Trump-loving gays say their MAGA support is ruining their lives

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How is this an example of leopards eating faces?

In this case the backlash is from the gay community to a (stupid) member of the gay community, so saying it's a leopards-eating-faces party (lefp) member getting their face eaten would mean the gay community is the lefp right? I don't think that's what the lefp meme is about

This person supports policies that hurt themselves and their peers. Now their peers are angry with them for supporting things that hurt them. They are being hurt by the result of what they support.

Yeah, but in this case it's not the leopards eating their face (yet). They've voted for the leopards, people are angry at them for it, but so far the leopards have only eaten other peoples faces

Eh, then you could say voting progressive and getting attacked by your conservative community would count as leopards eating face, since you're getting hurt by the result of what you support.

The meme is about voting for the harm and being directly harmed by the policy voted for, like if someone voted to ban abortions and then couldn't get one when they needed it. Voting to ban abortions and then getting backlash from your friends is not leopards eating face (yet) either

That's not leopards eating faces though. That's a guy voting for the leopards-eating-faces party and getting his shit rocked by his fellow citizens for endangering them.

This guy is voting not only to have his own face eaten, but everyone else's within his community. I wouldn't want to acquaint myself with someone like that either.

I'm not saying the guy did a good thing. In this article he voted for the leopard party, but hasn't had his face eaten yet. He voted for the leopard party and everyone was fucking pissed at him for it

idk I thought the leopards eating faces party meme was mainly for examples of them both voting for leopards and getting their face eaten.

It's a little more nuanced than that. The typical face eating leopards voter doesn't have enough critical thinking to figure out they'll get eaten eventually. Everyone else around him knows they're gourmet leopard food and it's only a matter of time before they'd get eaten. I wouldn't wait to hold my judgment on the guy until after the inevitable happens because of his dumb-ass decision.

I see, so the meme is also used in cases where they voted for the leopards but haven't had their face eaten yet?

You're right, but people aren't listening to what your point is. Come on lemmy, you're better than this

No you and that commenter are literally wrong lmfao what do you even mean.

The meme derives humor from the fact that someone who voted for leopards was surprised when leopards hurt them.

The gays in the article supported bigots and was surprised when the bigots started to hurt them.

The article's ambiguous, but I read it as the LGBT community (rightfully) showering them with sand, not bigots doing it to be dicks.

That would fit with the rest of the article, which includes the fellow who got blacklisted from his local gay bar for being MAGA.

Hey hey now I'm just here to argue, not read articles

It's the dumbest possible thing to argue about, and the Internet is 86% people finding dumb things to argue about

I don’t take kindly to your tone! There are a thousand other ways you could have said this. Let’s fight about it!

Oh, yeah! Also, your mom is fat and you over feed your pets, I’m assuming.

Your lover made a minor faux pas? They're a sociopath and they never loved you.

I bite my thumb at thee

Ha, that's my favorite part of that play.

"Is the law of our side if I say aye?"

"No."

Just plain "no". Gets me every time.

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“When Trump won, my husband was so upset he wanted me out of our apartment. The rage was unexplainable — I mean honest rage. I could not understand this emotion in him and why anyone would let a political vote destroy or nearly destroy a marriage,” he said.

if you vote for someone who'd like to make your marriage illegal, it's gonna strain the marriage duuude

Reminds me of my sister-in-law's husband, who fell heavily into Brexit propaganda. Ranting about foreigners coming over, to his wife's face. She was from Iceland.

They're divorced now, oddly enough.

It's just the none white foreigners he was mad about, dude should have clarified his position...

It's just the none white foreigners he was mad about, dude should have clarified his position...

I dunno, Brexiters seemed to have a lot of trouble with the Polish.

Don't forget them "Romanian" Gypsies!

It's a crying shame really, because if they'd sat down and spoke to a Romanian, they'd find that hatred of gypsies is one of the few things they've got in common.

"White" has a very flexible definition depending on the racism du jour. In the US, plenty of Europeans, like Irish, Spanish, and Italian people weren't considered "white" for a long time.

But now we've got plenty of brown and black people to be even more racist against, so they get to be "white" these days.

Well of course. Race is a social construct, how we define races depends entirely on the society and its prejudices.

I dunno, Brexiters seemed to have a lot of trouble with the Polish.

there have been many examples and treatises of how the whiteness was/is non-uniform in the united states; is the same true in england?

Option 1: Use coded language that directly attacks your spouse.
Option 2: Openly admit to being a hardcore racist.

Sucks to suck.

I've had a lot of people pull the "It's just politics, why are you so mad?" card, especially after Trump won. Just shows this is all a game to them, that they do not give a shit about the consequences of their actions.

Most of the ones who did it to me were straight white people though, so they were insulated by their privilege. It takes a whole other level of delusion to play that game when you're one of the minorities these assholes target.

Most of the ones who did it to me were straight white people though, so they were insulated by their privilege. It takes a whole other level of delusion to play that game when you’re one of the minorities these assholes target.

insulated by their privilege is the right phrase; i was fucked over multiple times by biden et al's banning of gays from marriage & federal service and student loans, but if you mention it now you get labeled as a tankie or russian/chinese shill; only the younger gays and the people who biden et al. hasn't fucked over get to enjoy this privilege while people in my situation have to forget or white knuckle it.

Agreed. A lot of those views seem to have genuinely softened as he aged (after all, he actively championed gay marriage during the Obama admin), but still, there is a lot of unsavory shit from his time as a senator, and it does take a lot of effort to reconcile that.

A lot of those views seem to have genuinely softened as he aged (after all, he actively championed gay marriage during the Obama admin)

he also actively campaigned on appeasing segregationists in his much more recent campaign until kamala had to embarrass him publicly in a debate; so no, those views haven't softened as evidenced by both biden's decades long track record and a painful recent schooling by kamala; among other examples from the recent past.

also, "unsavory" is putting it extremely mildly when people were put in prison; homes permanently broken; and livelihoods were destroyed by biden et al's actions.

Womp womp, thinking about all the women who divorced their husbands because they voted for a pussy grabber. Fuck around and find out.

Also politics displays values. I don’t want to date a republican for myriad reasons like valuing low taxes over strong social services or opposing environmental regulation. Caring for those struggling and for the environment are firm moral positions of mine and I would be angry to find my wife disagrees with those.

It takes two people to let a vote ruin a marriage. If you know your spouse has strong feelings about politics but it's just a game to you, then just maybe you shouldn't play the game in a way that will make your spouse hate you.

I mean, you've got to be stupid to be a MAGA head. But being gay and a MAGA head you need to be terminally dumb. Amazing that such people can breathe without intellectual assistance.

Dumb or horribly self-loathing. Unfortunately, there are plenty parts of America that help instill that feeling.

Yup, every Republican woman is deeply into self loathing. I can't tell you how many Republican woman I've heard say women can't be leaders or it takes a man to do what's right.

Just look at all the rightwingers that head anti-pedo movements that get busted for having CP or being actual groomers. (The list is LONG)

That's just another tactic of projection. Republican woman are just mad that they aren't men and need to justify their own subjugation by ensuring they get second place in the social hierarchy instead of questioning why there's a hierarchy in the first place. Thinking for yourself is difficult, so being told what to do is easy. Even if that means being told to hate yourself. Hell Christianity's first chronological story boils down to "women are the reason life sucks."

They just think he'll surely only go after Other people, that they'll be safe, part of the "In" group.

“When Trump won, my husband was so upset he wanted me out of our apartment. The rage was unexplainable — I mean honest rage. I could not understand this emotion in him and why anyone would let a political vote destroy or nearly destroy a marriage,” he said.

Could not understand why anyone would let a political vote destroy a marriage. A political vote for a party that wants to destroy that marriage might do it.

Also reminds me of the "the missing missing reasons" thing. Where one person is like "it's unexplainable. i have no idea why they're so upset" but when you probe a little, you learn that they did explain.

"I don't understand the emotion"

Exactly like my dad on this. It's really simple, he likes Trump's crudeness, cruelty, insulting, and offensive behavior, and getting a rise of people for supporting him or repeating his most blatantly vile statements. It's juvenile fun to play around with.

He knows he's eating shit to make other people smell his breath. Everything past that is a justification slapped together. Ultimately nothing matters to them past the sport politics sophmoric bullshit.

does something specifically because it hurts other people

"why don't they like me?"

Why are people like this

He believes that hierarchy is the correct way of the world. So he thinks it's his right and duty to keep people "in their place". That's why (in his mind) giving shit to people below him is ok.

Notice how these people never give shit to people "above them", even though trump and others treat them like shit. He accepts shit from people above him and doesn't understand why people below him don't accept it from him.

In D&D, this is termed "lawful evil".

That's actually a pretty interesting lens to use for analyzing these people's behavior

It's not a "lens". It's what conservativism is. This is the only commandment: protect the hierarchy and stay in your place.

Conservativism comes from monarchy, which comes from warlords. All the reasons and ideas are just layers on top, justifications for the hierarchy to exist.

This is an explanation of being a bully

Yeah pretty much. Trump isn't even the worst person I've seen a lot of GOP friends and family get enthralled with, he's up there with Rush Limbauh, Micheal Savage, Dr Laura, Anne Culter, these people have been openly white supremacist and racist fascists since the 90s or later. And they all come up with taking points that are often cruel, petty, childish insults. Conservatives eat it up. It's all great fun for them.

I wonder how many of our current problem boomers are a direct result of leaded gasoline.

Probably quite a bit. When a reduction in leaded gasoline directly correlated with a fall in violent crime, it was confirmation. We know how long lead lasts in the body, and all that lead in the atmosphere didn't just disappear. We know there is no safe amount of lead exposure.

How anyone can be a member of the LGBTQ community and vote Republican is beyond me. Makes no sense.

Imagine either hating paying taxes or hating brown people so much you'd vote for people who want to see you hanged.

I work with two lesbians who are Trumpers. No surprises, they hate all non-White people with a passion. The only thing that surprised me is that they're so racist they hate Chinese food.

I met one the other day. I was dumb founded until he told me he was a business owner in Colorado.

Republican policies being better for business is among the biggest lies Republicans have successfully told the public.

It's better for billionaire corporations, not small business owners.

But if it weren't or those damn blacks and taxes, their small town company would totally be an international corporation!

Idk much about that. He just suddenly clicked into a schema I had in my brain.

Propaganda, full stop.

My cousin is one of these. The reporting on Palestine and Democrat support pushed him even more to the right because of Israel...

I think some people have a flawed belief that one side is always correct. The Dem party is clearly handling isreal badly so to them the Republicans must be the good side.

See also tankies - American government did tons of shady shit so obviously Stalin must have been a saint.

My cousins are big Trumpers and their biggest reason for supporting him is his anti-immigrant stance. The kicker is that they're half-Thai with a mother who immigrated from Thailand. They happen to look Mexican and were bullied for that growing up, but that experience didn't exactly teach them empathy or anything.

It's perfectly possible having been born with characteristics that make one a "member" of a minority and still be a prejudiced asshole who discriminates against "others". In fact the prejudiced take is to expect that's any less likely for people from a specific minority to be prejudiced than other people.

That said, Trump and his ilk are targeting with their hate LGBT+, though mainly Transexuals and LGBT+ isn't really A community but several.

Considering that at least some year ago there were plenty of stories of Bisexual men being discriminated against by other LGBT+ people, it's not overly surprising the notion that some people who are Gay would thing that attacks on Transexuality are nothing to do with them personally and might even agree with it.

Unlike the reductio ad absurdum fantasy of liberal Identity Politics, people do come in all kinds no mater what group you tag them as being members of.

Yeah, having experienced discrimination doesn't make someone immune from discriminating themselves. There are dumbfuck bigoted arseholes all across the spectrum of humanity.

Punching down. It's often why bullies are bullies, they are someone's victim and the lesson they learn is to find someone weaker to make a victim.

If you tell someone they are less than and they believe it, they will start looking for someone less than themselves to treat the same way.

It's inferiority from the top down. Trump talks in terms of being the best, the greatest, etc to mask his true feelings. He feels he is less than. Maybe not consciously, but it's absolutely something that weighs on him.

having experienced discrimination doesn't make someone immune from discriminating themselves.

It just makes them someone who lacks introspection, empathy, and the ability to recognize face eating leopards.

Not the same. Of course there are dumbfuck bigoted assholes who fit somewhere in the queer spectrum. It’s the dumbfuck bigoted assholes that appear to be marginalizing themselves, supporting bigotry against themselves and everyone like them, that seems like the bigger inconsistency here.

For example bisexual men being discriminated against by people who are NOT bisexual is at least logically consistent

Gay people discriminating against Transexuals is also logically consistent (not Moral, but certainly logical for somebody whose thinking is "As long a I am alright").

For me a logical explanation for some people who are Gay aligning themselves with Trump and their crowd is them thinking that the prejudices of those people are against Transexuals, not Gays, and as they do not see themselves as being the same and they're not actually pro-Equality out of Principle but simply out of "what's in it for me", they're ok with discrimination against Transexuals.

That’s some serious tightrope walking

Oh, weird, because their MAGA support is ruining other people's lives as well but it doesn't seem to cross their mind.

That guy seems like you could explain irony to him 20 times in a row and he'd never get it.

I was at the end of school during the 2016 election and my closest friend in my Comp-Sci class who I'd known from 11 was in the far right pipeline; this person found Hillary absolute abhorrent, loved trump and was generally the 2016 Pepe style crypto-facist. We live in the UK too, so this is even less common than it probably was in the USA.

When school ended, I stopped speaking to this person, but a few years ago saw that she's come out as a trans woman. I'm happy for her and not really keen to reconnect at all, but oh boy am I nosy about the timeline of her political views. I wonder if she still holds them, was struggling with internalised issues or just had a huge realisation at some point.

I'm in an identical situation as you (also from the UK funnily enough), except I did keep in contact with her, albeit at arm's length at first. She's explained to me over the years that it was internalised hatred, made worse by her family's very outspoken views about anyone not straight and white.

When she finally had a chance to get away and start thinking things through herself, she began to accept herself and others. She's a lovely person to be around now, and pretty vocal in trying to help other people learn about and understand trans healthcare and mental support. But most importantly, she's happy.

I'd hope we were talking about the same person and it's a small world but I think people who are targeted by extreme right views is sadly just probably common.

Liberal tolerance is such a defacto default that people who would be hard done by a white christofascist America end up signing up for it because they assume it will include the same rights and freedoms they currently enjoy.

Also every trans Trumper believes they will be the token accepted trans person in the far-right. Same as some Jews cosied up to the Nazis to extract personal privilege at the expense of snitching on their own people only to end up at the exact same end-game anyways.

The far right has a way of infiltrating people's minds when they are already mentally weak. They lurk around certain communities and poach people out of them.

This is how reddit was staunchly pro Ron Paul in 2008. Myself included. I still contend that that experience was a training ground for future internet-based astroturfing.

They wind up the 20 year old virgins and turn them into incels, and from there and turn them into misogynists. As an example. Remember when /r/conspiracy was an interesting place full of lively theorizing about UFOs and Bigfoot?

They dip into the source of your emotion...whether that be depression or desire, and widen it into a giant chasm ready to take in all your hate as if that will fix everything in the world. They blame your x on y, and to fix y you gotta vote for R.

The funny thing is....this is the exact same story we are told after some idiot starts shooting up a mall. That they were targeted by extremists online. Same book, different protagonist.

Should we just admit that the rise of the far right is just a symptom of a long unaddressed mental health crisis in the US, and certain people exploiting that for their own gain, or is it too soon for that?

Should we just admit that the rise of the far right is just a symptom of a long unaddressed mental health crisis in the US, and certain people exploiting that for their own gain, or is it too soon for that?

100%. The sickness of the system comes from inequalities and gutted education. Thanks, Reagan!

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One of my buddies suffered from the same problem. He was left out and generally held at arms length until he was shown love, or at least understanding. He flipped almost overnight and realized how grave his mistakes were. He ended up becoming a teacher and hopes to help students before they made the same sort of mistakes he did when his teachers were shitty to him. Props to him for breaking the cycle.

He still regrets how far he pushed some people away, and the actions he took as a teen. But he is much happier now and we have mended our friendships with him.

For me it's actually hard to respect someone's political views if they haven't tried the rest.

Which is why "cancel culture" itself is maybe not very important, but the very idea that someone has said something wrong 10 years ago and must apologize or be ostracized is dubious, because it automatically means that the person expressing it either never doubted their own views or is a hypocrite who lies about their own path to what they are, or even worse, a conformist coward. Conformists are always the worst kind of fascists and supporting mechanisms which reward conformism is the worst thing one can do.

Every worthy intelligent person I know has been all over the place in the past. Pointing out inconsistencies not by "party line" and popularity, but inside their own logic may have limited use, but that's assuming the person judging understands that logic, and humans are complex.

FFS, Exupery's Citadel jumps all over the place inside itself. And I don't think Eco's views can be characterized more precisely than "generally left". And Tolkien - there are sometimes kindergarten-level articles triumphantly accusing him of being this or that, but again you can't.

anecdotally: t-female-presenting people tend to have conservative views; so there's a good chance your friends views haven't changed much.

Idk what trans women you have met but conservative views are extremely unpopular in the entirety of the transgender community. Being alt-right would get you entirely ostracized and barred from accessing most trans communities and spaces. Queer people are significantly less likely to be conservative than cisgender heterosexual people.

I also have no clue why you describe trans women that way. "t-female-presenting people". You can just call us trans women, or transfeminine people if you're including feminine non-binary people as well.

Idk what trans women you have met but conservative views are extremely unpopular in the entirety of the transgender community.

i've had the opposite experience from living 15 years in the san francisco bay area.

Queer people are significantly less likely to be conservative than cisgender heterosexual people.

lgbtqa+ as a whole yes; but less so from the "t" part

I also have no clue why you describe trans women that way. “t-female-presenting people”. You can just call us trans women, or transfeminine people if you’re including feminine non-binary people as well.

i was corrected several times in the past when i said trans women or trans girl from trans-female-presenting people.

Trans women or trans feminine people is fine. The other way you've been seemingly corrected towards is reminiscent of "TIM" and "TIF" which are two transphobic terms meant to invalidate trans people.

Your little "less so from the T part" belies something of your beliefs here. You also, again, have no clue what you're talking about. Living in a particular area does not instill in you broad understandings of the sociopolitical beliefs of some demographic. Just that the people you've met in that area have, in your perception, been more likely to hold those views.

Does not pan out in reality. I have a feeling I know how you're going to respond to this. I'd love to see you prove that inkling wrong.

i've also heard trans feminine before; but i was slapped for using trans women

You also, again, have no clue what you’re talking about. Living in a particular area does not instill in you broad understandings of the sociopolitical beliefs of some demographic.

Does not pan out in reality. I have a feeling I know how you’re going to respond to this. I’d love to see you prove that inkling wrong.

the pot calling the kettle black takes on new meaning when you take such an aggressive position against someone who is part of the same community and also when you do as i did and let your experience inform your opinion.

What are you on about 😭

I think this is more of a reflection of the circles you have been in, than the trans community at large. I have never seen a trans person wanting to be called "trans-female-presenting". That's some shit that conservatives say, a roundabout way of denying the identity.

That’s some shit that conservatives say, a roundabout way of denying the identity.

i said the something similar and i was repeatedly assured that it was right; the fragmentation of between generations that don't use social media and those who do seem clearly pronounced.

I think the generational thing here is whats getting people. I'm friends with an older trans woman, and she's reffered to herself as a shemale before, which'd be a big fuckin yikes if anyone but her used that term now, she's also religious and and leans right politically (but is starting to not because of how insane the right is getting)

edit: Changed Oof to Yikes

yeah, it's less "yikes" in spanish than it is in english.

It's interesting to me that your experience is so vastly different from mine given we live in the same area (SF bay area). Most trans people I know, including myself, fall on the far left, and at significantly higher rates than the cis people I know (Queer or not). I've also never heard the term "t-female-presenting" before, it is completely foreign to me. I mostly hear and use "trans women" or "transfeminine".

I wonder if there's another demographic factor, or you are in a unique community of trans people. The people in my circle are generally 20-35, nonreligious, working class, often living paycheck to paycheck, and are actively and primarily in community with other trans people, as a support structure. How would you describe your circle?

I wonder if there’s another demographic factor, or you are in a unique community of trans people. The people in my circle are generally 20-35, nonreligious, working class, often living paycheck to paycheck, and are actively and primarily in community with other trans people, as a support structure. How would you describe your circle?

i had a similar thought and now i think it's because i only hung out with latinos at the time since my ex was friends w them and he was mexican. english was no one's first language, except for i, nor were they born in the united states nor any other english speaking country so maybe there was some sort of cultural or language translation happening since reading trans-feminine-presenting sounds odd when i read it out loud.

Interesting! Most I know were either born in the US or have been in the US since they were kids, primarily communicate in english, and discovered their transness while here. You might be right with the cultural/language translation being a factor. But I've also seen "Transexual", "Transgénero", "mujer/hombre trans" used by Spanish speakers which tracks not that far from common English usage. I wonder if there's a different distinction being made or if it's intertwined with the particular individuals' conservative ideology in some way.

i suspect age is a big factor too; the youngest of the trans people i used to know would have been genx-er's and i'm assuming that the big majority were boomers since the eldest millenials would have been in their early to mid 20's at the time (circa 2006).

all of them were born and raised somewhere else and migrated to the united states as late teenagers or young adults; so i have little doubt their conservative upbringing for those with happy enough childhoods would have had a big impact.

I've since moved to a very left wing city and I've met a lot of trans women. Most have strong political views for sure, but those views are very far left wing too.

i moved away from new york in 2009 san francisco in 2019 and have lived in austin and chicago since then; this exchange is teaching me that chicago, austin and the lemmyverse trans communities are more alike then any of them are to new york or san francisco.

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good.

choices have consequences.

no one who endorses a psychotic dictator should ever be allowed to feel comfortable in life.

Psychosis refers to a mental state characterised by hallucinations and paranoid delusions. Are you saying Trump hears voices in his head he thinks are real?

a not inaccurate description of his behaviors.

especially the paranoid delusions.

his constant professing of what "people" "say" "to him", especially particularly absurd things that there is no evidence anyone has ever said to him, would also technically meet the definition of him hearing voices - IF he is not lying. Which, to be fair, he could be, because he lies about a lot of shit all the time.

Impossible to rule out. Looks like a duck, quacks like a duck, swims like a duck. I'm no ornithologist but heuristically speaking treating the proverbial duck-like phenomenon as though it is a duck coincides with a statistically high probability of ideal results.

I don't think Trump's delusions are paranoid. In fact, he's remarkably unbothered given the very real dangers he faces. If he suffers from delusions, I would say they're the opposite - confident delusions.

Apparently, Jews for Hitler are also having some trouble. They're commiserating with the black members of the KKK and the Association of Marxist-Leninist Landlords.

Leopard-loving people say their leopard face-eating support is ruining their lives

Being a complete moron ain't exclusive to straight people.

“I’m almost anti-gay,” Dorman told The Post. “It’s an embarrassment to see this kind of behavior… I’d really invite them to go to Iran or Gaza. See what that does for you. See how fast they throw you in prison or kill you.”

"And that's why I'm supporting a party that wants to do the same thing."

So you're super fucking racist? (Not you, the person quoted from the article.) Ok, got it. Just wait until they do away with all the people who don't look like you and then find out how that goes.

I had a friend who is gay and supported Mitt Romney back in the day. He campaigned against gays. Obama won and legalized same-sex marriage. She is now married to her wife. Reminds me of her

obama didn't legalize same sex marriage; the supreme court did

Granted, you're technically right. Support for it was certainly a large part of Obama's campaign though. It's unclear what the overall result would have been for Obergfell vs Hodges with an administration that would have been vitriolic to the ruling.

I believe marriage is between a man and a woman. I am not in favor of gay marriage.

-- barrack obama 2008 during his campaign.

Voted against DOMA and eventually repealed it. There were some weird semantics about naming nomenclature of calling it a marriage in the early 2000's. During the primaries he gave vague answers about some religions being opposed to it but did flip from earlier statements about same-sex marriages in his earlier career

Voted against DOMA and eventually repealed it.

doma was voted and enacted in 1996.

obama entered federal politics in 2008.

the supreme court invalidated doma in 2015.

doma was repealed in 2022

You're right and I'm misremembering how it happened. I really thought DOMA was later. I'm not sure the distinction between invalidating in verse repealing it. He may have seemed more pro-LGBTQ since others were more outwardly against it.

I’m not sure the distinction between invalidating in verse repealing it.

in practical terms:

  • the repeal had no impact and was done by a congressional act that gave anti-lgbtq bigots legal protections for their bigotry; it was little more than political theater to make democrats seem more progressive on an issue that they chose wrongly (and cover biden's ass) in 1996.
  • the invalidation meant that i could sponsor my life partner for citizenship, but he had already been deported years prior and he was (barely) young enough to know that he had enough time to rebuild his life with someone else and did so; while i was too old and autistic to make getting back on that horse a reality.

He may have seemed more pro-LGBTQ since others were more outwardly against it.

i suspect there's a blind spot when it comes to democratic voters and lgbt issues; it's assumed they're more gay friendly unless you're bitten by their anti-gay policies.

I knew a gay republican couple. They both cheated on each other constantly. They didn't do anything pro-gay or even remotely lgbt themed. They were actively ashamed of who they were. Both from affluent families, so that makes sense. One of them got me super drunk, and then took advantage of me while his partner was out of town. These are not good people.

Ah, the Hateful Gay Type. Met a few of them in my life, all Trump supporters too. Never made any damn sense to me. Like they are driven by being a bitter piece of shit.

I get the feeling they’re just normal hateful people who happen to be gay and are angry about it and committed to making it everyone’s problem

Gay people are just like all other people.

I think the implication is that "angry gay" is a distinct category with traits that aren't purely the result of being angry or being gay.

Also I think people get way too hung up on the idea that being "normal" is good, so not being normal must be bad. Since that probably can't be fixed, I think it's better to use the word "typical" instead of normal because it's not so loaded.

hehe. You're implying gay people aren't regular people.

I know two married men who are openly and claim to be happily gay, adopted 4 children, but are so pro-trump and all that crazy shit. Idk how they can be like that. As a gay woman, it's so confusing.

"I am one of the good gays. There is no way they are sending me to Daschau."

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Shocked pikachu

“I’m almost anti-gay,” Dorman told The Post. “It’s an embarrassment to see this kind of behavior… I’d really invite them to go to Iran or Gaza. See what that does for you. See how fast they throw you in prison or kill you.”

The internalized homophobia is strong with this one. It's honestly really sad. I mean, he's an ass. But it's still kind of sad.

The internalized homophobia is strong with this one.

And let’s not forgot the Islamophobia.

The person I really don't understand- I mean I know she's a horrible person, but I still don't understand it- is Caitlyn Jenner. She's supporting a party that openly wants to erase her.

It's Wealth.

If you have more money than most people, you convince yourself that you are different and more important than other people. The way you are treated validates that notion.

So politically, you'll vote for people who protect your wealth rather than people who will protect your identity, because your wealth already protects you better than any anti-discrimination law could.

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She is the typical Republican -"Oh, but I'm the exeption. Thats different."- type. She also speaks out publicly and loudly against trans women in women's sports and then turns around and plays a women's golf tournament.

I guess I can't fathom the level of cognitive dissonance it takes to vociferously get behind people who want you dead, but I guess these people existed too- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Association_of_German_National_Jews

I’m glad you guys always come packing this link. Folks should know about this.

level of cognitive dissonance

it's doublethink. there is no "dissonance." they literally believe two completely contradictory things simultaneously and have no problem with it

Yeah. Cognitive dissonance is "the mental disturbance people feel when their beliefs and actions are inconsistent and contradictory". If you're happy with holding contradictory beliefs, that's doublethink.

She has money. It's a total "rules for thee but not for me" situation

They’re going to find out, too late, that they’re not immune to bullets, windows, or poison and that their money can be seized by the ones who disappear them.

Yep. I'm absolutely terrified that I'll have to go into the closet again. I'm afraid my one homophobic and transphobic coworker would report me if being gay becomes straight up illegal. Only person I know personally who isn't cool with it.

It’s both better and worse than that. It’s extremely unlikely that being gay could become straight up illegal, but is it really any different if discrimination is ok, gay marriage and family benefits are outlawed, being gay is again a “security concern”, police harassment is ok, and people again become hostile?

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I would never suck a MAGA dick. Enjoy being lonely while your cult worships the orange fascist!

MAGA isn't a cult. Cults are small. MAGA is big enough to be a religion, which is far more dangerous.

Cult is just a word the big congregation uses about the small congregation

The new lexicon is "High demand group"

This encompasses cults, religions, MLMs, and all sorts of other groups that behave cult-like attributes

Well, no. When you're talking about the kind of massive institutional power of the kind that buys politicians and institutes theocratic dictatorships, that kind of power is exclusive to larger religions. You won't see that kind of thing from a cult. Now a cult may well have beliefs just as vile as a religion, and it may ruin lives, but it doesn't have the institutional power it takes to crush all opposition like you see from MAGA and Christianity.

The church of scientology.

Also not a cult.

You telling me that the "religion" that sued the Cult Awareness Network into oblivion so they wouldn't be labeled a cult is not a cult?

The Cult Awareness Network presented itself as a source of information about "cults"; by 1991 it was monitoring over 200 groups that it referred to as "mind-control cults". It also promoted a form of coercive intervention by self-styled "deprogrammers" who would, for a significant fee, forcibly detain or even abduct the cult member and subject them to a barrage of attacks on their beliefs, supposedly in order to counter the effects of the brainwashing. The practice, which could involve criminal actions such as kidnapping and false imprisonment, generated controversy, and Ted Patrick and others faced both civil and criminal proceedings.

Gee, I fucking wonder why they lost that lawsuit. Scientologists are evil, but so was the Cult Awareness Network. You're not going to convince anyone that those assholes were doing the right thing. You can't expect a bunch of kidnappers to have a good opinion about what is and isn't a cult. Scientology is a large scale religion, which makes it much worse than a cult. Now I don't want to hear you defending the Scientologists by calling them a cult again.

MEGA cult. Not to be confused with MAGA cult.

Look into it. But not too hard or too publicly.

Were you paying attention earlier in the thread when I said cults are small, or are you expecting me to investigate Scientology and find that surprise, they're actually very small and don't have many members?

I thought they were global and pretty large scale, but I haven't got any numbers for you and I wouldn't dream of comparing their size with major world religions.

My assertion, which I admit I didn't express, is that the distinction between cult and religion is less about size and more about how much members lose personal autonomy and how secretive the organisation is about its beliefs and practices.

That's the way I see it anyway, otherwise there's not a lot of point having two different words for it. There are grey areas, sure, but that doesn't mean that there is no distinction.

You're using a definition invented whole cloth by Christian pastors in the 70s with absolutely no basis in historical tradition, which was created solely with the intent of confusing people in order to push a political agenda.

Oh. Wikipedia says that the anti-cult movement in the 70s was secular? Did you mean the anti-cult movement of the 40s? I didn't know anything about that stuff till you brought it up, sorry.

I'm not particularly wedded to a particular definition of the word, but you seem to be using the modern and more critical meaning when you claim all religions are cults, whilst criticising me for not using the more neutral meaning of the word from antiquity, which I find confusing.

which I find confusing

Some people like to argue just for the sake of arguing.

I use the neutral meaning from antiquity, and I never said all religions are cults. You must have me confused with someone else

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Anti-theist here, religion in all it's forms is a blight on humanity, but let's not muddle the waters with misused vocabulary.

The difference between a cult and a religion is not the number of believers, it's how much they enforce groupthink, how hard it is to leave and if they are based around a charismatic leader who profits directly from the imposed sameness and thought control. Generally cults:

  • Rush you into joining and discourage or disallow questions.
  • Followers are encouraged to worship a specific group leader.
  • Leaders dictate in great detail all aspects of followers’ lives.
  • Followers are personally monitored to ensure they’re following guidelines.
  • Methods of control are used to keep members close.

That's how, for example the catholic church isn't a cult but scientology is. The sharp surveilance and strong measures in place to prevent deviancy make all the difference. It's easy to leave catholicism, but leaving scientology can even be dangerous.

That's a measure of the abusiveness of a religion and has nothing to do with its size. I already explained in depth in another comment the political motivations for creating a second, fake definition of the word cult. If you consult Merriam Webster you'll see the first definition of the word cult is "a religion regarded as unorthodox or spurious", and none of the definitions mention abuse, because your claim is ahistorical myth.

Cults are completely different from religion and size is not a defining factor. They're more similar to a con and will sometimes use religion to exert control.

Knitting Cult Lady is great! She has a video outlining 7 defining characteristics of cults but I can't find it.

That's a myth perpetuated by Christian mums during the satanic panic. Back in the 60s the hippie movement was in full swing and young people were abandoning Christianity to follow pagan religions like Wicca and Hellenism. Christian pastors felt threatened, so they came up with a conspiracy to take the word cult (which up until then had meant a small religion) and make it a bad word by association with abuse. That's why all the historical examples of cults that predate the 60s have no association with abuse. You take an example like the Cult of Dionysus and there's no pejorative meaning to the word.

I don't think it's a myth if it has become an area of study. Yes, words have different meanings like "theory" does in and out of academia, but the current understanding of the word is much more comprehensive than a small religion. And MAGA is most definitely a cult of personality that uses religion as a tool.

You can do science on any made up word and reach genuine conclusions with flawed premises. Look at phrenology and scientific racism. If you ignore the question "is this thing real?" and skip straight to "what are the associations with this thing", you'll find something. It'll be nonsense, but it'll be there.

For example, suppose I look at the habits of clowns and roofers. I don't question why clowns and roofers are associated, I just assume they are and check the data. The data I find will be the overlay of two different trends. I'll reach all sorts of conclusions about clowns that are only true of roofers, and vice versa. The data will say clowns love a good beer after being outdoors all day, and roofers visit party stores a lot. That's nonsense, but if I don't question the association, the data will show it.

Associating small religions with abusive religions is the same mistake. The data will tell you all sorts of things about small and abusive religions, but it won't tell you which trend belongs to which group, and people will make all sorts of wrong assumptions based on the wacky data.

Yep, science has churned out some whacky stuff before. But what? So you're saying that the study of non-religious or coincidentally religious cults as a means to exploit and control is pure made-up nonsense? That's kind of wild to me considering how characteristic and consistent their modus operandi is. MAGA fits the bill so well, for example, that I have a hard time believing they don't exist. And I'd like to hear some opinions from people in the know, like Daniella Mestyanek from the link above, who you're essentially saying her entire field of study is based on a lie.

You’re right. Even the moonies had big politicians kissing up to them once they got big enough and no one blinked, despite their leader openly claiming he was above Jesus Christ of Nazareth on the heavenly totem poll.

We’re dealing with a very strange religion.

Same thing. Cults are never small.

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They think it's ruining their lives now? Wait till after the election

Give it a few months after Trump wins and it will literally ruin their lives.

All that anti-gay legislation Trump signed last time? It’s gonna be double this time!

"I don't understand why other people at the synagogue treat me this way," says member of Jews for Hitler.

Damn, black gays for trump must be getting pounded then. Pun intended 🙂

the same gay people who would tell the cops stonewall is right up the street

Lol the cognitive dissonance levels here, insane.

I vote for criminalization of my friends and family. Why are they pissed at me?

I have no sympathy. I’ve dealt with a lot of difficulties being gay, and yes in some ways the fact that I get less real political options sucks, but the solution isn’t to decide that it’s ok with fascists when they’re gay.

Back in the day, if you were gay, ignorant people thought their lifestyle had bad influece on others. They were afraid of the consequences of having gay people living close to them. The gays were ostracized, persecuted, ridiculed, excluded from bars/communities/etc. I just post this comment as a reminder. Please be nice to others. You don't know where they come from. Try to be including, start dialogues, build bridges.

i was alive back in that day and having to vote for someone that actively ostracized, persecuted and ridiculed my life until he opportunistically switched sides very recently hurts my soul.

Did anyone read the article? Or am I not understanding the article correctly? Isnt the article saying their life is harder because they're being rejected by the LGBTQ community for supporting Trump? Or lol am I misunderstanding this comment section that seems to be mostly implying they're life is worse from the other MAGAs rejecting them?

Edit: I'm laughing at how bad I am reading the room not at anything the article or comments are saying.

The article says that the specific people they're featuring have been ostracized from the gay community. I wish the article was longer, because there's a remarkable lack of self-awareness on display in the few quotes it includes.

It's a terrible article and mostly click bait. My take away is they are being rejected by both sides. Big surprise.

I’d bet money that it isn’t their MAGA support that’s ruining their lives, but rather everyone else’s ostracizing them that’s doing it.

It's not that these people are necessarily dumb it's a kink like any other. They want to keep the thrill of getting off on doing something illegal and socially unacceptable (in the fascist society they support)

I can understand people disagreeing with them, but kicking sand and attacking people is literally the actions of fascist too. You don't win people over by attacking them.

You don't prevent your bar from becoming a nazi bar by asking nicely though.

So what's the plan then? You going to punch the other side in the face to win their votes and show them how anti-fascist you are?

Maybe if fascists got their faces punched in more often they'd understand that getting punched in the face sucks and that maybe they shouldn't advocate for punching people in the face in the first place.

Was Biden voting against same-sex marriages and gay people serving in the military a fascist once? Will Democrats call Biden a recovered fascist?

You once were a child, making poor decisions. Are you still that way? (waves at the rest of the crowd to hold their comments) No? Would you look at that then, it's like people are capable of growing and learning.

So, you fuck that bullshit narrative here and now, past and future actions don't mean shit. People change for better or worse, and you don't sit on your ass and point fingers because past or promises, but by current actions, things occurring here and now.

And right the fuck now there's only one realistic option for the LGBT+ community in the states, so I don't particularly give a damn what the fuck happened decades ago. If you're still stuck in the past, might want to reflect on that. The rest of us have bigger shit to worry about.

it’s like people are capable of growing and learning.

except biden didn't learn or grow; he has a long history of going with the status quo and the status quo currently says that gays are okay and if gays were not okay tomorrow with the status quo; biden would tow that line as well.

and i wish i had your privilege of ignoring the recent past; we've learned from it because it was so painful and we're still trying to recover.

If you're worried about LGBTQ+ community then you'd be advocating for Biden to step down.

hi, am part of said community. i'll gladly punch a fascist in the face for being fascist. it's like a cancer, essentially; you give it any room to breathe & it will take over the whole thing. just look at what happened to the skinhead movement. but, yeah, they want us dead or in camps anyway & civil discussion obviously doesn't work when fascist philosophy only works if everyone involved is actively playing dumb & as such, not playing by the same rules as everyone else.

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You make it clear they're not welcome in the community, by force if necessary, and you let them back in once they've shown they can be trusted to be a member of the community again. IF they show they've changed.

I've been on a committee of people making this decision more than once. Rarely do people change enough to be welcomed back. Community self policing is the only way to really protect yourself when the government shows they wont.

Where do they go? Do you propose that America has red states where only conservatives should live & blue states where liberals can live? Do you want to put over half of voters in concentration camps?

Oh no, the slipperiest of slopes attached to nothing but pure conjecture! I will never be hungry again with all of the words you just put into my mouth!

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You don't, but at this point if they haven't chosen the correct side it's kind of on them.

So you attack them & tell them it is their fault that you're attacking them? Kind of like how an abuser would blame the abused?

Your analogy assumes innocence. In fact, it's so strained that I have to believe you're operating in bad faith here, or made a lapse in judgement.

It assumes that you're the instigator of physical violence.

That sounds like the right answer, but really, I'd be right there kicking sand.

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