Question to the ones that fully left Reddit

InfiniteGlitch@lemmy.dbzer0.com to Reddit@lemmy.ml – 171 points –

How has it been for you? Do you get FOMO feeling sometimes?

I use Reddit less and less but haven’t fully quit yet. Always have this odd feeling of FOMO regards content.

Not only that, some subreddits haven’t migrated to any other platform unfortunately. Or they have but the content is very little compared to Reddits content.

Note - wasn’t sure where to post this. So if this wasn’t the right place, apologies!

The issue I have with Reddit - it’s full of hateful people and most content is just bots karma farming.

EDIT: Thanks for all the responses!

EDIT 2: Thanks for the ones that mentioned RSS-Feed. Just got it and it’s amazing. Still manage to only follow the subreddits that I like without crapads.

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Fully left Reddit. Hate that they killed Sync so bounced. Don't miss it at all.

The flip side is Lemmy is meh. Every damn post is Linux shilling. We get it. Lemmy users like Linux. At least Sync works on this site.

Ultimately, I guess I just don't care about either site. I just want something to mindlessly browse for a few minutes every day when I'm shitting, and Lemmy is fine.

On the contrary, there are more posts here that shill for MS too, than on Reddit. But that's probably because of too much Linux.

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FOMO is a silly and manipulative phenomenon, I encourage you to try to figure out how you can break it. I left the day Apollo stopped working

Same. Left when Apollo shut down. Also someone(a) is regularly scraping segments of Reddit and uploading here for our viewing pleasure.

I wish apollo would make lemmy client like the sync dev did

Check out Memmy!!! I’m using it now and love it

There is one! Called Voyager, it’s open source too: https://vger.app/

Not by Christian though. It does have a lot of the features, recently they added account age markers next to new accounts!

I left reddit totally when I made my account here. Lemmy has been great, but it's not a full replacement per se. Most often I've just decided I can live without the niche reddit content. Lemmy has plenty of its own content, and it's enough for me to fill that "hole".

As I'm sure many are aware, reddit has addictive qualities that aren't always serving your best interest. Just because there's a subreddit for r/breadstapledtotrees doesn't mean you should dedicate time out of your day to look at it. All the important discussions to me have mostly moved over here, and all the people who are posting and commenting on Lemmy have a much much higher level of aptitude on these topics than redditors (I like that you can go into a random meme community on Lemmy and pick a fight about filesystems).

We still need to create and fill a lot of niche communities here, but Rome wasn't built in a day and we're making great progress here in just a few months. Lemmy feels viable and sustainable and I think we're past the hard part of gaining critical mass and making daily Lemmy use a habit. My call-to-action would be to stop searching reddit for answers to things and start posting those questions on Lemmy. There are so many smart people here waiting to infodump their experience onto you.

This comment seems very related to the specific content you are looking for. Lemmy is a good place for tech information but that’s about it. Cooking, home improvement, personal finance, DIY, crafting etc don’t have homes on here with many active users, and especially not the amount of knowledgeable users that were on Reddit.

This all started because of an API change, so it would make sense that the predominant amount of users who migrated are more tech savvy.

The second best time to create activity is now. I'm actually very fluent in US-based personal finance but no one has posted asking for help. I think there are a lot of communities that have a lot of subscribers and no activity - just waiting for someone that needs help.

I guess personal finance was a bad example; in the hour since I made my comment two people have replied about that but no one has really mentioned hobby style communities (the others i mentioned) which leads into the second main issue I see which is that Lemmy’s userbase is not a casual one.

Almost everyone one here can tell you what an API means, where as the vast majority of people who are doing Google searches with Reddit at the end probably can’t/don’t care about it. That’s leads to an over representation of the ‘smart communities’ like Linux, Technology and Personal Finance. Since there are many people migrating to Lemmy that are already interested in those topics, the expertise is a lot higher.

Meanwhile, I don’t think a lot of people who would frequent Reddit for cooking advice, home improvement questions mechanical questions and other topics like those made the switch so easily. And no matter how many times you post in this subs, it’s not going to bring people from Reddit who didn’t want to leave in the first place.

Plus, when it comes to people asking questions related to things they need to do in real life, they need an answer. I made a bunch of posts on some communities here about an issue in a new rental house and got no comments on it at all. I’m all for trying to get Lemmy bigger but I can’t do that at the expense of the things I need to do in my day to day life.

That's fair - obviously that will need time to grow but I'm not sure what we can do to foster it in the meantime. My personal guess is that getting users onto Lemmy through any means possible will help in all community directions. If Lemmy had 1 million users that were only here because of the technology community, you can count on a chunk of them being good at DIY or cooking also. The more humans that we have here, the more collective experience that we have as a whole.

I went from maybe 1 - 2 hours of reddit use per day for years to 0 the day 3rd party clients were turned off.

I don't feel fomo, but I only use lemmy maybe 15 - 30 minutes per day on average, and I am happy about that

I miss it. It makes me angry, and a little sad, and definitely lonely. I miss the community and the friends I had (which accounted for too much of my social interaction). But I still feel like it was the right move.

It is a toxic place in many ways, but there are communities there that are hard to replace. I ignored much of what was happening for far too long, and a lot of my pain now comes from a failure to deal with that reality when I should have done

Instead I moved with the masses, at least in theory. I hate that it was necessary, but I would do it again.

I've only gone back to reddit anonymously a few times for technical information or guides. I do miss it in some ways but I don't miss how toxic it could be.

Life's been nice here. It was uncomfortable losing all the stuff I'd subbed, the content was slim when I first switched... But I knew it would be.

You adjust, you find new things to enjoy around here even when you lose things that as yet have no replacement from Reddit.

But I'm serious about the need for privacy and escaping ads. I have no regrets.

Honestly, I haven't missed it. I'm no longer doom-scrolling an eternal screen of karma-farming bullshit.

I took part in the blackout protest and tried Lemmy at the same time. When Reddit proved they didn't give a shit, I went back long enough to scrub my post and comment history, before deleting my ~15yo account entirely. Sure, they could probably recover the data, but why would they?

I use Pihole for DNS and a private searx-ng instance for web search, so I just block all Reddit domains in DNS and search results, and it's genuinely like it doesn't exist for me any more.

Also, the pace on Lemmy is much nicer, IMHO. I find a lot of days I only look at Lemmy a couple of times, and very quickly move on if there's no posts of interest to me.

For me it was great. I've been trying to leave that shithole for years; Lemmy got enough content quantity and diversity to keep me entertained.

I do miss a few niche subs; mostly r/conlangs, game-specific subs, and a few subs for anime/manga/LN series. But I don't really feel missing out.

I also miss behaving like a shit-flinging monkey and chimping out. I don't do this here in Lemmy, but I did it all the time in Reddit. I guess that I contributed to what you call "hateful people"? Perhaps not, you don't look like the sort of user that I'd chew on.

The issue I have with Reddit - it’s full of hateful people and most content is just bots karma farming.

My issue with Reddit is also the userbase. But it's on another level: the local culture of Reddit encourages braindeadness, disingenuousness, entitlement, and circlejerking.

the local culture of Reddit encourages braindeadness, disingenuousness, entitlement, and circlejerking

I feel like I see more of that here, at least because there are no active replacements yet for the niche subreddits I used to participate in which were actually moderated to remove low-effort comments. I would never have posted in /r/politics if I wanted to discuss a controversial topic, but here I feel like that's the only option.

That's a good counterpoint - in Reddit, large subs often work as containment cages for the morons; Lemmy is simply not large enough to have this distinction yet. And perhaps the topic also has some influence, I feel like people in Lemmy are emotionally more strongly attached to their political views than in Reddit, this is not bad per se but people often get irrational when they're emotionally attached to a subject.

Yeah, Reddit users will call you a transphobic slur and move on. Lemmy users will harass you for months for being trans. cough hexbear

issues

i find paragraph comments with a tone that sounds like garbage

often found in arguments

they agree with people who don't care about things that don't affect them

reasonable comments are downvoted when they're unpopular

not caring about things that don’t affect you is more acceptable there

This, too. So much this.

In Reddit you're either "waaah you evil!!11one" or you have strong opinions about every fucking thing. And what a coincidence - those strong opinions happen to coincide with the ones of most other subreddit users! It also pisses me off.

Aside from legaladvice and MilitaryStories, I don’t think there’s anything I really miss about it.

I totally quit reddit and I miss it. I miss it so much, in fact, that I tried to go on there like nothing ever happened- but it sucks so bad that I still missed Reddit, even when I was literally using it. It's just terrible now. Lemmy is mad decent, and I really like how it isn't run for profit. Still a little janky in some regards, and it's definitely skewed toward certain demographics, but it's definitely my favorite social platform.

I don't have FOMO, I feel that there is enough for me to read here and I also use other platforms like https://news.ycombinator.com/ and Mastodon to get info about things which are not that popular here.

It's there a frontend or app or something for that site? The web interface is so dated.

I miss some of the niche communities but I'm less addicted to social media these days so it seems like a step in the right direction

TBH it feels like I'm in high school now and going to Reddit is like visiting the middle school.

I was lurking for a comment like this. You've described my feeling exactly. Lemmy feels a bit more mature. I went cold turkey for reddit and I'm not going back. Btw, I use Connect app and really live it. I don't seem to have some of the technical issues that I see others talk about with Lemmy

The issue I have with Reddit - it’s full of hateful people

I left two or three years before the big wave, for precisely this reason. It really is a toxic culture – it seeps into your brain that you cannot say something mildly wrong or controversial without the mob snowballing your comment to death.
No one affords others any goodwill, because not doing so makes their own number go up.

I was on Mastodon for quite a while, because Lemmy wasn't a thing yet. And over there, you can only make people's numbers go up and the culture reflects that.
I do feel like the Lemmy model works better for unearthing content (Mastodon is more about people), but I can't help but feel like there ought to be a path in the middle.

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Id been there 16 years, fuck em. Cold turkey and haven't been back. Making new habits is hard, take the help you get is my advice and make a better habit. I've been programming more and uh uh refining my porn consumption lol

18 year reddit veteran.

I haven’t contributed or actively browsed Reddit since moving to Lemmy. Three visits from a google search for a specific problem.

I don’t get FOMO - too long in the tooth for that, but I do miss the center ground politically on Lemmy, which despite my best attempt of locating I haven’t found here. I sometimes feel like I’m the only one to frown at both nazis and tankies here.

The FOMO feeling subsides quickly when I pop back over there. It's all children and bots now.

No FOMO, haven’t really missed anything personally. The way I used reddit transferred perfectly to lemmy

I wouldn't call it FOMO, but I am sad about not seeing a lot of smaller niche communities that haven't made the switch. Maybe eventually stuff like USB C hardware will be popular enough to have the same community.

Cold turkey is the only way, for your mental health and the quicker demise of the cesspit that is reddit.

I don't have FOMO for reddit. I am held hostage by r/HonzukiNoGekokujou but I try to build bookwormstory.social and make a nice place for them.

Oh neat. I watched the anime version a while ago, but I didn't read the original. If I ever get back into the series I'll check your community out.

Ah hello there. At least the discord is nice enough to compile memes that I may be missing

I'm similar, it's just r/warthunder that keeps me stuck.

There's a couple lemmy comms for it but they have basically no userbase.

Every time it shows up in search results, I’m reminded by their terrible UI that I made the right choice

I only go back for the porn and if I need IT based answers. It's unmatched sadly

Yep. But I refuse to use their damn app. And they deliberately make the interface on the mobile site cumbersome. It's tons of fun.

I just google and go to the web page with adblock

old.reddit is difficult to use on a mobile browser, but it's still the only way I browse it on my phone. It pushed me to basically only browse Reddit on my laptop, so that helped to break my Reddit addiction.

Leaving Reddit gave me the opposite of FOMO. I'm glad to not be fed as much algorithm-tailored BS as before. I still use YouTube, but most of my YouTube viewing is at least related to my other hobbies.

I stopped using reddit regularly when sync for reddit went down. I was curious and checked to see if sync came back, maybe the API war subsided, but instead I saw sync for lemmy.

So this is day 2. Haven't figured everything out yet.

Seems like you use /c for "community" (?) Instead of r for subreddit.

I do miss the discussions... Lemmy is great but it's not what Reddit was.

The discussions were what really made Reddit, to me. I could see an article or piece of information anywhere, but Reddit often had decent commentary that helped add context and perspective.

Wasn't perfect, of course, but in general it felt like it really added to the experience.

If something is worth sharing there, it will come here or somewhere else where you can see it eventually. The only thing you are really missing, is some content from a creator you like. But usually they have their own platforms where you can find them.

It's been bad for me.

All those hate filled posts everyone talks about? I never saw those on Reddit, because I had a couple dozen technical subs (r/emacs, r/PLC, etc.) that I'd browse and rarely if ever strayed from those. Reddit was big enough that the specialized subreddits generated enough content for my use case.

Some of those communities exist here, but they're practically empty. So I wind up doom scrolling on All, which is full of tankie garbage and political propaganda.

I dunno, while I like the idea of Lemmy, I don't think it's likely to ever get the traffic you need for my kind of use. I probably just need to diversify my phone use and visit other sites.

You should fill your subscriptions with instances that aren't lemmy.ml, or browse another instance in its entirety... however that works.

That might help with the tankies, but it won't fill in for the specialized subreddits I used to visit. There just aren't enough people on Lemmy.

I'm old enough to have seen fads, social movements, come and go, technology changing constantly. I've learned one must adapt, things always change, and one should be careful about what one gets used to, what one depends on. Sometimes you have a good thing, then it dissappears. What matters is how you respond. I've learned to prepare for emergencies, what would I do if this is suddenly taken away?

Reddit was where I realized the online world has changed a lot the past 2 or so decades. Back in the day, we'd actively curate, use rss feeds, find a bunch of sites we liked, and create our own customized feeds.

But by the time of reddit, we were no longer doing that work for ourselves. I started to notice a pronounced echo chamber effect, less variety, seeing same stuff over and over.

I've been using Lemmy exclusively for social media for a few months after being hooked on Reddit for a decade. Lemmy feels much more higher quality - there's real conversation happening here. It reminds me of how great the Internet was in the early 00s.

I only use Reddit for work resources when troubleshooting an issue. It's certainly handy for that, and I think the world would lose a lot of knowledge if Reddit shuts down.

I made an account this week.. first time since June 3rd. I used it for 5 mins. Saw ads in the comments I was typing a response to. Deleted the account. The few niche communities I want are just not worth it. Reddit is dead. That was the final test. It shall diminish and go into the west.

I feel more out of touch with current events that aren't related to US politics and I have fewer memes to send in the group chat, but no FOMO. Combined with quitting Twitter, it's been good for focusing more on myself. I think I watch YouTube more than I used to now though.

I have completely stopped using reddit as a social media and deleted all of my content; I only use it for if I have to research something, and I make sure that they get no money because of my visit.

I haven't signed into Reddit since the Apollo debacle. No, I don't miss it at all. Lemmy is maturing. It's only going to get better from here. Spez is going to do something else and we're going to get even more migrations.

I fully quit Reddit in June when Sync couldn't access Reddit anymore. I sometimes miss aspects of it. I'm trying to do things in the real world more. I'm on Lemmy a few times a week. For a while I was on Lemmy every day, but the content didn't keep up with my consumption. I do like the content better, but there's less of it. I'm trying to replace these things with better habits. I spend time online looking for local events and looking up tutorials on YouTube (NewPipe). I'm actually trying to do those events and follow those tutorials. The less content I take in, the better I feel. Trying to develop real world ambitions. It's a little tricky.

i left reddit mainly because of chasers being creeps at me and also because of how right wing the site was, and ngl, i havent really missed it that much - like, i'll miss some of the smaller communities and band subreddits and stuff but otherwise i dont really mind not using it anymore

I dunno, Reddit was pretty overtly hostile to righties. The bot-riddled rightoid echo chambers were relatively small, but loud. Aside from “I want to murder this specific person with a thousand lifetimes of wealth” being removed as a threat of violence, and the awful admins, I can’t actually think of any rightwing trends. Sorry people were gross, though. That’s undeniably visible.

Fully left Reddit. I don’t miss it at all. I do find it a little annoying when someone links me to a Reddit post just because of how terrible the site looks or how they want you to sign in.

I don't miss that site. There's plenty of other online content. And the bots and trolls were meh.

Reddit kill my favorite subreddits with their api changes, the minimun I could do is leave reddit, if they care more about their profit than the people that make reddit what it is, i fully refuse to use it anymore

I'm a man of convictions. Im not connected to the internet.

I started to ween myself off when they announced they were killing third party apps since I was never going to use that trash app. As the weeks went on and they showed they would rather prioritize their interests over the community I realized things would never change and the idea of what reddit was in my head didn't match reality so I made a few Lemmy accounts.

There are a few niche subreddits that didn't come over or I just haven't found them, honestly I've not really looked. It took a bit to acclimate to Lemmy and how things federate and there were a few syncing issues that were fixed pretty quickly as the exodus happened which is really nice. The admins on all the instances seem to have their own biases in how they run their community and those seem to fall in line with the rest of their communities so it doesn't seem like a big deal as most recognize their differences and try and work together anyway. I think that even though some may disagree or outright hate each other they want the concept of the fediverse to work so they put in the effort which is all anyone can ask of each other.

As for how I'm doing and the fear of missing out, it's honestly not much different other than a few niche communities that are available off of reddit anyway so I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. The only thing we don't have is a fediverse mascot afaik.

The only thing I really miss are the Sports subreddits. I didn't realize how much news I got from them. People are trying to recreate them here, but there simply aren't as many people here.

Oh, I also miss the guy who posts pictures of his cows.

I agree. The only thing I got back to Reddit for is to read the team based subreddits after games. It seems that there are actually less people on the Lemmy sport’s communities than a couple months ago.

There's so much sports bot spam. How is that not enough for you?

I am looking for the humans, not many are here yet.

Reddit may be bots talking to bots, but a lot of Lemmy is bots shouting to no one in particular.

I fully left Reddit. I don't miss Reddit at all.

Before that I fully left Digg, before that MySpace, before that Geocities.

I do still miss Geocities and MySpace.

Digg was the peak of the internet as far as I'm concerned, its gone downhill ever since

I haven't deleted my account yet but I very rarely visit Reddit anymore.

There are a couple things about Reddit I miss that Lemmy lacks at this point, such as r/askhistorians or r/whatisthisthing which could be useful. I don't think Lemmy/kbin/the fediverse are widely adopted for me to get a reasonable answer to a question like "what is the oldest practical warning sign known to exist?"

Discussion boards of things like Battletech or Satisfactory or other slightly niche interests exist here, but are pretty much inactive.

I've stopped using Reddit unless it comes up in a search for something I am looking for. At that point, I just read that one post and replies to find what I am looking for.

We often forget that sites like Reddit and Facebook could completely be shut down if people stopped using them. The people provide the content for those sites. Those sites need us, but we don't need them!

Getting my ass banned from multiple communities will fulfill that role eventually lol. Even got banned from GCJ for going against the jerk - probably made a mod mad shrug-outta-hecks I use reddit bc it’s a lot more active than here, and it’s great for wasting time at work. Wish I had something worthwile to post here though, because I’d love for this place to have more traffic.

ones that fully left reddit

Ones who fully left reddit, you mean. We are people, not things.

When I was on Reddit I consumed it fast and often. The bus, the car, the patio, the loo; everywhere.

Now I launch Lemmy and say to myself "oh, right. Less stuff"

I think I need to normalize not checking Lemmy like it's reddit, still. There's definitely some behaviour to unlearn.

Less stuff actually made me check it less, which is healthier. But I also don't feel like there's much more enjoyment, probably because I used smaller specific subs more often. I also waste some of that earned time on Youtube, so overall, I have a bit less wasted time and that's it.

I left and I’m fine with it.

Every now and then I open the app and my stomach turns at how horrible it is. If I’m at my desk I might go to one of the smaller video subreddits and spend 5 minutes catching up.

I like Lemmy. It’s enough to keep me distracted, and if I make a comment 9 times out of 10 I’ll get an actual conversation with someone.

I sold my account and blocked Reddit at the DNS level. I set up a bunch of feeds in Inoreader to stay on top of topics I care about like local news, gaming, tech, etc.

The only downside has been while playing BG3 and Googling things, Reddit results usually come up first and look the most spot on. Other links are either AI generated garbage or articles that are ten paragraphs when two sentences could have been done.

Its been weird, I feel like I'm kind of missing something, same kind of FOMO, but when I actually go back to it I see I'm not missing anything at all. Lemmy is pretty neat, but haven't fully gotten the hang of it yet. Just discovered how to sub another instance today, so progress is being made.

I've been back to reddit probably 20 times in the past 3 months, and every time I'm waiting for the dopamine hit, and it never kicks in. Its just flat now, the content just isn't that interesting. Its all pretty cringy, and I'm pretty much over it, just going there out of habit, chasing the content dragon that no longer exists.

Facebook is useless, Xitter is dead, reddit lost its way. I'm enjoying Lemmy so far, but it seems to be missing the viral content, ultra red-hot breaking news that reddit used to have.

it's been crazy TBH. i've tried like 6? different new things since then. i don't miss reddit. i've checked it maybe twice since i quit and i don't have any desire to have an account to interact with people there. personally i would prefer something smaller scale, maybe a few thousand users, but there are growing pains for sure.

I quit cold turkey when the blackout started. The great thing about FOMO is that it's all completely unwarranted. Take the leap and let go.

I think for memes and news I’m pretty much set with lemmy. For a lot of more niche topics like specific gaming communities, I do kind of feel left out. For now though I’m willing to bite the bullet. I stand by why I left Reddit. It’s nothing special technologically to warrant putting up with the shitty business practices. Eventually people will migrate elsewhere once the squeeze is tight enough, whether it’s to lemmy or not. For one of the games I play there’s already more activity on their forum than the subreddit for it. Not so much for others.

No FOMO, but I do miss how had more--and more varied--content. Also, the memes were better.

I still use reddit when I need to ask some obscure question about some topic that isn't well represented on Lemmy yet. I don't browse or lurk anymore though. (Kind of like how some people just use Facebook for communication and not for the newsfeed.)

Check out beehaw if you're worried about missing news. That lemmy instance has way less shitposting and seems to have healthy discussion.

Between the mixed feeds on Lemmy.world, lemmy.ml, and beehaw I haven't missed any big things that I'm aware of. I have other friends on discord and irl and if they talk about a big news story it's never something I missed.

I only use Reddit for two things these days. Practicing my technical writing skills by offering answers to ELI5 posts, and silently doomscrolling though US politics.

Both of these are theoretically on Lemmy somewhere, but this place really doesn't move fast enough to be fulfilling.

That said, I only access Reddit on desktop PC in old.reddit mode. The third party appocalypse did not make me leave completely, but it did kill off all of my time using it on mobile, at least. The day they take old.reddit from me and force me to use that miserable card view, though, I'm checking out for good.

When that inevitable day arrives, I will not have FOMO over it. Anything positive I'd hypothetically be missing out on would be canceled out by the abysmal way in which they expect me to consume it. I will miss what it was, though. Lemmy just isn't a substitute for it. The Lemmy experience right now is the Miracle Whip to Reddit's mayo.

I only check in on my cities subreddit for local news otherwise I've totally dropped it. I miss the community and the depth of content on what reddit used to be but Lemmy is growing fast and has kept many of the same internet jokes so I'm content

I have not missed anything. I hard blocked it dns level before the api restrict and haven't looked back. The only thing I really lost is the tales from reddits,I get everything else I needed via lemmy and I'm overall happy.

I was a user for 13 years or so, lurker a few years prior, and a moderator of sizable sub. Leaving reddit was the best decision I've made for my mental health in years. I only wind up there now when I need to get a useful google result. So 20-30s probably 5-6 times a week.

I've been using a Libreddit instance to look up stuff on reddit (no login, no interaction, no ads, it's shared so even my browsing history is being obfuscated with other users)

The downside is that these instances are severely rate limited, so sometimes I have to wait a bit if it's busy.

There are still things I use reddit for, but only because Google sucks so much now. Like if I'm looking for the best something to buy, I'll add "reddit" at the end so I don't get pages and pages of ads.

Otherwise, all my previously reddit-based entertainment comes from Lemmy, especially since all the activists seemed to have gone back. Lemmy is now fun again!

I miss it, I found more fun stuff, especially comment sections, but I would say my lemmy feed has more quality.

But I tried reading books instead of endless doom scrolling

I left prior to the blackouts (right when kbin was getting off the ground) and haven't looked back.

Back a couple years ago when Reddit was giving out those "year in review" cards you could post images of in response to Spotify doing it (I think Spotify's was something like what songs you listened to most or what genre or something, so they did ones with what subreddits you frequented most, where most of your upvotes came from, etc) I was awarded as someone in the top 3% of active users/contributors to the site - so I assume that means I didn't more time there than the average person (though I know that probably includes all the throwaway accounts and people that made accounts and never came back), so the loss of my contributions have probably taken a toll on the communities I've frequented.

And I certainly miss the niche communities that I loved that haven't made their way here, but I'm finding new things to fill the void. This place has things that are different - it doesn't have to be exactly the same. And kbin/Lemmy is certainly coming up with it's own "had to be there" inside jokes that are making this the place to be.

I still Google reddit threads for stuff I know will exist there already. DIY, software, niche things. It can't be helped because it's easily accessible. While I appreciate Lemmy very much, the historical repository that is reddit still trumps many other places. For now.

I don't visit for any other reason.

I haven't missed a thing. I don't even get most of my news from Lemmy or Reddit communities; I get it from RSS feeds or books. I lurked /r/linux for a long time after I stopped actively contributing. It wasn't until a few months ago that I started contributing to Lemmy, the first collection of online communities I've been a part of in years. I'm of two minds about it.

I'm actually grateful for it because I started complaining about things that have bothered me for a long time, and The Great Lemmy Migration made me realize, well, there's no reason I can't do something about that. It helped me change my attitude. So, in a very real way, I've contributed to several upstream projects because Lemmy made me rethink things and I am now less annoyed. It's weird how Lemmy feels like an actual community in the way no other social site (including Reddit) has.

On the flip side, I think I spend too much time on Lemmy...but this week has been uniquely rough.

I left reddit completely when they started taking over subreddits if the mods refused to stop their protest. I think subreddits are created by the mods, maintained by the mods, and simply hosted by reddit. In a moral sense (but not in a legal sense) the subreddits belong to the mods and I couldn't support reddit's new policy by participating in it.

Lemmy is way worse than reddit, simply because it's so small. I used to participate primarily in subreddits for obscure video games, blogs I liked, and other niche interests. None of that is here yet. Even my guilty pleasure, AITA, isn't here yet. But the only way to change that is by participating here myself, and in the meanwhile I spend a lot less time just browsing random stuff which is a win for my productivity.

I check Reddit maybe twice a week, but only a couple of specific niche subs( like many others have said). For me it's /r/fragrance that I've had a hard time finding a good replacement for... Perhaps I should just frequent Basenotes.com more?

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I got banned. But between Lemmy and mastodon I haven't gone back there.

I'll preface this by saying that yes, I am an idiot.

I don't really miss anything about Reddit that I'm not getting here on Lemmy except for the constant attempts to convince me that I'm not actually an idiot for investing WAY to much money into GameStop. I used to browse Superstonk a fuck ton every single day in some vane attempt to convince myself I didn't seriously throw thousands of dollars of the only money I had, straight down the drain. So after almost 3 years of that constantly, I became addicted to it to some degree convincing myself that big money was always just around the corner and the dire straits I put myself into were going to be worth it in the long run; and at first I did feel like I was missing out on information.

I'm no longer concerned with seeing that info and with that, I'm completely released from the Reddit hold.

I do check one niche subreddit for a TV show about once every week when a new episode drops, but I hadn't used reddit at all until this season came out. I will go right back to not using it pretty soon here. I used to read reddit during the majority of my down time, but the attitude Spez had was so awful that I have no desire to return to regular use. I spend a lot of my time on discord, some on Firefish, and a little bit on Lemmy. I do more things offline now. I thought it would be difficult to replace reddit, but it hasn't been.

On the ocassion I feel like I found everything I had (Top 6h) I will go over to the dark side.
But it's more defeating boredom rather than fomo.

Is there something important on social networks that I should fear missing out?

Because it's fun and all that, I never saw anything important.

I am doing just fine without Reddit. If every social media site disappeared tomorrow (including Lemmy sites), I would go on living feeling just fine. Because I was alive before the internet growth in the 90s, before cell phones, during a time when pay phones and rotary phones existed, and got along quite well.

We don’t need these stupid sites. No offense intended here, but if a person is so addicted to a website, especially a social media site, that they feel FOMO after leaving it, they need to reevaluate their priorities in life.

And note: I created my Reddit account in May, 2008. I eagerly deleted my 15-year account in July, 2023 and have never looked back. And for all the bullshit he did to Christian Selig and others, fuck Spez, in perpetuity.

Hell, I miss LiveJournal more than I miss reddit. /old

In many ways I was addicted to Reddit. I spent a lot of time on there. I needed an excuse to go cold turkey. I will go occasionally for specific information, but I've completely moved my idle doomscrolling to lemmy instances. There's less content so it takes less time, which is good in a way.

Lemmy is basically a full replacement. The only time I find myself going back is if I'm looking for information on a niche or obscure topic and reddit seems to have a lot of those communities while Lemmy doesn't (yet).

I also get Google search results from Reddit too, but the mass scrubbing of data has turned any thread older than a year or so into a mass grave of deleted comments and sometimes context is missing which is sad but I also hope that people will learn from this and Google will start actually getting their search engine algorithms out of social media for that reason.

Here folks and interactions are better. Content is quite lacking. I have a few niche interests that are nowhere to be seen around here. I have not gone back to Reddit and I think my life overall is better for it. My 2 cents.

FOMO is a weird term to use here because it implies some anxiety that I could be seeing more stuff than I am.

I get bored sometimes. There isn't enough content here to keep me super engaged, and interesting niche subs about certain small games and whatnot are missed. I end up swapping back and forth between my front page here and my youtube recs, willing something interesting to appear.

But I'm not feeling the slightest anxiety that I'm missing some stranger's idea of wit on a site I don't go to. There's way too much internet for me to ever think I was seeing it all in the first place, so I'm more than fine with missing the latest lyric or pun comment chain or the hottest new AITA fiction.

I've gone back there from time to time because there's not the specialised subs here yet, or those that are don't have the traffic.

What I've found on the main dubs I used to frequent is that they are full of reactionary comments that have no grasp of history, context or empathy.

The specialised subs, maybe were like this and I was just more tolerant to it, are full of low effort "please look at me doing absolutely fuck all in any way of producing meaningful content" posts.

There's far too many to actually get to the content with effort so the signal to noise ratio is too low to fight off my general contempt of the place.

I'm thinking of leaving lemmy, too.

Information is worthless without context, but that's all that content aggregators seem to like.

Community is worthless without connection, anonymous text isn't much to connect over.

All Reddit had going for it was a wealth of diverse experiences for people to draw from. For Lemmy, this is at best a side dish, a sprinkle of gold over a pile of shit.

Please don't leave. Lemmy wants you =)

the target sub is basically the only one I miss, just a bunch of other target employees commiserating about working at target

I go back occasionally to niche communities that haven't moved off yet but since I deleted my account, I can't interact and don't feel the need to stay long, and since I don't/won't use the mobile app my usage is even further reduced.

I nuked my accounts and I'm fully content with that. There's no fomo, I haven't even bothered to peek at how my old subs are doing.

I still use site:reddit.com when making searches, but that's a different thing.

The things I miss from Reddit are mostly very niche. I left and haven't been back mostly because I refuse to use their BS app, and I refuse to see ads. I was a mobile Reddit user so I didn't use it on the computer much.

I do miss doing gaming giveaways of extra stuff for like animal crossing and so on. And I miss helping newbies with games (mostly retro gaming stuff). Other than that Reddit was a time sink for me and I have other places to use my time.

I don't get FOMO. I mostly miss interacting with other people. Talking about opinions. Finding people who agree with me about niche stuff. People don't seem to interact as much here and I don't think that's because of the lack of content.

But I don't see the point of going back to Reddit. The experience of trawling through the muck to get to a few grains of what I want just doesn't appeal to me. All reports I've seen suggest that it's just getting worse and I was struggling with the experience before the API debacle.

Yeah i'm totally going to get fomo for "LOOK at this IMMIGRANT STEALING from a STORE" Top comment "I hope they cut his hands off"

I'll be honest, I felt the fomo once. Went back, realized that I'm not missing anything, came right back.

I stopped using Reddit regularly after the APIcalypse, even though I had never used any Reddit apps (I only used it on a web browser on a desktop). I still have an account that's active there where I've only been using it to help and encourage people to move from Reddit to Lemmy and from Xitter to Mastodon.

I thought it was going to be harder than it actually was to abandon the many niche subreddits I was subscribed to there, but I just found other things to read. I will still occasionally visit Reddit, especially when it turns up on a search result with info I'm looking for, but to use it like that I don't have to even have an account.

I plan to eventually delete or scramble all my posting history from there on all my accounts, but just haven't had time to do it yet. I also haven't found a way to do what I really want, which is to replace my comments with different random text for each message, to mess as much as possible with any LLMs. In no way will I contribute any more of my comments to Reddit, except for what I said in the beginning, to help people move here, and even that I will probably delete/scramble.

Life is better. A few days after I stopped the urges to scroll like I did went away. Best thing I did on the internet besides scrub my Facebook.

Initially it was kinda barren but over time as more people switched there was more content. First it was just reddit reposts galore, but now i think it’s much less. Probably due to vote meaning even less here. I don’t miss it at all at this point.

No FOMO. I miss some topics/communities that are either not present or not active there. The general/bigger communities are here but the more specific are not, and I liked those the most. I sometimes look there, but don't linger.

The only time I remember reddit is when I find the answer to what I'm looking for in Google there.

The only community there I miss even a little is the metalcore community. Even then, having stepped back a little I can see the post quality is not always that great. The same news/social content is regurgitated on Imgur.

I had fully left Reddit ever since the API changes but checked in very very rarely every now and then whenever I googled something and Reddit results were the only results actually answering my questions. I don't really miss it, and I found that I do spend way less time scrolling mindlessly, so that helped.

What kind of killed me was my deleting my account. I had been starting up PowerDeleteSuite in the last couple of months to get rid of my comments and posts, but I didn't leave my PC running for long enough to delete everything whenever I actually remember to start it up. Now, I finally deleted everything and deleted my account too. I wasn't using the account at all, but it made really sad to see the account go for good this time. Similar feeling to when I deleted RIF off my phone.

It was a good run.

How are you defining fully? I haven't logged in since june, and don't browse it. But occasionally I know it will be the best place to get a very specific piece of information or it will turn up as the top result for some search I've done.

How has it been for you? Do you get FOMO feeling sometimes?

It's been great. FOMO? Nah. I don't really feel like I'm missing anything.

The issue I have with Reddit - it’s full of hateful people and most content is just bots karma farming.

For me, it was this, and the consequences of the API nonsense for my user experience, as well as for people who have disabilities. On Lemmy, I'm not forced to use a black-box algorithm to try to drive my engagement without regard for its impact on my health. Nor am I forced to view any communities when browsing All.

I find I am spending more time between Lemmy and Discord. Overall I don't miss reddit. Even before the 3rd party apps were killed, there were indications of issues.

No FOMO, I was able to switch my addiction over to Lemmy. But I really miss the CFS/ME and Long Covid subs. There are some communities here, but they have almost no traffic. I am still subbed through lemmit.online, but I usually can't be bothered to reply to something through reddit.

I bet others with niche subs have the same problem.

I started up a few magazines, to replace the subreddits, but don't have the time to really promote them. And I would like more on the fediverse side, so people can actually migrate away from corporate social media.

What CFS/ME and Longcovid magazines would you like to see grow?

These are my magazine projects:
@santafe
@photobiomodulation

I really, really miss one sub in particular, /r/AcademicBiblical

Other than that I haven't looked back at all. Lemmy's smaller size does mean there's a bit less expert commentary on a lot of topics, and I miss that, but not enough to put up with the dystopian crap spez is trying to establish.

There is some things I would have liked to keep up on, but Lemmy has a lot of the stuff I am interested in, and Discord covers some other bits. I use social media less which is good. I am more productive and sleep quicker.

The FOMO is the brain craving dopamine. The solution is getting used to less, not chasing more.

Make the internet work for you, not the internet working you.

Unfortunately I'm still forced to go back now and then for specific gaming subreddits and such. And when I'm digging down a rabbit hole of software/hardware issues on my system. All in all though I probably go back once or twice a week though, so it's not that bad.

I check in way fewer in Lemmy and I'm done faster because I you get to the old posts pretty quickly. But I see this as a good thing.

I didn't leave immediately, but then my account got banned and having started using lemmy made me not bother making a new one. I may have to eventually venture back to reddit for the occasional niche community, but otherwise lemmy is just as good for getting my posting and scrolling done.

I'm a heavy poster and posting things I read to the appropriate subreddit has been a part of my internet process for a long time, so it was key to have a new place to keep doing that. Though that has resulted in there being several subs on here where I have made a large majority of the posts... but I tell myself it's more worthwhile to be posting things here where they'll be seen by fewer people but will contribute to this community existing rather than giving free content to reddit.