What word or term annonys you?

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Please don't think I'm here to complain about rizz or skibidi toilet etc. Thats all fine by me.

The term I dislike strongly is 'eeeh' before you make a statement disagreeing with someone. (This is over text only). Now maybe I've been pavloved bc it's always used by someone disagreeing. But I'm happy with people disagreeing with me normally its just the 'eeeh' or 'erm' that annoys me.

So what's a random term that annoys you?

PS. Saying "eeeh actually 'eeh' is a perfectly fine term" would be a ridiculously easy joke and I will judge you for making it. And I know atleast one person will. Especially bow that I've said all this.

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Especially in news headlines: slams, blasts, mind-blowing, hack (or lifehack)

I'm sure there are others, but that's all my brain can handle at the moment.

It's always superlatives, even for the most mundane and boring things

I really like your username btw... I now wanna cuddle a cassowary and/or you

Ah all the typical clickbait words. I hate them too. Lifehack in particular is a word I'm sick of now

"I could care less" to mean "I could NOT care less"

Thing is... this sort of makes sense if you say it with a hint of sarcasm. But curiously the only people that use this phrase are Americans. And we all know how much they understand sarcasm 🤣.

I sometimes say "I could care less, but not by much"

Same with "Do you mind doing x?" "Yeah sure"; so you mind doing it? I get what they mean with the response, but it annoys me every time haha

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"Ding ding ding!" When someone agrees with something you wrote, but wants to make sure that you know that they already knew and claim ownership of the statement that you wrote. Condesending asshole. I did not arrive at your opinion late.

"Meanwhile" in cooking recipes. Just no. I am following a recipe in stepwise order. You do not get to tell me what I should have already done in the previous step.

The entire way recipes are written is trash.

"Add the flour and stir gently": How much flour? Why do I have to scroll back up to check?!

It makes sense to have the ingredients first for making a shopping list and prepping. However, I do agree, with recipes being online, it should be a small task to include the quantity in the description too, even if it is adjustable for different servings.

Normally, portioning out the ingredients would be the first step of the process and is all done at once.

Probably not normally, but ideally. I doubt mise en place is all that common in most homes.

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Because the amounts can vary based on the number of servings, but the method doesn't.

I'm doubling the amounts anyway, just give them to me in-line!

As much as I despise the fat-tongued mockney, Jamie Oliver's website is the only one I've seen that has the ingredients and method on two tabs so you can flick between them

Dunno why they're not all like that

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Someone could take all the answers here and create a copypasta equivalent of fingernails on a chalkboard.

Enshittification. Everyone just learned a new word and has to use it at least once in every comment section to feel smart.

Marxists have a hundred years of text dedicated to alienation from labor, the falling rate of profit, degeneration of art and creative disciplines under later capitalism due to the profit motive, cycles of class struggle, all based on a materialist analysis of changing production and class relationsi

But for some reason a trendy term like enshittification that vaguely means things are getting worse, without going into the basis about why they're currently getting worse, has caught on.

I'm convinced it's part of the tech grifter trend to take things that were already invented, slap a new name on it, repackage it, and sell it.

I suggest you read up a bit on how and by whom the term was coined and what it actually means. It's by no means 'vague' and it is also a bit more than just repackaging and selling something already known. I suspect many people using the term aren't even fully aware of what it describes and, crucially, what is being proposed to reduce the effects it describes.

Sure, but 80% of people stopped reading after that first word because of “socialism”

I'm also sick of it, but I also sort of like how it's gone viral. I had a very non-techy friend mention it to me the other day. I feel like most of the people who I see talking about it are jazzed because it makes them feel seen. My friend, for example, said to me that before she learned of "enshittification", she felt like she was going mad because of how things don't seem to work like they used to, especially in tech; she said that for the longest time, she had assumed it must be something that she was doing wrong.

Okay but if we use "Late stage capitalism and the quest for profit above all else is causing the quality of goods and commodities to drop while their value stays the same or goes up," it's going to result in 20 minutes trying to explain things correctly followed by 20 hours of anti-communist arguments.

That will at least explain why things are getting worse tho. The term enshittification is just nostalgic idealization with no real theory behind it.

But yet it explains so much about the modern world. All this time we’ve been abused and mistreated, had our data collected and income extracted in so many scammy ways ….. and now we have a word that fits it so perfectly

I cringe so hard at the twitterist carebear-hugbox way of smugly claiming the intellectual high ground and shaming somebody:

"Be better." or "Do better."

The sentiment isn't terrible, but it's prevalent use is obviously just dripping with arrogance and thrown out in the most petty ways. Ugh!

They're the same types that appear in comment threads with contradictory arguments to literally fucking anything -

"We should save the whales"

"Yes but my cousin got splashed by a whale on a boat trip as a toddler and now has a terrible phobia that makes her wheeze whenever she sees one. Do you want that, is that what you want?"

"We should plan walkable cities"

"OH MY GOD SHES IN A WHEELCHAIR TOO DO YOU ONLY EVER THINK ABOUT YOURSELF YOU ABLEIST"

😂

My theory is that they're just unbelievably bo-o-o-o-oring, humourless people with nothing to add to a conversation but a desperate need for attention

The wheelchair one (whilst obvious hyperbole) is a great example of why this rhetoric isn't useful.

Often people who say we should plan walkable cities don't consider what that would mean for wheelchair users and other disabled people, because they don't have the lived experience to think along those lines. So it would actually be super useful if someone could say "okay, but what about wheelchair users?" in a constructive way, because there are additional considerations re: pedestrianisation and public transport. Disabled people are way too often treated like an inconvenience or obstacles to progress, and that's fucking exhausting, so it's useful to have allies who ask "hey, what about disabled people tho"

The people your comment is about don't do this. As you highlight, they make things about themselves, and if anything, this makes it harder to have productive conversations about what a 'walkable city' for everyone would look like. I suspect that for many of these people, it's based on a nugget of good intentions inside a blob of insecurity and dread at the state of the world; they feel like they're not doing enough so they resort to very loudly virtue signalling in the most bizarre ways.

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"We should plan walkable cities"
"OH MY GOD SHES IN A WHEELCHAIR TOO DO YOU ONLY EVER THINK ABOUT YOURSELF YOU ABLEIST"

I don't understand this one? Walkable cities are better for wheelchair users.

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Mama, momma, mommas…

“Hey Facebook mommas, I’ve got a question about…”

I don’t know why, but it annoys the shit out of me.

Similarly, not a fan of when teachers and parents talk about their "kiddos."

Feels like they're needlessly using a more playful childish term to make themselves part of a separate "in group" who "gets it."

I hadn’t thought about that one. I occasionally use the word kiddo, but only to say, “hey kiddo!” I never use it to talk about my kids, like “we took the kiddos to the park yesterday.”

Yeah, it's specifically the not talking to a kid version that bothers me.

I pick up a subtext of self-importance and I think that's what I find irksome. A mom is a parent. A momma is a special parent who will do anything for their baby, you'd better watch out. A kid is a child. A kiddo is a specific child who has a close bond with their momma or teacher that you wouldn't understand. That's the vibe I get.

I'd like to introduce to my friend Freud.

I don’t think it’s some latent psychological issue. I get along great with my mom, and I’ve never felt any resentment toward her. I’m also not bothered by words like mom, moms, mother, etc. I don’t even mind when my sons call my wife “mommy.” It’s just that one word, “momma,” that bugs me. I wish I had an explanation.

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im still a bit salty about 'literally'

also the constant failure to say 'i could not care less' correctly

I don’t mind people using “literally” to refer to things that they don’t literally mean because that’s just perfectly normal exaggeration.

What I hate is that the dictionary definition changed to formalize the nonliteral meaning as a literal meaning.

I literally could not care less about literally. MANY words over time end up meaning the opposite of what they did, its just the nature of how humans use language. I love that we've seen this change happen right in front of us.

Eeh, you have a point, but on the other hand, if the word meaning "literally" no longer means "literally" then we need a new definitive term for the concept.

And we don't have one. We just have a word that is becoming more ambiguous every year

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That never bothered me all too much. Then yesterday i watched a video on youtube to kinda doze off. Dude made some insane stuff in Minecraft. Now i usually don't really watch these videos or Minecraft videos in general. But the production value, time and effort that went into it was beyond everything i have seen so far. The usage of the word literally kept me awake. Every time i had to flinch and at some point i had to turn it off, despite my interest.

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"It is what it is"

I get the sentiment behind it, it's just usually so defeatist/dismissive of a situation to me.

That’s now how people in my subculture use it.

They use it to mean “it’s too late to avoid this problem; let’s talk about things we can change at this point”.

Example:

“If you hadn’t stopped at that rest area the killer never would have slashed our tires”

“Well if you hadn’t jumped for those cheap tires maybe he wouldn’t have been able to slash them with a butter knife”

“And if you’d paid for the triple A we’d have a ride by now”

“Look, it is what it is. Let’s just figure out a way to get back to town without having to follow the road”

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I’m currently going through a pretty bad divorce where my wife cheated on me, drained my accounts, lawyered up and send a letter demanding $280,000 and isn’t signing documents or responding to her legal council.

I’d love to get it all finalised and end that chapter of my life but realistically I can’t force her to do anything. I can’t make her sign documents, I can’t make her talk to her lawyer. So ultimately it is what it is.

Frankly, that saying has (since our separation) become an anthem to me. I can understand why you’d think it’s defeatism etc if it’s someone speaking of something they can legitimately do something about but truely sometimes it really is what it is.

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Places using "gluten-friendly" to mean "gluten-free". I am gluten-UNfriendly. I do not want gluten. They've tried to be cute and actually managed to make the term mean the opposite of what it's supposed to.

I bake a lot of bread, including for my coeliac stepmother, so I've taken to labelling the loaves gluten-free and gluten-expensive

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i know i'm being a nerd but i despise the term 'taxpayer funds'/'taxpayer money'. besides being completely wrong in nearly all cases, it places taxes above the people, above labor.

'American taxpayer is paying for the genocide in Gaza'. No, every person/entity using U.S. Dollars is paying for it. Even foreign countries are indirectly paying for it.

No, you don't have a "challenge" for me. You have a problem and are trying to make it mine.

Man if that isn't just empty manager-speak, rephrasing things to BS you and be manipulative. Lol

Not a term, but a lack thereof:

People I have to regularly interact with for work have been excluding "to be", especially with "needs", and it's infuriating.

This issue needs escalated. That report needs fleshed out. Let me know if anything needs cleared up.

My brother-in-law says the dishes "need washed" and it's nails on a goddamn chalkboard every time I hear it.

To quote Shakespeare, "Or not?"

"I'm just sayin'" ok but you're still an asshole.

It’s always to mitigate something heinous. “I’m just sayin’, Mussolini made the trains run on time.”

Also "Not gonna lie..." to start a sentence. Well thank you for that decency?

This one makes me crazy. And I've heard it so much I've caught myself saying it which makes me angry with myself.

The corporate overenthusiasm "LET'S FUCKING GOOOOO".

Ugh. Sure, maybe the product launch went great, but still. Ugh.

I just hate it when people try to elongate the word GO with more Os.

It’s now a new word. It’s GOO. Any further Os just make it gooier, not goier.

Can we just mean corporate speak in general. I can’t fucking stand all the buzzwords that get tossed around

If someone uses the word 'curate' they'd better be preparing to show me a shoebox filled with their favorite vaseline glass and not a pile of random deli meat on a wooden board

I feel like museums should get a pass on this one.

But along these lines, I’m SO over “bespoke.”

10 years ago I learnt that southern New Zealand slang uses bespoke or custom as an indicator of poor quality. Someone shittly welded a tow ball onto their car, that's a 'custom job'.

Your poorly assembled second hand IKEA bookshelf that's falling apart and well fucked? A bespoke piece of furniture.

Those words have never bothered me since. Thanks kiwis.

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Would you settle for a single clergyman?

Sure, but only if they're a member of the presbyterium and not laity, then they're just 'the pastor's secretary'

I don't even like when people say that in context of a playlist on a music streaming platform...

I mean maybe they spent a lot of time picking individual songs but it's still just a digital playlist, nothing that special IMO

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More of a grammatical mistake, but "should of" instead of "should've" or "should have" annoys the hell out of me for some reason. I completely get how people make the mistake, but it's as much effort as just typing it correctly.

I judge the shit out of people for this. It suggests that they don't even grasp the meaning of the words they are typing or saying.

I work as a barista and get much too annoyed by people ordering a "regular coffee".

Like I know that 99.999% of the time they mean a drip/filter coffee (excluding that one lady that one time who was surprised I didn't parse "regular coffee" as a latte), but like can you just say drip coffee? Or even simply "coffee"!

I honestly don't even know why it annoys me this much.

I'm a waitress and "regular coffee" means different things across regions. Some people mean just "drip, not decaf" with no indication of cream or sugar. Some people mean "drip, black" with no indication of caffeine content. And where I grew up, "regular" means "2 cream 2 sugar", as in you'd be asked if you wanted your coffee "regular or black". It's the worst.

That latte lady was just crazy though... unless she meant "my regular"?

Ah, the four basic types of coffee, Regular, Posh, Italian and Wrong.

Personally I’m a fan of Irish coffee, but most coffee bars seem to frown on busting out the whiskey at 8a.

Regular coffee is a coffee. People say regular coffee because they've gotten fatigue from "which type?" questions. I'm more annoyed that the understanding of coffee has shifted away from the default just being an espresso. Over here in Spain if you ask for cafe you'll get a cafe solo.

Here a regular coffee would mean a milk based drink. Something like a cappuccino but not quite. Nestle ass drink.

This sounds delicious. Where is here so I can be there?

Pakistan, OK actually more dalgona than cappuccino

Okay, I've never even heard of a Dalgona before, and that sounds incredible. Like somewhere basically incredible hot chocolate is the default coffee

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"Who hurt you?"

These days, that's shorthand for "I'm an emotionally stunted liberal who is so incapable of self-reflection that anyone who disagrees with a point I have must be acting from a place of unresolved trauma". It's always felt like people-who-definitely-used-to-post-to-4chan burning extra words to get to the r-slur they so desperately want to use; but with the exact kind of plausible deniability that gets their squishy bits either hard or wet.

"Who hurt you?"

I utterly fucking despise the contextual ableistic assholery inherent to that put-down. "Teehee, the person I disagree with must have trauma that distorts their view of the world and that's LE FUNNAY and worth mockery!" smuglord

Liberals are just unscratched fascists and this is evidence toward that statement.

So many things. In written form, I hate when someone writes "Period." after they make a point to mean "this can't be argued" or whatever. My good bitch, I don't think you understand how arguing works. 😆

"Full stop" is a close second.

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Please do the needful.

This one really grinds my gears! I think it's because the person can't even be bothered to describe what they want you to do, just go fix it and don't bother me with any details.

Indian here. Redditors say that Indians say this a lot. I'd like to tell you that while Indians do use this sentence, it's almost always placed only after a long, somewhat-gone-off-tangent-in-some-places conversation that explained everything well.

Maaaaaaybe it was to convince you without describing tasks, but... mostly, it's not so.

Also, I don't remember hearing it IRL at all. Just felt like I have heard it at least twice in my 18 years of humaning around.

But why use such an awkward construction? Why not "please handle this" or "please take care of this"? Or even "please take the necessary steps to address this"? "Please do the needful" is saying Please [VERB] the [ADJECTIVE]. But the correct construction is to verb a noun. So you need a noun (e.g., "this") to act on.

And additionally, "needful" is an adjective, and rarely ever used anyway. For example, you could probably describe a homeless person as "needful", but it sounds awkward, and most people would say "needy" or "in need."

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  • paradigm shift
  • military grade encryption
  • cyber kill chain

"bank grade security" grinds my gears, too

Having worked at actual banks, too, don't follow their lead....

Seriously, my bank used to have a password requirement that was 6 characters exactly, no more or less. Plus symbols were completely banned. The reason, it was also your phone password, so in reality it was a 6 digit numeric password where they interpreted the T9 letters as numbers.

“Cyber” 🙄

Oh yeah absolutely. I'm a programmer and I see so many companies and recruiters etc use Cyber instead of Cybersecurity. It drives me absolutely mad, but these type of people drive me mad anyways. It's probably the same crowd who ruined AI by overhyping it into its grave, the same crowd who were hyped by web 3.0 and the whole Blockchain craze, and probably all those other dumb crazes before it.

Still, this cyber thing seems to permeate everything, and I've heard people using the term who I otherwise respect. For me it's a quick way to instantly become very sceptical of whatever follows the term

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People using double negatives incorrectly. Like "I didn't do nothing!"

I didn't do no nothing wrong now, didn't I?

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I had a young coworker who reported to me and a few others, for a few months earlier this year. She would come in and say ‘that being said,…’ all the fucking time. I heard it at least once or twice per brief conversation with her. I think she was just trying to sound smart… but, it was like nails on a chalk board to me.

I recently heard someone say after they almost accidentally went in a wrong building entrance, "Good thing I didn't do that or I would regret my life choices."

A bit much for something minor that created no more than two seconds of awkwardness.

The replacement of the term “conspiracy theory” with just “conspiracy”.

That’s two different things. If we equate the two semantically we can’t discuss them.

you can't just say Perchance

Perchance is a great word though. I think I'd probably use it if I knew how to do so appropriately in a sentence (though I imagine only a fraction of people who do use that word use it properly. That tends to be the case with formal or archaic words used in informal contexts)

When people say 'like' constantly between sentences or sentence fragments or before every adjective.

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"bend the knee"
"Sweet summer child"
And other phrases from GoT that people now pretend they've been saying their whole lives

The latter might have had a resurgence because of GoT, but I definitely heard the phrase before the show came out. I had to look it up to make sure, but it's origins go back to the 1800s.

Nah it's origins is a single use in a written poem with a significantly different meaning. Looking at the trends it's clear that it's GoT. People just use that poem as their cover, unwilling to accept that their memory is a foreign country

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I definitely heard the phrase before the show came out.

No you absolutely did not, unless you were talking to dorks who started using out-of-context nonsensical phrases from their favorite fantasy book. If you think you heard the term not as a reference to ASOIAF you are misremembering. Its origins do not go back to the 1800s. The term in this context refers to a child who has lived their entire life in the years-long summers of the world of ASOIAF. That is what it means.

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Using the phrase "serious question" or "honest question" will make me immediately assume your question is the exact opposite of that. Probably I'm overreacting, but expecting that anyone might respect that declaration you've made about your own question, that gives me narcissist vibes.

Sometimes it's meant like "I'm about to ask what might sound like a dumb question, but I'm genuinely asking, so please take me seriously."

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Sometimes it's meant like "I'm about to ask what might sound like a dumb question, but I'm genuinely asking, so please take me seriously."

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Utilize, when they mean Use.

and they even have subtly different meanings that the talker often doesn't seem to realize.

you use something for what it's meant for. use a bucket to carry water.

you utilize something for something it works fine for, but it's not really the intended use. you utilize a shoe to prop opena window.

Pah-sketti

You're 65 Brad, use big boy words.

Is that for spaghetti? I actually love people who naturally say words in a different way. Especially if they speak a different dialect or language.

Yes, for spaghetti.

And yes it's for people who know they are 'making a funny', it doesn't bother me for kids or others.

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“Beloved” in so many articles. Yes I tend to use a specific browser. No, it is not and never will be “beloved”.

That word is so jarring most of the time and seems to be everywhere online in the last two years. I can only assume it’s some sort of SEO, trying to convince Google it’s a personal article or something. I hope to god it’s not ai assuming that’s what attracts our attention

"It is what it is."

It is lazy, circular, a cop out and means next to nothing. Vague enough to pass as a wise quip, to some. It is not.

Also not so much a saying per sé, but people who use quotes of famous people at the bottom or ends of emails. As if that implies a personality. If you are going to use something you think sounds smart, at least try to come up with that something yourself.

This one is mine too. It's used in a way that can give it more meaning (mainly, this is something out of our control), but logically the phrase is just corpo filler-speak that means absolutely nothing.

I've always interpreted it as being equivalent to "what's done is done"

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"The proof is in the pudding." It makes zero sense! The actual adage is, "The proof of the pudding is in the eating." It means that a dessert can look perfect and enticing, but if the cook used salt instead of sugar it will taste disgusting.

I don't know what people even think they're saying with "the proof is in the pudding".

when i was a kid, i figured it was a reference to some now obscure detective story, where a bowl of pudding contained the important clue as to who the killer was or something. it wasn't until much later that i heard of this etymology.

My son started saying "what the sigma?" constantly. I've tried to figure out where it came from and only landed on some "Sigma Male" shit on youtube.

Drives me nuts.

Yeah, just "sigma" goes back to sigma male claptrap. But as with all internet memes, it evolved super rapidly and took on layers. "Sigma" started to mean just "the best", not in reference to male hierarchy necessarily. Then there was a cartoon clip with Squidward from SpongeBob where he said "what the sigma" and it went viral.

Websearch "what the sigma meme" today and you will get text and video explanations of the meme for old folks like you and me. I prefer ones from teachers who interact with middle schoolers; our frontline troops facing the bleeding edge of internet memespeak.

I think it might be from a SpongeBob SquarePants meme. You might wanna start there. Not sure why that’s tickling my brain.

Oh and I just found this: https://knowyourmeme.com/editorials/guides/whats-erm-what-the-sigma-meme-about-the-catchphrase-and-overstimulation-video-explained

So it looks like started as a TikTok thing and then spread into the SpongeBob world.

I’m not sure why my ADHD brain latched on to this question but I HAD to find the answer. I don’t know if this is definitive but it’s at least a direction.

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Influencer

I quite like influencer I think it's good that they are called what they are being paid to do and not trying to hide. It's surprising honestly from a very dishonest industry.

Well, that’s a very interesting take on that and I never quite thought of it that way. Thank you

"Would of" annoys me to no end. Which is silly because English isn't my first language and I know I make many mistakes, but would of is just... Ugh. Ick.

I unreasonably hate the word "moreover". I see no reason why you wouldn't use the words "also", "additionally", or even "furthermore" that sound way better when read.

When people refer to metal balls as ball bearings. A ball bearing is an assembly of outer ring, inner ring, balls, and a cage/retainer. I worked in bearing manufacture for years and they're just referred to as balls. To be more specific, it would be a bearing ball, not a ball bearing.

People that use question marks in non-question sentences just to be extra snippy and condescending. Fuck that.

Hm, I do this sometimes to mark that I am unsure about the statement I made, asking for confirmation. I think that is okay?

Cleanse. it's a less efficient way to spell clean.

This is how I feel about several acronyms at work! There's a three letter acronym recently that was coming up a lot on a meeting. I had to search for a definition to understand the discussion. The meaning is fully encompassed by just using one four letter English word that nobody past kindergarten will be confused about. But this acronym is everywhere! Also, the single word has fewer syllables than the stupid acronym, so it's faster to say. Not by much, but it just adds insult to injury every time I hear it.

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People thinking their clever by making up words that already have a meaning.

"Lawfare" meaning chargingnrich white assholes for the crime they committed

"Disinformatsiya" or however libs spelled it to mean pointing out the hypocrisy of American nationalists.

"Sanewashing" to describe media putting their thumb on the scale for the fascist who wants to cut their taxes.

It implies it's a new phenomenon and not just the current version of whatever propoganda apparatus has been chugging along for decades.

Liberals complain about "sanewashsing" and then in the same breath talk about how cheyney and bush weren't exactly the fucking same as Trump.

Bemused

It's used incorrectly so often that even when I suspect it's being used correctly I can't be sure. At this point its ambiguity makes it a bad word choice.

What's the correct usage? and the wrong one you've been hearing?

It means puzzled and/or confused.

Many authors seem to think it means amused mixed with some confusion or puzzlement or something else like that.

Some dictionaries have started to include definitions along those lines, which is correct to do if that is becoming a common usage. But that makes the word bullshit because it no longer conveys a clear meaning. Unlike some words that gain new meanings through misuse, it's usually not clear which meaning is intended from context. Usually I can easily imagine a character's response to something to be either of these definitions so I often can't understand the author's intention. I often find myself taken out of the story while I try to understand which meaning I should use. Because of this I think the word has become useless and shouldn't be used.

Many authors seem to think it means amused mixed with some confusion or puzzlement or something else like that.

I actually kind of blame that abominable terf Joanne Rowling for this one; I know I've seen her use this word a dozen different ways that never line up with each other back in the days before we knew the Harry Potter woman was about as hateful as a southern Baptist

Correct: confused or perplexed

Incorrect: amused

Me with nonplussed. I have a friend who uses it and he says it in situations that are ambiguous enough that I can't tell if he actually knows what it means.

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Calling someone a bot or a shill because they post something you disagree with. It's so stupid. Like even if the person is a bot, would that matter if the point they're making is salient and sourced?

"I don't need to engage with the fact Biden has deported more people than Trump, because you are actually russian. Thus I have no reason to investigate my worldview."????

It's also such a tell. Like the person can't imagine anyone thinking anything other than what they think, so they must not be real people with internal lives. Can't imagine independent thought, literal NPC behaviour.
Especially because it's always the most average of redditor-take-havers that say it.

Exspecially

All intensive purposes

Irregardless

I could care less

I will use irregardless to my dying breath. In fact I go out of my way to use dumb combinations of synonyms all the time, mayhaps, possentially...

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Queer. Not all gay men (the one group I can safely speak about) like to be associated with an ex-slur and its connotations.

I am someone who really likes the term for myself, because it can encompass a whole bunch of complex identities across gender and sexuality. It feels like it simplifies things for me, and has helped me to properly understand the necessity of LGBTQ solidarity. There have been times when I have been told it's inappropriate for me to personally identify as queer because some people find the term offensive, which I find absurd because such a large and heterogeneous community will never be unanimous on what terms or labels to use.

However, much more frequently than that, I have seen people being insensitive to the reality that there are a ton of people who have pretty legitimate beef with the term and who don't want it applied to them. I'm talking about situations like "queer folk like us " or "the queer community". It's a pretty reasonable request if someone says "hey, if you're referring to a group that involves me, I'd prefer you not use queer as a blanket term". The appropriate response to that is "I'm sorry, my bad", but I have seen way too many people start arguments that actually the (usually but certainly not always) older gay men are obstacles to Progress.

I like the way that a friend of mine framed it when he said that he's actively jazzed to see a word that did such harm being reclaimed by a new generation who are finding great power and solidarity in it. But that's never going to erase the sting he still feels when remembering being victimised for years by people who'd shout that word. "You can't reclaim a slur if you ignore all its history and disown the members of your community who experienced it as a slur".

It boggles my mind that there are people who are heavy advocates of the power of self determination of one's identity, but who don't see the issue in forcing the label of "queer" onto individuals who have expressly rejected it.

I've always thought queer had 2 connotations. The first being the slur. The second is a catch all for someone not lgbt or someone who doesn't know what they are yet.

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"Oftentimes"

Its always interchangeable with Often. Just use Often.

The exception that proves the rule.

People use it in a way where counterexample proofs that the rule exist when it's supposed to mean that the rule also handles exceptional cases.

"For me"

I know it's your opinion because you're the one saying it. And the construction of it is just weird. "For" me. I dunno.

on the internet everything is true. therefore if you don't preface your thoughts with "CW: opinion" your writing permanently alters reality and people will be angry at you for inconveniencing them.

imho.

Valid opinion on the phrasing. Disagree with the premise that anything someone says is necessarily their opinion.

Example: "For me, potatoes are easier to peel with a knife than a potato peeler" vs "Potatoes are easier to peel with a knife than a potato peeler". The former says that this is my experience and yours may differ. The latter says that this is true in general and if you find it easier the other way, there's a good chance you're doing something wrong.

"Hence why"

Syntactically makes no sense. Just say "that's why," that's what you are trying to say.

For me it's "I'm offended" or "this offends me". I get it, some topics might be triggering for some people but if you get offended because someone has a different opinion, that's your problem, not the rest of the world problem.

Kiddos, especially when used by people in professions that work with kids. Right up there with people who unironically say pupper or doggo. Just say kids.

I do the "eh" thing sometimes without thinking about it but I agree with you, I don't like being on the other end of it either. I'm trying to work on that

SME (pronounced smee)

My company is flooded with SMEs who aren’t even good, let alone experts at anything

“Not me” doing something.

Just say you’re doing something, and accept that it may be a bit hypocritical or shameful that you’re doing it.

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Lemmings. A creature with a (erroneous but nevertheless extant) reputation for idiotically following each other off a cliff to die.

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Fucking “pre-prepare”. Prepare already means to get ready ahead of time.