why isn't the use of the bidet more widespread?

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Because of "big toilet paper". They even tried to assassinate a spokesperson for japanes toilets.

Holy shit? Do you have a source for that because damn. It's something I would expect though.

It's was joke. That's the plot of a south park episode.

Honestly I wouldn’t even be surprised if Procter and Gamble did that shit lol

Kimberly-Clark about to send their death squads out for people who prefer a bidet over TP

It's a joke from South Park

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Today you have the bidets you can install on your toilet, but traditionally they were a thing on its own, that required about as much space as a toilet and all the extra pipework associated with it.

In some European/ Mediterranean countries (I suspect France may have started the trend) this caught on well, and bidets were a must have in most houses that had toilets as part of their main architectural structure. Most people in South America had bidets this way, it's rare to see a house without at least one bidet, and this comes from the culture inherited from colonial times .

Now, things are different in othe parts of the world. England seems to traditionally have the toilet separate from the house and for some reason the bidet trend never caught on. This is in turn reflected both in USA and Australia. I don't know about bidet popularity across all of Europe, but this is definitely a cultural thing and I suspect distance and language may have kept UK without bidets until relatively recently. And as you know, old habits die hard, so... Yeah in Australia I use the shower.

in Italy, there is literally a law obligating houses to have a bidet. the separated from the toilet kind.

Just another reason to like Italy even more.

the separated from the toilet kind.

I don't understand how those work at all...seems like that would be a recipe for poop tracks from the toilet.

well... it is time to explain to an internet stranger how we clean our bum.

  • you shit on the toilet
  • you wipe with tp one or two times
  • get up, sit on the bidet
  • water, soap on the hand, and you scrub your ass with your hand, no this is not gay
  • go again with water and soap until you feel your ass is clean
  • dry with a small towel

the towel is generally personal, and we change it every couple of days.

That may have been sarcastic, but I appreciated the info. It beats having to take a shower.

Legit question: Do you wash your hands again after that?

oh, yes, felt like it was obvious... i'm not touching anything without washing my hands after that.

Well I mean I do that in the shower, and I don't wash my hands again after the shower, so I have no idea what the mentality is.

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brit here.

can confirm. i sit on the side of the bath and wash my arse with the shower. The only house i have seen in the UK with a bidet was essentially a mansion

Right now I live abroad and we have just the tub, so yeah same remedy. It’s cursed and annoying though, so I hate it so much

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England seems to traditionally have the toilet separate from the house and for some reason the bidet trend never caught on

Uh... wut?

The UK has lots of old housing stock, built before the concept of indoor plumbing, so there was nowhere to put a toilet in lots of properties when they started to become a thing, hence you'd put it seperate from the house in an outhouse style set-up. We also lost less of the country to warfare during the two wars so didn't have to rebuild whole cities, so the conversion to move those toilets inside was still going on as we moved to the later half of the 20th century. My old man didn't have an indoor toilet in his childhood home until he was a teenager, he was born in the late 50s.

You still go to pubs these days that are old enough that the loos are disconnected from the main building as they've been there for so many years.

I live in the UK and nothing you've said here is congruent with my experience. I don't recall ever being in any building whatsoever that had no indoor toilet, including pubs.

there was

In the past. A long way in the past.

as we moved to the later half of the 20th century

The move to the later half of the 20th century was 70 years ago.

Near where my sister lives on the edge of Bristol there are several pubs with outdoor toilet blocks. It's usually country pubs or ones old enough to be listed. You're not going to find many in cities these days.

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This what I've been told- I've never been to England, my understanding is that back in the day this was the way especially for suburban and farmland, and that that's why many old Australian houses still have the toilet separate. Obviously this doesn't apply to dense or modern areas.

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Lol. Out of ALL the European countries to pick as example, you chose the worst.

France definitely does not like bidets and French will even ask you why even bother having one, assuming they even know what it's for.

Try again with Italy. Basically every household has one.

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Spain checking in here. Bidets are definitely popular in Spain. I suspect that's how they made their way to south America.

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The utopian city of Atlantis sunk due to bidet overuse.

They might have sunk the city, but their butts were sparkling clean

No one understands what a bidet really is.

In the old days, they were a separate free-standing device. Not a lot of people have space or money to add one of these types of bidets to their bathrooms

Now they make them as toilet seat attachments that don't require extra space and really aren't that expensive.

But people don't know. Older people will be like, "Oh a bidet? No I don't want another toilet like device in my bathroom"

So that gets rid of all those people.

Next you have the people that know about the new style bidets that's just a fancy toilet seat.

Their biggest deterrent is probably cold water. Spraying cold water on their butt doesn't appeal to most people.

You can get bidets that heat the water, but you have to have power behind your toilet, which not everyone has.

Then you have older people that just can't work them or don't feel like they can. Like my grandfather, I installed one with all the bells and whistles for him. Yet hitting a button and doing all that was too complicated. He was 90+ and could barely use a cell phone for basic functions. But he'd rather wipe his butt like he knew than mess with the "complicated" bidet.

Eventually everyone is going to own a bidet, it really is the way to go.

We just aren't there yet.

For me it's because I have had to suffer from UTI's before and I don't want to risk some stream of water blowing bacteria into my vagina and then I gotta pee every five seconds and wait for a damn doctor visit because for some fucking reason UTI meds aren't over the counter where I live.

I can buy the UTI "pain reliever" over the counter but it just temporarily fixes the pain, and the UTI of course continues. Pretty fucking pointless.

Weird, in my current country bidet is in widespread usage and I haven't known anyone getting a UTI from bidet usage.

I'm more susceptible to UTI's than other women (or people with vaginas)

Well, for starters, you don't pee from your vagina. You could get a yeast infection, yes, but that's a different issue.

That said, if your bidet is angled so it's hitting your vagina or, especially, your urethra, it's likely not installed correctly or you're sitting way far back on your toilet.*

  • There are bidets you can get with the option to angle for washing period blood away, but they tell you in the instructions to wash your butt first so that you don't get bacteria into your vagina, and you also don't need to use that function either. I never found it super useful myself, so I'd recommend the cheaper version without that function these days.

Well, for starters, you don’t pee from your vagina.

why are you explaining that to me, a woman with a vagina.

I'm aware of that.

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You could just find one with low pressure. You don't need a high power jet.

Simply soaking your crack with water and wiping is a big help.

I've never heard of your problem, though, so it's an interesting point. I know some bidets even have intended settings to wash your front as a woman.

Yeah its just easier for me to get UTI's so I have to be extra careful. I had a summer where I had 3 UTI's back to back and it was a nightmare.

Most women get them from sex and there's a lot of misinformation out there about women's health.

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Having used both types, including a water warming seat installed one, I can't say enough good things about the free standing ones. The toilet seat ones though seem like a waste of time, even if they warm the water.

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There are a large number of Americans that think:

  1. Anything touching them there makes them gay - still not sure how your hand and TP is any different
  2. It will hurt - yeah...... IDK
  3. It's gross, or it doesn't get you clean - uh.....wiping some paper on it does? how?!?!!?

Some american men refuse to touch their own penis while washing, due to a fear of it making them gay. I’d tell them they need therapy, but they’d tell me that therapy is for the weak.

I’m pretty sure those are the same types that start anti pedophilia groups to then be charged with and convicted of pedophilia. Or the anti gay/drag people who end up being gay AF. Or the ones that try to ban porn, only to have 10tb of porn on their computers when they get fired/breakup/get arrested. But I know what you mean.

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I know someone who thinks it just sprays shit over everything

I know a lot of people think the same thing. I've even seen people say so on here/reddit, on other bidet posts.

Because unfortunately, even stupid people know how to use the Internet.

I only have anecdotes, but as an American, it's #1. It was my initial off the cuff thought. Buttholes are verboten here. Full stop.

Right? It's really weird though because a lot of those same people talk about eating ass, a LOT.

Everybody, touch your asshole. Just once and from that day on you will be different

Heterosexual men, if you’re with a lady and she wants to stick a finger up your ass, you need to let her do this. You can thank me later.

Its really the first one tho.

Striaght american men will fight you before they will let water spray on their dirty asses.

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I think the answer is just that most don't know about them, having grown up in homes without them. They are quite nice though.

They may also be perceived as too expensive, if they only know of full toilet replacement kinds and not the seat replacements you can get for less than $100.

Maybe, but I’d still go with having no idea such things exist. That was me, and the first type I knew about was the seat attachment/replacement

I got a $400 one, and it was the best $400 I've ever spent. It's something I use every day, and damn does it improve my day just a little bit more.

There are dozens of choices that work great for twenty some dollars online here in the US and don't even replace the seat.

I think you me question is missing some key words. “Why isn’t the use of the bidet more widespread in the USA and other western countries?”

I am in Vietnam right now and nearly every bathroom has a bum gun to wash your bits. When I was in Japan nearly every bathroom had bits to wash you built into the toilet seat with digital controls. These are not just in homes and nice places, but also at 7-11, train stations, airports and even hole in the wall places. Wish USA/Canada had this as we all know how much it sucks when out and you have a forever wipe.

I find wiping just doesn't do it for me.. I can wipe myself raw and still have itching...

But a trip to the bidet clears it all up.

Same as in Thailand, Japan, Cambodia, Malaysia, Singapore, India, Pakistan, Iran, China... Yeah it's most of the world.

Because the tradition of wiping until it’s red is deeply rooted in american toilet culture.

It’s refered to as “better red than dead”

I have never heard that and it deeply disturbs me because this does seem like it'd be an American thing...

It's a joke. The phrase is "better dead than red" and is an anti-communist phrase.

“better red than dead” is a joke - that’s usually a play on political parties or football teams. But what isn’t a joke, something that I’ve heard from american women, is that they’ve dated some american men who:

  • don’t masturbate because touching a penis is gay
  • don’t wash their penis with soap and water, just water, letting the water run down the penis, but not touch it, because you’d be holding a man’s dick in your hands.
  • if they do masturbate, they might just leave their mess on the floor, even if it’s carpet, for years and never clean it. Stains under a computer desk should be treated with a hazmat suit. This is different from the american men who save their mess in jars.. I have no comment for that.
  • don’t touch their penis when they pee. that’s what the zipper in the front is for. I mean, doing this in public would mean other men see you with a man’s cock in your hand. That’s .. uh you know…
  • don’t get prostate exams (this one may be more self-explainitory, doesn’t make it right though).

And then they (guys who say this stuff) wonder why american men have a mental health crisis. Well (addressing the guys who say this stuff), buddy, part of it is you.

And then they wonder why american men have a mental health crisis. Well, buddy, part of it is you.

What part of any of that makes it partly because of me? This seem more like an off-topic rant.


I am an American and the only two I've heard is:

"don’t masturbate because touching a penis is gay"

Every time has been religion driven homophobia related.

don’t get prostate exams (this one may be more self-explainitory, doesn’t make it right though).

Goes back to the last one as well.

Probably why religion has been on a decline.

I think that by "you" he means American men.

"Damn, we're having a mental health crisis." "Part of that is on you."

Am I making sense? Sorry if I'm not.

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I was overseas and recovering from surgery. I'd never seen a bidet before arriving in Argentina a few days before, so I still wasn't used to them.

In any case, I was sitting on this bidet at 3am or something, on painkillers, and almost falling asleep while I sit there. I'm leaning forward, and turn the bidet, and it turns out this bidet has a jet of water almost powerful to reach the roof. And because of the angle I was sitting at, I get this jet of high pressure water right on my clit. I'm pretty sure the noise I made woke most of the neighbours! It was not a fun experience

That being said, I'd still get one here in Australia if I could :)

A bidet can find the clit and I can't? WTF

/s

/s

You lie

Why do people always act like it's super difficult to find the clit?

Look at a medical textbook, put your face between her legs and you'll see where it is. It really isn't that hard.

I'm aware there are men who are so caught up with toxic masculinity that eating out a woman is not an option, and they probably actually are unable to find the clit. But do people really say "look at me, I'm a toxic person who isn't able to pleasure their partner because of it" about themselves as a joke?

Not wanting to eat out their significant other isn't necessarily correlated to toxic masculinity; I think you're conflating two different things. It's possible to be selfish completely unrelated to toxic masculinity. Not every instance of a male doing something wrong is attributable to toxic masculinity.

So people are saying "look at me, I'm selfish" as a joke?

You're completely right that not every bad behaviour in a male is toxic masculinity. And a completely non-sexist person may just not want to do it out of pure selfishness. However there are plenty of jokes about the gayness of a man eating out a woman. I'm pretty sure these topics are closely related. The logic of those men usually looks like this:

Eating a woman out => submissive => weak => bad

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I LOVE eating out a woman. My woman is 8 months pregnant and I havent eaten pussy in most of that time and it's killing me lol

I haven't eaten anyone out in over a year, and I also miss it. It's super fun seeing the other person being pleasured by my actions.

No idea tbh. It's not hard to find. Sure it's hidden under a good but it's not exactly hard to see. Learning how to use it though seems to be more of a mystery. I mean shit, the majority of the time my wife struggles to know what she does and doesn't like.

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You can definitely get one in Australia. They are like $30 on the internet delivered right to your house and attach to your toilet in under 5 min.

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I’ve read that one reason could be due to prostitution during WWI / WWII.

Americans saw bidets over in Europe during the war, mainly at brothels, which gave them the idea they were unclean, non-Christian, idk. Maybe if you said you liked bidets then everyone knew you had been to a brothel.

I didn’t fact check it. Doesn’t really matter - I’m taking a poop right now and I’m about to blast the poop away with my Toto. Eat this pleasant, warm water, turd balls.

How hypocritical to be in a brothel thinking “Feh… not clean enough for MY holy bung.”

For real. Also though, I think most people patronize businesses every day whose employees they consider inferior to themselves. So like, at least it isn't unique to brothels!

As a European (Netherlands), nobody has them here, I know them from Asia

EDIT Okay, Europe is a big and diverse placev I've added my country for clarity.

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I once read a book where this particular bathroom appliance was very intimately connected with prostitutes throughout history and that association created a big push against having it in every house. It was an interesting read.

In my country in particular, it became mandatory in every newly built house starting around the 50s and later it became mandatory to have one bidet and one bathtub in every house.

This was pushed to enforce a notion of hygiene that was lacking, as the country was very poor at the time. Paradoxically, it was easier to have higher standards of hygiene in the country, where access to water was easier and the field labour demanded a minimal cleanliness to be at the table and socially than in the growing cities, where poor living conditions made very difficult for the poor to access running water.

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American here. Thanks to woot regularly selling them, I have a bidet on each toilet in the house. I have a battery operated travel bidet, because now I'm hooked.

It has certainly led to.... "Interesting" responses from house guests. There's always TP in stock, so it's not required. Butt I'm never going back if I can help it.

There's always TP in stock, so it's not required.

That's always weird to read. For me bidets are for after, not instead of.

Come to Asia my friend, Bidet showers, no paper.

both my grandmothers used to preclean dishes with the same instrument before putting them in the dishwasher. It was attached to the kitchen sink of course. When I first saw one in a toilet in SEA I thought 'what? But grandma how?'. She told me that dishwasher salesmen recommended them, and I always wondered how they made the jump from Butt to Wedgewood.

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Whoa.. Tell me more about this battery operated one. I just got back from vacation and I missed my bidet!

I bought a Toto HW300-W "Portable Travel Washlet" off Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B008O1G4LQ) back in 2018 and it still runs like a champ. The text is all in Japanese, but easy enough to figure out (or Google Lens it if you really want to know).

* Edit: I should note that I paid about half of the current list price :-O

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Not gatekeeping, but if you have never seen one, this is a proper bidet https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/3/35/Bidet_weiss.jpg/623px-Bidet_weiss.jpg

I installed on the kamode at the beginning of year and it's been a game changer.

But for an installed bidet, after business, do you just move over, sit, turn on the tap, then aim? I've seen them in the movies, but it's not like they show the process.

When I googled it last, what I found was like, "fill the basin, then use your hands or a rag." That sounds pretty messy, if that's how those OG taint tubs work.

These are mandatory in Italy from my understanding, but I much prefer the Japanese style

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IDK because they rock. I love mine. I'm even cool with the water being cold.

I turn the heat off in summer when it's 28c inside. Nothing like a cool blast of water to help lower your core temps a bit.

In America? Because we are barbarians.

I kinda think that’s why we are all so pissed and ornery most of the time….because our tushes are dirty.

according to south park it's because of toilet paper companies

Big TP lobbying against us 😭

in Vietnam, if a place wants to appear fancy and luxurious, they will try to appear "foreigner". so they will remove the bidet and put toilet paper in its place.

nice office you've got here do you mind if I waddle around like a fancy man with shit on my asshole

Fellas, is it gay to have a clean butthole

I'm just worried I'm going to turn my sack into a punching bag.

I know it's extremely unlikely. But, I'm roerty sure hot baths have already killed the workers.

From experience, I can tell you that your bag is safe lol

They are designed so that the angle of the spray comes nowhere near there. You'd have to do some sort of gymnastics moves to be able to whack the piñata with it.

Even still, even the alt blast modes are very gentle. This isn't exactly the sorts of pressure you'd be using for cleaning lichens off sidewalks, haha.

I don't know where I was coming from pretending I wouldn't want to experience. Thinking about. I kinda do.

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I paid for a 250$ bidet toilet seat and i don't even use it. How is it supposed to work? My stool are soft sometimes, and even with the bidet pressure to the max, it doesn't fully clean it. I'm left with dripping wet ass covered with shit. Then i need to use toilet paper that's literally melting from all that water on my ass. As a result i use 3x more toilet paper and my hands gets dirty. Very unpleasant.

Am i using it wrong?

I believe you are, yes. I once stumbled upon this thread on Reddit , it kinda explains it well ! The *o*o*o Is pretty accurate. I've been using my bidet for around 2 years now and never once have I been in your situation. Now, I feel sad and dirty when I'm far from my bidet.

Now, I feel sad and dirty when I'm far from my bidet.

So much this. I've held my bowels when I had the opportunity to go just so I could shit at home with my bidet lol.

I haven't yet committed to a towel so I still waste toilet paper (though less), but it's also nice knowing if I ran out I could just let my ass air dry (speaking from experience).

Exactly, it's not that I don't have faith in the cleaning power of my bidet, but still I prefer to check it with a 2 sheet before drying out the rest with a hand towel !

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You have to make sure you're adjusting yourself so the stream kisses your * and definitely do the 00*0

It does sound like you're using it wrong. I've been using a $70 bidet attachment for 8+ years and it was the best decision I've made for personal hygiene.

Use toilet

Use bidet, making sure to adjust your position so the stream hits your o and the area immediately around it. Whatever poo may touch while going.

Use toilet paper to dry.

If you're spraying parts of your bum where poop doesn't even reach then you need to adjust the spray. I've used so much less toilet paper this way.

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You don't need to use so much water, and move yourself around to make sure your aim is right. It's not a jet wash for your poop chute, it just makes wiping more efficient.

Mine cost like $50 and is probably one of my favourite ever purchases.

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Believe it or not. Homophobia plays a substantial part in it.

Hell we got men who refuse to wipe at all for fear it makes them gay if anything touches their anus.

Really? No shit??

Actually there's tons of shit, premium weapons-grade starfish chocolate coating undesirable cakes.

At least they are easily identifying themselves. After careful thought, I kinda feel like this should violate public indecency laws.

I know in some circles it can get you fired, considering you are contaminating for the workplace and creating an environment that is hostile to other workers. I mean they can get on to you for just having body odor. Unfortunately I've had issues where it was the manager who is doing this shit, and good luck getting him fired

I gave it another thought, and if they really believe that if anything touching their anus would make them gay, then it should also remain untouched by a turd, and they should stop defecating to prevent themselves from becoming gay. Life will be sacred then - and short…

This sounds totally made up. Where are you getting this info from?

Perhaps people feel homophobic or something about having water squirted on their ass?

Idk. I love my bidet. Especially when you have those wonderful shits with the consistency of clay that sticks to everything.

A few squirts, and a quick wipe of TP, and all done!

I got one during the "TP Crisis" during 2020ish. Drastically cuts down on the amount of TP required, and does a much better job of cleaning.

I love mine when I feel like a chocolate soft serve machine.

With the power of a bidet, even the famous taco-bell shits are not an issue!

Before the bidet, the lovely wet shits would eventually cause massive irritation to the butthole.. With a bidet, just a calming stream of water. No need to abuse the butthole with toilet paper.

I bought one couple of weeks ago, one of the best things I've ever spent money on, can never go back.

Because idiots think squirting water on your ass is gay

But reaching back there and fondling their asshole with a wad of paper is totally not.

They think that touching any ass(even your own) for any reason is gay.

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I have never even seen one (Australian)

Hand sprayer kits on Ali express for $20. How sandpapering ones anus became the norm I do not know. But I for one am never going back.

In Australia to have one you are supposed to have an RPZD fitted and annual inspections by a licensed plumber which isn't cheap. But you can go down to bunnings and get a hand spray with a t piece that comes off the stop cock for your toilet. But a plumber won't install it for you.

It's to do with not having shit go back into the water system. There's also some worry about the hand sprays falling in the bowl and causing bacterial growth. This may all be different in other states though. They exist here but they aren't common.

TP companies gotta stay in business yo. It's all about them Dollars. Can you imagine if all the big box stores, convenience stores and hotels stopped using TP !? The whole industry would collapse.

Not that i'm advocating for corp TP companies, just a thought...

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I really just don't like the idea of it, feels like a very uncomfortable situation for me. But I'm pretty uneducated on the topic.

  • It'd have to be warm water
  • Wouldn't it be messer, spraying it all over?
  • Don't you still have to wipe, ya know cause your wet now.
  • Too much work to implement when the TP has been successful (No problem to solve)

Remodeled the house including bathrooms, went for japanese style bidet (i.e. included in the toilet). Would not want to live without it.

  • water temperature, as well as pressure, is adjustable. I have on with different presets, so every family member gets to have their own favorite setting
  • not messy at all, has a very directed jet of water. Of course you can splash around sitting weirdly on the toilet, but that needs to be very deliberate. Mine has a function that when nobody sits on the toilet, the jet won't start.
  • there's options with blow dryers, but even if not, just one dab to dry off instead of wiping and wiping and wiping.
  • according to my plumber, it was one more water hose and an electric plug to connect. The device itself of course is much more expensive than a stander toilet. Just using TP now feels so terrible unhygienic. Imagine getting shit on your hand, and you have paper towels, or running water (and paper towels) to clean up. What would you choose? Maybe not really a "problem" solves, but a very, very nice luxury.

Thank you for addressing my concerns, adjustable pressure would be a key thing. After a few other replies as well, I have actually ordered one to give it a try.

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Imagine poo being on any other part of you body where you except a piece of paper is enough to get rid of it.

Okay, I see you. I'm part of the bidet users, so I'll weigh in.

Warm water bidets exist, they're a bit more of a hassle to install, but they exist, and I promise you that it doesn't really matter. I have a basic cold water bidet, and it's not as weird as you would think, and I thought I would want the warm water bidet like you, but after a few uses, I didn't care at all. I'm not here to convince you between warm/cold water, if you want it, that's totally fine.

It's definitely not messier. Initially sure, it's probably a complete mess, but you're not just doing a quick/short spray. After a few seconds, everything is running clean. The water is clean and so are you.

Wiping is still a thing. I've heard some fancy bidets have air dryers to finish the job, it's not what I have/use, so I dry myself with TP. Unless you spend a fortune, you will too. I'll say that it takes significantly less tp on average to dry myself off from the bidet than it does to clean myself with TP alone. So my TP use is significantly reduced. Saving money on TP by smartly using a little water, is a good trade IMO.

I wouldn't say TP is "successful". I would say it's adequate at best. In a pinch it does enough to keep the smell and filth to a minimum. By no means is the bidet perfect, certainly there are improvements that can be made, but it's better. To put this in perspective, when you next tear a sheet of TP and get some of it on your hand, try wiping it off with TP and see if you feel like your hand is clean. I'd put money on the fact that it won't feel clean until you properly wash it. That's what you're doing with your asshole. You wipe it down with paper and then go about your day. It's "clean"... As in, not caked in shit, but it's still not really clean. There's still bacteria and other gross ass shit (pun absolutely intended) on your anus.

Additional to that, your butthole is a sensitive membrane on your body that you're cleaning with coarse paper all the time. Bidets have been shown to help with various anus related issues like hemorrhoids. Do you want hemorrhoids? If so, keep scraping that sandpaper over your butthole and I'm sure you'll get there some day.

To the point of it being "too much work": my partner and I picked up a luxe bidet neo (I think it's the 120). Super cheap, no frills model. We didn't want to invest because, like you, we weren't sure if we were going to like it/use it. We do, all the time. We're planning on renovating and adding a new bathroom and the new bathroom is getting a bidet when it goes in. Something very nice. Without question. But the luxe model we have was less than $100, and attached to the existing water hookups. It came with everything we needed (we had to also fix a slow leak on the main inlet to the toilet, so we replaced most of the lines in the process, but if our lines had been good, we would have only needed the extra hardware that came with the bidet, in the box). To that end, it's only a matter of picking one up for less than $100 and taking 15 minutes to install using the directions. No plumber needed, no special tools required (maybe just some wrenches... The bidet comes with some plastic wrenches that are Ikea quality, so having an adjustable/worm-gear wrench is helpful).

So if you have less than $100 sitting around doing nothing, and you can spare 15 minutes.... You can have a bidet. So I respectively disagree that it's "too much work to implement".

I'll leave you with this statement: don't knock it until you try it. It's changed our lives for the better.

Okay, thank you for your very detailed response, at times too detailed. But you've convinced me to at least try it. I just ordered the luxe 120 plus on Amazon for $45, we'll see how it goes.

Again, thank you for this potentially life changing information.

I wish you all the best. Sorry for being a bit.... Overly complete with my information.

I hope you like it as much as we do.

Don’t apologize brother, it’s easy to get carried away in the zeal of spreading the gospel of the wash’ed ass.

I think you'll be disappointed with the bidet. Your original comment is correct, they are inconvenient and solve a non-problem.

It's annoying waddling from the toilet to the bidet with a dirty ass. It takes time to wash. Then you use more paper to dry than you would have to just wipe. And you don't feel cleaner afterwards because wiping is fine.

There's no polite way to say it, some people like bidets because they make a big mess when they use the toilet. For them bidets are more convenient than paper. For the average person wiping is quicker and easier.

Okay so your comment about “waddling from the toilet to the bidet” is all someone needs to read to know that you have no idea what you’re talking about.

Detached bidets exist, but nobody is buying them for $45 on Amazon.

The type of bidet that people are talking about here are ones that attach to your toilet. You twist a knob to activate the sprayer, which hits where it’s supposed to hit without you having to move.

You don’t waddle anywhere. It takes 5 seconds to wash. You use one wipe with 3 squares to dry, which is hopefully at least a few times less than you use when you dry wipe. You absolutely feel cleaner afterwards, because you’re using water to remove the shit instead of smearing it around with dry paper.

The problem that it solves is that you don’t have to walk around with an unwashed ass. Maybe having a disgusting unwashed ass isn’t a problem for you. Maybe if you got shit on another part of your body, you’d just wipe it with some TP and call it good. I’m not judging. Seems weird as hell that you’re trying to shame people who would rather use water to get the shit off, though.

Just in case, the bidet type they were describing attaches to the toilet directly. No waddling required.

I'm also not sure about you but when it comes time to dry for me it's 1 "normal use" wipe. Maybe it's a matter of aiming the water so you're not splashing all over yourself? Could also be that (by the sounds of it) you have the full scale bidet where you're meant to dry with a towel? I don't really know much about those ones.

Friend, you are not forced to abandon tp when using a bidet.

Too much work to implement? Yes, tell us more about how hard something is that, by your own admission, you don’t understand lmao

My favorite part was when you said tp works as if that is reason to avoid any and all alternatives that people praise highly literally across the globe. “No problem to solve” you realize you’re just smearing shit across your asshole with paper. No problem to solve eh?

But no, the water makes it messier, not smearing literal shit over yourself, that’s definitely cleaner, yep

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As an avid bidet user I feel compelled to answer your points

  • it is always warm water (unless you are a masochist, no judgement)
  • it points directly to where it needs to go so it stays confined within its domain
  • you have to wipe both before and after (before to wipe away most of it, after to dry it)
  • it is not a replacement of tp, it is complementary. You need both to achieve full cleaning

All in all I would not live without it anymore, after trying it and reaching enlightenment. 5/5 stars.

Thank you for your reply. I hadn't really explored the idea of using one before coming across this post. I figured it would be in some way complementary but based on other comments it wasn't really clear. I've decided to give a cheaper one on Amazon a try another person recommended.

Do you wash your ass in the shower? Does that make it dirtier? How you think washing with water is going to be dirtier than smearing with paper is mind boggling. Do you just wipe your hands with paper towels when you're done wiping or do you wash them in a sink with water?

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They have warmers, both water and seat.

No, your butt and legs cover it.

No, that's what it awesome if you get a good one it cleans all the bits.

I switched with COVID cause y'all are out of pocket with the TP. Never looked back. I think have bought one pack of TP since.

One pack of TP since!? That's incredible! Thank you for your reply, I have decided to give it a try to see how it goes. Just never really explored the idea before.

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I installed one at home. Cost is an issue especially when you need a gfci outlet installed behind the toilet. But if you're willing to do all that then:

  • Water is heated by the unit
  • The spray is direct to center. Doesn't deviate unless you don't sit correctly.
  • You only have to wipe once if you want to be sure, but the bidet comes with an air dryer.
  • Some benefits is if you have hemorrhoids it doesnt irritate them like toilet paper and it does feel way cleaner than tp.

I've decided to order a cheaper one and see how it goes. I happen to have plug close enough so that's a plus. The cleanliness is really what is convincing me towards it. Thank you for your reply.

It's not just a blind firehose pointed at your ass. There is accuracy with them, good pressure, so you are cleaning more effectively, and the water is ideally contained in the toilet and to your ass crack for the most part, which you're already wanting to clean anyway.

As somebody quite hairy, it helps me get cleaner, more quickly, save tp, and leave nothing to question. I often dab off with a little double fold to dry a little. Idgaf about a little dampness, at least my ass isn't grimey.

Think about how you pressure wash a deck or home exterior, you wouldn't just take a fuckin paper towel and some cleaner and hope your house looks immaculate.

Cold water up your ass on a winter morning is cheap, quick and a lot closer than coffee places so the lack of a warm water line doesn't bother me any.

I've had a bidet for a while now and here has been my experience:

  • I have a cold water bidet which used to annoy me a bit but I soon got to the point where I don't even notice or care. At any rate, there are warm water bidets but you will need to run a hot water line off of your sink likely.

  • You get water on your ass which to me feels cleaner than an ass which hasn't been washed at all. Using paper in public places now makes me wish bidets were more widely used because TP alone doesn't leave me feeling clean anymore. I suppose you would get water everywhere if you were squatting instead of sitting.

  • You can let it air dry but even if you don't, it takes a lot less TP than wiping without it. We go through less than half of the TP that we used to before getting the bidet.

  • TP is convenient but not cheap. You can get a quality home bidet for $20-$30 which will save you a good amount of money in the long run since you won't be going through nearly as much TP.

I used to think bidets were weird until I started using one on a regular basis. Now I can't live without it.

You don't need to run a hot water line, a lot of models just use electricity to warm a small tank of water. This will work better then a hot water line since you would have to wait till you flush the cold water out of the line. Unless you have a recirculation pump for your hot water I guess.

Thank you for your reply. After yours and others replies, I've went ahead and order one to give it a try. I just hadn't really explored the idea before. Thanks for the information!

  • warm water bidets exist, but cold water isnt as bad as you think
  • no, thats a common misconception
  • you can pat dry with a couple squares of TP, or keep a towel handy since you're clean now
  • you ever see all the nooks and crannies of a butthole? You're going to hurt yourself before you're actually clean if you're just wiping with dry paper. You're smearing shit around your asshole and then going about your day with a shitty asshole acting like that's not a problem that needs solving
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We've had one in my parents house for the past 30 years and as far as I remember, no one ever used it. Usually it’s used to store dirty laundry before washing. Maybe I should give it a try…

Do they have the type that's it's own separate bowl requiring you to waddle over to it from the toilet? These always seemed so weird to me versus the type mounted right in the toilet.

It’s separate, next to the toilet. When I was a child, I always thought that this is a special kind of toilet, but I couldn’t figure out for what kind of use (I never used it, though). It was my parents’ summer house and they probably built it in, because it was a trend or requirement at that time.

My grandma had this also, I thought it was to clean the feet.

Have a bidet in my toilet now, life changing, I was taking shower after every poo before, because toilet paper wasn't enough imo

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I sense that it may be due to a combination of outdated holdover ethics inherited from puritans and shit, as well as a new culture of anti-education which dolls out disdain for nerds who learn to interpret data and studies, etc. At least in the Dvided States.

I can't get a bidet because my friend is fat and breaks the toilet seats on the regular. He of course replaces them. I've tried bidets at other places and it was nice but i still had to use toilet paper to clean my now wet ass so I'm really confused when people say they don't need toilet paper anymore. I really hope they aren't just wiping their ass on a towel or some shit.

How do you wipe your ass after a shower?

That involved soap a few mins prior so obviously it's a proper clean ass my guy.

As for the bidet it's only water being shot at your ass with no soap. Water alone won't kill the bacteria unless we're shooting some hot ass 140°F+ water at your booty hole.

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I don’t know but the greatest thing for me from the pandemic was adopting the use of them. I cannot understand why people wouldn’t want to use them (apart from some misplaced unease with something twiddling d. butthole)

It apparently used to be a thing over here when my grandparents were young. People just liked toilet paper better.

Yes, a piece of paper is much better to get rid of poo then streaming water.

Sounds like something that someone with zero butt hair would say.

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Serious question: you use it instead of wiping, not in addition to? I have a hard time imagining the bidet would be more sanitary without the use of mechanical force (wiping) and/or soap. Is it really just a jet of water that is supposed to remove any residue, regardless of consistency?

The water jet is the mechanical force. But unlike wiping, it doesn't smear the shit all over your ass hair and rub it into your skin pores. It just liquifies it so that it gets rinsed away.

YMMV but personally it makes everything 1-2 wipes to 'verify'/dry. Got one in 2020 to lessen TP usage, which it does really well. I think you're underestimating how strong the stream is (which is variable/controllable) and overestimating how 'stuck on' any residue is. Works kinda like a pressure washer where you can't move/angle the washer (on the affordable ones) so you move the thing being washed for full 'coverage'.

Regardless, if I got muck on my hands would rather rinse them in water than just wipe them off with a paper towel.

Thanks for the explanation and I hate muck ony hands so that analogy also helps.

My toto, you don't need to wipe at all. Heated seat, multiple nozzles, heated water, dryer built in. Powerful enough to give you a full clean, it even oscillates to get better coverage.

My grandparents got one after going to Hawaii, where they are prevalent. Then I got one during the pandemic. Then my family bought two after trying mine. Then my relatives all got at least one. It's Japan's gift to the world, haha. I feel bummed out whenever I have to go somewhere without it, as you can never get as clean with toilet paper.

The recent articles about all TP being treated with PFAS to make them dissolve faster in water makes me even happier to use a bidet.

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I have a theory. Almost every hot country I've been to has bidets. So you have to ask yourself why? Well I'll tell you. After I moved to a hot country (Spain) I realised that if you don't use a bidet and go about your day, the shit in your ass will begin to liquify and you will get very itchy. This is not good. This also doesn't happen in countries with a more temperate climate. That's the reason, I think.

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I think the question is more 'why do some cultures wash, and others wipe'. I believe the answer is mostly to do with religion, and it's laws on cleanliness.

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I love mine but I use the bidet before I wipe. Then it doesn't take much paper at all.

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With my bathroom, the answer is simple. I would have to nail the bidet to the wall because of the lack of floor space, which would make it's use rather awkward.

My bidet cost ~$30 and took about 20 minutes to install to my existing toilet using basic tools. It's great. I highly recommend it to anyone .

I'd recommend taking a look at your plumbing first lol. I love my bidet, but I was not prepared to have to replace the horribly shitty 30 year old corrugated water lines that my toilet was installed with. That fucker was welded to the valve so I had to shut the water off for the whole house to install a new valve as well.

Still with it though lol

Who the fuck welds the line to the valve. Jesus butt cracker corn barrel roll skippy peanut butter. I put splitter valves on all mine now so we can hook up washlets without stress. One line to the toilet tank, one line to the bidet tank. Easy peasy. Also I try to make sure they're those "only have to turn them a quarter turn and they're on/off" valves forget what they're called. This has been plumbing corner with dude who's on the turd hole all day

Fucking beats me lmao. Also recently upgraded my kitchen faucet, but it was long enough after putting in my bidet that I completely forgot about then until I was about to the ten minute job of swapping them out. Took 4 hours cause I had to go back to the hardware store to get new valves and wrench the rusty as fuck old valves off. I would hate being a plumber lol

Also they're called "quarter turn valves" lol

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I used to see bidets in some houses in France like 15+ years ago but they were already a rare sight, a thing of the past. I have no idea why.

Washlets are better? You just press a button and they tickle your bum with water, don't even have to get up

I've used both a Toto washlet and a cheap bidet toilet attachment. While I loved the Toto for all of it's cool features, the water pressure (which is powered by an electric pump) just wasn't there and didn't do a great job cleaning. The cheap attachment on my home toilet is powered solely by water pressure and that thing leaves me sparkling clean!

Hmm, was it an old toto? I got one a few years ago, and it's powerful enough that it needs an injection warning label on the side. Turn it past the third setting, and you start coughing up water, haha.

It’s quite widespread in some places. When I lived in the Middle East, every bathroom had one, a separate porcelain unit beside the toilet. Apparently the electronic ones built into the toilet seat are very popular in Japan. And bidets are taking off big in the US now too. Those are just the places I happen to know. How widespread do you need them to be? ;D

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It is. Only not in stinky Western countries. Seriously, you stink. Like full diapers. Use bidets. Use it. Now.

In Finland you can find one in every toilet basically but majority of people don't use them. It's not something installed into the bowl itself thought but just a separate shower head next to it that's attached to the faucet so you get warm water too.

Why would it be?

If nothing else... $$$.

People can get a well-working, basic washlet / bidet to install under their toilet seat for as little as $20 - $30 USD on Amazon. It reduces your TP usage so much that it will pay for itself within a year at most... likely faster.

I used to go through several rolls a week (I felt like I was personally killing a rainforest, but I can't stand not being clean). After installing my first bidet a few weeks back, I now only use a little to dry, and to double-check that I didn't miss anything. I'd estimate that it reduced my TP usage by probably 80 to 90%.

That's going to be a not insignificant chunk of change saved over the years.

Don't forget that also not flushing fuckloads of TP also saves your plumbing. I have a buddy who works for the municipal sewer system and he prays more people switch to bidets (and stop flushing wipes and pads). Says they clog the sewage pumps that move the slurry towards the treatment plant.

Imagine if I took peanut butter and smeared it all on your arm.

Would you wipe it off with dry toilet paper and call it clean?

Just imagine if, instead of peanut butter, it was something else...

Why is it alright to just leave that between your cheeks?

Feces the consistency of peanut butter sounds like a medical condition.

Sour cream?

Cookie dough?

Constant peanut butter poos could be alarming. Poos vary