at all!
*Being poor
Nothing. As in procrastinate by doing basically nothing.
I'm feeling that!! I'm on summer break and i have so many things i need to do - even just simple paperwork that would yield $$ - but i can't get motivated.
Someone not too long ago asked me how I motivate myself, and I was quite puzzled by the question, like "what do you mean motivate myself? That's not how motivation works?", because to me motivation has always come from external sources, like people, situations, experiences etc. But no, apparently some (many? most?) people can somehow motivate themselves. I'd like to have that power please.
intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation.
You never do things for yourself? No hobbies or anything that are basically “pointless” aside from your own personal satisfaction? Never done something to challenge or better yourself with no reward from someone or something else?
Of course, I do things because they're fun to do. But those things don't require any effort. When people talk about motivating yourself it's usually about using the motivation as a tool to do things that take a lot of effort.
yeah but those wont pay the bills
Doesn’t matter, if you do things for yourself that’s intrinsic motivation. Doing it for money, because it pays the bills, or some other reason outside yourself would be an extrinsic motivation.
Fucking eating just too much that I can't meet my weight loss goals.
I'm not overweight by any means, but if I don't fix my diet, all the exercise I do isn't worth nearly as much.
Exercise isn't worth nearly as much as eating habits anyway.
A false narrative of exercise being like weight loss currency has been promoted for way too long.
When losing weight, it's "kilos in the kitchen, grams in the gym". You can lose weight with no exercise just with a caloric deficit.
Read "the hackers diet" or "the 4 hour body" for more info.
Yes and no.
You have to eat less than you consume, and going to the gym doesn't "burn calories" in a significant enough amount to make a difference. So there you're right.
However, the biggest factor in your consumption rate is how much muscle you have. You can be laying in bed, but your muscles still need feeding. You just don't keep muscles very long laying in bed all the time.
So, does the gym help weight loss? No, not directly, but increasing your muscle mass can.
to add to what you're saying It seems counterproductive to overemphasize exercise over diet or vice-versa. I think adding perspective also helps. -Doing a quick google search it's alleged that 1-lb of fat requires a caloric deficit of ~3500 calories. Walking 1-mile burns 100± calories which means it would require roughly 35-miles of walking to burn 1-lb of fat. -That's a challenging proposition to acheive without adding extra food just for increased energy and as you added, that doesn't necessarily account for increased muscle mass. It's also pretty easy to develop a nutritional deficiency through diet alone and speaking anecdotally, I've never achieved much weight loss without a combination of both diet and exercise.
No, but it can help you stay on track. If you're restricting calories, it gives you a little wiggle room.
Not encouraging you or anyone to take Ozempic but the fact that they work so well for weight loss proves that there is a biological pathway that reinforces overeating. It’s beyond the dopamine feedback loop - there is an actual biochemical reason that we are compelled to overeat. It validates the idea that being successful at weight management isn’t decided by willpower alone. Some people are just more biochemically predisposed to overeat.
These new GLP-1 receptor agonists have shown promise mitigating many compulsive behaviors from overeating to alcoholism to behavioral compulsions. It’s a new area of pharmacology and I’m super excited to watch them discover novel treatments for all manners of issues.
Running is surprisingly fun once you get in shape enough to enjoy it -- and has an effect on what i eat bc planning to go running later in the day has a pretty big effect on how mindfully i consume. I can't have a huge meal or chug water last minute and feel good while running.
I have never, ever, in my life enjoyed running. I never got up to long distances, but used to be able to do about 5k without too much trouble. An hour of swimming? No problem. 30 minutes of high intensity rowing? Happy to do that. Cycling 50k? I'm all over that. But running just makes me feel bad.
I have the opposite problem. I don't eat enough. On several occasions, I have gone upto 3 days without eating. Closer friends are often worried about my nutrition. It's gotten so bad, that my last 3 girlfriends have made it a topic in the relationship, while I have friends that let me come over for dinner literally any day I want. They then makes sure I eat enough.
To me, eating can be such a chore. It's like eating is something I have to do just like showering. I can find it rewarding on some occasions, but unlike showering when I feel brand new afterwards, once I eat, I get dumb, slow, bloated, and feel heavy. If I haven't eaten throughout the day, I feel light, energetic, focused, and free.
Anyway, I find it interesting to be on the other end of unhealthy eating continuum. What about eating makes it hard to stop?
Mmm food is delicious. I just ate a whole wheat sourdough pastry from a local bakery -- it was a bialy with caramelized onions. A very perfect summer Saturday snack.
Not a doctor but if you have some will try switching some meals to Soylent or another meal replacement drink. For the past ~7 years my breakfast and usually lunch has been Soylent, and I have a nice big real food meal for dinner.
It's really easy to track calories with meal replacement drinks and at least for me it's way healthier than what I was eating previously.
Yeah, chocolate Kachava was a big help for me when I was restricting calories. It's a healthy high protien meal that's more convenient than fast food. I added a banana and oat milk, and blended it with crushed ice for a nice smoothie.
Exercise is good for you even you don't lose weight
Adhd meds helped with this, had a dopamine addiction that meant going ham on a lot of thing outside of food as well.
right now, job hunting, but as soon as i can stop job hunting, my answer will change to working.
Job hunting is so extraordinarily awful that I guarantee you I will overstay my welcome when I’m working for my next abusive and micromanaging boss.
Ageing
Aging is a good sign tho. The only people that don't age are dead.
Only one way to stop and i don’t recommend it.
Opening Instagram instead of Lemmy or Mastodon :(
Pro tip: delete the app on your phone. Needing to put in the website into the browser breaks the misscle memory and you can then easier replace it with something else.
makes link to Instagram.com on home screen
Unfortunately I haven't yet convinced all my friends to go elsewhere, so I still need it as a communication platform
I'm surviving without it ... People just text me... never had one by choice so don't know about addiction but as with everything is best to just quit it definitely... Make a post saying you deleting your account and change the password to some random characters .... The social pressure of failing even to quit Instagram in front of everyone you know will definitely prevent any slip ...
Worrying. Anxiety sucks..
Working.
Worrying what other people think of me.
I know I shouldn’t care, but it’s hard not to.
Exactly! even when they don't care enough to remember me.
Vaping nicotine. I know I can stop but it’s just a very difficult challenge for me. Still better than smoking cigs but I really need to let this vice go.
When I quit smoking I holed myself up in a dark room with provisions to last a week. It was hell but it worked.
Check out Allan Carr Easy Way. It really really really works
That’s the plan! I read it originally to quit cigs but ended up picking up the vapes.
I quit 3.5 years ago using that book and have had 0 cravings since.
Nicotine is 7 times more addictive than heroin. It’s unlikely you’ll be able to stop.
Hyper bitchass comment
The statements are both true. Also, the best way to get someone to accomplish something is to tell them it can’t be done.
Maybe if it's like doing the washing or sweeping the floor or something. For addicts it's just confirmation that they shouldn't try.
Maybe they shouldn’t.
I made it a month once. It’s really seated as more of a psychological addiction for me. I am going to try reading Allen Carr’s “The Easy Way” for quitting vaping to see if I can start the brainwashing process of not “needing” this fix.
Chewing nicotine gum.
Havent had a smoke in years but trying to give the gum up means I turn into a raging asshole.
This is me but with the nicotine mints! I slowly started mixing in other "regular" mints, but it doesn't have the same kick! So after an extended period of time I get grumpy and just go back to the nicotine mints...
Maybe talk to your doctor about bupropion (wellbutrin/zyban). It's a unique antidepressant medication that work by inhibiting reuptake of norepinephrine and dopamine (other reuptake inhibitors focus mostly on serotonin or norepinephrine). When testing it, they found that many people stopped smoking, so it's now prescribed for people that want to stop using nicotine. You likey wouldn't be on it for long, just a few months until you get the cravings to stop and readjust your life to no nicotine.
No way, Ive been on the antidepressant merry-go-round before. They were not a pleasant experience for me.
When I used nicotine gum what I did was a started switching between the nicotine gum and regular gum. I eventually ran out of nicotine gum and just chewed regular gum for a while. I think the dependency and money is what pissed me off enough to stop, anger is always good motivation.
Same.
Thinking, I wish my brain would just stop.
Being angry at the world.
That's a tough one. Sorry for whatever strated you down that path It can be mentally exhausting and isolating. I hope you figure a way out of it.
I want to stop being a perfectionist. I tend to overthink very simple tasks, trying to make sure I do things in the most efficient manner. Agonize over mistakes. I find it funny that I'm so critical of myself but I would never think to apply that to other people. I'm working on it, it's just very difficult
"Perfectionism is shame leaving the body." - The Daily Llama
But seriously, I think the majority of perfectionism is rooted in childhood shame. That comes from family that was overly critical, so we attempted to address it by being perfect. Maybe try messing things up in a safe manner on purpose to behaviorally teach yourself that it's okay to make mistakes.
Overthinking everything and being a "perfectionist". So hard to finish or even start doing anything.
Shoot for getting about 70% right. That is about where the rest of the world ends up too. And the world is still turning. No need to drive yourself nuts doing the impossible.
The fact that electronic interfaces keep getting worse and more complicated. It's basically a race to the bottom at this point. I truly feel for the older generations. I don't just mean the current older generation, I mean all older generations. As a person gets older, they have a harder time understanding change. And yet the world is basically removing the ability to do things without electronics. When the current group that is 20 years old, when you guys get to be 80, the interfaces will have changed so much, you basically will be screwed.
I had to go to urgent care the other day and the only way to check in was to scan a QR code and fill out a god awful, half broken form on a random third party website. There were no error messages. The site would timeout if you spent too long on one page, so you'd have to start over. The amount of people who had all sorts of issues is nuts.
This was "an upgrade"
Now imagine if you are 85. I do not understand why companies make change for the sake of change.
Watched my gramma slip into "i can't change the channel on the tv with a remote that only has 2 buttons" from can you fix the vcr (press the tv/video button) again
Me: I wish I could stop paying taxes. Genie: poof Wish granted! Me: Woah...I don't feel so good! Genie: It's a fatal heart attack.
Sweets. I’ve been through a ton of dental work the past year partly because of my love for sweets and desserts. Now that my teeth are on their way to recovery, it’s the risk of diabetes this time.
Thinking about a selfish heartless cunt.
All those dang tiny time wasters that happen every day. Needing to eat and drink... That kind of stuff. Can't stop because I obviously enjoy being healthy.
I want to stop eating food that is making me overweight.
I started counting calories. And it's works pretty well. Maybe give it a try.
Yup doing that as well as personal trainer. The cravings and eating out are what kill me. So I started eating out once a month and making my own lower cal pizza.
Have you tried healthy alternatives tho? While i was never overweight, like most people i did enjoy unhealthy food way more than healthy food. But after a lot of trying, i get as excited for roasted Brussel sprouts and asparagus as i was for deep fried bullshit. There is a lot of food that isn't as boring as it seems and it's also healthy.
My friend has a history of overeating and was about 70 lbs heavier than she is now. She started a keto diet that helped her get to her current weight/size, and now employs a modified diet where she goes keto regularly rather than stay on a strict diet all the time. It seems to work well for her since she can regularly eat whatever she wants between breaks. If you're interested, I could ask her for online resources. Let me know 🙂👍
Than you kind stranger. I am actually doing modified keto now with no salt. Thanks again!
You're welcome, and good luck 😊
Buying tiny thinkcentres like the m710q.
It's the best ever bang for the buck for almost anything except gaming. IMO of course.
Two DDR4 slots, an ssd Plus a 2.5drive.
Mint runs perfektly.
USB 3, some 6 of them IIRC.
Super silent.
You can get one for like 40€ or the double for a quad core.
Plug in two screens and just hack away.
🥰
Dreading the future.
This
Spending too much time on lemmy
Eating fast food. I do a ton of driving for my job and am frequently hours from home. I could pack my own meals, but the company covers lunch if I'm away from the office. I don't have to stop for any health reason, I just don't really like the taste after five years of the same things over and over. I'd be more ok with it if there were more options, but I'm in a rural part of the country.
I would love to stop having, not sure if they would technically be termed as flashbacks or PTSD-related anxiety attacks, but either way if those came with an off button that would be great.
Upside: sometimes my smart watch thinks I did an hour of exercise while I'm actually just sitting there with a heart rate of 120+ and it congratulates me 🥰
If that doesn't count because it's something I can't really control, then probably picking at my cuticles. Bad habit I've had since I was a toddler that I've never been able to fully kick.
Biting my nails
I bit my nails my whole life. One day I tasted lime. I hadn't eaten anything with lime for 3 days. I had wiped my ass maybe 10 minutes prior. That experience yucked me out of biting for good. Been over 2 years now since I've so much as nibbled.
Ok so game plan: eat some limes, wait three days, take a shit, profit
But seriously, though, thank you for this story. It will be difficult not to think of this every time I bite my nails now.
Overthinking while drawing. I'll think to myself "is this too little contrast? Too much? Are the shadows too blurry here? Does this fur look flat? It looks flat. Is the form too blurry around here? Let's try again!" I've always been considered a perfectionist, and that's one of the reasons I blame for a long time between submitting drawings!
Daydreaming. I'm sick of it, but I keep going there.
Not to downplay your issue but I kinda wish I had something like this right now. I've been dealing with a lot of anxiety recently, to the point where my brain feels like it's short circuiting. I wish I had places I could go in my mind to escape.
I get it, most of my life I've had episodes that are more like yours, and my brain just found this and it doesn't want to let go for a reason. The first couple of months I thought it was the best escape, but once I realized I couldn't stop, I've been despairing. I feel like I'm going mad but more quietly rather than explosively.
Hating the state of the union.
Taking Ambien. I'd never sleep again though because of my other meds.
Do you get crazy dreams? I sleep fine but almost never dream, and heard. Ambien gives you wild dreams and have always wanted to take it specifically for the dreams lol
It's not so much the dreams, it's the loony things I do on it. One night I hosted a whole antifa meeting in my group where we talked extensively about a very famous white supremacist we catfished into sending me penis pictures and I was high as a kite the whole time.
Does the Ambien work for you? Does it have negatives for you? Have you tried other stuff? Husband, son, and i all tried it and hated it. Husband now uses trazadone. I use CBN. Son worked to improve his general health.
Yes it works, the side effects are amazing. I have a friend who decoupaged her dishwasher with New York City subway maps on it, and I myself catfished a prominent white supremacist into sending me penis pictures and then hosted a spontaneous antifa meeting discussing it. You really get disinhibited.
My son stumbled downstairs and outside in an ice storm wearing only pajama pants.
I think one day it might be pulled from the market. It also affects memory. But I wouldn't sleep for years without it. Hope your son was ok.
Agree. I talked to a guy a few years ago at a cannabis convention who thought cbn would be the next big sleep med after rescheduling. It was a good experience with the kid. We thought he was using illegal drugs, so finding out that he took 30 Ambien in 10 days was helpful.
That must have been WILD.
drifting away from focus
playing games
Living with with family instead of my own and watch porn.
https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/ejaculation_frequency_and_prostate_cancer#:~:text=Compared%20to%20men%20who%20reported,lower%20risk%20of%20prostate%20cancer. Masterbation is men's health
Being obsessed about having the biggest positive impact on the world.
Eating Slim Jims.
How many Slim Jims are you eating, and why do you want to stop?
What about Tiananmen Square…?!? That was kinda cool for the CCP!
I wasn’t there but maybe someone here was.
Oh wait.
No.
They were all killed and then turned to mush by tanks repeatedly driving over the bodies and then hosed dune the drains.
GLORY TO THE CCP AND HOW WONDERFUL THEY ARE TO ALL THE PEOPLE.
What about Tiananmen Square…?!? That was kinda cool for the CCP!
I wasn’t there but maybe someone here was.
Oh wait.
No.
They were all killed and then turned to mush by tanks repeatedly driving over the bodies and then hosed dune the drains.
GLORY TO THE CCP AND HOW WONDERFUL THEY ARE TO ALL THE PEOPLE.